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Guys, how did you convince your wife to try a threesome?
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Love to hear your experiences of persuading a partner who isn’t as sure as you to invite someone else into your bed"
You don't, you accept that she doesn't want to and move the fuck on. 
The men behind these posts are why I stay single. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they are inherently monogamous you won’t be able to. But pressuring them will cause some other issues - besides the ones being on here might. Issues like insecurity and inadequacy. If your sex life is full and great and you both are into additional partners it works. Most people don’t want that and won’t change. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But are you even a couples account or is this account so you can try to push her into the lifestyle because you want a 3some? That seems sketchy to me if she’s not involved with this profile. |
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"Love to hear your experiences of persuading a partner who isn’t as sure as you to invite someone else into your bed
You don't, you accept that she doesn't want to and move the fuck on.
The men behind these posts are why I stay single. "
Preach.
Women are their own people with their own wants, desires, fears, limits, etc. Respect their wishes as much as you respect your own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"convince" oh dear, that isn't going to work. May as well offer her money...
The best you can do is offer a safe environment for her to express any desires she wishes to do (as she probably would for you) pushing her (or convincing) her us only likely to push her away. |
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In a relationship that swinging can prosper in, you'll both be open minded, interested in the others pleasure, able to talk frankly and not be overwhelmed by feelings of jealousy. When you find a relationship that has these things you can talk long and deeply about anything you each may desire and as a result come to an agreement as to what you will/wont do as a couple or individually.
It's as simple as that really. Have never tried (nor had) to convince Ppa of anything, nor has she me. That's just one reason why I love her.
(Apologies to the previous poster who I sent this to as a private reply also - d'oh) |
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"Love to hear your experiences of persuading a partner who isn’t as sure as you to invite someone else into your bed"
I don’t think persuade is the right term
Suggest yes but don’t force anyone into anything
It’s all about choice .... |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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It would appear from your verification summary that you've already achieved this as a couple OP. "Verified by 3 people, newest 2 years ago
1 fem. 2 men. By 2 meet. 1 cam." Perhaps discuss it with her like you did before, but do remember if the answer is no then let it go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just asked my first wife. She said "yeah could be fun"..My current partner of 29 years was pretty much the same, I just asked her..of course there were discussions on swinging and swapping..The first experience for my first wife was with my boss/friend and his partner..if they both would have instantly dismissed the idea, then I would have probably just have left it at that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always talked about a bit of sharing but apart from a d*unken fun night few decades ago, never thought it would happen.....then unexpected light swinging started with nudist beach in Gran Canaria when a playful episode led to a chap joining us to play with Mrs!! Since then we had few encounters ! |
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"how do i persuade....?"
You don't.
You talk with her like the autonomous human being she is. By all means suggest the idea and ask how she feels about it. Have a discussion. Don't push or persuade her into anything she's unsure about, don't take her to a club under false pretences either, I've seen that more than once and it's horrible for everyone. |
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By *hedireCouple
over a year ago
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OP your profile is contradictory. SHE is bi curious (male desire?) Yet you're asking for males and HE is straight. We see far, far too many couples where fem is bi or bi curious and rest of the profile says NO BI MALES. In our experience the male of the couple operates the account. Sometimes we will simply block for less. Had meets where the male is push push pushy to get his partner to perform with the female. What if she asked you to suck another guys cock ? Wank a guy ?
We find both bi or bi curious couple meetings without expectations the most relaxing and successful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just asked, because she was more than keen on the idea we did it. If you don’t know your partner well enough to gauge if you should be asking then you definitely shouldn’t |
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I think pursuade is the wrong word. It has to be something you all want. Perhaps have a conversation with her and ask if it's something she ever considered. Then ask what kind she would like if it was ever to happen. Let her lead. If she's against it the drop it. Your relationship is too important to risk it on pushing a fantasy you don't share |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Discuss it in a mature adult way, be open and honest about what you would like to happen. However, if she says no leave it at that and know that if she ever changes her mind she'll feel she can talk to you about it.
Convincing someone to join in this world that doesn't want to be a part of it will only lead to big problems later... |
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