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By *tacey4u OP TV/TS
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
I'm often pigeon holed as gay because I enjoy crossdressing in lingerie. I love women and don't fancy men but bi cock play with a couple works for me. Why do people judge and how do I convince partners that I'm not gay?? |
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"I'm often pigeon holed as gay because I enjoy crossdressing in lingerie. I love women and don't fancy men but bi cock play with a couple works for me. Why do people judge and how do I convince partners that I'm not gay?? "
Oh it simple ignorance, presumption and loud opinion. |
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You'll never make some people think other than they want to think. As long as you explain as early as possible what exactly you are into and where you're coming from in terms of likes n dislikes when engaging with people, you should get your message across.
It can be confusing for some, and stereotyping can hinder.
Keep to your mantra, and take the rough with the smooth. Never take things too seriously or to heart.
There are tons of couples and ladies looking for you too.
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I'm often pigeon holed as gay because I enjoy crossdressing in lingerie. I love women and don't fancy men but bi cock play with a couple works for me. Why do people judge and how do I convince partners that I'm not gay?? "
You don't need to convince anyone of anything, if they want to pigeon hole you, let them. While they are wallowing in their swamp of narrow-mindedness, you're out and about looking fabulous and having fun! |
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It's an interesting question. I think the knee jerk simple answer is probably the most correct.
On the whole, most blokes are scared of their sexuality, if it deviates slightly from the perceived "norm".
Therefore, they crush it in themselves, and even more so in others.
If you're not a blokey bloke, you are immediately suspect. Liking women's clothes is quite un-blokey!
Though I am always amused at the number of guys, given the chance (fancy dress, charity run etc.), who leap into women's clothes as "a joke"... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm often pigeon holed as gay because I enjoy crossdressing in lingerie. I love women and don't fancy men but bi cock play with a couple works for me. Why do people judge and how do I convince partners that I'm not gay?? "
sounds dead poofy  |
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By *obi_DDCouple
over a year ago
Dundee |
"nothin wrong with being bi,,thats what you sound to me,,BI"
Sexuality doesn't have anything to do with what you wear.
OP if people still think you're gay, I don't know if I'd spend time trying to convince them otherwise. Sounds like they just don't get it and they're not the right people for you. |
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People who limit their thinking and understanding of the world, including the huge complexity of people, to below the level a typical kindergarten pupil can manage, are prisoners of their own mindset. Wanting everything to be black or white, refusals against greys, miss the wonders of the world and probably themselves too.
Much of our personality is better thought of as situated along a continuum, each the spectrum of the many factors that are within or are us. Gender, extroversion/introversion and sexual orientations are the same as well as sometimes contextual and with a range of flexibility.
I'd not get in to someone else's straightjacketed way of thinking, they're welcome to it.
Bisexuality is as complex as most of human personality - we can share our inner interests with others and it can be better than using a label. If it misses someone's preferences, however ignorant or otherwise, it's simpler for us to move on to those we do match with.
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Being gay and wearing lingerie are, I think, largely unconnected phenomena ! Imagine a Venn diagram where the two circles just have a bit of overlap.
I think men who have sex with men is not the same as men who have relationships and emotionally fall for men. This time the little gay circle is inside the big 'men who have sex with men circle'.
Best not worry about it though. People who get it get it and you'll have a fun time.
S.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's an interesting question. I think the knee jerk simple answer is probably the most correct.
On the whole, most blokes are scared of their sexuality, if it deviates slightly from the perceived "norm".
Therefore, they crush it in themselves, and even more so in others.
If you're not a blokey bloke, you are immediately suspect. Liking women's clothes is quite un-blokey!
Though I am always amused at the number of guys, given the chance (fancy dress, charity run etc.), who leap into women's clothes as "a joke"... "
what he said, best thing is to not care what they think and live your life |
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