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Your first time at a swingers club was it good?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The first club I went to was Chameleons with an ex when I was 21.We had never swung before,and hadn't heard of Fab at that point either.We were on another site,but had only been on there a few weeks and it wasn't the greatest to be fair.
We booked a hotel nearby,got ready and headed off.We were a little nervous,but also equally curious and excited about the unknown and potential.
When we arrived the staff were brilliant,there were lots of friendly people and any nerves vanished by the time we finished walking round exploring.We spent the first half of the evening exploring and watching,taking it all in,and the rest of the evening was spent playing with several different singles and couples in the cinema,the steam room and the play rooms  |
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Mine first time and only time wasn’t great. Very quiet, I was the only female once the smelly couple left. Was shown around and there was an awful smell in one of the rooms that a couple had just been in. The owner was brill and looked after me, especially when I had to make it very clear to a guy I was not fucking anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mine first time and only time wasn’t great. Very quiet, I was the only female once the smelly couple left. Was shown around and there was an awful smell in one of the rooms that a couple had just been in. The owner was brill and looked after me, especially when I had to make it very clear to a guy I was not fucking anyone"
Jesus h Christ |
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By *otswapsCouple
over a year ago
Medway |
"Plucking up the courage to go to a swingers club just wanted others experiences and storys xx
I’m a nutshell Yes.
Totally eye opening.
You have to try these things and do again if you like."
In a nutshell not I’m a nutshell!! Lol
Bloody corrective text. |
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My first club was the old Candy Club in Amsterdam about 20 years ago. There was so many naked and partially naked women walking around that I thought I'd died and gone to heaven. I had a fabulous night, one of the best in my life - and the Dutch are so friendly! Sadly the Candy Club has gone now. |
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The first time I visited a club, it was genuinely the biggest anti-climax of my life, and probably the best example of what everyone says about these places; “just go, you’ll wonder what all the fuss was about”  I remember parking outside, counting to 3, then jumping out of my car and almost running to the door before I talked myself out of going in! But once inside, I felt like I was in a working men’s club on a Sunday afternoon, rather than a swingers’ club on a Friday night (or at least, how I imagined a swingers’ club on a Friday night would be). Don’t get me wrong; I was welcomed in by the hosts, given a tour of the facilities, and then shown to the bar. The place itself was perfectly clean and tidy, and I did chat with people around the bar area, but it was a quiet night, with hardly any play going on, and nobody who caught my attention. I did return though, three times in total as a single guy, never had any play, but socialised and enjoyed a chilled out atmosphere, and I’ve also visited with a lady friend  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First time was awful. There was just us, a much older couple, and 4 very creepy leery men.
We tried another club and it was much more fun.
Different clubs and different nights - try a few and see what you like.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First time was last weekend. Very chilled and had some fun too. As everyone will tell you, go but with no expectations of anything happening. Treat it as a social, a networking event if you will. If anything happens than it's a bonus. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't tried but would like to. I feel awkward though because I'd need my powerchair and my walking stick for shorter distances. Even though people tell me I have 'that twinkle & personality' I just feel as if I'd be somewhat of an oddity at the club rather than just another guy there for fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it helps...,I think the people in the club were the nicest, friendliest folks ever. Now, only been once, so could be just lucky but I’m thinking it’s the liberal attitude that means none judgmental, chilled humans!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine was great. First time I turned up was during the day so I could get a tour and that helped. I got the rules and expectations. There was only one couple there and they went off for a play and I was encouraged by the staff to watch for a bit. Which was a great experience. It calmed my nerves and I was completely sober.
I was invited to the next night which had a theme and great music. So I went with the expectation of having a dance and chatting to experienced swingers. I'm sociable but was out of my depth. Soon realised that there was lots of friendly people and even the smoking area had great banter. My own banter is strong and I'd not d*unk much because I wanted to be decent.
Some flirting with two girls led to me asking them which room they were taking me too and then off we went. Had some giggles in the hot tub. Chatted to some great couples and got to understand what their likes and dislikes were. Everyone is different and not everyone wants to play. Watched some great sex which was a real turn on. It was a real eye opening experience.
Go with the idea of learning etiquette and building confidence to speak to people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First experience wasn't great, second time was exactly the same. Loads of horny guys following the women round, constantly having to tell people I wasn't interested over and over again.
If you're a single man, please don't do this as nothing makes women in clubs feel more uncomfortable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First club was chameleons..
It was amazing.
Felt really nervous for first 15mins then totally embraced my fears and realised i had no fears.. lol.
People atmosphere staff venue.. totally fantastic.. |
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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago
Middlesbrough |
Our first after many years playing was Secrets in Sunderland, the owners were lovely but when we went it was always a case of "you should have been here last night". I don't think we were good for business as it closed down. We've been to one or two other clubs since that haven't closed down |
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First club I ever went to was abfabs
I say in the car for 20 mins before the security guard knocked on the window , introduced me to a google to walk in with
Was totally surprised just how much attention I got and felt totally relaxed
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I haven't tried but would like to. I feel awkward though because I'd need my powerchair and my walking stick for shorter distances. Even though people tell me I have 'that twinkle & personality' I just feel as if I'd be somewhat of an oddity at the club rather than just another guy there for fun"
All single men are odd, you'd fit right in.
Just check with the club first. Many aren't very accessible at all. Lots of stairs and different floors.
Being different might get people talking to you. It could be a positive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we went to our first sex club couple months ago and was the best night ever. i was so nervous about going thinking i would prob hate it or feel so uncomfortable but everyone was actually really nice and noone makes u do anything ur not happy with |
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"Our first after many years playing was Secrets in Sunderland, the owners were lovely but when we went it was always a case of "you should have been here last night". I don't think we were good for business as it closed down. We've been to one or two other clubs since that haven't closed down "
The old “you should of been here last night”. I’ve heard that a few times from club owners. |
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It was great! We were nervous at first, but the regulars were really welcoming and after a couple of glasses of wine, we were well into the swing of things. Any inhibitions about being naked in front of others etc was soon gone. |
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"Our first after many years playing was Secrets in Sunderland, the owners were lovely but when we went it was always a case of "you should have been here last night". I don't think we were good for business as it closed down. We've been to one or two other clubs since that haven't closed down
The old “you should of been here last night”. I’ve heard that a few times from club owners. "
Me too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't think anyone has the same experience so you will be confused with different replies.
Pluck up the courage and go, I guarantee you will have a great time. Go with an open mind, mingle with people and you will be surprised how welcome most people will make you feel. |
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By *ullpa72Man
over a year ago
Isle of Arran |
Finally plucked up the courage to visit cj's in Glasgow .went on my own not expecting much to happen .the staff were great , friendly and welcoming .got shown around and told the basic Do's and dont's sat and chatted for a while then got invited to go upstairs to the playrooms .well let's just say I am definitely going back for more ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Finally plucked up the courage to visit cj's in Glasgow .went on my own not expecting much to happen .the staff were great , friendly and welcoming .got shown around and told the basic Do's and dont's sat and chatted for a while then got invited to go upstairs to the playrooms .well let's just say I am definitely going back for more ! "
That's the best way to be. If you go in all friendly and mix with other people others will get to chat and find out about you. Then things usually go from there |
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Couple of years ago now, one saturday evening our first club was Cupid's in Manchester. We hadn't swung before and in all honesty hadn't really discussed boundaries or even what we were expecting or looking for.
As much as anything it was a dare as i'd threatened to tie up Mrs and give her a good spanking over something, & she'd said "you wouldn't dare". So that evening I told her we were going to a club that had a dungeon!!
Were terrified going in!
So ...first club and first swing! Next morning when we discussed it and really came clean over how we felt...we were so horny that we decided to go back that night!!!
Been enjoying the lifestyle ever since! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally different experiences each time for us! 1/4 times was amazing. The other 3 were naff. Each time tho we felt very comfortable and relaxed although weve only ever been on couples nights. The one time it was brilliant, mrs played with 3 fems and one of them wanked me off while she got fucked from behind by her fella whilst also going down on mrs! Multi tasking at its finest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went for the first time last night. Found it a bit uncomfortable. I was with a lady I have just met on fab.
There was too many single men acting like sex pests. One lady who was really d*unk wandered off from her partner and was immediately surrounded. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve had great club nights & not so great but every time its always an experience. Just being in a club and the taboo part of it is exciting.
Helps we find when the club is at least reasonably busy so there’s an atmosphere, tend to find Saturday nights are best as the turn out seems a lot better. I think a lot of couples are put off by Friday nights due to them allowing single guys in. It is a shame though for single guys to judge their experiences on a quieter Friday night. If the attended with a female on a Saturday I think many would find it a totally different atmosphere.
For us, hands down, the best experience is Desire lifestyle resort. Wish we had gone there years ago as our entry to the lifestyle. Wonderful way to meet talk explore and find out what works for you
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By *uckfunCouple
over a year ago
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First club was the F-Club in London about 6 years ago.
Awful experience, was allegedly a ‘couples with selected singles’. There was 1 other couple who left after about 20 minutes and 35 single men. Every time we moved, to go to the bar, the toilet or a look around all the single men would suddenly stand up and follow. We went into a room for a play and had to stop as within a couple of minutes the room was packed with jostling men trying to see what was going on and the noise from the chorus of ‘may I join you’ was deafening.
As we left I asked the Man On reception what happened to the ‘couples and selected males’ evening and he said he just lets everyone in if they have a form of ID and the payment. There was a small queue of more single men at the desk, we told them that there were no females in there at all and most turned and left.
We’d heard such good things about the club so it was a huge disappointment.
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"We’ve had great club nights & not so great but every time its always an experience. Just being in a club and the taboo part of it is exciting.
Helps we find when the club is at least reasonably busy so there’s an atmosphere, tend to find Saturday nights are best as the turn out seems a lot better. I think a lot of couples are put off by Friday nights due to them allowing single guys in. It is a shame though for single guys to judge their experiences on a quieter Friday night. If the attended with a female on a Saturday I think many would find it a totally different atmosphere.
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The majority of single guys have no option but to judge their experiences on quieter Friday nights, as this is one of few times they are ‘allowed’ in the clubs
I have visited clubs as a couple though, and can confirm, it is a very different experience to that of a lowly single male! |
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Most be over 20 years since my first club visit ( feel old now lol ) with my ex wife. We chatted a lot to a couple south cumbria we were north cumbria neither of us could accomdate at the time.they said they went to cupids now and again so we said we drive and go together. We picked them up!!! First shock of the night there pics they had sent most have been 15 years out of date. But we went cupids said we just do social play own parners. Second shock wife got talking to couple men next thing in we all in public room for all to watch her having me and two others. Lets say the couple we given lift to were not happy but they had sent 15 year old pics. Long silently trip home till we dropped them off. We went cupids few more times as a couple she aways enjoyed as not on own doorstep felt safe men were not too bad at taking no for a answer. Any one nervous about going to a club dont be its safe and if you meet someone you did know you all there same reason. |
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My first time was at Quest and I met up with a lady friend and had the tour which was great, had a mess around in the hot tub and ended up in a gang bang in the dark room... top stuff..
here’s a question do you go full naked in the hot tubs? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Chameleons is the gold standard of swinging clubs. They will look after you. Remember - you don't have to play. You can just watch and soak up the atmosphere. Chat with others and chill. |
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My first time many years ago was excoti g. People hosts everyone friendly , tried many diffrent clubs and various nights all a bit hit and miss ,tend to go with no pre conseptions just a good adult night out x |
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Actually yeah it was. It was a fairly quiet evening, I arrived early but it didn't get busy til fairly late. I was approached by the partner of the woman I thought was the most beautiful of all in attendance to have a MFM threesome in a private room. My one regret was that I'd spent so much time in the sauna and hot tub by that point I was a bit overboiled to be at my best |
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