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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So after being with just guys even though I'm bi and i tell people this on tinder or here i almost certainly get ignored by women, whats everyones view's on this |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Perhaps it's not your bisexuality that is the issue OP - there are a lot of men on here of all sexualities and they outnumber women by around 10 to 1 - so you have to make yourself stand out as best you can by having a decent and well written profile and appealing pics to back it up - I'll not comment on yours directly as you've not asked for profile advice but it's something to consider rather than blaming your sexuality.
As a bisexual guy myself my experience has been overwhelmingly positive and my sexuality accepted and even welcomed by most |
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Maybe have a more detailed bio, or not start with 'looking for a hook Up' or talk to people in the forums or chat rooms.
If women are just ignoring you how do you know it's because you are bi? Maybe they don't know much about You, don't fancy you or are just inundated with messages from single guys. |
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"So after being with just guys even though I'm bi and i tell people this on tinder or here i almost certainly get ignored by women, whats everyones view's on this "
OK, there is still a deep seated vein of biphobic tropes and of people who think that queerness is unacceptable int he swingign scene.
However there are also plenty of lovely, sexy people who aren't like that.
As someone else has said, your profile is a tad generic and, whilst you are quite fit loooking in your pics, there's not a lot of it to catch the eye of a woman going past, given that they have a lot to choose from on here.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They are pure evil and should be flayed*
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* Actually I believe they are lovely fellows. I just felt like an incendiary comment, but also felt the need to clarify it was just for effect.
I'm just going to sit quietly and read the comments. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally, I respect a guy for admitting he’s Bi because let’s face it, he’s going to get at least a small degree of shit for it!
I think that someone who is fully exploring his sexuality is great, satisfying curiosity is why we are all here after all right?
So while it’s socially acceptable for women to be Bi and most men find it a turn on, the same people could judge a man for being Bi...!!
Any man who is exploring his sexuality and trying Bi, is equally acceptable in my book, without judgement or abuse!
Good on you and Happy Discovering!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps it's not your bisexuality that is the issue OP - there are a lot of men on here of all sexualities and they outnumber women by around 10 to 1 - so you have to make yourself stand out as best you can by having a decent and well written profile and appealing pics to back it up - I'll not comment on yours directly as you've not asked for profile advice but it's something to consider rather than blaming your sexuality.
As a bisexual guy myself my experience has been overwhelmingly positive and my sexuality accepted and even welcomed by most "
Well said. |
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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago
Shropshire/Midlands |
"Bi guys are disgusting perverts
WTF is that supposed to mean? Very Bi here but strictly vanilla. Why is it perverted for men to like men but ok for women to like women?"
My thoughts, exactly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had a few single women and even straight MF couples messaging me on here, a lot of people are fine with it as long as you are HONEST. Some will ignore but plenty will not. Too many gay and bi men lying on here, giving us a bad name. |
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
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"So after being with just guys even though I'm bi and i tell people this on tinder or here i almost certainly get ignored by women, whats everyones view's on this "
Well I would fuck your cute little arse so enjoy the attention from Men and i am sure some hot older lady will just eat you up in time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're not talking to the right women "
Also, do you lead with the I'm bi line?
Is that the one thing about you that defines you?
If you feel it is, maybe look at all your other plus points and get them across first
I prefer to be judged for me as opposed to by a penchant for occasional random cock
Also, respect that bi guys are a niche and that we won't be for everyone
Finding someone who enjoys, celebrates and encourages your bisexuality is liberating to say the least |
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"Bi guys are disgusting perverts
WTF is that supposed to mean? Very Bi here but strictly vanilla. Why is it perverted for men to like men but ok for women to like women?"
It was a self deprecating joke. If you look at our profile you'll see I'm bisexual. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Iin the main its the person not the sexuality however some women are wary of bi men because many are very promiscuous and are hap hazard with protection. "
This is not unique to bi (or gay) men, straight men are equally as bad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a bisexual woman but I find bi guys a huge turn off.
But as always it's personal preference."
Why is this out of curiosity? I find many groups a turn off so not judging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So after being with just guys even though I'm bi and i tell people this on tinder or here i almost certainly get ignored by women, whats everyones view's on this "
We get plenty of approaches |
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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Iin the main its the person not the sexuality however some women are wary of bi men because many are very promiscuous and are hap hazard with protection.
This is not unique to bi (or gay) men, straight men are equally as bad "
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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Personally I really like bi guys, but as a single woman with the choice of many many profiles I think yours really needs some work. I think an earlier poster underestimated the ratio because I would say it is more like 50 males to every female on here.
What are your non-sexual interests? You say you are into bdsm, but don’t elaborate. Are you sub, Dom or switch? Or don’t you know yet?
Also you are under 30, which is also something that rules you out for many people.
Have a look at your competition. There are some really great profiles out there and they get plenty of meets. Not all of them are really fit gym bods either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have lost count of people who have told me to 'pick a side'
I love that because someones sexuality is fixed, they have issues with someone elses being fluid
The fact they don't understand it really is their problem, not mine |
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By *hangerMan
over a year ago
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"So after being with just guys even though I'm bi and i tell people this on tinder or here i almost certainly get ignored by women, whats everyones view's on this "
As a bi guy, I find that about 90% of meet requests I receive come from guys and TV/TS but I do get about 10% from women. If you are not getting any, then maybe you need to rethink your profile and / or approach? |
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"Bi guys are disgusting perverts
WTF is that supposed to mean? Very Bi here but strictly vanilla. Why is it perverted for men to like men but ok for women to like women?
It was a self deprecating joke. If you look at our profile you'll see I'm bisexual. "
Yeah, sorry I realised that later |
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By *w2thisCouple
over a year ago
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personally me and the hubby tried our first bi guy meet a few weeks ago and by far it's this best experience we have had so far, but it took us a long time to agree on someone as we have different tastes, a good profile and great pics helps but it's all in the chat and the confidence a guy brings. |
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I've found a bi / pansexual guys biggest problem is clubs.
Not all clubs allow or appreciate men having sex with men, but are very happy for bi women to play. Such a contradiction.
People go batty because 2 guys play or a couples 4 some and guy sucks off the other guy it's as if someone had stuck a cock up an arse got covered in shit then stuck it in someone's mouth by their disgusted reactions of sex.
I'd rather avoid clubs that frown on male on male pleasures.
The inclusive clubs are always more fun anyway.
Don't want samesex sex don't do it don't want see it don't look, simple as that.
Goes the same for don't like fat women don't fuck one, don't like what you see then don't look. Il be happy having my fun 
People love to complain and show their disgust when it doesn't suit their tastes. Live and let live. |
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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago
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"I have lost count of people who have told me to 'pick a side'
I love that because someones sexuality is fixed, they have issues with someone elses being fluid
The fact they don't understand it really is their problem, not mine"
I've been told to pick a side. I usually tell them I'm the referee |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've found a bi / pansexual guys biggest problem is clubs.
Not all clubs allow or appreciate men having sex with men, but are very happy for bi women to play. Such a contradiction.
People go batty because 2 guys play or a couples 4 some and guy sucks off the other guy it's as if someone had stuck a cock up an arse got covered in shit then stuck it in someone's mouth by their disgusted reactions of sex.
I'd rather avoid clubs that frown on male on male pleasures.
The inclusive clubs are always more fun anyway.
Don't want samesex sex don't do it don't want see it don't look, simple as that.
Goes the same for don't like fat women don't fuck one, don't like what you see then don't look. Il be happy having my fun
People love to complain and show their disgust when it doesn't suit their tastes. Live and let live."
Don't like fat women don't fuck one! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've found a bi / pansexual guys biggest problem is clubs.
Not all clubs allow or appreciate men having sex with men, but are very happy for bi women to play. Such a contradiction.
People go batty because 2 guys play or a couples 4 some and guy sucks off the other guy it's as if someone had stuck a cock up an arse got covered in shit then stuck it in someone's mouth by their disgusted reactions of sex.
I'd rather avoid clubs that frown on male on male pleasures.
The inclusive clubs are always more fun anyway.
Don't want samesex sex don't do it don't want see it don't look, simple as that.
Goes the same for don't like fat women don't fuck one, don't like what you see then don't look. Il be happy having my fun
People love to complain and show their disgust when it doesn't suit their tastes. Live and let live."
Oh fuck pansexual????
Is that when people have sex shoving frying pans up their arses ??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely an issue with tinder reliability as well as women being outnumbered on this site and spoiled for choice.
As a woman I've never had an issue with bi men and had previous partners who had experimented and it never bothered me.
Now I'd say it turns me on. Nothing hotter than seeing my fella enjoy another hot guy.
But we have bisexual male friends and they have also noted women these days love the fact they are bisexual.
I mean, two fit guys going at it with that fun male sexual energy? What's not to love.
Tinder is definitely useless. I'm on there too to try and put my feelers out for girls and they never tall. Don't take it personal. |
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"I've found a bi / pansexual guys biggest problem is clubs.
Not all clubs allow or appreciate men having sex with men, but are very happy for bi women to play. Such a contradiction.
People go batty because 2 guys play or a couples 4 some and guy sucks off the other guy it's as if someone had stuck a cock up an arse got covered in shit then stuck it in someone's mouth by their disgusted reactions of sex.
I'd rather avoid clubs that frown on male on male pleasures.
The inclusive clubs are always more fun anyway.
Don't want samesex sex don't do it don't want see it don't look, simple as that.
Goes the same for don't like fat women don't fuck one, don't like what you see then don't look. Il be happy having my fun
People love to complain and show their disgust when it doesn't suit their tastes. Live and let live.
Oh fuck pansexual????
Is that when people have sex shoving frying pans up their arses ???"
Oh come on be original it's not like I haven't heard that crap before.
It's getting boring now, and in insult to pansexual people like myself.
First thing people say when you tell someone youre pansexual wish I had a pound for everytime someone said it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have no issues with anyone’s sexuality but just be responsible & bag it up! The amount of men that I seen don’t there bb then they expect to then go with a woman it’s just off putting |
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As the wife of a bi hubby ,who has met bi and straight guys on here only about 2 of them had bi on their profile ,all have their reasons for saying bi or straight ,im not here to judge ,but if we all click at coffee./chat meet then full steam ahead ,and as we are not into anal ,we have met and enjoyed some very nice guys on here ,some are now friends bi or not its immaterial ,but we do object to being asked to introduce guys to bi play ,its not what we are here for as most run for the hills when we ask to meet seems its all talk .  |
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To me a guy is just a guy, bi or straight, as long as they play safe with me as I would expect any sexual partner to , I don't need to know someone's sexual history or sexuality. If they are meeting me, paying attention to me, and we are enjoying each other on a meet then I couldn't be less bothered.
OP just go with how you feel..you know all about the ratios in here..it will be daunting if you have never been with a woman but just be yourself personality wise, hope you get some replies and meets |
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I agree about the playing safe. I think bi men are judged as perhaps indulging in risky sex and more of a gamble to play with. It's a kind of Russian Roulette to play with bi guys and also a fear for some straight men that they will either be turned on by another man or get unwanted advances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's more simple than the aspect of safe playing for some women. A close friend of mine is fine with guys being bisexual. She knows my partner is after all. She said she wouldn't want to be with a bisexual man who had been bottom. Simply because she didn't view them as masculine anymore. The idea of masculinity is important to her sexual attraction. I can understand her logic but I don't agree with it. Role reversal is fucking hot in my opinion  |
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I have literally lost track the amount of 'straight' lads who get in touch as single or in a couple who want to explore. Sometimes I get messages from wives/gfs who want to explore me joining them. I think this label is starting to become a bit archaic. I'm a masculine lad very comfortable in my own skin. It's the people who shout from the rafters about being straight that you should avoid ha. |
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By *hill44Man
over a year ago
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"I have literally lost track the amount of 'straight' lads who get in touch as single or in a couple who want to explore. Sometimes I get messages from wives/gfs who want to explore me joining them. I think this label is starting to become a bit archaic. I'm a masculine lad very comfortable in my own skin. It's the people who shout from the rafters about being straight that you should avoid ha. "
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"I agree about the playing safe. I think bi men are judged as perhaps indulging in risky sex and more of a gamble to play with. It's a kind of Russian Roulette to play with bi guys and also a fear for some straight men that they will either be turned on by another man or get unwanted advances. "
Quite wrongly in my opinion, someone's sexuality has no bearing on whether or not they are reckless when it comes to safe sex, this is not the 1980s |
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Historically, I have dealt with way more abuse and hatred from women (normally straight, CIS ones) for being bi. That said, overall levels are still low, as I live and work in a very queer-friendly environment and I’m completely open |
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"I agree about the playing safe. I think bi men are judged as perhaps indulging in risky sex and more of a gamble to play with. It's a kind of Russian Roulette to play with bi guys and also a fear for some straight men that they will either be turned on by another man or get unwanted advances.
Quite wrongly in my opinion, someone's sexuality has no bearing on whether or not they are reckless when it comes to safe sex, this is not the 1980s "
You're absolutely right and can not believe that prejudice is still so prevalent. I work in NHS and can categorically say that it is those that are not honest with themselves or their partners where risks lie, not their sexual preferences. |
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The amount or “Straight” bi guys that message us and tell us they’re bi is ridiculous... We don’t judge anyone and know everyone has their own reasons etc.... For us we can play 100% straight or 100% bi it’s all fun in the end, lots of clubs encourage women to play together but then as some above have said frown very much on men playing unless it’s a dedicated night, we’re still unsure on the differences but ha-ho what ever gets numbers in I guess.
I think there’s still a stigma attached to bi men where as bi women that’s horny, dunno why but we just be honest and play how we like to suit the situation, if your straight cool we’d love to play, if you’re bi get ready coz things about to get filthy xx |
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"I agree about the playing safe. I think bi men are judged as perhaps indulging in risky sex and more of a gamble to play with. It's a kind of Russian Roulette to play with bi guys and also a fear for some straight men that they will either be turned on by another man or get unwanted advances. "
Must say I strongly disagree with that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I agree about the playing safe. I think bi men are judged as perhaps indulging in risky sex and more of a gamble to play with. It's a kind of Russian Roulette to play with bi guys and also a fear for some straight men that they will either be turned on by another man or get unwanted advances.
Must say I strongly disagree with that"
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Same I've been in 3 long terms and mostly always been safe and always get tested |
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"I agree about the playing safe. I think bi men are judged as perhaps indulging in risky sex and more of a gamble to play with. It's a kind of Russian Roulette to play with bi guys and also a fear for some straight men that they will either be turned on by another man or get unwanted advances.
Must say I strongly disagree with that.
Same I've been in 3 long terms and mostly always been safe and always get tested "
I just dont understand the reasoning behind why he thinks that. Few exs are bi and my mates bi/gay. They all play safe..I think girls can be far worse for it. Apart from fab girls that is. |
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"It's the stats unfortunately  "
Statistics show men have higher rates of stds.
Saying all bi guys are the ones with higher risk is not exactly true.
Men are more likely to refuse to wear a condom yes this is true.
But men who think any holes a goal as long as they get their fun regardless of who it is. The ones who use people as objects who think it's all about them and their own pleasures nothing more. They don't have an attraction to men but what difference does it make , an ass is an ass no matter whose ass it is same for mouth. They will complain that condoms spoil their fun and so less likely to use them.
I wouldn't call these men bi they have no sexual attraction to men just a means to their desired end.
But because they have sex with men they are labelled bisexual
Which skews the statistics. It's just sex nothing more than that it would be nicer if they used sex doll instead of treating people as sex toys.
Fab is full of these guys who don't care who they fuck as long as they get their happy ending. So I really wouldn't call them bisexual at all. I wouldn't even go as far as to say hetero.flexible either. They have zero attraction or arousal with who they are doing it with just the outcome that they want.
I coined the term using people as hands free masturbatory aids. It's all about themselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thing is, there are so many dynamics to sexuality that one persons kink is another persons vanilla!
If you get angst from someone I'd say that's more about who they are thean prefrences! Stuff em i say x |
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I think there’s still a stigma attached to bi men where as bi women that’s horny, dunno why but we just be honest and play how we like to suit the situation, if your straight cool we’d love to play, if you’re bi get ready coz things about to get filthy xx"
My theory, for what it’s worth, is that men and women who use ‘mainstream’ porn are completely accustomed to and turned on by watching women playing together and that’s why it’s seen as/is horny. As male bi action is more niche it isn’t.
And love your attitude - it’s how we like to play too 
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"So after being with just guys even though I'm bi and i tell people this on tinder or here i almost certainly get ignored by women, whats everyones view's on this "
My opinion on bi guys?? Same as any other guy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's the stats unfortunately
Statistics show men have higher rates of stds.
Saying all bi guys are the ones with higher risk is not exactly true.
Men are more likely to refuse to wear a condom yes this is true.
But men who think any holes a goal as long as they get their fun regardless of who it is. The ones who use people as objects who think it's all about them and their own pleasures nothing more. They don't have an attraction to men but what difference does it make , an ass is an ass no matter whose ass it is same for mouth. They will complain that condoms spoil their fun and so less likely to use them.
I wouldn't call these men bi they have no sexual attraction to men just a means to their desired end.
But because they have sex with men they are labelled bisexual
Which skews the statistics. It's just sex nothing more than that it would be nicer if they used sex doll instead of treating people as sex toys.
Fab is full of these guys who don't care who they fuck as long as they get their happy ending. So I really wouldn't call them bisexual at all. I wouldn't even go as far as to say hetero.flexible either. They have zero attraction or arousal with who they are doing it with just the outcome that they want.
I coined the term using people as hands free masturbatory aids. It's all about themselves"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So after being with just guys even though I'm bi and i tell people this on tinder or here i almost certainly get ignored by women, whats everyones view's on this "
Be true to yourself. If those won't meet because of your sexuality then move on to another. Don't be like most on here and hide in the bi closet! Be Bi-Proud!  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Most men say there straight and get there cock sucked by men and there wife’s never know !! "
Sweeping generalisation there - while it's true of *some* men - and while I'd agree a lot of men have at some point "wondered" what it would be like to go with a guy - to say *most* have acted on it is wholly inaccurate and actually quite a disservice to the many many genuinely straight guys. |
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"Most men say there straight and get there cock sucked by men and there wife’s never know !!
Sweeping generalisation there - while it's true of *some* men - and while I'd agree a lot of men have at some point "wondered" what it would be like to go with a guy - to say *most* have acted on it is wholly inaccurate and actually quite a disservice to the many many genuinely straight guys."
I think more and more men are trying their gay side.. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Most men say there straight and get there cock sucked by men and there wife’s never know !!
Sweeping generalisation there - while it's true of *some* men - and while I'd agree a lot of men have at some point "wondered" what it would be like to go with a guy - to say *most* have acted on it is wholly inaccurate and actually quite a disservice to the many many genuinely straight guys.
I think more and more men are trying their gay side.. "
No, more and more men may be open to their bisexual side as it becomes more accepted - BUT *most* is still a huge generalisation. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"To clarify I think every human has capacity for same sex relations"
I think you'll find plenty that violently disagree with that statement and they won't be in denial either - I know plenty of guys who are absolutely repulsed by the idea of having sex with another guy |
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"I'm a bisexual woman but I find bi guys a huge turn off.
But as always it's personal preference."
Is it because a guy should only be into women as in a “real man” or is it just the thing of 2 guys together? Understand is personal but find it a common perspective among women |
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"To clarify I think every human has capacity for same sex relations
I think you'll find plenty that violently disagree with that statement and they won't be in denial either - I know plenty of guys who are absolutely repulsed by the idea of having sex with another guy "
They are usually the ones who want it most. |
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