 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
There are a few ladies on fab that post they are owned. Is this something that appeals to you? And have you experienced it. I also wondered if there were any guys that were owned. I like the idea of being someone’s Master. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I've had Doms in the past but never been collared. It's something I would like to experience with my OH, but I don't think it would be a full lifestyle choice for us...we work great with the switchy dynamic we have  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Really dislike the whole concept of owned. Met three couples in this situation, and it always felt very abusive and rather ridiculous."
And abusive relationship and a D/s relationship are two very different things. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Really dislike the whole concept of owned. Met three couples in this situation, and it always felt very abusive and rather ridiculous.
And abusive relationship and a D/s relationship are two very different things."
In your opinion,yes |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Really dislike the whole concept of owned. Met three couples in this situation, and it always felt very abusive and rather ridiculous.
And abusive relationship and a D/s relationship are two very different things.
In your opinion,yes"
It's not an opinion, so much as fact. They're two different things.
A D/s relationship is based on trust, consent, respect, often love. Abuse doesn't embody any of that.
Yes, lots of people label their relationship as bdsm when it's abusive but that doesn't make it so.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
being sexually dominated by someone yes being owned or calling someone sir or master no not for me ... but as we all know we are all different so those that do enjoy then fantastic too  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
Henley Arden |
"Really dislike the whole concept of owned. Met three couples in this situation, and it always felt very abusive and rather ridiculous.
And abusive relationship and a D/s relationship are two very different things.
In your opinion,yes"
No, fact. Abuse is abuse in or out of a D/s relationship.
The whole power control in a D/s relationship is with the sub. If they are not happy they can stop.
In a abusive relationship it’s the abuser who has control.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Really dislike the whole concept of owned. Met three couples in this situation, and it always felt very abusive and rather ridiculous.
And abusive relationship and a D/s relationship are two very different things.
In your opinion,yes
No, fact. Abuse is abuse in or out of a D/s relationship.
The whole power control in a D/s relationship is with the sub. If they are not happy they can stop.
In a abusive relationship it’s the abuser who has control.
"
Thank you, you explained that much better than I did  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
Henley Arden |
"Really dislike the whole concept of owned. Met three couples in this situation, and it always felt very abusive and rather ridiculous.
And abusive relationship and a D/s relationship are two very different things.
In your opinion,yes
No, fact. Abuse is abuse in or out of a D/s relationship.
The whole power control in a D/s relationship is with the sub. If they are not happy they can stop.
In a abusive relationship it’s the abuser who has control.
Thank you, you explained that much better than I did "
Thanks but actually I thought your explanation was better !!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I've "owned" and been "owned" but there's context. Rules which we set together. I was still very much in charge and my usual assertive self in all things unless it was a "play date". She was the same and tbh even though she wore my collar she was her usual demanding and assertive self as well.
There's comfort and affection in these terms if handled correctly. I've read that some dress up abuse in these kinds of sex games but I've never seen it myself. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
For my partner it’s having her choices taken away from her, men she can sleep, chores punishment for release, daily pent up frustration.
Her only sexual choice is her bisexuality which she takes full advantage of. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Really dislike the whole concept of owned. Met three couples in this situation, and it always felt very abusive and rather ridiculous.
And abusive relationship and a D/s relationship are two very different things.
In your opinion,yes
No, fact. Abuse is abuse in or out of a D/s relationship.
The whole power control in a D/s relationship is with the sub. If they are not happy they can stop.
In a abusive relationship it’s the abuser who has control.
"
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"There are a few ladies on fab that post they are owned. Is this something that appeals to you? And have you experienced it. I also wondered if there were any guys that were owned. I like the idea of being someone’s Master."
I always found a woman wanting to be controlled and told to sit like a dog very odd.. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
Henley Arden |
"There are a few ladies on fab that post they are owned. Is this something that appeals to you? And have you experienced it. I also wondered if there were any guys that were owned. I like the idea of being someone’s Master.
I always found a woman wanting to be controlled and told to sit like a dog very odd.. "
Some people find swinging very odd  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Abuse has NO place in the bdsm community. It is very frowned upon and any " abuser" is exited from the community.
I am owned, have been for 4 years. D/s lifestylie, is about giving up an amount of control to the Dom. It's the Dom's responciblity to manage the control given. It can be updated and changed from day to day by the couple. As and when needed.
For us I have a ring enscribed with "owned" on. I've never removed it sinse my Dom placed it on my finger. It reminds me of our own proicols and boundries. For example, if I'm bratting him during a play sceane, he can pull rank and say " what does that say? " I reply, he will then say "by Whom?" I reply with his name thats inscribed on the inside. That brings me down a peg or 2. Putting me in my place in 2 sentances.
D/s is not all about whips and chains. Mind games are very much a big part. I have to make a lot of desissions in real life. So handing over control in D/s is very liberating.
Saying that both partners have to trust each other 110% to partake in ownership. And it's an on going working aspect of the kink. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I wore a collar for a short while just recently it was the first in 8 yrs ive ever wanted to be collared. I thought he was the one. I was very mistaken. I think now I'm too scared to ever allow myself to me collared/owned again. The fantasy is wonderful though. But to even find another Dom that's a match to me is very difficult x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
