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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don’t claim to be an expert....and no I’m not telling people what to do!
However, after quite a few successful trips to popular London swinging clubs....I thought I’d drop a few points that I find work for me!
Ladies, couples and gents feel free to add your pointers. I’m sure we can learn off each other.
1) Gentlemen, go to clubs without any expectation of playing/having sex. (Just because you pay a high entry fee doesn’t entitle you to sex).
2) socialise socialise socialise. Speak to people. Ask them if it’s their first time. Have a chat. Don’t be creepy and just keep staring at them.
3) ALWAYS ask before you touch.
4) Dont be one of the “wanking zombies” ladies and couples find this off putting.
5) if couples/females/ males have gone to the private rooms. They have done this for a reason. To get some PRIVACY. Do not loiter around the doors, try look through the key hole. Certainly, do not bang on the door and say “hurry up let us all have a go” something which I heard at rios.
6) make an effort with your appearance. Nice clean clothes, good hygiene, shower and smell good.
7) If your advances are politely declined by the lady or couple...accept that like a gentlemen. Everyone has a type, and not everyone is everyone’s type. Do not say “oh your not that good looking anyway” something I again witnessed at a club in London.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Also guys, if a club has a pool....don’t go swimming deep into the water to see if u can watch the couples have sex/any action under water. That’s seriously creepy. One guy at abfabs, put on his goggles and attempted this.
Had a chat with a couple in the pool about how creepy this is.
Then I ended up playing with the couple lol.
FACTS...a chat generally gives you better chances of fun/playing. Just because it’s a swingers club doesn’t mean you have to act like a pervert. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ladies, what sort of compliments do you prefer ?
I generally try compliment the dress, shoes, hair, make up or eyebrows.
Once heard a guy say “oi oi sexy” but got a dirty look from the lady. Is this a no go ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd agree with everything you have said. It's just a shame that a lot of guys these day don't no what etiquette is especially new people that are joining the scene. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Great post, OP. I'd add: if you see a couple relaxing in a bar area/chatting/enjoying a bite to eat, don't barge in and ask 'Are you playing?'. Had that happen to me and my friend at Chams one day. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'd agree with everything you have said. It's just a shame that a lot of guys these day don't no what etiquette is especially new people that are joining the scene."
This is exactly right. Some guys think they are entitled to sex. This is were a lot of the error arises!
Some people ruin the mood of others which in turn means couples or ladies who were looking to play ....just leave.
This is a shame! As they make an effort and pay...which all goes to waste!
By the way, your pics are amazing. Gorgeous lady.
It’s a shame I don’t match your preference (black guys) but I must say there are a lot of “Qos” on this site and you have to be one of the most beautiful (no exaggeration ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes they do.... that's where the touching without even asking. Thinking they have the rites because they have paid in. If a guy touched a women outside a club he'd be arrested. Unfortunately over the years I've seen guys just diving in dick out shoving it in ya face. Instead of saying something they are allowed to carry on because some women don't want the confrontation. Me I don't allow it and if someone tries it they are told |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes they do.... that's where the touching without even asking. Thinking they have the rites because they have paid in. If a guy touched a women outside a club he'd be arrested. Unfortunately over the years I've seen guys just diving in dick out shoving it in ya face. Instead of saying something they are allowed to carry on because some women don't want the confrontation. Me I don't allow it and if someone tries it they are told"
So you should tell them!
That’s a liberty to touch without permission.
Rightly said, no women should just take it!
That’s what’s putting single ladies off clubs , men who are just ignorant. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Great post, OP. I'd add: if you see a couple relaxing in a bar area/chatting/enjoying a bite to eat, don't barge in and ask 'Are you playing?'. Had that happen to me and my friend at Chams one day. "
Thanks for the post! Totally agree.
I think it’s important to read body language and know when to approach and when not to. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We think this good advise for anyone not just men. Seen a few couples do a few bits on the list aswell"
Wow sorry to hear that.
I’ve never seen couples behave badly, but I guess it happens.
That’s awful! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We think this good advise for anyone not just men. Seen a few couples do a few bits on the list aswell
Wow sorry to hear that.
I’ve never seen couples behave badly, but I guess it happens.
That’s awful!"
Were all human in the end of the day so it happens. Sex can bring out the best and worst in people |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We think this good advise for anyone not just men. Seen a few couples do a few bits on the list aswell
Wow sorry to hear that.
I’ve never seen couples behave badly, but I guess it happens.
That’s awful!
Were all human in the end of the day so it happens. Sex can bring out the best and worst in people"
This is exactly true! It’s a shame a small minority of ten ruin it for others.
P.s absolutely loving the Shibari pics |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We think this good advise for anyone not just men. Seen a few couples do a few bits on the list aswell
Wow sorry to hear that.
I’ve never seen couples behave badly, but I guess it happens.
That’s awful!
Were all human in the end of the day so it happens. Sex can bring out the best and worst in people
This is exactly true! It’s a shame a small minority of ten ruin it for others.
P.s absolutely loving the Shibari pics"
Thank you very much   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We think this good advise for anyone not just men. Seen a few couples do a few bits on the list aswell
Wow sorry to hear that.
I’ve never seen couples behave badly, but I guess it happens.
That’s awful!
Were all human in the end of the day so it happens. Sex can bring out the best and worst in people
This is exactly true! It’s a shame a small minority of ten ruin it for others.
P.s absolutely loving the Shibari pics
Thank you very much "
You’re welcome!
It’s something I’ve always found interesting but never really found many people into it, unfortunately |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't really attend clubs anymore due to single males, not so much bad behaviour (we've had our fair share) but just a bad ratio of males to females, you have to wade through men to find a woman that kind of spoils it for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes they do.... that's where the touching without even asking. Thinking they have the rites because they have paid in. If a guy touched a women outside a club he'd be arrested. Unfortunately over the years I've seen guys just diving in dick out shoving it in ya face. Instead of saying something they are allowed to carry on because some women don't want the confrontation. Me I don't allow it and if someone tries it they are told"
I think the clubs should tell people the rules when they first go in. Many just don't know. They assume swingers fuck anyone who asks- as they've seen on porn. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes they do.... that's where the touching without even asking. Thinking they have the rites because they have paid in. If a guy touched a women outside a club he'd be arrested. Unfortunately over the years I've seen guys just diving in dick out shoving it in ya face. Instead of saying something they are allowed to carry on because some women don't want the confrontation. Me I don't allow it and if someone tries it they are told
I think the clubs should tell people the rules when they first go in. Many just don't know. They assume swingers fuck anyone who asks- as they've seen on porn."
Sounds like a good idea |
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"We think this good advise for anyone not just men. Seen a few couples do a few bits on the list aswell
Wow sorry to hear that.
I’ve never seen couples behave badly, but I guess it happens.
That’s awful!"
I’ve not encountered much in the way of poor behaviour but couples have been at the forefront of what I have experienced. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’d say if you’re getting very short answers and conversation just isn’t flowing, they aren’t interested and move on. And waiting for the fella to go to the toilet and then pouncing on the wife just makes you look like a chancer. |
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These morons really piss me off, in clubs or on the beach.. patience and respect is the key, but they are cage men following each other .. and it ain’t only over here, the fucking Spanish bloke are even worse, if that’s possible, they really know how to fuck a good playing session up on a beach ... fucking morons |
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"I don’t claim to be an expert....and no I’m not telling people what to do!
However, after quite a few successful trips to popular London swinging clubs....I thought I’d drop a few points that I find work for me!
Ladies, couples and gents feel free to add your pointers. I’m sure we can learn off each other.
1) Gentlemen, go to clubs without any expectation of playing/having sex. (Just because you pay a high entry fee doesn’t entitle you to sex).
2) socialise socialise socialise. Speak to people. Ask them if it’s their first time. Have a chat. Don’t be creepy and just keep staring at them.
3) ALWAYS ask before you touch.
4) Dont be one of the “wanking zombies” ladies and couples find this off putting.
5) if couples/females/ males have gone to the private rooms. They have done this for a reason. To get some PRIVACY. Do not loiter around the doors, try look through the key hole. Certainly, do not bang on the door and say “hurry up let us all have a go” something which I heard at rios.
6) make an effort with your appearance. Nice clean clothes, good hygiene, shower and smell good.
7) If your advances are politely declined by the lady or couple...accept that like a gentlemen. Everyone has a type, and not everyone is everyone’s type. Do not say “oh your not that good looking anyway” something I again witnessed at a club in London.
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Ahhh how refreshing....why can't ALL men be as respectful and aware as yourself! |
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"I don’t claim to be an expert....and no I’m not telling people what to do!
However, after quite a few successful trips to popular London swinging clubs....I thought I’d drop a few points that I find work for me!
Ladies, couples and gents feel free to add your pointers. I’m sure we can learn off each other.
1) Gentlemen, go to clubs without any expectation of playing/having sex. (Just because you pay a high entry fee doesn’t entitle you to sex).
2) socialise socialise socialise. Speak to people. Ask them if it’s their first time. Have a chat. Don’t be creepy and just keep staring at them.
3) ALWAYS ask before you touch.
4) Dont be one of the “wanking zombies” ladies and couples find this off putting.
5) if couples/females/ males have gone to the private rooms. They have done this for a reason. To get some PRIVACY. Do not loiter around the doors, try look through the key hole. Certainly, do not bang on the door and say “hurry up let us all have a go” something which I heard at rios.
6) make an effort with your appearance. Nice clean clothes, good hygiene, shower and smell good.
7) If your advances are politely declined by the lady or couple...accept that like a gentlemen. Everyone has a type, and not everyone is everyone’s type. Do not say “oh your not that good looking anyway” something I again witnessed at a club in London.
Ahhh how refreshing....why can't ALL men be as respectful and aware as yourself! "
Maybe tried all the above to find the rationale in it haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’d say if you’re getting very short answers and conversation just isn’t flowing, they aren’t interested and move on. And waiting for the fella to go to the toilet and then pouncing on the wife just makes you look like a chancer. "
Hat really is poor game !...if they are their as a couple ...u talk to them as a couple!!!
I think talking to people is the same everywhere.
When going to a bar, and the women is giving them short answers, clearly not interested....id hope every guy would get the message lol. Like isn’t it obvious lol? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t claim to be an expert....and no I’m not telling people what to do!
However, after quite a few successful trips to popular London swinging clubs....I thought I’d drop a few points that I find work for me!
Ladies, couples and gents feel free to add your pointers. I’m sure we can learn off each other.
1) Gentlemen, go to clubs without any expectation of playing/having sex. (Just because you pay a high entry fee doesn’t entitle you to sex).
2) socialise socialise socialise. Speak to people. Ask them if it’s their first time. Have a chat. Don’t be creepy and just keep staring at them.
3) ALWAYS ask before you touch.
4) Dont be one of the “wanking zombies” ladies and couples find this off putting.
5) if couples/females/ males have gone to the private rooms. They have done this for a reason. To get some PRIVACY. Do not loiter around the doors, try look through the key hole. Certainly, do not bang on the door and say “hurry up let us all have a go” something which I heard at rios.
6) make an effort with your appearance. Nice clean clothes, good hygiene, shower and smell good.
7) If your advances are politely declined by the lady or couple...accept that like a gentlemen. Everyone has a type, and not everyone is everyone’s type. Do not say “oh your not that good looking anyway” something I again witnessed at a club in London.
Ahhh how refreshing....why can't ALL men be as respectful and aware as yourself! "
Why thank you beautiful |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Major annoyance for me is when a fella thinks he can venture towards my bum with his finger! I'm very vocal about my annoyance if that happens.
Mrs x"
Ahhh damn. Men really need to know to Ask before they touch!
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By (user no longer on site)
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i think a lot of men get mega horny and just forget how to behave appropriately in a club
led simply by their dick
ive been followed all around, even to point of him sitting in front of me staring at me, grabbed by wrist and pulled to men, touched usually grabbing my waist/hips from behind
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i think a lot of men get mega horny and just forget how to behave appropriately in a club
led simply by their dick
ive been followed all around, even to point of him sitting in front of me staring at me, grabbed by wrist and pulled to men, touched usually grabbing my waist/hips from behind
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Wow that sounds awful
What’s your advice to ladies who experience this ? |
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"Major annoyance for me is when a fella thinks he can venture towards my bum with his finger! I'm very vocal about my annoyance if that happens.
Mrs x
Ahhh damn. Men really need to know to Ask before they touch!
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Plus being allowed to touch once doesn't mean it's an open season ticket....to ask each and every time!!!!! |
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It can happen in normal clubs and bars too. There is a video clip of a girl wearing a sensor dress which registered all the times she was touched inappropriately in 1 night, 1NIGHT
...years and years of male privilege and society expectations from decades and decades ago
... c'mon cave men...move to the 21st century
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Major annoyance for me is when a fella thinks he can venture towards my bum with his finger! I'm very vocal about my annoyance if that happens.
Mrs x
Ahhh damn. Men really need to know to Ask before they touch!
Plus being allowed to touch once doesn't mean it's an open season ticket....to ask each and every time!!!!! "
Totally agree ! Clubs need to make an example of poorly behaved guys. Chuck them out!
Seems like clubs are hesitant to do this. Maybe they just want the repeat business and money. After all , they are a business. Who knows ey... |
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By *niper oneMan
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"I don’t claim to be an expert....and no I’m not telling people what to do!
However, after quite a few successful trips to popular London swinging clubs....I thought I’d drop a few points that I find work for me! ....Boring....
Ladies, couples and gents feel free to add your pointers. I’m sure we can learn off each other.
1) Gentlemen, go to clubs without any expectation of playing/having sex. (Just because you pay a high entry fee doesn’t entitle you to sex).
2) socialise socialise socialise. Speak to people. Ask them if it’s their first time. Have a chat. Don’t be creepy and just keep staring at them.
3) ALWAYS ask before you touch.
4) Dont be one of the “wanking zombies” ladies and couples find this off putting.
5) if couples/females/ males have gone to the private rooms. They have done this for a reason. To get some PRIVACY. Do not loiter around the doors, try look through the key hole. Certainly, do not bang on the door and say “hurry up let us all have a go” something which I heard at rios.
6) make an effort with your appearance. Nice clean clothes, good hygiene, shower and smell good.
7) If your advances are politely declined by the lady or couple...accept that like a gentlemen. Everyone has a type, and not everyone is everyone’s type. Do not say “oh your not that good looking anyway” something I again witnessed at a club in London.
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Boring..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Works both ways
Seen just as much inappropriate touching from couples and single females than single males, the big problem is that most people in clubs cannot open there mouths and actually say something like “can I join in?” Its ridiculous and pathetic, open play areas are so lacking in atmosphere, humour and chat, you’d get more smiles at a funeral.
If you sense someone is about to touch you just say “oh yes please” or “no thanks”
If you want to join someone just ask!
It’s that bloody simple!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i think a lot of men get mega horny and just forget how to behave appropriately in a club
led simply by their dick
ive been followed all around, even to point of him sitting in front of me staring at me, grabbed by wrist and pulled to men, touched usually grabbing my waist/hips from behind
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That behaviour is unacceptable but why oh why didn’t you just say when he was following you around “not interested thanks” it’s oretty easy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Major annoyance for me is when a fella thinks he can venture towards my bum with his finger! I'm very vocal about my annoyance if that happens.
Mrs x"
Why don’t you just tell them before you start playing that you don’t like bum fun? Too easy...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i think a lot of men get mega horny and just forget how to behave appropriately in a club
led simply by their dick
ive been followed all around, even to point of him sitting in front of me staring at me, grabbed by wrist and pulled to men, touched usually grabbing my waist/hips from behind
That behaviour is unacceptable but why oh why didn’t you just say when he was following you around “not interested thanks” it’s oretty easy!"
its not always that easy, he wasnt in my personal space
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"YAWN...
Why are you yawning? Have you just read your own profile?"
Vs14 he probably has lool
Tired of men making silly comments on forums too.
Like what are you hoping to achieve ? |
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"YAWN...
Why are you yawning? Have you just read your own profile?
Vs14 he probably has lool
Tired of men making silly comments on forums too.
Like what are you hoping to achieve ?"
He achieved a block from us. If etiquette is “boring” then we wouldn’t want anything to do with them.
Good thread, some sound advice |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"YAWN...
Why are you yawning? Have you just read your own profile?
Vs14 he probably has lool
Tired of men making silly comments on forums too.
Like what are you hoping to achieve ?
He achieved a block from us. If etiquette is “boring” then we wouldn’t want anything to do with them.
Good thread, some sound advice "
I’m glad, and I hope he achieves many more blocks!
Thanks, feel free to add your own opinion or experiences ! |
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Spoke with couple in club, there was a guy following them all evening without even saying, hello.
They have been really creeped out by that, and that was their first night in club.
Please guys don't do that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Spoke with couple in club, there was a guy following them all evening without even saying, hello.
They have been really creeped out by that, and that was their first night in club.
Please guys don't do that "
Wow that is creepy as hell!
If he did that in public I’m sure the police would be involved.
I’m sure he would have more chance of fun is he opened his mouth and said “hey, how are you both” ....”hey, is it your first time here” and started a convo ! |
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We don’t bother playing in clubs. We tried alone in a private room on our first visit and there was a crowd of guys outside the room making derogatory comments about one of the girls. Don’t think they realised people in the rooms could hear it all.
The way they were going on completely put us off even venturing to the play areas since, so we just chat to people in the bar area and rarely chat to single guys at all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We don’t bother playing in clubs. We tried alone in a private room on our first visit and there was a crowd of guys outside the room making derogatory comments about one of the girls. Don’t think they realised people in the rooms could hear it all.
The way they were going on completely put us off even venturing to the play areas since, so we just chat to people in the bar area and rarely chat to single guys at all."
Wow that is awful to hear.
Maybe try another club on couples and single girls night ?
I too have heard awful comments at clubs. Something In the likes of “let us have a go on the slag, you greedy cunt”. Just goes to show some men have no respect for women. Or they lose all sense of respect once in a swingers club. Awful! |
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"I'd agree with everything you have said. It's just a shame that a lot of guys these day don't no what etiquette is especially new people that are joining the scene."
Thing is at the clubs weve visited, all new members are given a walk around and a chat about etiquette. There's no excuse. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'd agree with everything you have said. It's just a shame that a lot of guys these day don't no what etiquette is especially new people that are joining the scene.
Thing is at the clubs weve visited, all new members are given a walk around and a chat about etiquette. There's no excuse."
Exactly this. I have witnessed this at most clubs. People are specifically told about etiquette.
As an example I’ve heard men being told “do not cross this white line, unless invited by a couple/single girl. 45 minutes later the guy is grabbing the ladies breasts.
What on Earth is going on ? |
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"We don’t bother playing in clubs. We tried alone in a private room on our first visit and there was a crowd of guys outside the room making derogatory comments about one of the girls. Don’t think they realised people in the rooms could hear it all.
The way they were going on completely put us off even venturing to the play areas since, so we just chat to people in the bar area and rarely chat to single guys at all.
Wow that is awful to hear.
Maybe try another club on couples and single girls night ?
I too have heard awful comments at clubs. Something In the likes of “let us have a go on the slag, you greedy cunt”. Just goes to show some men have no respect for women. Or they lose all sense of respect once in a swingers club. Awful!"
Fella would be removing his teeth for talking like that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We don’t bother playing in clubs. We tried alone in a private room on our first visit and there was a crowd of guys outside the room making derogatory comments about one of the girls. Don’t think they realised people in the rooms could hear it all.
The way they were going on completely put us off even venturing to the play areas since, so we just chat to people in the bar area and rarely chat to single guys at all.
Wow that is awful to hear.
Maybe try another club on couples and single girls night ?
I too have heard awful comments at clubs. Something In the likes of “let us have a go on the slag, you greedy cunt”. Just goes to show some men have no respect for women. Or they lose all sense of respect once in a swingers club. Awful!
Fella would be removing his teeth for talking like that. "
Something he probably deserves!
Lol
Although you shouldn’t have to in the first place .....think more couples should report bad behaviour to club owners. |
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"i think a lot of men get mega horny and just forget how to behave appropriately in a club
led simply by their dick
ive been followed all around, even to point of him sitting in front of me staring at me, grabbed by wrist and pulled to men, touched usually grabbing my waist/hips from behind
That behaviour is unacceptable but why oh why didn’t you just say when he was following you around “not interested thanks” it’s oretty easy!
its not always that easy, he wasnt in my personal space
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Can’t believe you couldn’t physically get within earshot of him to say not interested especially when he sat opposite you!!
Most people, women, couples and men are like zombies in play areas  all it takes is communication, we have never had ANY unwanted advances, if people are near that we like we ask if they want to play if we don’t like them we make it clear VERBALLY. If you are not verbalising your wants how are people supposed to know? Telepathy? |
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"i think a lot of men get mega horny and just forget how to behave appropriately in a club
led simply by their dick
ive been followed all around, even to point of him sitting in front of me staring at me, grabbed by wrist and pulled to men, touched usually grabbing my waist/hips from behind
That behaviour is unacceptable but why oh why didn’t you just say when he was following you around “not interested thanks” it’s oretty easy!
its not always that easy, he wasnt in my personal space
Can’t believe you couldn’t physically get within earshot of him to say not interested especially when he sat opposite you!!
Most people, women, couples and men are like zombies in play areas all it takes is communication, we have never had ANY unwanted advances, if people are near that we like we ask if they want to play if we don’t like them we make it clear VERBALLY. If you are not verbalising your wants how are people supposed to know? Telepathy? "
Sometimes it’s not easy to verbally tell them to stop. This is because some men unexpectedly touch females ! That is he point
But I am glad you guys a vocal about it ! Best way |
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I've also heard "the likes of “let us have a go on the slag, you greedy cunt”.
She was my partner at the time. in a club in the south midlands. But she was kafir so it didn't count from their prospective. But didn't stop me from telling them to Foxtrot Oscar.
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
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We're often ignore by single guys in clubs. Feel free to chat! Don't just assume we don't want to play.
Condoms!! Bring condoms if the club doesn't provide. We always we carry them but I just think it's respectful.
Treat couples and ladies like people not sex toys. Speak, engage, etc |
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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago
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"I've also heard "the likes of “let us have a go on the slag, you greedy cunt”.
She was my partner at the time. in a club in the south midlands. But she was kafir so it didn't count from their prospective. But didn't stop me from telling them to Foxtrot Oscar.
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"Also guys, if a club has a pool....don’t go swimming deep into the water to see if u can watch the couples have sex/any action under water. That’s seriously creepy. One guy at abfabs, put on his goggles and attempted this.
Had a chat with a couple in the pool about how creepy this is.
Then I ended up playing with the couple lol.
FACTS...a chat generally gives you better chances of fun/playing. Just because it’s a swingers club doesn’t mean you have to act like a pervert."
Lolling at the goggles incident tbh
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We're often ignore by single guys in clubs. Feel free to chat! Don't just assume we don't want to play.
Condoms!! Bring condoms if the club doesn't provide. We always we carry them but I just think it's respectful.
Treat couples and ladies like people not sex toys. Speak, engage, etc"
Wow I’m surprised you both are ignored. You seem like a couple is definitely like to converse with !
I can’t understand men that go to clubs without condoms. From my experience, couples 99% of the time will not play without condoms.
Maybe they expect the club to provide. Some do some don’t. So better to bring your own ! |
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"I don’t claim to be an expert....and no I’m not telling people what to do!
However, after quite a few successful trips to popular London swinging clubs....I thought I’d drop a few points that I find work for me! ....Boring....
Ladies, couples and gents feel free to add your pointers. I’m sure we can learn off each other.
1) Gentlemen, go to clubs without any expectation of playing/having sex. (Just because you pay a high entry fee doesn’t entitle you to sex).
2) socialise socialise socialise. Speak to people. Ask them if it’s their first time. Have a chat. Don’t be creepy and just keep staring at them.
3) ALWAYS ask before you touch.
4) Dont be one of the “wanking zombies” ladies and couples find this off putting.
5) if couples/females/ males have gone to the private rooms. They have done this for a reason. To get some PRIVACY. Do not loiter around the doors, try look through the key hole. Certainly, do not bang on the door and say “hurry up let us all have a go” something which I heard at rios.
6) make an effort with your appearance. Nice clean clothes, good hygiene, shower and smell good.
7) If your advances are politely declined by the lady or couple...accept that like a gentlemen. Everyone has a type, and not everyone is everyone’s type. Do not say “oh your not that good looking anyway” something I again witnessed at a club in London.
Boring....."
And that's a block from us to. If hes rude here you can guarantee hes going to be rude in a club |
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"i think a lot of men get mega horny and just forget how to behave appropriately in a club
led simply by their dick
ive been followed all around, even to point of him sitting in front of me staring at me, grabbed by wrist and pulled to men, touched usually grabbing my waist/hips from behind
That behaviour is unacceptable but why oh why didn’t you just say when he was following you around “not interested thanks” it’s oretty easy!
its not always that easy, he wasnt in my personal space
Can’t believe you couldn’t physically get within earshot of him to say not interested especially when he sat opposite you!!
Most people, women, couples and men are like zombies in play areas all it takes is communication, we have never had ANY unwanted advances, if people are near that we like we ask if they want to play if we don’t like them we make it clear VERBALLY. If you are not verbalising your wants how are people supposed to know? Telepathy? "
I wasnt playing
I was socialising
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"i think a lot of men get mega horny and just forget how to behave appropriately in a club
led simply by their dick
ive been followed all around, even to point of him sitting in front of me staring at me, grabbed by wrist and pulled to men, touched usually grabbing my waist/hips from behind
That behaviour is unacceptable but why oh why didn’t you just say when he was following you around “not interested thanks” it’s oretty easy!
its not always that easy, he wasnt in my personal space
Can’t believe you couldn’t physically get within earshot of him to say not interested especially when he sat opposite you!!
Most people, women, couples and men are like zombies in play areas all it takes is communication, we have never had ANY unwanted advances, if people are near that we like we ask if they want to play if we don’t like them we make it clear VERBALLY. If you are not verbalising your wants how are people supposed to know? Telepathy?
Sometimes it’s not easy to verbally tell them to stop. This is because some men unexpectedly touch females ! That is he point
But I am glad you guys a vocal about it ! Best way"
i wasnt playing
i was socialising
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over a year ago
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"He’s never been to a club. He will be one that moans he never meets but never ventures further than his own front door"
Haha those guys make me laugh
Not serious about the scene at all.
Maybe they should stick to tinder haha |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I don’t claim to be an expert....and no I’m not telling people what to do!
However, after quite a few successful trips to popular London swinging clubs....I thought I’d drop a few points that I find work for me! ....Boring....
Ladies, couples and gents feel free to add your pointers. I’m sure we can learn off each other.
1) Gentlemen, go to clubs without any expectation of playing/having sex. (Just because you pay a high entry fee doesn’t entitle you to sex).
2) socialise socialise socialise. Speak to people. Ask them if it’s their first time. Have a chat. Don’t be creepy and just keep staring at them.
3) ALWAYS ask before you touch.
4) Dont be one of the “wanking zombies” ladies and couples find this off putting.
5) if couples/females/ males have gone to the private rooms. They have done this for a reason. To get some PRIVACY. Do not loiter around the doors, try look through the key hole. Certainly, do not bang on the door and say “hurry up let us all have a go” something which I heard at rios.
6) make an effort with your appearance. Nice clean clothes, good hygiene, shower and smell good.
7) If your advances are politely declined by the lady or couple...accept that like a gentlemen. Everyone has a type, and not everyone is everyone’s type. Do not say “oh your not that good looking anyway” something I again witnessed at a club in London.
Boring....."
Really? Just shows you may be one to avoid if you can't be respectful then, doesn't it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Works both ways
Seen just as much inappropriate touching from couples and single females than single males, the big problem is that most people in clubs cannot open there mouths and actually say something like “can I join in?” Its ridiculous and pathetic, open play areas are so lacking in atmosphere, humour and chat, you’d get more smiles at a funeral.
If you sense someone is about to touch you just say “oh yes please” or “no thanks”
If you want to join someone just ask!
It’s that bloody simple! "
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"I'd agree with everything you have said. It's just a shame that a lot of guys these day don't no what etiquette is especially new people that are joining the scene.
Thing is at the clubs weve visited, all new members are given a walk around and a chat about etiquette. There's no excuse.
Exactly this. I have witnessed this at most clubs. People are specifically told about etiquette.
As an example I’ve heard men being told “do not cross this white line, unless invited by a couple/single girl. 45 minutes later the guy is grabbing the ladies breasts.
What on Earth is going on ?"
They should be kicked out. Sexual assault. Make a big show of chucking him out too, so the other people are made aware it's not ok. |
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OP this is a very good thread, thank you for creating it. Hope some guys read and take note.
I visit clubs with my fb and we get followed around by single men and they barge into rooms, just walk in and I’m having to say close door means stay out!!! They then complain like they have a right to watch us. It puts us off our stride. Not good!
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"Major annoyance for me is when a fella thinks he can venture towards my bum with his finger! I'm very vocal about my annoyance if that happens.
Mrs x
Ahhh damn. Men really need to know to Ask before they touch!
Plus being allowed to touch once doesn't mean it's an open season ticket....to ask each and every time!!!!!
Totally agree ! Clubs need to make an example of poorly behaved guys. Chuck them out!
Seems like clubs are hesitant to do this. Maybe they just want the repeat business and money. After all , they are a business. Who knows ey..."
Exactly Kinkman1235...
This may be the way forward, to put more responsibility on the club and if that fails prosecution for sexual assault!
Harsh but, just because it's in a swinging club does not warrant it is consensual...sorry, it's clearly my line of work is shining thru here... |
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"OP this is a very good thread, thank you for creating it. Hope some guys read and take note.
I visit clubs with my fb and we get followed around by single men and they barge into rooms, just walk in and I’m having to say close door means stay out!!! They then complain like they have a right to watch us. It puts us off our stride. Not good!
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That is proper shit
It’s such a mood killer
Sorry to hear of your bad experiences |
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"Major annoyance for me is when a fella thinks he can venture towards my bum with his finger! I'm very vocal about my annoyance if that happens.
Mrs x
Ahhh damn. Men really need to know to Ask before they touch!
Plus being allowed to touch once doesn't mean it's an open season ticket....to ask each and every time!!!!!
Totally agree ! Clubs need to make an example of poorly behaved guys. Chuck them out!
Seems like clubs are hesitant to do this. Maybe they just want the repeat business and money. After all , they are a business. Who knows ey...
Exactly Kinkman1235...
This may be the way forward, to put more responsibility on the club and if that fails prosecution for sexual assault!
Harsh but, just because it's in a swinging club does not warrant it is consensual...sorry, it's clearly my line of work is shining thru here... "
Exactly !
It’s getting to a point where clubs have to step in and do something rather than putting their profits first |
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"OP this is a very good thread, thank you for creating it. Hope some guys read and take note.
I visit clubs with my fb and we get followed around by single men and they barge into rooms, just walk in and I’m having to say close door means stay out!!! They then complain like they have a right to watch us. It puts us off our stride. Not good!
That is proper shit
It’s such a mood killer
Sorry to hear of your bad experiences"
Had one guy the other week followed us everywhere in the club and my fb was chatting to a guy about footy while I was sat on a sofa, the guy who had followed us sat on the sofa arm next to me, took his towel off and said ‘can I sit here’ while staring at my breasts like I was prey. I said ‘no’ firmly and the menacing reply was ‘she who must be obeyed’! He was reported to the club! Really thought he was going to grab my breasts at one point as he was fixated on them! |
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"OP this is a very good thread, thank you for creating it. Hope some guys read and take note.
I visit clubs with my fb and we get followed around by single men and they barge into rooms, just walk in and I’m having to say close door means stay out!!! They then complain like they have a right to watch us. It puts us off our stride. Not good!
That is proper shit
It’s such a mood killer
Sorry to hear of your bad experiences
Had one guy the other week followed us everywhere in the club and my fb was chatting to a guy about footy while I was sat on a sofa, the guy who had followed us sat on the sofa arm next to me, took his towel off and said ‘can I sit here’ while staring at my breasts like I was prey. I said ‘no’ firmly and the menacing reply was ‘she who must be obeyed’! He was reported to the club! Really thought he was going to grab my breasts at one point as he was fixated on them! "
Wow that sounds creepy as fuck
Those guys are a risk to society, I tell yah!
Damn must have been a right put off for u |
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"OP this is a very good thread, thank you for creating it. Hope some guys read and take note.
I visit clubs with my fb and we get followed around by single men and they barge into rooms, just walk in and I’m having to say close door means stay out!!! They then complain like they have a right to watch us. It puts us off our stride. Not good!
That is proper shit
It’s such a mood killer
Sorry to hear of your bad experiences
Had one guy the other week followed us everywhere in the club and my fb was chatting to a guy about footy while I was sat on a sofa, the guy who had followed us sat on the sofa arm next to me, took his towel off and said ‘can I sit here’ while staring at my breasts like I was prey. I said ‘no’ firmly and the menacing reply was ‘she who must be obeyed’! He was reported to the club! Really thought he was going to grab my breasts at one point as he was fixated on them!
Wow that sounds creepy as fuck
Those guys are a risk to society, I tell yah!
Damn must have been a right put off for u"
It was very very creepy!
So glad I had my fb with me!
It puts off fb sometimes as it puts him in a right mood and he wants to ‘remove’ them from the club or remove their teeth! |
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"OP this is a very good thread, thank you for creating it. Hope some guys read and take note.
I visit clubs with my fb and we get followed around by single men and they barge into rooms, just walk in and I’m having to say close door means stay out!!! They then complain like they have a right to watch us. It puts us off our stride. Not good!
That is proper shit
It’s such a mood killer
Sorry to hear of your bad experiences
Had one guy the other week followed us everywhere in the club and my fb was chatting to a guy about footy while I was sat on a sofa, the guy who had followed us sat on the sofa arm next to me, took his towel off and said ‘can I sit here’ while staring at my breasts like I was prey. I said ‘no’ firmly and the menacing reply was ‘she who must be obeyed’! He was reported to the club! Really thought he was going to grab my breasts at one point as he was fixated on them!
Wow that sounds creepy as fuck
Those guys are a risk to society, I tell yah!
Damn must have been a right put off for u
It was very very creepy!
So glad I had my fb with me!
It puts off fb sometimes as it puts him in a right mood and he wants to ‘remove’ them from the club or remove their teeth! "
Don’t blame him, but there’s better wAys to go about it
What club was this, send me a message please |
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"OP this is a very good thread, thank you for creating it. Hope some guys read and take note.
I visit clubs with my fb and we get followed around by single men and they barge into rooms, just walk in and I’m having to say close door means stay out!!! They then complain like they have a right to watch us. It puts us off our stride. Not good!
That is proper shit
It’s such a mood killer
Sorry to hear of your bad experiences
Had one guy the other week followed us everywhere in the club and my fb was chatting to a guy about footy while I was sat on a sofa, the guy who had followed us sat on the sofa arm next to me, took his towel off and said ‘can I sit here’ while staring at my breasts like I was prey. I said ‘no’ firmly and the menacing reply was ‘she who must be obeyed’! He was reported to the club! Really thought he was going to grab my breasts at one point as he was fixated on them!
Wow that sounds creepy as fuck
Those guys are a risk to society, I tell yah!
Damn must have been a right put off for u
It was very very creepy!
So glad I had my fb with me!
It puts off fb sometimes as it puts him in a right mood and he wants to ‘remove’ them from the club or remove their teeth! "
It really is up to the clubs to sort this out, it’s easy to ban them as they have their IDs.. And nearly go as far as say clubs be in touch with each other and have blanket bans on them, safer for everyone.. |
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"I don’t claim to be an expert....and no I’m not telling people what to do!
However, after quite a few successful trips to popular London swinging clubs....I thought I’d drop a few points that I find work for me! ....Boring....
Ladies, couples and gents feel free to add your pointers. I’m sure we can learn off each other.
1) Gentlemen, go to clubs without any expectation of playing/having sex. (Just because you pay a high entry fee doesn’t entitle you to sex).
2) socialise socialise socialise. Speak to people. Ask them if it’s their first time. Have a chat. Don’t be creepy and just keep staring at them.
3) ALWAYS ask before you touch.
4) Dont be one of the “wanking zombies” ladies and couples find this off putting.
5) if couples/females/ males have gone to the private rooms. They have done this for a reason. To get some PRIVACY. Do not loiter around the doors, try look through the key hole. Certainly, do not bang on the door and say “hurry up let us all have a go” something which I heard at rios.
6) make an effort with your appearance. Nice clean clothes, good hygiene, shower and smell good.
7) If your advances are politely declined by the lady or couple...accept that like a gentlemen. Everyone has a type, and not everyone is everyone’s type. Do not say “oh your not that good looking anyway” something I again witnessed at a club in London.
Boring.....
Really? Just shows you may be one to avoid if you can't be respectful then, doesn't it? "
His a prime example of a sh** man.
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"OP this is a very good thread, thank you for creating it. Hope some guys read and take note.
I visit clubs with my fb and we get followed around by single men and they barge into rooms, just walk in and I’m having to say close door means stay out!!! They then complain like they have a right to watch us. It puts us off our stride. Not good!
That is proper shit
It’s such a mood killer
Sorry to hear of your bad experiences
Had one guy the other week followed us everywhere in the club and my fb was chatting to a guy about footy while I was sat on a sofa, the guy who had followed us sat on the sofa arm next to me, took his towel off and said ‘can I sit here’ while staring at my breasts like I was prey. I said ‘no’ firmly and the menacing reply was ‘she who must be obeyed’! He was reported to the club! Really thought he was going to grab my breasts at one point as he was fixated on them! "
Jesus, take a chill pill love....he sat next to you ASKED if he could sit there, you said no, he gave a cheeky reply which he probably thought was funny end of problem, oh my gosh he was staring at your boobs too! In a swingers club where people have sex in front of others and walk around half naked! The total front of this guy....
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"OP this is a very good thread, thank you for creating it. Hope some guys read and take note.
I visit clubs with my fb and we get followed around by single men and they barge into rooms, just walk in and I’m having to say close door means stay out!!! They then complain like they have a right to watch us. It puts us off our stride. Not good!
That is proper shit
It’s such a mood killer
Sorry to hear of your bad experiences
Had one guy the other week followed us everywhere in the club and my fb was chatting to a guy about footy while I was sat on a sofa, the guy who had followed us sat on the sofa arm next to me, took his towel off and said ‘can I sit here’ while staring at my breasts like I was prey. I said ‘no’ firmly and the menacing reply was ‘she who must be obeyed’! He was reported to the club! Really thought he was going to grab my breasts at one point as he was fixated on them!
Wow that sounds creepy as fuck
Those guys are a risk to society, I tell yah!
Damn must have been a right put off for u
It was very very creepy!
So glad I had my fb with me!
It puts off fb sometimes as it puts him in a right mood and he wants to ‘remove’ them from the club or remove their teeth!
Don’t blame him, but there’s better wAys to go about it
What club was this, send me a message please"
Sounds like when you and your fb go, you both don’t enjoy it and your negative attitude towards single guys with you expecting the worst behaviour and possibly over reacting, now here is an idea, go in a couples night instead |
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"There is staring and there is being creepy.
If she felt creeped out then that’s not cool.
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Congratulations the first white Knight reply
Maybe she is over reacting eh? |
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"There is staring and there is being creepy.
If she felt creeped out then that’s not cool.
Congratulations the first white Knight reply
Maybe she is over reacting eh? "
White knight ? Don’t think so!
She’s expressing how it made her feel. That’s not over reacting. Was you there ? No
So how can you judge she’s over reacting ?
You didn’t see the event take place so.... |
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"There is staring and there is being creepy.
If she felt creeped out then that’s not cool.
Congratulations the first white Knight reply
Maybe she is over reacting eh?
White knight ? Don’t think so!
She’s expressing how it made her feel. That’s not over reacting. Was you there ? No
So how can you judge she’s over reacting ?
You didn’t see the event take place so...."
Can you tell the difference between a statement and a question? Maybe she was over reacting? Is a question |
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"There is staring and there is being creepy.
If she felt creeped out then that’s not cool.
Congratulations the first white Knight reply
Maybe she is over reacting eh?
White knight ? Don’t think so!
She’s expressing how it made her feel. That’s not over reacting. Was you there ? No
So how can you judge she’s over reacting ?
You didn’t see the event take place so....
Can you tell the difference between a statement and a question? Maybe she was over reacting? Is a question "
You’re not in a position to question that. You wasn’t there. She was. |
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"There is staring and there is being creepy.
If she felt creeped out then that’s not cool.
Congratulations the first white Knight reply
Maybe she is over reacting eh? "
I didn’t over react at all. He followed us around the club all night very creepy and sat very close to me on the sofa arm, removed his towel to show me his cock, asked to sit there after he sat down! The guy my fb was talking to even said it was totally creepy! The staff said other complaints had been received. I don’t appreciate your assumptions when you weren’t there! My fb has been on the scene many years and knows when something is odd. |
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"There is staring and there is being creepy.
If she felt creeped out then that’s not cool.
Congratulations the first white Knight reply
Maybe she is over reacting eh?
I didn’t over react at all. He followed us around the club all night very creepy and sat very close to me on the sofa arm, removed his towel to show me his cock, asked to sit there after he sat down! The guy my fb was talking to even said it was totally creepy! The staff said other complaints had been received. I don’t appreciate your assumptions when you weren’t there! My fb has been on the scene many years and knows when something is odd. "
So maybe he was odd, but when he was following you around the club all night, why didn’t you just go up to him and say “I’m not interested please stop following me” possibly you would have had a far better night without being stressed by him
We have made no assumptions just asked questions and given sensible advice, having run successful club nights and having to deal with all types of situations, however there are always 2 sides to every story and everyone’s perception is different if every situation, like we said maybe you and your fb have a real downer in single guys and your perception is skewed negatively.
Ps when guys have started to follow us around at clubs within 5 minutes we’ve spoken to them and said not interested please stop following us, end of drama, we can have a nice evening |
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"There is staring and there is being creepy.
If she felt creeped out then that’s not cool.
Congratulations the first white Knight reply
Maybe she is over reacting eh?
I didn’t over react at all. He followed us around the club all night very creepy and sat very close to me on the sofa arm, removed his towel to show me his cock, asked to sit there after he sat down! The guy my fb was talking to even said it was totally creepy! The staff said other complaints had been received. I don’t appreciate your assumptions when you weren’t there! My fb has been on the scene many years and knows when something is odd. "
You don’t have to be on the scene long, to know what you have described above is wrong and creepy.
It’s clearly out of the ordinary behaviour expected in clubs.
You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone, you was there! They weren’t ! Simple !!!! |
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"There is staring and there is being creepy.
If she felt creeped out then that’s not cool.
Congratulations the first white Knight reply
Maybe she is over reacting eh?
I didn’t over react at all. He followed us around the club all night very creepy and sat very close to me on the sofa arm, removed his towel to show me his cock, asked to sit there after he sat down! The guy my fb was talking to even said it was totally creepy! The staff said other complaints had been received. I don’t appreciate your assumptions when you weren’t there! My fb has been on the scene many years and knows when something is odd.
So maybe he was odd, but when he was following you around the club all night, why didn’t you just go up to him and say “I’m not interested please stop following me” possibly you would have had a far better night without being stressed by him
We have made no assumptions just asked questions and given sensible advice, having run successful club nights and having to deal with all types of situations, however there are always 2 sides to every story and everyone’s perception is different if every situation, like we said maybe you and your fb have a real downer in single guys and your perception is skewed negatively.
Ps when guys have started to follow us around at clubs within 5 minutes we’ve spoken to them and said not interested please stop following us, end of drama, we can have a nice evening"
Thanks for the feedback but I never asked you for advice. My fb did tell the guy to stop following us but he persisted. The club decided to let him stay after he had been reported but I think he should have been asked to leave. I have noticed this club do not do regular checks of the play areas so I have put forward a suggestion they check every 20 minutes or so, that way one isn’t having to break routine/play to go downstairs to report weirdos. Also we have nothing against single guys in clubs, we often interact with polite decent ones.....again you are assuming things about us when you don’t know us. Please don’t try to turn this thread into a witch hunt as it’s not nice, I’m merely commenting on OPs thread. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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that is a lot of words...
let me sum up the "_abio" guide for single guys....
1) don't be an arse.......
2) go back to 1......
there.... if people need to be told more than that, they have no business being in the scene...
if you need to be given a 100 page explanation...
a) you think of yourself way too highly....
b) you are being really condescending..... |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
well the thread turned out well..
the OP stood out, a few men managed to get run over in the big bus......
white-knightism (i think i have just made that up... but i'll run with it) at its finest.....
see... i have a problem with this thread now for two reasons...
1) if he is talking to people that basically already know "don't be an arse"... then its condescending....
2) if he is talking to the people that need to be told this.... then i would argue you just made it harder for people to work out who is genuine and "gets it" and who you just gave a blueprint to to fool people....
and actually you just made it harder for those who get it to stand out... well... except you.... so well done!
anything any person needs to be told further than "time, patience, and basic common sense!" they need to learn for themselves and their own style.... |
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"I don’t claim to be an expert....and no I’m not telling people what to do!
However, after quite a few successful trips to popular London swinging clubs....I thought I’d drop a few points that I find work for me!
Ladies, couples and gents feel free to add your pointers. I’m sure we can learn off each other.
1) Gentlemen, go to clubs without any expectation of playing/having sex. (Just because you pay a high entry fee doesn’t entitle you to sex).
2) socialise socialise socialise. Speak to people. Ask them if it’s their first time. Have a chat. Don’t be creepy and just keep staring at them.
3) ALWAYS ask before you touch.
4) Dont be one of the “wanking zombies” ladies and couples find this off putting.
5) if couples/females/ males have gone to the private rooms. They have done this for a reason. To get some PRIVACY. Do not loiter around the doors, try look through the key hole. Certainly, do not bang on the door and say “hurry up let us all have a go” something which I heard at rios.
6) make an effort with your appearance. Nice clean clothes, good hygiene, shower and smell good.
7) If your advances are politely declined by the lady or couple...accept that like a gentlemen. Everyone has a type, and not everyone is everyone’s type. Do not say “oh your not that good looking anyway” something I again witnessed at a club in London.
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This is brilliant. Wish all guys could do this women too. I have been touched in past by women who were taken by surprise when I said sorry not interested (im straight end of).
Also another to add... if you see a couple and the gentleman pops off don't talk to the lady then leg it when the guy returns (Had this myself and instantly put me off the guy.)
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"I don’t claim to be an expert....and no I’m not telling people what to do!
However, after quite a few successful trips to popular London swinging clubs....I thought I’d drop a few points that I find work for me!
Ladies, couples and gents feel free to add your pointers. I’m sure we can learn off each other.
1) Gentlemen, go to clubs without any expectation of playing/having sex. (Just because you pay a high entry fee doesn’t entitle you to sex).
2) socialise socialise socialise. Speak to people. Ask them if it’s their first time. Have a chat. Don’t be creepy and just keep staring at them.
3) ALWAYS ask before you touch.
4) Dont be one of the “wanking zombies” ladies and couples find this off putting.
5) if couples/females/ males have gone to the private rooms. They have done this for a reason. To get some PRIVACY. Do not loiter around the doors, try look through the key hole. Certainly, do not bang on the door and say “hurry up let us all have a go” something which I heard at rios.
6) make an effort with your appearance. Nice clean clothes, good hygiene, shower and smell good.
7) If your advances are politely declined by the lady or couple...accept that like a gentlemen. Everyone has a type, and not everyone is everyone’s type. Do not say “oh your not that good looking anyway” something I again witnessed at a club in London.
This is brilliant. Wish all guys could do this women too. I have been touched in past by women who were taken by surprise when I said sorry not interested (im straight end of).
Also another to add... if you see a couple and the gentleman pops off don't talk to the lady then leg it when the guy returns (Had this myself and instantly put me off the guy.)
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Lol lucky fooker |
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Lol. I seem to get touched by the ladies with interest and I reply sorry no not into ladies. I'm there for the gents. It's always been the look of shock which makes me giggle. |
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"Lol. I seem to get touched by the ladies with interest and I reply sorry no not into ladies. I'm there for the gents. It's always been the look of shock which makes me giggle. "
I bet you love it lol |
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"Lol. I seem to get touched by the ladies with interest and I reply sorry no not into ladies. I'm there for the gents. It's always been the look of shock which makes me giggle.
I bet you love it lol "
I’d say it was fair game if you’ve got everything out and flashing it in everyone’s face |
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