I get certainly more likes and messages from men even though not bi or gay.. but then I guess the proportion of men on this site far outweighs women or couples wanting men

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think if a lady or couple message you first then you must really stand out so even if you arent interested then take it as a massive compliment. The numbers are not in our favour, simple as really.

I've never had anyone message me first - had one wink but that is it. You just have to accept it and make the most of the opportunities that come up

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By *histler OP Man over a year ago

Guildford

"I think if a lady or couple message you first then you must really stand out so even if you arent interested then take it as a massive compliment. The numbers are not in our favour, simple as really.

I've never had anyone message me first - had one wink but that is it. You just have to accept it and make the most of the opportunities that come up

Yep, more winks than messages. But I then message them and get nothing back lol.

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By *oetic licenceCouple over a year ago

Mellor

We send 1st messages. It's not right single guys do all the chasing.

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By *ookie46Woman over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I send out first messages. It’s usually if I’ve seen a pic I appreciate or the profile stands out

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By *iliciousCouple over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

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By *iliciousCouple over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

We block single guys from messaging us as too much traffic and we aren’t always looking. However when we are looking, we then will send a first message to those who interest us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’d say my inbox tends be -

75% men.

15% suspicious couples where “it’s only the Male here”.

5% women.

5% real couples.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We send 1st messages. It's not right single guys do all the chasing.

Nice to hear you message first sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have on occasion sent out first messages mainly to other couples and single women though and it was when our account was new. Since we have had multiple verifications and attend local clubs we get to many messages to cope with at times and there's more than enough potential play partners in those messages if / when we decide to have a meet x

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We, like others mentioned here, have sent out messages to guys who took our interest, in the past.

If we find a guy interesting, we initiate contact.

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By *moothdickMan over a year ago

stoke

Think ?? I’ve had it once maybe twice a women or cpl have txt me first

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By *r_GirthMan over a year ago

Leeds