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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not foolish at all.
We all have had a little bit of a crush on someone we have met on here, well most of us i am sure.
I have fallen for several peeps over the years, but always tempered with a little realism that it probably will not be taken further.
Still hoping to find someone i can call at least a FWB.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We both have favourites, but I think our relationship is secure enough that it’s not a problem and can speak about stuff like this with each other without a problem but saying that if lee was ever to arrange meets on his own that would be a issue, |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Think the feeling foolish is because it is what it is..
It was never going to be anything more and that was clear so when you realise you’ve gotten a little fond your left feeling that foolishness because it’s not reciprocated  |
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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago
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"Think the feeling foolish is because it is what it is..
It was never going to be anything more and that was clear so when you realise you’ve gotten a little fond your left feeling that foolishness because it’s not reciprocated "
It's not foolish and totally understandable......., you cant help who you fall for in life...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Think the feeling foolish is because it is what it is..
It was never going to be anything more and that was clear so when you realise you’ve gotten a little fond your left feeling that foolishness because it’s not reciprocated
It's not foolish and totally understandable......., you cant help who you fall for in life...
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Foolish for letting it happen though  |
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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago
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"Think the feeling foolish is because it is what it is..
It was never going to be anything more and that was clear so when you realise you’ve gotten a little fond your left feeling that foolishness because it’s not reciprocated
It's not foolish and totally understandable......., you cant help who you fall for in life...
Foolish for letting it happen though "
Not at all.....your human like the rest of us mere mortals |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone else grown a little to fond of a regular friend on here?
Foolish or?  "
I suppose it's only human to get feelings once you start sharing alot together, sex makes these feelings escalate |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Players only love you while they're playing.
Love this response... pretty much how the story goes 
It's so true, hope you pick yourself up x"
Am sure ile bounce back  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Players only love you while they're playing.
Love this response... pretty much how the story goes
It's so true, hope you pick yourself up x
Am sure ile bounce back "
If you need a rebound.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very fond... foolish? No.. she feels the same
Not in my case a don’t think so  "
Im not very stereo typical of most guys on here i dont think, i was looking for a fwb arrangement somthing kept between the two of us. Id sooner have loads of socials before jumping into bed.. the connection has to be there, i dont like one night stands or multiple sexual partners. I think this is why its working well with her. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Players only love you while they're playing.
Love this response... pretty much how the story goes
It's so true, hope you pick yourself up x
Am sure ile bounce back
If you need a rebound.. "
That’s very kind of you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous...
Welcome to normality.....I'd be more worried if you hadnt of had those thoughts x"
Would that of made me unhuman haha x |
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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago
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"Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous...
Welcome to normality.....I'd be more worried if you hadnt of had those thoughts x
Would that of made me unhuman haha x"
Lol maybe x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous...
Welcome to normality.....I'd be more worried if you hadnt of had those thoughts x
Would that of made me unhuman haha x
Lol maybe x"
Well thank god for that then haha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Has anyone else grown a little to fond of a regular friend on here?
Foolish or? "
Your not foolish your only human and do have feelings, so i don't think you are alone in this. |
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"Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous... "
Not foolish, but if you recognise it’s moved on the sooner you start enjoying time with someone else the sooner you will feel better  |
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"Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous...
Not foolish, but if you recognise it’s moved on the sooner you start enjoying time with someone else the sooner you will feel better "
And this is my problem i don’t have any interest in trying to pursue anything else  |
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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago
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"Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous...
Not foolish, but if you recognise it’s moved on the sooner you start enjoying time with someone else the sooner you will feel better
And this is my problem i don’t have any interest in trying to pursue anything else "
As someone else has already said...have you spoken too them about how you feel.....? |
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Yup. I kind of see it as when you spend a lot of time with someone it's inevitable. I worried and worried about it when I realised that I had caught the feels but after almost pushing him away because of it I decided to pull up my big girl panties and discuss it with him. He was cool - it didn't scare him off. He knows I don't want to change our situation. So it's all good. Please don't feel foolish |
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"Yup. I kind of see it as when you spend a lot of time with someone it's inevitable. I worried and worried about it when I realised that I had caught the feels but after almost pushing him away because of it I decided to pull up my big girl panties and discuss it with him. He was cool - it didn't scare him off. He knows I don't want to change our situation. So it's all good. Please don't feel foolish "
I don’t myself it’s great as it is.. am guessing it scares me incase he meets an finds something better that’s it actually that’s what it is because i do like him so much x |
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"Well am certainly feeling a little more easier on myself I thought I was just being ridiculous...
Not foolish, but if you recognise it’s moved on the sooner you start enjoying time with someone else the sooner you will feel better
And this is my problem i don’t have any interest in trying to pursue anything else
As someone else has already said...have you spoken too them about how you feel.....?"
Yeah he knows x |
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"Yup. I kind of see it as when you spend a lot of time with someone it's inevitable. I worried and worried about it when I realised that I had caught the feels but after almost pushing him away because of it I decided to pull up my big girl panties and discuss it with him. He was cool - it didn't scare him off. He knows I don't want to change our situation. So it's all good. Please don't feel foolish
I don’t myself it’s great as it is.. am guessing it scares me incase he meets an finds something better that’s it actually that’s what it is because i do like him so much x"
Then seriously talk to him tell him. Honestly with mine it was weird I wasn't jealous at all when he met people he already played with before me or people when he was working away it was when he met new people I got niggles and I realised it was because I was worried that he would decide to make them his priority not me. I ended up telling him and he reassured me that no one could ever top me or replace me and he certainly isn't looking for a replacement. That's all it took for me to stop worrying. Just communicate your worries with him, if your worth anything to him he will reassure you. |
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Happened to me, I feel in love with mine, he did too.
We got together, it was amazing. Then he became distant, slept with someone from here behind my back. Then he wasn’t interested in me anymore.
My lesson from that, was it’s easy for men on here to have that one special person, then just as easy to pick another woman up and replace you.
This is purely my opinion, and yes it hurt like a bitch, but I’m stronger, and for me I won’t be making that same mistake again!
I’ve adopted that way of thinking, let the guys come to me, and be honest that I do sleep with other men who have talents that they may not have.
As I say in my profile, you’d have to be a king to win my heart.
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"Happened to me, I feel in love with mine, he did too.
We got together, it was amazing. Then he became distant, slept with someone from here behind my back. Then he wasn’t interested in me anymore.
My lesson from that, was it’s easy for men on here to have that one special person, then just as easy to pick another woman up and replace you.
This is purely my opinion, and yes it hurt like a bitch, but I’m stronger, and for me I won’t be making that same mistake again!
I’ve adopted that way of thinking, let the guys come to me, and be honest that I do sleep with other men who have talents that they may not have.
As I say in my profile, you’d have to be a king to win my heart.
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The 3rd and 4th paragraph is pretty much what am afraid of..
But it’s inevitably going to happen isn’t it Am such a di**head!! |
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I would be very cautious on here. If someone is clear with you that they only want NSA then don't wait hoping they will change their minds because they very rarely do.
It's happened to me and its so hard to let go especially when the sex is amazing and you get on so well.
I understand all eggs in one basket as I've done the same and it does end making you feel foolish...
I'm very strict with myself now of who I will meet and have no qualms that if I developed feelings for someone who didn't want anything more then I would stop seeing them.
You just have to learn what works for you best, but try to protect yourself too x |
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The trouble is people are far more likely to go that extra and put out for you if they fancy you and you genuinly make them believe there is something more between you. So naturally to make someone believe that and reap the benifits while continuing to play the field looking for something better it chapter 1 in the shit bags play book. It's a tactic not exclusive to men. Unfortunately but understandably it makes for some very jaded people out there. |
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"The trouble is people are far more likely to go that extra and put out for you if they fancy you and you genuinly make them believe there is something more between you. So naturally to make someone believe that and reap the benifits while continuing to play the field looking for something better it chapter 1 in the shit bags play book. It's a tactic not exclusive to men. Unfortunately but understandably it makes for some very jaded people out there."
You are a wise man x |
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