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We have been contacted by multiple couples messaging and arranging to meet only to be informed in the last message that it will only be male half of couple for varying reasons. Should Male half use a seperate profile for these occasions? |
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"We have been contacted by multiple couples messaging and arranging to meet only to be informed in the last message that it will only be male half of couple for varying reasons. Should Male half use a seperate profile for these occasions?"
May be safe to assume there never was a female half sadly x |
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Agree, either that or playing without other half knowing. It would ring alarm bells for us unless it was a couple we had met before. There are occasions when it’s just Mr playing on this profile, but whenever that is the case Mrs is always there, just not participating or doing very soft play |
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"We have been contacted by multiple couples messaging and arranging to meet only to be informed in the last message that it will only be male half of couple for varying reasons. Should Male half use a seperate profile for these occasions?"
Block them and move on . Another disadvantage of Fab , fakers |
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"We have been contacted by multiple couples messaging and arranging to meet only to be informed in the last message that it will only be male half of couple for varying reasons. Should Male half use a seperate profile for these occasions?"
Block them and move on . Another disadvantage of Fab , fakers |
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Yeah sounds like there never was a female half unfortunately. Either that or the female half in the relationship is likely blissfully unaware that she’s even on the site, like others have said block and move on  xx |
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I think people should first make the situation very clear from the very start or if this is a regual setup have a singles profile for single play without their partner. Sadly some people (in couples or not in a couple) use a couples account to get around filters. Which of course is a cunts trick and a waste of everyone's time because if a couple was looking for just a man to join them they'd probably not set filters against single men. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"I think people should first make the situation very clear from the very start or if this is a regual setup have a singles profile for single play without their partner. Sadly some people (in couples or not in a couple) use a couples account to get around filters. Which of course is a cunts trick and a waste of everyone's time because if a couple was looking for just a man to join them they'd probably not set filters against single men."
Wow that’s a mix of metaphors |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i get it all the time...my mrs said i could blah blah blah i just block some are genuine couples profiles because ive often seen them out in clubs the male half suddenly looks like a rabbit in the headlightsa lol clearly the fem dont know  |
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"We have been contacted by multiple couples messaging and arranging to meet only to be informed in the last message that it will only be male half of couple for varying reasons. Should Male half use a seperate profile for these occasions?"
I believe he should as otherwise it's misleading. |
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"We have been contacted by multiple couples messaging and arranging to meet only to be informed in the last message that it will only be male half of couple for varying reasons. Should Male half use a seperate profile for these occasions?
Block them and move on . Another disadvantage of Fab , fakers "
I find them hilarious.
‘Permission to play. Male half here, wife wants me to shag everyone’
Riiight, ok then, come round |
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"Male half here (says in the profile) verifications say she loves ladies.
Generalisation is a closed thought sometime."
I agree. Some couples the male/female play separately. We don't have single profiles so everything is done on this profile. Doesn't mean we are fake. Far from it, but we are done with trying to prove we are real. We meet, that's the proof. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"Male half here (says in the profile) verifications say she loves ladies.
Generalisation is a closed thought sometime.
Not entirely sure what you are going on about. Please define a closed thought. Is that having a mind unreceptive to new ideas? This isn’t a new idea! As you’ve followed this thread you’ll know it’s a persistent issue on this site. Notwithstanding that, there may be some relationships in which the male half is free to play. Nevertheless, it’s (as I’ve stated) hilarious and will remain so to receive those messages. It’s also hilarious to be trolled. I love both, crack on!"
Generalisation takes out individual personality, where as reverse trolling doesn’t.
It was a perspective. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty is the best policy..
I’m on a chilled out vibe..if it happens it happens.
I never understood why people be fake and waste others time. Eventually you will get caught out  |
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I think ops issue is they thought they were meeting the couple then it was changed at the last minute, if they knew the couple were playing separately that wouldn’t be a problem x |
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"Report the ones who only meet as a single male, they aren't a couple.
Yes they can be. As can single fems. "
Couple and single on here are how you meet not your relationship status. If a couple tries to meet as a single, or a single tries to meet as a couple, then you can report them and admin will change their status.
It's because people looking to meet a single person will use search to find a single person to meet, same for wanting to meet a couple.
I'm in a relationship but my fella has nothing to do with this site or who i meet so i am a single, for example. |
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"Report the ones who only meet as a single male, they aren't a couple.
Yes they can be. As can single fems.
Couple and single on here are how you meet not your relationship status. If a couple tries to meet as a single, or a single tries to meet as a couple, then you can report them and admin will change their status.
It's because people looking to meet a single person will use search to find a single person to meet, same for wanting to meet a couple.
I'm in a relationship but my fella has nothing to do with this site or who i meet so i am a single, for example."
Ok so I meet as a single fem one week, we meet as a couple a few days later, then he meets as a single male. What should our profile be? Single fem, couple or single male? That's going to keep admim busy, cos we aren't doing sep profiles and paying the supporter fee x3. .....or just put it on our profile how we meet. |
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"Report the ones who only meet as a single male, they aren't a couple.
Yes they can be. As can single fems.
Couple and single on here are how you meet not your relationship status. If a couple tries to meet as a single, or a single tries to meet as a couple, then you can report them and admin will change their status.
It's because people looking to meet a single person will use search to find a single person to meet, same for wanting to meet a couple.
I'm in a relationship but my fella has nothing to do with this site or who i meet so i am a single, for example.
Ok so I meet as a single fem one week, we meet as a couple a few days later, then he meets as a single male. What should our profile be? Single fem, couple or single male? That's going to keep admim busy, cos we aren't doing sep profiles and paying the supporter fee x3. .....or just put it on our profile how we meet."
Up to you, just don't be surprised if anyone reports you if your fella tries to meet on his own. Single fellas meeting on their own when using a couples profile and single females who meet as a couple using a single profile are both likely to have their profile changed if reported. Has happened to me coz i made this profile for club meets and suggested meeting with my partner even though i'm the only one using this account and always have been and have been the only one to go on socials and be verified as such, he hasn't wanted anything to do with fab or swinging for a while so i'm back to being a single. Females meeing on their own on couples profiles nobody cares about coz most people are looking for single females anyway and don't complain about that or report them. |
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"Report the ones who only meet as a single male, they aren't a couple.
Yes they can be. As can single fems.
Couple and single on here are how you meet not your relationship status. If a couple tries to meet as a single, or a single tries to meet as a couple, then you can report them and admin will change their status.
It's because people looking to meet a single person will use search to find a single person to meet, same for wanting to meet a couple.
I'm in a relationship but my fella has nothing to do with this site or who i meet so i am a single, for example.
Ok so I meet as a single fem one week, we meet as a couple a few days later, then he meets as a single male. What should our profile be? Single fem, couple or single male? That's going to keep admim busy, cos we aren't doing sep profiles and paying the supporter fee x3. .....or just put it on our profile how we meet.
Up to you, just don't be surprised if anyone reports you if your fella tries to meet on his own. Single fellas meeting on their own when using a couples profile and single females who meet as a couple using a single profile are both likely to have their profile changed if reported. Has happened to me coz i made this profile for club meets and suggested meeting with my partner even though i'm the only one using this account and always have been and have been the only one to go on socials and be verified as such, he hasn't wanted anything to do with fab or swinging for a while so i'm back to being a single. Females meeing on their own on couples profiles nobody cares about coz most people are looking for single females anyway and don't complain about that or report them."
They can change it to whatever they see fit, but it's not constant so will need to change again, and again. I have met by myself for the last few meets so should be a single fem then. But the next meet will be as a couple. Certainly not deceiving anyone, as it's all on our profile.There should be no hotwife couple profiles where the fem meets alone on here by that assumption. If this is now the case with fab then the fakes are spoiling it for the genuine swingers. |
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"Report the ones who only meet as a single male, they aren't a couple.
Yes they can be. As can single fems.
Couple and single on here are how you meet not your relationship status. If a couple tries to meet as a single, or a single tries to meet as a couple, then you can report them and admin will change their status.
It's because people looking to meet a single person will use search to find a single person to meet, same for wanting to meet a couple.
I'm in a relationship but my fella has nothing to do with this site or who i meet so i am a single, for example.
Ok so I meet as a single fem one week, we meet as a couple a few days later, then he meets as a single male. What should our profile be? Single fem, couple or single male? That's going to keep admim busy, cos we aren't doing sep profiles and paying the supporter fee x3. .....or just put it on our profile how we meet.
Up to you, just don't be surprised if anyone reports you if your fella tries to meet on his own. Single fellas meeting on their own when using a couples profile and single females who meet as a couple using a single profile are both likely to have their profile changed if reported. Has happened to me coz i made this profile for club meets and suggested meeting with my partner even though i'm the only one using this account and always have been and have been the only one to go on socials and be verified as such, he hasn't wanted anything to do with fab or swinging for a while so i'm back to being a single. Females meeing on their own on couples profiles nobody cares about coz most people are looking for single females anyway and don't complain about that or report them.
They can change it to whatever they see fit, but it's not constant so will need to change again, and again. I have met by myself for the last few meets so should be a single fem then. But the next meet will be as a couple. Certainly not deceiving anyone, as it's all on our profile.There should be no hotwife couple profiles where the fem meets alone on here by that assumption. If this is now the case with fab then the fakes are spoiling it for the genuine swingers."
It's always been the case, just nobody reports half a couple meeting as a single female coz the majority are wanting to meet single females so aren't disappointed if a couple turns out to be a single female.
When a single female turns out to be a couple, or a couple turns out to be a male well that's when people get disappointed and they report. Don't blame them really. |
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"We have been contacted by multiple couples messaging and arranging to meet only to be informed in the last message that it will only be male half of couple for varying reasons. Should Male half use a seperate profile for these occasions?
May be safe to assume there never was a female half sadly x"
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"We have been contacted by multiple couples messaging and arranging to meet only to be informed in the last message that it will only be male half of couple for varying reasons. Should Male half use a seperate profile for these occasions?
May be safe to assume there never was a female half sadly x"
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"Report the ones who only meet as a single male, they aren't a couple.
Yes they can be. As can single fems.
Couple and single on here are how you meet not your relationship status. If a couple tries to meet as a single, or a single tries to meet as a couple, then you can report them and admin will change their status.
It's because people looking to meet a single person will use search to find a single person to meet, same for wanting to meet a couple.
I'm in a relationship but my fella has nothing to do with this site or who i meet so i am a single, for example.
Ok so I meet as a single fem one week, we meet as a couple a few days later, then he meets as a single male. What should our profile be? Single fem, couple or single male? That's going to keep admim busy, cos we aren't doing sep profiles and paying the supporter fee x3. .....or just put it on our profile how we meet.
Up to you, just don't be surprised if anyone reports you if your fella tries to meet on his own. Single fellas meeting on their own when using a couples profile and single females who meet as a couple using a single profile are both likely to have their profile changed if reported. Has happened to me coz i made this profile for club meets and suggested meeting with my partner even though i'm the only one using this account and always have been and have been the only one to go on socials and be verified as such, he hasn't wanted anything to do with fab or swinging for a while so i'm back to being a single. Females meeing on their own on couples profiles nobody cares about coz most people are looking for single females anyway and don't complain about that or report them.
They can change it to whatever they see fit, but it's not constant so will need to change again, and again. I have met by myself for the last few meets so should be a single fem then. But the next meet will be as a couple. Certainly not deceiving anyone, as it's all on our profile.There should be no hotwife couple profiles where the fem meets alone on here by that assumption. If this is now the case with fab then the fakes are spoiling it for the genuine swingers.
It's always been the case, just nobody reports half a couple meeting as a single female coz the majority are wanting to meet single females so aren't disappointed if a couple turns out to be a single female.
When a single female turns out to be a couple, or a couple turns out to be a male well that's when people get disappointed and they report. Don't blame them really."
But why shouldn't he meet alone on here. That's our dynamic. I get off on him fucking other women, I have no issue with proving I exist, it's totally driven by me. The fakes are single men pretending to be a couple. We are a couple but the fem wants the man to play alone. Big difference and part of what swinging is about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We get it all the time. Couples planning on a meet, women then unavailable, but then the man still want to meet the female or both of us.... clearly states on this profile no single males.... if they want the women find my single profile  |
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"Report the ones who only meet as a single male, they aren't a couple.
Yes they can be. As can single fems.
Couple and single on here are how you meet not your relationship status. If a couple tries to meet as a single, or a single tries to meet as a couple, then you can report them and admin will change their status.
It's because people looking to meet a single person will use search to find a single person to meet, same for wanting to meet a couple.
I'm in a relationship but my fella has nothing to do with this site or who i meet so i am a single, for example.
Ok so I meet as a single fem one week, we meet as a couple a few days later, then he meets as a single male. What should our profile be? Single fem, couple or single male? That's going to keep admim busy, cos we aren't doing sep profiles and paying the supporter fee x3. .....or just put it on our profile how we meet.
Up to you, just don't be surprised if anyone reports you if your fella tries to meet on his own. Single fellas meeting on their own when using a couples profile and single females who meet as a couple using a single profile are both likely to have their profile changed if reported. Has happened to me coz i made this profile for club meets and suggested meeting with my partner even though i'm the only one using this account and always have been and have been the only one to go on socials and be verified as such, he hasn't wanted anything to do with fab or swinging for a while so i'm back to being a single. Females meeing on their own on couples profiles nobody cares about coz most people are looking for single females anyway and don't complain about that or report them.
They can change it to whatever they see fit, but it's not constant so will need to change again, and again. I have met by myself for the last few meets so should be a single fem then. But the next meet will be as a couple. Certainly not deceiving anyone, as it's all on our profile.There should be no hotwife couple profiles where the fem meets alone on here by that assumption. If this is now the case with fab then the fakes are spoiling it for the genuine swingers.
It's always been the case, just nobody reports half a couple meeting as a single female coz the majority are wanting to meet single females so aren't disappointed if a couple turns out to be a single female.
When a single female turns out to be a couple, or a couple turns out to be a male well that's when people get disappointed and they report. Don't blame them really.
But why shouldn't he meet alone on here. That's our dynamic. I get off on him fucking other women, I have no issue with proving I exist, it's totally driven by me. The fakes are single men pretending to be a couple. We are a couple but the fem wants the man to play alone. Big difference and part of what swinging is about. "
But you wouldn’t instigate a message chain with a couple only for the last message to say “oh by the way it’s only Mr coming along”, which is the problem the OP has.
I am guessing this because you appear to be an upfront, honest and genuine couple, whereas I would hypothesise based on the OPs original post that the people they are communicating with are not |
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"Report the ones who only meet as a single male, they aren't a couple.
Yes they can be. As can single fems.
Couple and single on here are how you meet not your relationship status. If a couple tries to meet as a single, or a single tries to meet as a couple, then you can report them and admin will change their status.
It's because people looking to meet a single person will use search to find a single person to meet, same for wanting to meet a couple.
I'm in a relationship but my fella has nothing to do with this site or who i meet so i am a single, for example.
Ok so I meet as a single fem one week, we meet as a couple a few days later, then he meets as a single male. What should our profile be? Single fem, couple or single male? That's going to keep admim busy, cos we aren't doing sep profiles and paying the supporter fee x3. .....or just put it on our profile how we meet.
Up to you, just don't be surprised if anyone reports you if your fella tries to meet on his own. Single fellas meeting on their own when using a couples profile and single females who meet as a couple using a single profile are both likely to have their profile changed if reported. Has happened to me coz i made this profile for club meets and suggested meeting with my partner even though i'm the only one using this account and always have been and have been the only one to go on socials and be verified as such, he hasn't wanted anything to do with fab or swinging for a while so i'm back to being a single. Females meeing on their own on couples profiles nobody cares about coz most people are looking for single females anyway and don't complain about that or report them.
They can change it to whatever they see fit, but it's not constant so will need to change again, and again. I have met by myself for the last few meets so should be a single fem then. But the next meet will be as a couple. Certainly not deceiving anyone, as it's all on our profile.There should be no hotwife couple profiles where the fem meets alone on here by that assumption. If this is now the case with fab then the fakes are spoiling it for the genuine swingers.
It's always been the case, just nobody reports half a couple meeting as a single female coz the majority are wanting to meet single females so aren't disappointed if a couple turns out to be a single female.
When a single female turns out to be a couple, or a couple turns out to be a male well that's when people get disappointed and they report. Don't blame them really.
But why shouldn't he meet alone on here. That's our dynamic. I get off on him fucking other women, I have no issue with proving I exist, it's totally driven by me. The fakes are single men pretending to be a couple. We are a couple but the fem wants the man to play alone. Big difference and part of what swinging is about.
But you wouldn’t instigate a message chain with a couple only for the last message to say “oh by the way it’s only Mr coming along”, which is the problem the OP has.
I am guessing this because you appear to be an upfront, honest and genuine couple, whereas I would hypothesise based on the OPs original post that the people they are communicating with are not"
Oh god yeh we are totally up front about how we play, it's all over our profile and veris. It's just so annoying that the fakes ruin this type of dynamic. If anything it's me who plays more. Unfortunately I don't know what the answer to rooting out the fakes is. |
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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago
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Usually single all along and using a cooked profile to try and get a response.
We explicitly state that we would only meet attached individuals if we've had a social with the couple and had confirmation of consent to play alone. |
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I've had this recently, where it's only the male half looking to play...suits me fine as I'm not bi, but if it did look like it was going to happen I would ask to speak to the partner on the phone or cam first and ensure she was happy with it. |
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Mrs S offers me out on meets sometimes. If we get invited last minute etc.
Childcare means both of us can’t go.
It looks dodgy as it’s just me that can go but it’s genuine. Not that I want to go by the way.... |
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"We have been contacted by multiple couples messaging and arranging to meet only to be informed in the last message that it will only be male half of couple for varying reasons. Should Male half use a seperate profile for these occasions?"
It's probably not a real couple. It's a single male being a chancer. He think if he spins you line like "My wife's mother is ill. She has had to go and stay with her mum for a few days" (or some other bullshit) you will still go ahead with the meet. |
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"We have been contacted by multiple couples messaging and arranging to meet only to be informed in the last message that it will only be male half of couple for varying reasons. Should Male half use a seperate profile for these occasions?
Block them and move on . Another disadvantage of Fab , fakers
I find them hilarious.
‘Permission to play. Male half here, wife wants me to shag everyone’
Riiight, ok then, come round"
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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We get this quite frequently whilst we have no intention of taking up the offer we always call their bluff by saying we want to speak to the female on the phone just to confirm it. To date not one "couple" have taken up the offer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On our old profile we added a few names ( not fully exposed as we changed the odd letter) of people where this happened.
But recently the reverse happened. A lady called with her husband to say he was ill. Could she come around. One in a million.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We ask KIK cam verification, most of them chicken out saying " we don't live together " lol "
Snap.
But I think we don’t live together the amount he is working recently. But we can always be together when he crawls in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We meet separately but we make it clear from the first message which of us is messaging and what we are looking for. Anyone who pulls what you described is a time waster, instantly blocked. |
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We get quite a few from the " misses, saying he has permission, and I like to hear on his return" ect. We always ask them to contact us through his single account. Surprise, they don't have one! We just block and move on.
My fella has his own single account. He uses that when out and playing as a single. |
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"Yeah sounds like there never was a female half unfortunately. Either that or the female half in the relationship is likely blissfully unaware that she’s even on the site, like others have said block and move on xx"
Word for word what she said |
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