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over a year ago
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"its psychological.
sex has always been purely for procreation so when there is no chance of having an offspring there is no point having an erection to carry out such an activity"
We've never wanted kids and I've never had that problem with condoms, so you could have a point there.  
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"its psychological.
sex has always been purely for procreation so when there is no chance of having an offspring there is no point having an erection to carry out such an activity"
It is a bit of both I think.. I rarely have full sex with guys I meet of here purely for the fact that to be honest if they arent going to cum in me, I find it a bit pointless..
So I tend not to have full sex very often.. Occassionally will tolerate condom sex.. but its really lame..
So I can see why guys struggle as all round its not so good for anyone..
but there is a lot of urges that are in our minds and that we are not even aware of..
I have yet to be with a single guy that putting a condom on hasnt led to a less hard cock.. and rarely does it get back to pre condom hardness.
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There certainly is a degree of psychological effect with using a condom. For a long time I would have a hard erection that would instantly go soft as soon as the condom was produced.
I think it was the interruption of play to take the condom out of the wrapper and the worry about getting it on right that caused the loss of erection. The situation was made worse if the condom was a tight fit. I am just average sized but most condoms seem to be far too tight, a larger, better fitting condom works much better. Tight fitting condoms are actually quite painful to use.
If you know that sex is definatley going to take place, have the condom out of the packet, ready to put on. |
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"Hi all,
I guess the best group to be answering this question would be guys, but ladies if you do have any input please do shout out. I recently noticed that I tend to lose quite a bit of my "wood" when I put on a condom  but when I don't have one on, it's hard as steel and can "karate chop" any block of wood with ease  (yea right!!!).
So, my question is, has anyone here has experienced similar issues and how did they go about rectifying it, was the condom too small (my tool is just average 7inch) or is the type used needs to be different. Hope this is not a weird question because I am really baffled about this at the moment. Any suggestions or ideas  ?"
Get the lady to help put it on...
i tend to use my mouth, men have no trouble then |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I even find that helping doesn't help.... I wouldn't use my mouth though, its bad enough having to taste a condom after you remove it so that the guy can cum over you.
To op.. I think It's something that many men suffer... Maybe over time it improves...
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"I even find that helping doesn't help.... I wouldn't use my mouth though, its bad enough having to taste a condom after you remove it so that the guy can cum over you.
To op.. I think It's something that many men suffer... Maybe over time it improves...
Cali "
i find so long as they are normal condoms i dont mind the taste... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I even find that helping doesn't help.... I wouldn't use my mouth though, its bad enough having to taste a condom after you remove it so that the guy can cum over you.
To op.. I think It's something that many men suffer... Maybe over time it improves...
Cali
i find so long as they are normal condoms i dont mind the taste... "
It's not just the taste, But the feel too.. which is why I mostly have oral not full sex lol...
I have yet to find one that the taste doesn't want to make me gag. But then again I can't get them on well either... And I think my lack of interest at that point doesn't help.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I too have the same problem, my cock loses some of it's hardness. I think it is a common problem amongst us men. Is there a cure besides not going bareback lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My ex used to hve problems with condoms, if woman was sucking him off he'd be s hard as nails, so to speak, condom on and it would start going down, soon as it came off and the lady was playing with it bare with her hands, mouth etc it would be standing tall for England again
We used to play at home together with condoms to try different ones, things to see if we could sort it out but with no joy, no matter what condoms we tried soon as it went on his cock would start going soft again, got to the point we stopped meeting couples as it would make him feel bad not being able to stay hard for them and even had a few women who took it personal
Only thing that worked was viagra, a guy we met suggested it so we gave it a go and it worked wonders, he never had a condoms problens after that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Pheeeeewwww!!!!! To a certain extent, this is a real relief as I now know that I am not weird for losing some erection.... but nonetheless its sure is a pain in the game man  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Only thing that worked was viagra, a guy we met suggested it so we gave it a go and it worked wonders, he never had a condoms problens after that"
I have afew tablets at hand but feck me nuts, I'm only 30 and to be using that to stay hard psychologically doesn't feel right |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Only thing that worked was viagra, a guy we met suggested it so we gave it a go and it worked wonders, he never had a condoms problens after that I have afew tablets at hand but feck me nuts, I'm only 30 and to be using that to stay hard psychologically doesn't feel right "
hundreds of guys who dont need viagra use viagra, i almost see them as a sex toy now day
Dont feel theres anything wrong with you for using it just to spruce things up a little because if you went to a club i guarantee you a good 80% of the guys in there will be on the stuff and pretty much all of them wont be taking it beacuse they need it, lots of guys who dont even have problems with condoms will use the stuff just to make them last all night in a club/party environment
its just one option |
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By *r-MissCouple
over a year ago
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If you use condoms all the time, you wouldn't have a problem as your body would become conditioned to using them. Just integrate condoms into your normal sex life and you shouldn't have a problem, you shouldn't need pills your only 30 and I guess your healthy, just chill. Also cut down on the internet porn as it can affect your arousal levels and your body becomes conditioned to this, rather than proper sex, hope this helps. |
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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago
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It is a very common problem and as someone already pointed out a lot use them. We are gulags at a. Swinges club and yesssss loads use tablets.
Not harm in making sure you have a gat night all night. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you use condoms all the time, you wouldn't have a problem as your body would become conditioned to using them. Just integrate condoms into your normal sex life and you shouldn't have a problem, you shouldn't need pills your only 30 and I guess your healthy, just chill. Also cut down on the internet porn as it can affect your arousal levels and your body becomes conditioned to this, rather than proper sex, hope this helps."
cracking tip about porn ^^^
I got given a dozen German condoms once, the fit and sensation was amazing, and so different to durex and the like. I tried several different types and brands in the end - I'd suggest just buying a selection pack off some of the internet sellers and give em all a round trip to see which you get on with best.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you use condoms all the time, you wouldn't have a problem as your body would become conditioned to using them. Just integrate condoms into your normal sex life and you shouldn't have a problem, you shouldn't need pills your only 30 and I guess your healthy, just chill. Also cut down on the internet porn as it can affect your arousal levels and your body becomes conditioned to this, rather than proper sex, hope this helps."
Wondered where you got the clap trap about internet porn affecting arousal levels lol... Never heard anything quite so odd.
Visual stimulation can help and actually is often recommended to couples to watch together if both don't mind it.
Also most people in a normal sex life are not going to use condoms... I know I have never used one with a partner.. why would I...
I know guys that only have sex with condoms and even have tried wanking with one on, and still struggle....
Yes they are needed but I've yet to meet someone that doesn't lose some of their hard on... It's never as hard with a condom on.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Easier said than done but try not to worry/think about it otherwise it will become a self fulfilling prophecy! I've found that putting the condom on for the guy and playing with him at the same time then going straight for penetration helps as it makes the condom putting on part of play rather than interrupting it and is a distraction from the worry of the little fella going soft. Ms |
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By (user no longer on site)
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crown skinless skin condoms are by far the best for stuff like this, they bit bigger than normal, really strong but really thin also, and dont have weird condom taste too they say,
ya probs find if its wearing the condom and not the act of putting it on that causes you the problem that these will work well for you, they alot better than out else ive used before |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's the act of putting it on.
Stop playing
Find Packet
Tear packet
Find right way
Try to put it on
Find right way
Put it on
Get back in the play
The distraction and though needed takes your mind off the sex...
My tips
Always start with the condoms near to where your playing
Already open the packet (while she/they is there)
Make sure it's the right way round
Should reduce the time it takes with less distraction.
You could also practise putting them on if your new to using condoms again.
You could try and get her/them to put it on as part of the play
Enjoy |
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Wear a condom when you have a wank... try a variety to see which feel best for you... but wear one every time you wank. Eventually it becomes normal to wear one.
If you have a problem when wearing condoms and the only time you ever wear one is when you are about to shag someone, it's unlikely you will ever get over it. |
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there was another thread a few weeks ago about this and someone recommended some passante ones i think, not sure which they were though, will try and find it x Ive come accross this with quite a few guys and a nice sexy kiss and a fondle of the nether regions seems to do the trick hehehe
I have a problem with them coming off inside me! eek! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"there was another thread a few weeks ago about this and someone recommended some passante ones i think, not sure which they were though, will try and find it x Ive come accross this with quite a few guys and a nice sexy kiss and a fondle of the nether regions seems to do the trick hehehe
I have a problem with them coming off inside me! eek!"
stay away from closed legs positions that normally helps to take them off
them crown ones are the best you need to buy them online but i googled all over for something better and they all come back to these as being long term best thin ones.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I hate condoms as the sensation when having sex just isnt the same.Having said that for safety reasons i would never swing unless a guy wore one.Just have to have more foreplay to balance it out  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I suffer with same issue, good and hard with no condom but as soon as i go to put onw one it loses quite a bit of stiffness. Having said that i have tried using viagra sometimes but find that still happens. Viagra for me not that great, i can last quite long normally n have no issues without condoms/viagra. I also use kamagra occasionally i do find that better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thats the brand i buy and yes i must admit they are much better than Durex for pleasure "
what crown the ones i said? they suposed to be alot better for lasses as well with them being dead thin |
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By (user no longer on site)
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do bit research and spend a tiny bit more and you probs find you get johnnys that are much better for you,
after all i think alot of people just get whats the best price or whats free if the clinics giving them out, when they could read some reviews and find out whats best for themselves, its more than just something to wear when you have fun, as everyones different then really your choice should be personal to yourself based on your circumstances,
these crown thin ones are the way to go if the lack of senstivity causes you too loose it or you just want to feel as close to bareback as you can wearing one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's the act of putting it on.
Stop playing
Find Packet
Tear packet
Find right way
Try to put it on
Find right way
Put it on
Get back in the play
The distraction and though needed takes your mind off the sex...
My tips
Always start with the condoms near to where your playing
Already open the packet (while she/they is there)
Make sure it's the right way round
Should reduce the time it takes with less distraction.
You could also practise putting them on if your new to using condoms again.
You could try and get her/them to put it on as part of the play
Enjoy"
and then you have to go thro that every time you swap, change, go back to giving a bj, take it off, put it back on again etc
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By (user no longer on site)
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"that's why i hate condoms ."
we all hate them, sex with them just isnt as good, i like varied sex, i dont like sex where you do the oral at the beginning and then shag till you cum, but lots of guys dont like all the pissing about of me taking their condom off to go back to the blow job then putting it back on to shag again then taking it off for another suck, but thats just how i like sex i cant just put a condom on and bang away till they cum i find that boring, tho i can understand why lots of people do do that as all the condoms on and offing does kind of kill the mood and of course all the swapping from sex to oral is much easier and far better without condoms.....but if your having sex with strangers its a evil must |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"that's why i hate condoms .
we all hate them, sex with them just isnt as good, i like varied sex, i dont like sex where you do the oral at the beginning and then shag till you cum, but lots of guys dont like all the pissing about of me taking their condom off to go back to the blow job then putting it back on to shag again then taking it off for another suck, but thats just how i like sex i cant just put a condom on and bang away till they cum i find that boring, tho i can understand why lots of people do do that as all the condoms on and offing does kind of kill the mood and of course all the swapping from sex to oral is much easier and far better without condoms.....but if your having sex with strangers its a evil must "
yeah nowt wrong with taking them off and on for bjs and that, i find it helps anyways, keeps you going, keeps it more fun and interested and means if you last a long time then the lube inside dont dry up |
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yeah nowt wrong with taking them off and on for bjs and that, i find it helps anyways, keeps you going, keeps it more fun and interested and means if you last a long time then the lube inside dont dry up "
Should always use a new one each time...
OP...haven't read the replies but try using a bigger size....or different brand... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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OP...haven't read the replies but try using a bigger size....or different brand..."
I have read them but I'm at that sage where I am thinking how the fuck do I stay hard all the time.... while playing... I really get self-conscious that I can' perform as well as I can... and feck me can you imagine how he woman must feel... freaking let down o say the least and must be disappointed ... I might try the blue pill and give it a go... ok this might sound really silly to many but what size do you use for a 7incher which is just average.....  ...and I can understand why many ladies do no like oral after taking the condom off...i bet the taste of the chemicals mus be awful.... |
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The other thing you can try is a little lube inside the condom (either put some on the end of your cock or inside the condom) make sure its waterbased safe for condoms though!
This little bit extra lube will help the condom to warm to your body a bit and will keep it feeling more like the wet and warmness that your cock really wants and likes x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"its psychological.
sex has always been purely for procreation so when there is no chance of having an offspring there is no point having an erection to carry out such an activity
It is a bit of both I think.. I rarely have full sex with guys I meet of here purely for the fact that to be honest if they arent going to cum in me, I find it a bit pointless..
So I tend not to have full sex very often.. Occassionally will tolerate condom sex.. but its really lame..
So I can see why guys struggle as all round its not so good for anyone..
but there is a lot of urges that are in our minds and that we are not even aware of..
I have yet to be with a single guy that putting a condom on hasnt led to a less hard cock.. and rarely does it get back to pre condom hardness.
Cali "
I only fuck bareback and so far haven't had any problems finding willing cocks to give me their cum. Having said that we haven't yet ventured to any clubs where condoms are the rule. In my experience condoms defo put a downer on sex! |
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"there was another thread a few weeks ago about this and someone recommended some passante ones i think, not sure which they were though, will try and find it x Ive come accross this with quite a few guys and a nice sexy kiss and a fondle of the nether regions seems to do the trick hehehe
I have a problem with them coming off inside me! eek!"
me too......not a good look with someones hand up groping around ya hole looking for condom.
Keeping it hard with a condom on.
I'd shove a pencil down ya japs eye then roll condom on.
Ex has pissed me off...hence lovely advice. MWAH |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Bottom line is, Men think with there cocks..Woman with there minds..
So putting your condom on means you have lost the urge,comes down to men cant multi task..
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"Bottom line is, Men think with there cocks..Woman with there minds..
So putting your condom on means you have lost the urge,comes down to men cant multi task..
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You either have an IQ of a pumpkin or you just fell or hi something really hard on your head... how on earth did you justify your explanation of staying hard and multi tasking beats me. |
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yeah nowt wrong with taking them off and on for bjs and that, i find it helps anyways, keeps you going, keeps it more fun and interested and means if you last a long time then the lube inside dont dry up
Should always use a new one each time...
OP...haven't read the replies but try using a bigger size....or different brand..."
yeah obviousily you want to use a fresh one everytime haha! |
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"The other thing you can try is a little lube inside the condom (either put some on the end of your cock or inside the condom) make sure its waterbased safe for condoms though!
This little bit extra lube will help the condom to warm to your body a bit and will keep it feeling more like the wet and warmness that your cock really wants and likes x
Innocent x "
yeah that helps,
but to the OP look online for different condoms reviewed and compared for the best condom, i found a site it told you what the man and the woman usually thought of each condom, it said where it ranks with others, and you will be suprised how much choice there is.
theres some that work for everyone, you just have to work out why the condoms dont cut it for you and buy a better brand and model that do! they all sorts, where they superthin, some have bigger heads, extra lube, extra size
reading about them will get a much better brand, and since i done that and found a few i really like i can say its alot better finding the perfect ones for you and her than just looking ok which can i grab from the shelf/toilets/clinic for cheapest/best value
once you found the ones u want just buy them online and they should be quite reasnoble |
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in my mouth then slip on real quick and away we go hope this helps xxx