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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So....recently been chatting to a lovely female. Got on great, even exchanged numbers and had a few phone calls...banter was good, the vibes were perfecto! All seemed good.
Until I received a verification from another female  . She completely spat the dummy out, blocked me on all formats! Which I'm cool with, I'm sure I'll survive. Is this the norm though? I just found it quite immature and trivial to be honest! Especially considering the type of environment this is. I don't show my veris so it's not like I met someone she hated etc, it was literally because I'd been verified by someone else.
Mind boggled!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes feeling get involved, she obviously wanted more than just sex and got jealous.
I can understand, if I was looking to meet blokes I’d want you all to myself! Hehe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes feeling get involved, she obviously wanted more than just sex and got jealous.
I can understand, if I was looking to meet blokes I’d want you all to myself! Hehe"
I agree if you had a great connection it can be hard to know you chatted to someone else in same way and met up. Feelings can get in the way if she wanted more. Something you have to learn to deal with on here and just suck it up |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sometimes feeling get involved, she obviously wanted more than just sex and got jealous.
I can understand, if I was looking to meet blokes I’d want you all to myself! Hehe"
Haha if you become a meat eater again I'll be knocking  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sometimes feeling get involved, she obviously wanted more than just sex and got jealous.
I can understand, if I was looking to meet blokes I’d want you all to myself! Hehe
I agree if you had a great connection it can be hard to know you chatted to someone else in same way and met up. Feelings can get in the way if she wanted more. Something you have to learn to deal with on here and just suck it up "
I'll try and pull through this devastating situation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes feeling get involved, she obviously wanted more than just sex and got jealous.
I can understand, if I was looking to meet blokes I’d want you all to myself! Hehe
I agree if you had a great connection it can be hard to know you chatted to someone else in same way and met up. Feelings can get in the way if she wanted more. Something you have to learn to deal with on here and just suck it up
I'll try and pull through this devastating situation "
Just have to think NEXT  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes feeling get involved, she obviously wanted more than just sex and got jealous.
I can understand, if I was looking to meet blokes I’d want you all to myself! Hehe
Haha if you become a meat eater again I'll be knocking "
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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"Perhaps she was worried about catching something nasty . . .
Why would he be anymore likely to catch something from one or the other. Nothing to indicate they weren’t playing safe?  "
You can still catch Herpes and Syphilis playing 'safe' and many people that claim to play 'safe' have unprotected oral, which then opens up the possibility of Gonorrhoea, so maybe she didn't want to take that chance.
Whatever her reason it was right for her and it should be respected. |
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"Perhaps she was worried about catching something nasty . . .
Why would he be anymore likely to catch something from one or the other. Nothing to indicate they weren’t playing safe?
You can still catch Herpes and Syphilis playing 'safe' and many people that claim to play 'safe' have unprotected oral, which then opens up the possibility of Gonorrhoea, so maybe she didn't want to take that chance.
Whatever her reason it was right for her and it should be respected. "
Granted but if that’s a concern why would she join a swingers site in the first place ?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Potential bunny boiler, looks like you dodged a bullet lol.
Story of my life "
Be happy that you didn't meet her...Imagine what would've happened if you guys had sex lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Potential bunny boiler, looks like you dodged a bullet lol.
Story of my life
Be happy that you didn't meet her...Imagine what would've happened if you guys had sex lol"
By the sounds of it I would have riddled her with every disease under the sun .....loooool.
Haha it is what it is, she had her reasons I'm sure. It's all good
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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"Perhaps she was worried about catching something nasty . . .
Why would he be anymore likely to catch something from one or the other. Nothing to indicate they weren’t playing safe?
You can still catch Herpes and Syphilis playing 'safe' and many people that claim to play 'safe' have unprotected oral, which then opens up the possibility of Gonorrhoea, so maybe she didn't want to take that chance.
Whatever her reason it was right for her and it should be respected.
Granted but if that’s a concern why would she join a swingers site in the first place ? "
Perhaps her version of 'swinging' is different to yours or the OP's - there are different definitions that are all valid - some say that you're not a 'swinger' if you're a single person, but if a single person is on a swinging site, then they are by definition, a 'swinger' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So....recently been chatting to a lovely female. Got on great, even exchanged numbers and had a few phone calls...banter was good, the vibes were perfecto! All seemed good.
Until I received a verification from another female . She completely spat the dummy out, blocked me on all formats! Which I'm cool with, I'm sure I'll survive. Is this the norm though? I just found it quite immature and trivial to be honest! Especially considering the type of environment this is. I don't show my veris so it's not like I met someone she hated etc, it was literally because I'd been verified by someone else.
Mind boggled!!!"
Many just like to think they're the only one you're interested in, but many of them will have plan B or C quietly available.
Veris are a double edged sword and can work differently for women and men. |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"So....recently been chatting to a lovely female. Got on great, even exchanged numbers and had a few phone calls...banter was good, the vibes were perfecto! All seemed good.
Until I received a verification from another female . She completely spat the dummy out, blocked me on all formats! Which I'm cool with, I'm sure I'll survive. Is this the norm though? I just found it quite immature and trivial to be honest! Especially considering the type of environment this is. I don't show my veris so it's not like I met someone she hated etc, it was literally because I'd been verified by someone else.
Mind boggled!!!"
She didn't want to share you I mean you are hot so don't worry about it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people would prefer to have your undivided attention whilst arranging to meet rather than just be another notch on the bedpost.
Not everybody on here is the same, maybe she thought you were taking the piss going off shagging another girl when you two were getting along like a house on fire. When she lost the plot what did she say exactly? that will be a clue to the answers you seek. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Some women don't like it. It shows you're not compatible which is a good thing to pick up on now. I don't think it makes her a bunny boiler or anything of that ilk, just different to you. |
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"So....recently been chatting to a lovely female. Got on great, even exchanged numbers and had a few phone calls...banter was good, the vibes were perfecto! All seemed good.
Until I received a verification from another female . She completely spat the dummy out, blocked me on all formats! Which I'm cool with, I'm sure I'll survive. Is this the norm though? I just found it quite immature and trivial to be honest! Especially considering the type of environment this is. I don't show my veris so it's not like I met someone she hated etc, it was literally because I'd been verified by someone else.
Mind boggled!!!"
I find it happens all the time unfortunately I just brush it off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Potential bunny boiler, looks like you dodged a bullet lol. "
A tad unfair on the lady isn’t it. We are only getting his version of what happened, no doubt she’ll have her version too. We are not party to their conversations are we, he could have been promising her the world to get in her knickers for all we know. |
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To be fair we only have the OP's side of the story, so calling her a bunny boiler is uncalled for. You don't know if their is any back story, how the OP interacted with her, what he said etc. Now imagine she is reading this, cos she may still be on site, but alot have made their minds up based on the OP's story. We all know that some men promise the earth on here, and some women fall for the BS.
However, if I was her and I found out he had met one person on here, who is a serious risk, then it would be the end of it. No abuse but total block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well thank your lucky stars that she spat out her dummy now before you got involved with her on a physical level. I think she sounds possessive and jealous, which is bananas considering you've not even met her yet.
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"Potential bunny boiler, looks like you dodged a bullet lol.
A tad unfair on the lady isn’t it. We are only getting his version of what happened, no doubt she’ll have her version too. We are not party to their conversations are we, he could have been promising her the world to get in her knickers for all we know. "
Lol you said exactly same but Im a tad slower. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"To be fair we only have the OP's side of the story, so calling her a bunny boiler is uncalled for. You don't know if their is any back story, how the OP interacted with her, what he said etc. Now imagine she is reading this, cos she may still be on site, but alot have made their minds up based on the OP's story. We all know that some men promise the earth on here, and some women fall for the BS.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Gracias for all the great comments
There was no promises made.....I don't dance like that. No malicious comments etc, just hit a brick wall. Life goes on! Maybe she dodged a bullet who knows!!
Enjoy your Saturday!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Potential bunny boiler, looks like you dodged a bullet lol.
A tad unfair on the lady isn’t it. We are only getting his version of what happened, no doubt she’ll have her version too. We are not party to their conversations are we, he could have been promising her the world to get in her knickers for all we know.
Lol you said exactly same but Im a tad slower."
Great minds eh |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Gracias for all the great comments
There was no promises made.....I don't dance like that. No malicious comments etc, just hit a brick wall. Life goes on! Maybe she dodged a bullet who knows!!
Enjoy your Saturday!!"
Can you dance |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Gracias for all the great comments
There was no promises made.....I don't dance like that. No malicious comments etc, just hit a brick wall. Life goes on! Maybe she dodged a bullet who knows!!
Enjoy your Saturday!!
Can you dance "
Absolutely not |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Gracias for all the great comments
There was no promises made.....I don't dance like that. No malicious comments etc, just hit a brick wall. Life goes on! Maybe she dodged a bullet who knows!!
Enjoy your Saturday!!
Can you dance
Absolutely not "
I can |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Gracias for all the great comments
There was no promises made.....I don't dance like that. No malicious comments etc, just hit a brick wall. Life goes on! Maybe she dodged a bullet who knows!!
Enjoy your Saturday!!
Can you dance
Absolutely not
I can"
Liar haha |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Gracias for all the great comments
There was no promises made.....I don't dance like that. No malicious comments etc, just hit a brick wall. Life goes on! Maybe she dodged a bullet who knows!!
Enjoy your Saturday!!
Can you dance
Absolutely not
I can
Liar haha"
Oi I can in very hi heels  |
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"Potential bunny boiler, looks like you dodged a bullet lol.
A tad unfair on the lady isn’t it. We are only getting his version of what happened, no doubt she’ll have her version too. We are not party to their conversations are we, he could have been promising her the world to get in her knickers for all we know. "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The problem is, there are some who are not looking to meet various people on here. I understand that this is a swinging site, but not everyone adopts that mentality. Could be she was looking for one regular and felt she'd built a connection with you. It may have been that while she was feeling that, she thought you were too. Then the veri appeared. It's wrong of people to say she was a bunny boiler, when they don't know if that were truly the case, especially as she may venture inro the forums. People are looking for different things. Some people get jealous. Not everyone has the swinging mentality. There is nothing wrong with that. You were likely just not compatible/looking for the same thing on here.
Holly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sounds like you swerved a potential bunny boiler "
How so? She has ceased communication not harassing him. It sounds more like jealously which is a normal human reaction... Its how we project it onto others that's the key. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Glad you found out now! That’s even funnier given your user name. Her loss
Drama Magnet more like "
She blocked you on all formats. That's zero drama.
Holly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If im honest with you OP, if i was spending time chatting and the phone video calls etc and in the mean time a veri flashed up, i would be done with you too |
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She may have felt put out that you were getting on so well yet you hadn’t arranged to meet her yet.
Also if she was a bunny boiler she would have pounded your inbox with accusatory messages first before blocking you. (Although maybe secure your rabbits hutch just in case)
Sounds a bit like crossed wires and maybe she felt a bit uncomfortable so ended it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends what she was after and if she was clear about what she wanted. In my situation id be gone if she was meeting with others tbf. "
Me too. Not a bunny boiler situation at all. I’d have deleted and blocked as well. Call me what you like. Wouldn’t be for me either. |
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"So....recently been chatting to a lovely female. Got on great, even exchanged numbers and had a few phone calls...banter was good, the vibes were perfecto! All seemed good.
Until I received a verification from another female . She completely spat the dummy out, blocked me on all formats! Which I'm cool with, I'm sure I'll survive. Is this the norm though? I just found it quite immature and trivial to be honest! Especially considering the type of environment this is. I don't show my veris so it's not like I met someone she hated etc, it was literally because I'd been verified by someone else.
Mind boggled!!!"
This happens a lot , I unfortunately have been on the receiving end of possessive women if I have dared to meet with one of their previous meets
Lots of jealousy on here I’m afraid |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thankfully, never had such problems, with either men or women.
We have witnessed, and been semi involved, with similar things in clubs, whereby we were chatting to one couple, and another couple would come along, join us all, often uninvited, then ‘inform’ us that we are not welcome, and the couple we are talking to, are ‘off limits’....lol |
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"So....recently been chatting to a lovely female. Got on great, even exchanged numbers and had a few phone calls...banter was good, the vibes were perfecto! All seemed good.
Until I received a verification from another female . She completely spat the dummy out, blocked me on all formats! Which I'm cool with, I'm sure I'll survive. Is this the norm though? I just found it quite immature and trivial to be honest! Especially considering the type of environment this is. I don't show my veris so it's not like I met someone she hated etc, it was literally because I'd been verified by someone else.
Mind boggled!!!"
How immature of her, some people are like that. |
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"The problem is, there are some who are not looking to meet various people on here. I understand that this is a swinging site, but not everyone adopts that mentality. Could be she was looking for one regular and felt she'd built a connection with you. It may have been that while she was feeling that, she thought you were too. Then the veri appeared. It's wrong of people to say she was a bunny boiler, when they don't know if that were truly the case, especially as she may venture inro the forums. People are looking for different things. Some people get jealous. Not everyone has the swinging mentality. There is nothing wrong with that. You were likely just not compatible/looking for the same thing on here.
Holly"
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"...Lots of jealousy on here I’m afraid
How odd - I would have thought this was the one site/lifestyle where jealousy had no place, at all."
You would think eh ?? Unfortunately some people think playing with someone gives them some sort of claim
I’ve seen it on here and at clubs too and sometimes from couples even
It’s not nice to be involved in such drama
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"So....recently been chatting to a lovely female. Got on great, even exchanged numbers and had a few phone calls...banter was good, the vibes were perfecto! All seemed good.
Until I received a verification from another female . She completely spat the dummy out, blocked me on all formats! Which I'm cool with, I'm sure I'll survive. Is this the norm though? I just found it quite immature and trivial to be honest! Especially considering the type of environment this is. I don't show my veris so it's not like I met someone she hated etc, it was literally because I'd been verified by someone else.
Mind boggled!!!"
The lady saw your new verification from a female and saw it in a different light, placed her own interpretation of what it tells her about you and the type of relationship you will end up having and probably saw herself as just another notch on your bedposts. |
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"So....recently been chatting to a lovely female. Got on great, even exchanged numbers and had a few phone calls...banter was good, the vibes were perfecto! All seemed good.
Until I received a verification from another female . She completely spat the dummy out, blocked me on all formats! Which I'm cool with, I'm sure I'll survive. Is this the norm though? I just found it quite immature and trivial to be honest! Especially considering the type of environment this is. I don't show my veris so it's not like I met someone she hated etc, it was literally because I'd been verified by someone else.
Mind boggled!!!"
Perhaps she re-read your profile and realised you're not the kind of person she'd want to meet. |
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"So....recently been chatting to a lovely female. Got on great, even exchanged numbers and had a few phone calls...banter was good, the vibes were perfecto! All seemed good.
Until I received a verification from another female . She completely spat the dummy out, blocked me on all formats! Which I'm cool with, I'm sure I'll survive. Is this the norm though? I just found it quite immature and trivial to be honest! Especially considering the type of environment this is. I don't show my veris so it's not like I met someone she hated etc, it was literally because I'd been verified by someone else.
Mind boggled!!!
How immature of her, some people are like that. "
It's not exactly mature of the guy telling us all about it really |
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"So....recently been chatting to a lovely female. Got on great
Mind boggled!!!"
Possibly/probably she thought she had your undivided attention and the extra veri confronted her with the fact that wasn’t the case. Prob just recoil from suddenly realising it was not what she had let herself see it as. I’d put it down as a shock reaction. |
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