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Advice on FF fun please !!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi guys,
The OH’s biggest fantasy has always been to see me with another woman ... he knows I was with women before him and the idea of a ‘show’ being put on for him is what really gets him going. HOWEVER it’s not something he would be happy with any other men watching.
We’re members of xtasia and visit fairly frequently but as I’m sure you can imagine making this a reality for him has of yet been tricky !
Any ideas on how to push things in the right direction ? Obviously it’s a rareity for the male in a couple to be happy with his OH playing without him getting anything in return and single women interested in FF fun appear to be few and far between.
Would really appreciate any thoughts on the matter.
Love as always xxx |
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"Hi guys,
The OH’s biggest fantasy has always been to see me with another woman ... he knows I was with women before him and the idea of a ‘show’ being put on for him is what really gets him going. HOWEVER it’s not something he would be happy with any other men watching.
We’re members of xtasia and visit fairly frequently but as I’m sure you can imagine making this a reality for him has of yet been tricky !
Any ideas on how to push things in the right direction ? Obviously it’s a rareity for the male in a couple to be happy with his OH playing without him getting anything in return and single women interested in FF fun appear to be few and far between.
Would really appreciate any thoughts on the matter.
Love as always xxx"
Your putting on a show for him comment may put women off. She may feel you just want her for your pleasure and amusement. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hmmm yes poor word choice on my part. Apologies in advance ladies ! Don’t shoot me.
It’s more that because he hasn’t seen it before it’s important to us that this one is a private scenario?
But for the record all of my previous female partners have left entirely satisfied |
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I think the problem you may have is your OH watching but no one else being allowed to. For women with their own partner that will probably be a non-starter because their OH would presumably want to watch too! I think you’d have a lot more options if you were open to another woman’s partner also watching. Maybe other women feel differently, I don’t know, but that’s how I’d feel about it. Hope that helps! x |
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"Hmmm yes poor word choice on my part. Apologies in advance ladies ! Don’t shoot me.
It’s more that because he hasn’t seen it before it’s important to us that this one is a private scenario?
But for the record all of my previous female partners have left entirely satisfied"
Not a poor choice of words at all. You have clearly stated what you are looking for - a female to put on a show for your husband. Nothing in it for the fem. Highly unlikely to happen on here. Your best chance would be an Escort. Oh and it it a very popular male fantacy so nothing unusual or special about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very selfish, ask yourselves why another man can’t watch, jealousy?
Can we borrow your lady for a FFM with us? If that’s okay then you can have a FFM play with me in return.
We can guess the answer..... |
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By *randMrsPCouple
over a year ago
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"I think the problem you may have is your OH watching but no one else being allowed to. For women with their own partner that will probably be a non-starter because their OH would presumably want to watch too! I think you’d have a lot more options if you were open to another woman’s partner also watching. Maybe other women feel differently, I don’t know, but that’s how I’d feel about it. Hope that helps! x"
Exactly this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately as soon as this scenario is mentioned to me, it's a flat no. I'm not a performing monkey and that's how you end up being made to feel"
This 
Exactly why I don’t meet couples. I enjoy playing FF for the simple enjoyment of it, not for the enjoyment of others |
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In my experience, women interested in FF play aren't few and far between at all. Personally however I would be put off by this scenario as it would make me feel like I was just there to be free porn for the male partner. There's also nothing worse than being with a woman who is clearly more interested in putting on a performance for her partner than actually sharing an experience with you. That's what puts me off having threesomes with couples. |
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"In my experience, women interested in FF play aren't few and far between at all. Personally however I would be put off by this scenario as it would make me feel like I was just there to be free porn for the male partner. There's also nothing worse than being with a woman who is clearly more interested in putting on a performance for her partner than actually sharing an experience with you. That's what puts me off having threesomes with couples."
Can categorically say that’s not what we’re looking for with a unicorn!
I (the Boy) dislike the notion that any part of an encounter is only done as a performance! It’d not be fair if all the party’s weren’t enjoying themselves fully! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi OP,
Whilst there are plenty of bi fems / part of couples, like us that would be happy with ff play, I very much doubt you will find someone to perform a show without the male partner being allowed to watch too.
So I agree with the previous comments entirely. He either needs to accept that his fantasy won’t happen, or loosen his boundaries to accept that the other male partner of the couple could watch too. Your other option being a single female to join you, but good luck with that one. If I was single, I would certainly not have any interest in putting on a show...
Good luck
Niki xx |
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"In my experience, women interested in FF play aren't few and far between at all. Personally however I would be put off by this scenario as it would make me feel like I was just there to be free porn for the male partner. There's also nothing worse than being with a woman who is clearly more interested in putting on a performance for her partner than actually sharing an experience with you. That's what puts me off having threesomes with couples.
Can categorically say that’s not what we’re looking for with a unicorn!
I (the Boy) dislike the notion that any part of an encounter is only done as a performance! It’d not be fair if all the party’s weren’t enjoying themselves fully! "
Agreed - we would be upset if a lady thought we were interested for ‘show’ purposes. Like to think our threesomes have been genuinely three way for everyone.
To the OP would have to agree with most that it seems unlikely you will find a lady for that specific scenario, but if you go to a club you may well get some better ideas of the sort of interactions that go on and maybe some will be to your taste. |
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Nice profile guys!
I have to agree with the general notion though, as a couple we like to share experiences together so we would only partake if Mr was present!
You may find what you are looking for though  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the replies !!
Had a chat with the OH this morning and he’s gutted I’ve made him out to be so terrible  my mistake ! I’ve clearly worded the whole thing wrong and should have explained that his whole draw towards the scenario was to see me in pleasure rather than ‘acting’ as it sounds. So apologies for typing before thinking !!! |
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"Thanks for all the replies !!
Had a chat with the OH this morning and he’s gutted I’ve made him out to be so terrible my mistake ! I’ve clearly worded the whole thing wrong and should have explained that his whole draw towards the scenario was to see me in pleasure rather than ‘acting’ as it sounds. So apologies for typing before thinking !!!"
It's also says on your profile that you are looking for a female to put on a show of the OH so that's clearly what your looking for and not worded the post wrong. |
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Perhaps if your original question had been: We'd love a bilady to join us to explore together. If you would prefer that my man just watched and doesn't join in that would be fine. We want you to enjoy the thrill of the touch of a woman whilst being watched.
That's much less the performing seal putting on a show issue that others have mentioned. That usually makes the single lady feel that the wife is being pressured into something to please the man.
It will be difficult though,especially if he then wants sex with you and the lady is left feeling that she's good enough to be the starter but not the main course.
It would be so much easier if you said we'd all like to play together. Would you enjoy him with another woman?
If not, it might be best to leave this as a fantasy. |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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Some girls might be willing to put on a show but most won't. For me, I don't sleep with girls much but whenever I do I want the FF interaction to be just that with no one else because it's the FF intimacy I'm looking for. Having a third person interrupts that. Even if it's a "my fella will just watch" I usually say no. |
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"Thanks for all the replies !!
Had a chat with the OH this morning and he’s gutted I’ve made him out to be so terrible my mistake ! I’ve clearly worded the whole thing wrong and should have explained that his whole draw towards the scenario was to see me in pleasure rather than ‘acting’ as it sounds. So apologies for typing before thinking !!!"
But your OP is very clear and specific. Unless anything has changed in the way you are looking to play, why backtrack? You are looking for a female fuck toy for you both to get off on. Are you a FB couple? |
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