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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey
We are fairly new to the forums (couple of weeks or so) and only our second post. So please do forgive us if this thread has been started before.
But we see a lot of threads on turn ons and the things we like, Just interested in what everybody's thing that automatically turns you off is ?
Think we all have something if not several things that are a huge “Oh hell no”  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Our turn offs are...
1. Poor grammar/text speak
2. Messages that just say "hi"
Let's at least make some effort here..."
Instantly checks our grammar and hides in corner  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Our turn offs are...
1. Poor grammar/text speak
2. Messages that just say "hi"
Let's at least make some effort here...
Instantly checks our grammar and hides in corner "
But totally agree with you on the text speak and the stupid one lined messages  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For us
1. Arrogance
2. Bad hygiene
3. Dirty chat before we have even spoken
4. 150 cock pics in all different angles
5. Submissive men
Mrs"
Well that’s 5 points I can’t argue with at all  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People who think they are fantastic... hold the phone ?!nobody is fantastic ok  "
Again totally agree This post might show me that myself and Mr are more fussy than we thought lol  |
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"People who think they are fantastic... hold the phone ?!nobody is fantastic ok
Again totally agree This post might show me that myself and Mr are more fussy than we thought lol "
I like your honesty |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People who think they are fantastic... hold the phone ?!nobody is fantastic ok
Again totally agree This post might show me that myself and Mr are more fussy than we thought lol
I like your honesty "
Hey it’s our honesty that gets us in trouble sometimes, And that’s not always a bad thing  |
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Demanding people, whether near instant meets, irrespective of having discussed much - if anything at all, or for their peculiar needs to only be satisfied, etc.
Profile pics that mostly contain other people's bodies, rather than themselves 
Profile pics that are like 2nd hand micro jigsaw puzzle pieces from a charity shop, that would need you to assemble them in your imagination - filling in the body parts that got missed, as many pieces are missing. (intentionally omitted?). Again, this is thoughtless, assuming you'd meet someone who you've no clue how they look and if you even find them attractive)
Very messy/dirty home photo backgrounds
Profiles with fill in later, type content |
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"People who think they are fantastic... hold the phone ?!nobody is fantastic ok
Again totally agree This post might show me that myself and Mr are more fussy than we thought lol
I like your honesty
Hey it’s our honesty that gets us in trouble sometimes, And that’s not always a bad thing "
Bend over and let me kiss you |
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1) Hows U or Hows you, really hate this.
2) Guys that contact me and address me as sir or master often attaching pictures of themselves wearing bondage gear. My profile states 'Strictly Vanilla'
3) Guys who think they are the exception to the rule.
4) Text speak, this is fine between friends and close relations but in a situation where it's someone you don't know, trying to chat you up, it shows a real lack of effort. |
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Pictures with a woman holding her vagina open
Pictures after a guy has cum and it's in his stomach
The incorrectly spelt messages in text speak 'u meetin' 'ur fit' etc...
Just endless cock pictures on a profile
No full stops after a sentence |
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People with excessively high opinions of themselves. People who post up massive lists of dislikes but don't seem to like anything. People who constantly post about how boring the site is or that they need entertainment so you message them and they ignore the message. |
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"Agree with everything so far. As far as mentioning grammar I think you're quite brave as, whenever I've (Mrs) touched on that subject before I get annihilated! "
it's my own grammar, I haven't left any full stops. I have no issues with others |
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"Agree with everything so far. As far as mentioning grammar I think you're quite brave as, whenever I've (Mrs) touched on that subject before I get annihilated!
it's my own grammar, I haven't left any full stops. I have no issues with others "
Lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Singal Male, hey want to suck this? And cock photo.
Well no not really I'm a man and not into sucking cock. This is a couples profile so there are two of us. "
We get this crap daily  They normally get a sarcastic reply and then get blocked
Mr  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our turn offs include.
1. People who think you want to play with them, just because you say hello.
2. People who treat others disrespectfully. This can include being disrespectful to us or when we witness it happening to other people.
3. Self righteous people.
4. People who clearly love themselves more than they could ever love another... |
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Anything covered in cum, especially when it looks lumpy.
Dribbling cocks.
Gaping holes.
Dirty or untidy backgrounds.
Arrogance.
Ignorance.
Lack of humour.
Forum ‘white knights’ who change their views to suit the person they’re trying to impress.
Drug users, particularly those who boast about it.
Dirty fingernails.
Long fingernails on men.
People who call themselves sexy, hot etc. (They rarely are!).
Usernames along the lines of cumdump, pusdydestroyer etc.
Seems I’m quite hard to please...
Lou x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Our turn offs include.
1. People who think you want to play with them, just because you say hello.
2. People who treat others disrespectfully. This can include being disrespectful to us or when we witness it happening to other people.
3. Self righteous people.
4. People who clearly love themselves more than they could ever love another..."
All spot on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anything covered in cum, especially when it looks lumpy.
Dribbling cocks.
Gaping holes.
Dirty or untidy backgrounds.
Arrogance.
Ignorance.
Lack of humour.
Forum ‘white knights’ who change their views to suit the person they’re trying to impress.
Drug users, particularly those who boast about it.
Dirty fingernails.
Long fingernails on men.
People who call themselves sexy, hot etc. (They rarely are!).
Usernames along the lines of cumdump, pusdydestroyer etc.
Seems I’m quite hard to please...
Lou x "
Oh the user names are a big turn off for me Why would I let a man near Mrs called PussyDestroyer etc  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anything covered in cum, especially when it looks lumpy.
Dribbling cocks.
Gaping holes.
Dirty or untidy backgrounds.
Arrogance.
Ignorance.
Lack of humour.
Forum ‘white knights’ who change their views to suit the person they’re trying to impress.
Drug users, particularly those who boast about it.
Dirty fingernails.
Long fingernails on men.
People who call themselves sexy, hot etc. (They rarely are!).
Usernames along the lines of cumdump, pusdydestroyer etc.
Seems I’m quite hard to please...
Lou x "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey
We are fairly new to the forums (couple of weeks or so) and only our second post. So please do forgive us if this thread has been started before.
But we see a lot of threads on turn ons and the things we like, Just interested in what everybody's thing that automatically turns you off is ?
Think we all have something if not several things that are a huge “Oh hell no” "
feet anything about feet even as a measurement |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hey
We are fairly new to the forums (couple of weeks or so) and only our second post. So please do forgive us if this thread has been started before.
But we see a lot of threads on turn ons and the things we like, Just interested in what everybody's thing that automatically turns you off is ?
Think we all have something if not several things that are a huge “Oh hell no” feet anything about feet even as a measurement "
I must say I never seen the fascination with feet but not a turn off for us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lack of manners or teeth
Manners are a must have And teeth are you talking bad teeth or too much teeth during a blowjob ? I’m thinking both lol "
Yh bad teeth, but now you’ve mentioned it, the latter also. That can be forgive tho |
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Absolutely to a lot of the above....
Spelling/grammar
Agressive comments (inc passive/aggressive ones) when I don't reply
Harassment and back to back messages when I delete
Messy backgrounds...I inspect the pics looking for clues of relationships if they state single (make up, dressing robes, female shopping bags)
Dirty/long nails...seen some right scratters on here...then they usually state good hygiene or that they expect it from a potential meet! WTF
This is actually probably my biggest turn off...EVER!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Absolutely to a lot of the above....
Spelling/grammar
Agressive comments (inc passive/aggressive ones) when I don't reply
Harassment and back to back messages when I delete
Messy backgrounds...I inspect the pics looking for clues of relationships if they state single (make up, dressing robes, female shopping bags)
Dirty/long nails...seen some right scratters on here...then they usually state good hygiene or that they expect it from a potential meet! WTF
This is actually probably my biggest turn off...EVER!
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Agree and like your detective work |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We said this before..but..
Poor quality pics
Tied boobs until they go blue..
Words written on bodies
Chipped nail varnish.
Fussy ain't we"
Agree apart from words written on bodies this is actually a turn on for me
Mr |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Text speak.
People who want too see your pics but have none whatsoever on their own profile.
Or people who are looking to meet during the daytime and when you tell them you can't because you are working, they say can you not take the day off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Text speak.
People who want too see your pics but have none whatsoever on their own profile.
Or people who are looking to meet during the daytime and when you tell them you can't because you are working, they say can you not take the day off "
Plus
For me anyway, pierced vaginas/Cocks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hardly any exceptions to the turn offs mentioned so far. We have so much in common!
(Bravo to the man who said "webbed feet & cock eyes"... best laugh I've had today!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey
We are fairly new to the forums (couple of weeks or so) and only our second post. So please do forgive us if this thread has been started before.
But we see a lot of threads on turn ons and the things we like, Just interested in what everybody's thing that automatically turns you off is ?
Think we all have something if not several things that are a huge “Oh hell no” feet anything about feet even as a measurement
I must say I never seen the fascination with feet but not a turn off for us "
smelly cheesy feet aren't a turn off lol  |
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In addition to the above:
Men who think they are owed sex by women because they have registered on this site or because they have paid for a supporter pass. I have even heard from one who thought I owed him sex because he was a verified user! I kid you not.
Men who think they need to talk to a woman in a crass manner because "this is a swinging site".
Men who send the same message to 100 women on the same day but do not understand the reply.
"I am not quite what you seek, but..."
Men who try to impress a woman by the size of their penis or the amount of sperm it produces.
Men who think all women are submissive.
Men who treat women like unpaid prostitutes and who tell everyone they will go to a paid one if they do not "get a meet". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In addition to the above:
Men who think they are owed sex by women because they have registered on this site or because they have paid for a supporter pass. I have even heard from one who thought I owed him sex because he was a verified user! I kid you not.
Men who think they need to talk to a woman in a crass manner because "this is a swinging site".
Men who send the same message to 100 women on the same day but do not understand the reply.
"I am not quite what you seek, but..."
Men who try to impress a woman by the size of their penis or the amount of sperm it produces.
Men who think all women are submissive.
Men who treat women like unpaid prostitutes and who tell everyone they will go to a paid one if they do not "get a meet"."
spot on this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"1. Bareback pics on single profiles
2. Mmmmmmmm messages
3. Massively long messages about how I'm going to get my pussy destroyed
4. Arrogance
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“Massively long messages about how I'm going to get my pussy destroyed” if they do this you are pretty much certain that the sex will be shit |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can I touch
You fancy five minutes in sauna before I go
Sitting so you can’t move
Judging with other men
Walking in a room to one say I’m going first "
Think you just put us off ever visiting a club |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In addition to the above:
Men who think they are owed sex by women because they have registered on this site or because they have paid for a supporter pass. I have even heard from one who thought I owed him sex because he was a verified user! I kid you not.
Men who think they need to talk to a woman in a crass manner because "this is a swinging site".
Men who send the same message to 100 women on the same day but do not understand the reply.
"I am not quite what you seek, but..."
Men who try to impress a woman by the size of their penis or the amount of sperm it produces.
Men who think all women are submissive.
Men who treat women like unpaid prostitutes and who tell everyone they will go to a paid one if they do not "get a meet"."
All good points |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
Some of things that put me off.
Usernames
Cock pictures
Single men profiles with other women
Open pussies, ass holes
Verfications sometimes
Winks
Messages that go straight into sex chat.
Meet me now updates
Morning horn updates
Men who move from one women to another in the forums.
That's for starters
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Slightly different to other posts here but garlic breath or curry breath or just nasty ass breath in general .. . kills me if ive met them .. i’d be off on my toes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pics of men’s arse holes
Couples profiles were all the ‘wife/girlfriend’ pics are mirror selfies.
Men in women’s underwear
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I agree pal .. like why would you want to post your ring piece ? |
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Pics of men’s arse holes
I agree pal .. like why would you want to post your ring piece ? "
That would depend on the target audience really, personally I love an nice arse and a nice rimmable hole, though probably more appropriate on a gay site rather than a site which is mostly straight/Fab Straight and mildly Bi. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The people with endless lists of demands in their profile.
People whose profiles take longer to read than war and peace.
Gapers
Photos of a woman having a bare back gangbang.
Mirror selfies where the mirror has toothpaste splatters on it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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The......
‘WARNING: Any institutions or individuals using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You DO NOT have permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications. If you are from any institution using this or any Adult Friend Finder site or its associated sites for projects -you do not have permission from me to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future if you have or do, it will be considered a violation of our privacy and will be subject to legal action. This also applies to any other group or individual who make copies or removes any of my photos for any purpose without our written consent.’
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1. Cock shots in pfp
2. Women in photos on a single male profile
3. Lots of explicit veris (are we tripadvisor)
4. Meet me now messages
5. Lots of filth in first message
6. Inability to take no for an answer |
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"The......
‘WARNING: Any institutions or individuals using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You DO NOT have permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications. If you are from any institution using this or any Adult Friend Finder site or its associated sites for projects -you do not have permission from me to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future if you have or do, it will be considered a violation of our privacy and will be subject to legal action. This also applies to any other group or individual who make copies or removes any of my photos for any purpose without our written consent.’
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Omg yes!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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random “meet now” messages at silly o’clock
A “hi” message with a picture of a cock attached
Being called a slut by somebody who’s never met us
Just to list a few |
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Ignoring my profile which specifically states no messages from men or tv/ts
In the last 2 days I've had 12, all of which have the same content.
Suck you dry
Swallow your cum
All along those lines.
That and rude/arrogant people, there is no need. |
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"Ignoring my profile which specifically states no messages from men or tv/ts
In the last 2 days I've had 12, all of which have the same content.
Suck you dry
Swallow your cum
All along those lines.
That and rude/arrogant people, there is no need. "
Sounds like people doing a wind up, most of us non straights wouldn't act like that, there is no point, plenty on here that are either gay or swing both ways, that said plenty on here that say they are straight yet are quite happy for a bloke to give them a blow job. |
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I don’t mind the (hi or hello) these were designed to be an opener in a polite conversation in a normal society and on the street or in a social situation people say hi or hello and how are you , this is good manners , and people who say that they dislike this on a text is a little annoying because it’s difficult to approach even on here and might be shy, would you like someone to greet you socially by (rude or sexual) remarks like what some are demanding on Fab .. no chance , always try to be nice as doesn’t cost the earth
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Other than the physical things, my main turn offs are:
- Negativity or pessimism.
- Jumping the gun and talking about meeting before even saying hello.
- Evading questions or giving “after you” type responses
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In with regards to fab:
Dick only public pics
Pics where their room is really messy in the background
Boring introduction message
Over sexualised intro message
Copy and paste generic messages
No pic profiles
Didn't read my profile before messaging
Sorry rant over
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By *rs RavensongWoman
over a year ago
Cheltenham, Gloucestershire |
"For us
1. Arrogance
2. Bad hygiene
3. Dirty chat before we have even spoken
4. 150 cock pics in all different angles
5. Submissive men
Mrs"
That about sums it up for me too, although I could add a few:
6. Being called babe or hun.
7. A list of credentials and sexual preferences as an introductory message.
8. Negative/whiny statuses or forum posts.
I could be here all night...
V x |
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Not being addressed as a couple or if they do it's done in a disparaging way (such as implying we're lacking something and clearly need them).
Another thing is when people put themselves down when contacting, self-pity is not very attractive and we all doubt ourselves. |
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Pestering, when youv've not lead them on, on any level, you've said 'no', yet they keep on going.
What then disturbs me, is if they don't get the message where you've had to become essentially rude, would they stop if you said no on a meet?
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‘You look like a good slut’ literally got that in my inbox  fuck you and blocked. It actually says on my profile what I’ll do with that sort of message.
No issue if you like it, but I fucking don’t!
Rant over (feel better now ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No turned off by much really.
If you don’t like it, who else are you going to blame for looking at it?
People complaining about negativity etc. The fact that you are complaining is hardly positive now. |
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