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over a year ago
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i dont think theres many women who will just watch, ive had a few couples mail me and when i say i only meet guys the women will say i like to watch for a bit before i join in, but when i say i wouldnt want you to join in they soon bugger off
most women will watch for a bit but they want to play too where as theres loads of guys who will just sit and watch their mrs with another guy |
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No its not true in my case either. I love watching, its really sexy. It rarely happens because if its a couple, which it usually is, then the guy always wants to touch me.
I managed this the other week at Chams. My OH played with a couple whilst I sat in the corner. The lady asked me if I would come and play as she didn't want me to feel left out, but I just said, do you mind if I don't and just watch as it looks really sexy, and the 3 of them carried on. I liked it as sometimes I get tired and I don't want constant sex, so it gives me time out and I get to see things from angles that I don't usually see.
At a club recently we met two lovely ladies who ravaged me, my OH got the delight of watching us 3 girls play together. Next time the ladies are going to ravage him, and I can't wait to sit and watch, and try and carry him out later  |
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We're not watchers. When we first started it was one of the fantasies we wanted to explore, but when it happened the experience was a bit flat.
We don't watch porn now either. We used to, but don't now.
I suppose we get our kicks from "doing" it rather than watching   |
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Dunno whether it's because a lot of porn depicts this scenario and guys like myself find the fantasy horny ? Perhaps it's the fact that another guy finds her so sexy , and you know she is coming home with you - it's a question I have often asked myself !
Perhaps some women have a strong emotional attachment to their fella and dislike the fact that he gets so turned on by someone else - insecurity maybe ? Or maybe not realising there is a massive difference between living out a fantasy and the real world ?
Anyway it works for us and this game has to be jointly pleasurable so if the female emotional response inhibits the pleasure - finding what works for both , whatever that is is the answer ! |
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i have to be honest i wouldn feel very uncomfy if i played with a guy while his mrs watched, ive had it a few times in clubs and as soon as ive realise the mrs is just sat watching ive had to stop and leave |
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"i have to be honest i wouldn feel very uncomfy if i played with a guy while his mrs watched, ive had it a few times in clubs and as soon as ive realise the mrs is just sat watching ive had to stop and leave"
I think if she just sitting there watching that would be a bit creepy lol
I love watching Del with another women, I will touch (doesn't have to be a sexual touch) and talk to him, happy not to lay a finger on her if she so wishes (im straight)..
Doesn't do anything for me other way about... |
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I don't see it as creepy at all, why is a woman watching any more creepy than a man.
I can understand why women might check its ok with the female partner. Women are very critical of each other and maybe competitive. Maybe a female partner watching her man with another woman feels a bit threatening, maybe its a power, being in charge kind of thing for the wife. Maybe with the wife watching the other female feels vulnerable, I don't know.
I enjoy watching as I don't want to be sexually active all the time. I want a rest, I might be tired, my body is tired but my brain is still enjoying stimulation. Maybe the thought that whilst the female is enjoying all the physical stimulation, the watcher is feeling a far deeper emotional bond, as the strength is still there, between the couple, ie he may be fucking a stranger but the eye contact, the emotional bond remains with his partner. Some women could be threatened by that |
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"If a man or woman was just sitting watching without doing anything I would find that a bit creepy and off putting...."
i dont really mind myself, strange at first but if you know their intentions are good and your having a good time yourself sometimes can be a turn on or be no big deal |
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we both enjoy bi play -we haveluckily met cpls with the same tastes we either watch or play in 2s,3s or 4s -we always keep it soft but all 4 of us always had climaxes-when all 4 enjoy fun no one feels excluded and its very erotic especially the erotic forfeits card game to slowly start off the evening-with wine-of course!  |
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"If a man or woman was just sitting watching without doing anything I would find that a bit creepy and off putting...."
i dont find it creepy im just so nervous round couples id be waiting for her to flip out at any mo for me playing with her fella, ive had it a few times where couples think they are ok with something so you go ahead and do it only for them to realise half way thro they not after all that i find i very much so tread on egg shells round coupels and to be honest tend to avoid them, if i talk to guys in clubs and he asked me to a room if he then says i'm just going to tell the mrs where we going....thats it i soon make my excuses and leave him be, ive learnt the hard way not to play with male halfs of couples
suppose its a case of once bitten twice shy, but i just would be very nervous playing with a guy while his mrs was watching and just not something i would knowling do, if i was in a open room playing with a guy and it turned out he wa spart of a couple i would stop
each to their own i suppose |
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Different to meeting as a couple with another couple.We both enjoy watching each other and have said we would get less pleasure if we weren't both there.
Some single males don't understand why couples swing. Some it's ignorance with other arrogance |
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o personally dont think it matters if your a couple or a single we are all here for the same reason
To enhance our sex lifes surely?
im not here for a quick fix shag i can get one of those down any pub on a saturday night as can anyone
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"If a man or woman was just sitting watching without doing anything I would find that a bit creepy and off putting...."
We all play differently don't we. I don't feel that I have to be having sex as well as him, I don't feel hard done to if I'm not, its not essential for me that I have to be touched constantly.
I have played with couples who, in the messaging stage, have told us that they love to watch each other. In play, its the hubby usually, seems more focused on his own sexual pleasure than wanting to watch his wife. I've often felt like tapping the head of the hubby whilst its wedged between my thighs and say 'excuse me, you told me you always like to watch her cum, well she's about too, quick lift your head as you'll miss it'.
I can understand what NaughtyNymphos means though. And if you've had bad experiences it is always going to make you wary. When my OH played with a couple and I watched, the lady did ensure I was ok, she asked me to join them and I assured her that I really just wanted to watch. She was fine with it and I could have joined in at any time. It was a soft swing session only for my OH as that's what the couple wanted. It was great and very erotic as I could watch without having someone fiddling with my bits  |
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