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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what do you guys n girls do when the sex drys up?? "
Try to liven it back up, meet their emotional needs, maybe buy toys, show an interest in whatever has their attention and lighten their load any way you can so they feel safe and cared for. -Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Talk to her and ask why?
Good luck."
Best advice. Talk also let her know you still care for her if she doesn’t feel loved and wanted she def won’t want sex |
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"So what do you guys n girls do when the sex drys up?? "
Talk if you can but that does depend on both being willing to enter into dialogue. What's the context, young kids, new medication, un/diagnosed illness, resentment, difficulties within your relationship?
Good luck |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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I have never and would never cheat on a partner, so I would try to find the problem by talking with her, then solve it.
If that didn't work I would ask Niki for her blessing to get it somewhere else. Knowing Niki she would agree as long as she could watch!
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"So what do you guys n girls do when the sex drys up?? "
Her sex might not have dried up
Find out why it's dried up with you, what effort do you put in to the relationship ?
Hard for her to feel sexy if her days are spent cleaning, cooking, working etc etc
Do your bit and you'll reap the rewards |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe stop treating her like your wife and start treating her like your girlfriend again?
Girlfriends get the attention and intention, wives get the belching and bollock scratching. |
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By *uckymooMan
over a year ago
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"Maybe stop treating her like your wife and start treating her like your girlfriend again?
Girlfriends get the attention and intention, wives get the belching and bollock scratching."
Experience talking |
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By *W1967Man
over a year ago
South Leicestershire |
"Don’t go cheating online, that’s for sure.
Anymore advice? "
That seems like very sound advice to me. Talk to her, find out why, and find an amicable solution. If that doesn't work, move on first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If your asking for yourself which we would say you are we think your well over 12 months to late. You should have been talking to her before you joined this site as now your classed as cheating and your ass will be grass if she finds out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Women/wives are more astute than people think, give her the time and attention that you're giving here! Talk some and then some more ... if it's not working for you then it's most likely not working for her too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So what do you guys n girls do when the sex drys up??
Try to liven it back up, meet their emotional needs, maybe buy toys, show an interest in whatever has their attention and lighten their load any way you can so they feel safe and cared for. -Mrs "
This
Do everything you can for them and show that they are your everything.
Most definitely don't cheat that will destroy the marriage. |
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Unless your wife/partner has a medical problem,it's probably down to your relationship and compatibility and how you get on together as a Unit,or you have grown apart and she just does not find you attractive anymore for a number of reasons....or it is just Your behaviour....dig deep and find out why..?..but cheating with other males in 3somes will not help one bit,just mask the underlying problem.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unless your wife/partner has a medical problem,it's probably down to your relationship and compatibility and how you get on together as a Unit,or you have grown apart and she just does not find you attractive anymore for a number of reasons....or it is just Your behaviour....dig deep and find out why..?..but cheating with other males in 3somes will not help one bit,just mask the underlying problem...."
As the Mr I agree with this .
About 5 year ago the Mrs went off sex .
I dug deep had a look in the mirror at myself and my behaviour and realised i had to change.
We have 3 kids and 6 grandkids but I wasn't giving her attention.
I began to take an interest in everything she does got myself off to the gym
Encouraged her to buy clothes that that show her in the best light.
She started to eat more heathly and started to exercise a lot.
Her self esteem grew and so did our sex life.
35 years together and our sex life now is better than it's ever been.
So when I see men say my wife has gone off sex I think we'll do something about it.
It's a team that makes a relationship not just one selfish twat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"omg the op is asking for advice n the fab police jump on him are you telling us none of you lot have ever slept with a married man on here ffs"
Lots on here won't knowingly meet attached people though agree that many lie even when directly asked  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"omg the op is asking for advice n the fab police jump on him are you telling us none of you lot have ever slept with a married man on here ffs
Lots on here won't knowingly meet attached people though agree that many lie even when directly asked "
They do but its easy to get the truth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"omg the op is asking for advice n the fab police jump on him are you telling us none of you lot have ever slept with a married man on here ffs
Lots on here won't knowingly meet attached people though agree that many lie even when directly asked
They do but its easy to get the truth. "
I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what do you guys n girls do when the sex drys up?? "
Don’t listen to the others OP. Cheat. Live your best life, for all you know it’s dried up for you because she’s fucking someone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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op the only advice is no one knows you or your wife only you two know each other so you both need a frank and honest talk ... and good luck
just remember the best relationships need work from time to time nothing in life is plain sailing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what do you guys n girls do when the sex drys up??
Don’t listen to the others OP. Cheat. Live your best life, for all you know it’s dried up for you because she’s fucking someone else. "
That's the spirit throw your family away  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what do you guys n girls do when the sex drys up??
Don’t listen to the others OP. Cheat. Live your best life, for all you know it’s dried up for you because she’s fucking someone else.
That's the spirit throw your family away "
Won’t happen if she don’t find out 
Besides she may leave you regardless may aswell have your fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what do you guys n girls do when the sex drys up??
Try and figure out what you’re doing wrong and find out how to turn her on, maybe lose a bit of fat? New haircut? Smell better? Be nicer? "
This |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I expect this has been said....but....you have to turn around what has gone wrong and you're young enough to do that.
Women go off sex for lots of reasons, if it's to do with you it could be:
You haven't given her enough attention.
You don't bother so much about your appearance.
You take her for granted.
You think you deserve sex.
If you love her those things are relatively simple to resolve. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably time to call it quits, while sex isn't everything in a relationship, it's not something I'll be willing to give up in this one lifetime that I get. |
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By *inyppMan
over a year ago
watertown |
"Lol she mite still be have a lot of sex but not with you..
Would be nice to think one of us was getting some. "
That’s how it is in my house. No sex life for me - but my wife is having more sex than ever lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She probably hasn’t stopped having sex, just stopped having it with you. She’s probably set up a single profile on a swingers site and is having the time of her life.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She probably hasn’t stopped having sex, just stopped having it with you. She’s probably set up a single profile on a swingers site and is having the time of her life. "
Wish mine was. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So what do you guys n girls do when the sex drys up?? "
I lost my sex drive after a series of surgeries in a delicate place with my ex hubby. 5 years later, we decided that we couldn’t continue as flatmates. We tried, failed and went our separate ways to live a happier life. Luckily we are still good friends. I couldn’t cheat and nor could he. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe stop treating her like your wife and start treating her like your girlfriend again?
Girlfriends get the attention and intention, wives get the belching and bollock scratching."
I love this. So true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what do you guys n girls do when the sex drys up?? "
I would talk to my wife. Find out why she has gone off sex. Find out how you can spice things back up for her and get her wanting sex again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As you have been in fab over a year.... I think your a bit late to be concerned. You think it's her OP. Maybe it's you she don't fancy anymore maybe she knows about your FAB lifestyle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People are too quick to judge. Maybe the female needs to consider the guys needs, feelings and confidence in all of this.
Women are more selfish than men in relationships. Mainly take and never give back |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People are too quick to judge. Maybe the female needs to consider the guys needs, feelings and confidence in all of this.
Women are more selfish than men in relationships. Mainly take and never give back "
I didn’t want to be sexual anymore with my ex husband. We broke up and remained friends. I can’t make myself do things I don’t want to. Selfish is staying in a sexless marriage. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People are too quick to judge. Maybe the female needs to consider the guys needs, feelings and confidence in all of this.
Women are more selfish than men in relationships. Mainly take and never give back "
Just get rid if she's not giving out sex. What's the point of having a woman if she won't fuck. |
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Everyone has great advice that he’s doing something wrong! Some people just ain’t that sexual and after they get comfortable they stop doing it to please the partner!
Now if she don’t want it and he has a high sex drive I think he deserves to get it else where!
Not good to make her do what she don’t enjoy, not everyone has the sex drives we all do on here.
I’m only surmising same as everyone else is here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone has great advice that he’s doing something wrong! Some people just ain’t that sexual and after they get comfortable they stop doing it to please the partner!
Now if she don’t want it and he has a high sex drive I think he deserves to get it else where!
Not good to make her do what she don’t enjoy, not everyone has the sex drives we all do on here.
I’m only surmising same as everyone else is here "
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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It seems as though taking her out and actually having a frank discussion did the trick then. Awesome! So good to hear.
Make date night a regular thing. Us women like a reason to get dressed up and wear something sexy underneath |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People are too quick to judge. Maybe the female needs to consider the guys needs, feelings and confidence in all of this.
Women are more selfish than men in relationships. Mainly take and never give back "
No even as a man I could see that I was the selfish one and made some changes .
It usually is the men that are the selfish ones. |
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dnt like to see it dry 
