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7 Bullshit Things Swingers Say But You Know Isn’t True
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"The post is bullshit! " You say you like chatting about your wife?? | |||
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Think you might well have hit the nail on the head op.  | |||
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"Don't miss this one it, she's what this sites all about she didn't turn up "out | |||
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"Didn’t read it all, to long. Please someone explain the shortened version "People say what they think makes them look good. | |||
"Didn’t read it all, to long. Please someone explain the shortened version "People  | |||
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"Sounds like someone is more fed up with this site than us " If you mean us, not fee up at all. Actually really enjoying it. Copy and past from another source, and found it interesting read. | |||
"What a crock of sh#t. Could go into detail but just not worth our time" So why are you even commenting? | |||
. It's very subjective....people's wants an needs are different so some may apply some not. | |||
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"It’s not all about having an orgasm and we don’t get jealous. Sorry to burst your bubble but those ones aren’t always bullshit TB" Agreed, My husband only ever orgasms at home with me, never yet with another lady! Where as I gush, a lot! Orgasms only usually at home when we’re alone! And we don’t get jealous as we have firm rules that we stick to and even if only one of us is playing the other is always there (watching!) as we come as a pair. | |||
"The taking one for the team bit . WTF man do couples really do that?" Yep. We met who woman who told us she did. | |||
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"Couldn't do it if there was no attraction from all parties it wouldn't happen." Some people get their kicks from the erotic situation so what the people look like isn't quite as important to them and some will do it because their partner is keen to go ahead. | |||
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"Couldn't do it if there was no attraction from all parties it wouldn't happen. Some people get their kicks from the erotic situation so what the people look like isn't quite as important to them and some will do it because their partner is keen to go ahead. " Fully understand that. | |||
"Most of you need a reality check, and stop being ignorant. Every rule has its exception. I bet you that most that have commented, have read just the main points and not the full post. 1. Expectations- really, you never expect to have fun? We do, but if it doesn't work, we won't go nuts about it. But we freaking do expect it. 2. Never taken 1 for the team? Really? If that is the case, sorry to say it, but that is unbelievable, and you are lying to yourself. Been swinging for 16 years, and yes, both of us have taken 1 for the team. I will do it again, if needed, and won't even think about it. 3. Lifestyle people are really judgemental. Your comments, have prove that. 4. Looks not important? Bullshit. We had so many one night stand in a club or at Cap, and honestly can't even remember theirs names, let alone personality. Not saying that we don't try to find people to fully match, but can't say it has never happened. 5. Orgasms, not important? Really? It happens not to have one, but that doesn't mean is not important; 6. Numbers? Really? Most people try to hid the real numbers. 7. Jealousy? Not talking bad unhealthy type. Everyone in the beginning has some jealousy, but doesn't wanna admit it. Of course, with the years experience, that disappears, but doesn't mean it has never happened. Have a happy swinging boys and girls, and stop being negative. Its meant to put some smile on your faces." To be fair, your op, even though not originally written by you, is highly judgemental, so you shouldn't be surprised if some take exception to it. If it was meant to be tongue-in-cheek and funny, it bombed | |||
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"The post is bullshit! You say you like chatting about your wife??" And???? | |||
"Most of you need a reality check, and stop being ignorant. Every rule has its exception. I bet you that most that have commented, have read just the main points and not the full post. 1. Expectations- really, you never expect to have fun? We do, but if it doesn't work, we won't go nuts about it. But we freaking do expect it. 2. Never taken 1 for the team? Really? If that is the case, sorry to say it, but that is unbelievable, and you are lying to yourself. Been swinging for 16 years, and yes, both of us have taken 1 for the team. I will do it again, if needed, and won't even think about it. 3. Lifestyle people are really judgemental. Your comments, have prove that. 4. Looks not important? Bullshit. We had so many one night stand in a club or at Cap, and honestly can't even remember theirs names, let alone personality. Not saying that we don't try to find people to fully match, but can't say it has never happened. 5. Orgasms, not important? Really? It happens not to have one, but that doesn't mean is not important; 6. Numbers? Really? Most people try to hid the real numbers. 7. Jealousy? Not talking bad unhealthy type. Everyone in the beginning has some jealousy, but doesn't wanna admit it. Of course, with the years experience, that disappears, but doesn't mean it has never happened. Have a happy swinging boys and girls, and stop being negative. Its meant to put some smile on your faces." Nope, read it all, still bullshit!  | |||
"7 Bullshit Things Swingers Say But You Know Isn’t True 1. “We have no expectations.” Truth: Really? You spent a £70 entrance fee, drove an hour and a half, got dressed to the 9’s and paid the babysitter for the evening and you have zero expectations? We get the fact that there are some people that are in the LS just for the buffets and great DJ’s, but we think this phrase is bullshit. You have to have some expectations, even if its just to meet and greet a few potential playmates. Have you ever heard the phrase, “fail to plan, plan to fail?” The rule applies here. Guys, if you are going through the effort to meet people to fuck, please don’t act like you don’t have expectations. 2. “We never take one for the team.” Truth: I think we’ve all taken one for the team at some point. Especially after a few drinks. The beer goggles lower the standards that might be a little higher should we have been sober or we just feel the pressure from the moment to perform. So what if she was missing a few teeth? She had a rockin body didn’t she? Don’t bullshit us that you’ve never lowered your standards for the sake of the moment. You have to admit, you put a pillow over her face and went to pound town. Under normal circumstances, you might have not sucked that guy’s dick, but you were so turned on in the moment, you gobbled that shit up. Yea team! 3. “Lifestyle people are non-judgemental.” Truth: When we first entered the lifestyle, we were looking forward to the open, inclusive community that everyone claimed the lifestyle to be. Only to find that the LS is just like high-school, but worse. When you walk into a lifestyle club or party, everyone sizes you up immediately. You are a fresh piece of ass for the night. You are judged on how big your tits are, how well you’re dressed, and how big your dick is. Hell, some clubs have a strict dress code! They reserve the right to judge who gets in and who doesn’t. Don’t fall for this bullshit. Not only will you judge selectively who you want to fuck, other people will judge you too. Don’t take it personal. The sooner we all admit it and stop saying this bullshit, the better. 4. “I care more about personality than looks.” Truth: Well meaning, but ultimately bullshit. Phrase usually used by women who don’t want the guy they aren’t attracted to feel bad. The truth is, women aren’t looking for personality in the LS bro. They have “personality” that they married or have at home. They are looking for big dick, abs and hot guys. Same for the men. Looks mean something. Your personality might be bubbly as champagne, but if you look like you just rolled out of bed and haven’t showered in weeks, no dice. 5. “It’s not all about having an orgasm.” Truth: We call bullshit on this statement. It’s usually used by hippie, tantra couples that want to appear laid back and non-pushy. The thinking is that the LS is all about pleasure and, if it feels good, that is what matters. “Everyone doesn’t need to cum.” While we some what agree with this statement, we think this is bullshit. We’ve been in situations where only one person cums and the rest are left hanging. Not a good lifestyle experience. Let’s face it guys, we aren’t interested in fucking for 2 hours with no orgasm. 6. “We are a low mileage couple.” Truth: This cliche is infamous in the lifestyle, often used by women and couples who want to downplay the actual numbers of people they fuck on a monthly basis. “Low mileage” for a swinger couple means they only fuck between 10-12 couples a month. The term is relative. We understand you don’t want to appear slutty to that newbie couple you wanna get with, but we aren’t buying your bullshit. You both are perverted kinksters that fuck like bunnies. Don’t hide it. 7. “We never get jealous.” Truth: What you really mean is that you’ve been in the lifestyle so long fucking other people, you don’t REMEMBER getting jealous. Your memory is shot. Take us back to those first few months in the LS, to the time you first witnessed another man fucking your wife like a dirty whore. Listening to her say things she never said with you in bed and how he gave her that leg shaking orgasm you never witnessed before. Remember that ounce of jealousy then? Couples bullshit when they say they never get jealous. The truth is if you never, ever get jealous, then maybe you don’t really care. What are the bullshit phrases you’ve heard before? Fill us in on where you heard it and why you think it’s bullshit. Leave them in the comments below. " In your opinion!!!...you forgot that bit | |||
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"7 Bullshit Things Swingers Say But You Know Isn’t True 1. “We have no expectations.” Truth: Really? You spent a £70 entrance fee, drove an hour and a half, got dressed to the 9’s and paid the babysitter for the evening and you have zero expectations? We get the fact that there are some people that are in the LS just for the buffets and great DJ’s, but we think this phrase is bullshit. You have to have some expectations, even if its just to meet and greet a few potential playmates. Have you ever heard the phrase, “fail to plan, plan to fail?” The rule applies here. Guys, if you are going through the effort to meet people to fuck, please don’t act like you don’t have expectations. 2. “We never take one for the team.” Truth: I think we’ve all taken one for the team at some point. Especially after a few drinks. The beer goggles lower the standards that might be a little higher should we have been sober or we just feel the pressure from the moment to perform. So what if she was missing a few teeth? She had a rockin body didn’t she? Don’t bullshit us that you’ve never lowered your standards for the sake of the moment. You have to admit, you put a pillow over her face and went to pound town. Under normal circumstances, you might have not sucked that guy’s dick, but you were so turned on in the moment, you gobbled that shit up. Yea team! 3. “Lifestyle people are non-judgemental.” Truth: When we first entered the lifestyle, we were looking forward to the open, inclusive community that everyone claimed the lifestyle to be. Only to find that the LS is just like high-school, but worse. When you walk into a lifestyle club or party, everyone sizes you up immediately. You are a fresh piece of ass for the night. You are judged on how big your tits are, how well you’re dressed, and how big your dick is. Hell, some clubs have a strict dress code! They reserve the right to judge who gets in and who doesn’t. Don’t fall for this bullshit. Not only will you judge selectively who you want to fuck, other people will judge you too. Don’t take it personal. The sooner we all admit it and stop saying this bullshit, the better. 4. “I care more about personality than looks.” Truth: Well meaning, but ultimately bullshit. Phrase usually used by women who don’t want the guy they aren’t attracted to feel bad. The truth is, women aren’t looking for personality in the LS bro. They have “personality” that they married or have at home. They are looking for big dick, abs and hot guys. Same for the men. Looks mean something. Your personality might be bubbly as champagne, but if you look like you just rolled out of bed and haven’t showered in weeks, no dice. 5. “It’s not all about having an orgasm.” Truth: We call bullshit on this statement. It’s usually used by hippie, tantra couples that want to appear laid back and non-pushy. The thinking is that the LS is all about pleasure and, if it feels good, that is what matters. “Everyone doesn’t need to cum.” While we some what agree with this statement, we think this is bullshit. We’ve been in situations where only one person cums and the rest are left hanging. Not a good lifestyle experience. Let’s face it guys, we aren’t interested in fucking for 2 hours with no orgasm. 6. “We are a low mileage couple.” Truth: This cliche is infamous in the lifestyle, often used by women and couples who want to downplay the actual numbers of people they fuck on a monthly basis. “Low mileage” for a swinger couple means they only fuck between 10-12 couples a month. The term is relative. We understand you don’t want to appear slutty to that newbie couple you wanna get with, but we aren’t buying your bullshit. You both are perverted kinksters that fuck like bunnies. Don’t hide it. 7. “We never get jealous.” Truth: What you really mean is that you’ve been in the lifestyle so long fucking other people, you don’t REMEMBER getting jealous. Your memory is shot. Take us back to those first few months in the LS, to the time you first witnessed another man fucking your wife like a dirty whore. Listening to her say things she never said with you in bed and how he gave her that leg shaking orgasm you never witnessed before. Remember that ounce of jealousy then? Couples bullshit when they say they never get jealous. The truth is if you never, ever get jealous, then maybe you don’t really care. What are the bullshit phrases you’ve heard before? Fill us in on where you heard it and why you think it’s bullshit. Leave them in the comments below. In your opinion!!!...you forgot that bit "Shit ... I was going to say that | |||
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"It made me giggle so much I do see the ops points ,tho maybe too truthful for many " | |||
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"Sounds like someone is more fed up with this site than us " lol, we look for down to earth ppl like us that enjoy the social side as well. Its personality, not how slim and gorgeous or if the guy has big package. Wouldn't travel miles | |||
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"One that the OP missed out was "age is just a number" " Another bullshit saying to add to that (truthful) list would be ‘if my wife wanted to stop swinging i would just accept it no problem and no way would I go on Fab behind her back’ | |||
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"It’s not all about having an orgasm and we don’t get jealous. Sorry to burst your bubble but those ones aren’t always bullshit TB" Agree totally, and we always said, we have no unrealistic expectations, which is absolutely true. | |||
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"This is an AMAZING thread. Pretty accurate for the majority of people - can't say everyone. Very well written too! "HOw do you know it's 'pretty accurate for the majority of people'? Did you do a survey? | |||
"Well done OP. It’s actually refreshing to see someone one here speak the blunt truth. And by reading the comments on here it’s funny to see that those who think it’s BS are exactly those to whom these bs would apply! " A sweeping generalisation about people you've probably never spoken to....a bit like the OP in my opinion. | |||
"Well done OP. It’s actually refreshing to see someone one here speak the blunt truth. And by reading the comments on here it’s funny to see that those who think it’s BS are exactly those to whom these bs would apply! " | |||
"This is an AMAZING thread. Pretty accurate for the majority of people - can't say everyone. Very well written too!
HOw do you know it's 'pretty accurate for the majority of people'? Did you do a survey?"How do you know it ISN'T, did you do a survey. Works both ways. Stop taking it so seriously. Clearly it's tongue-in-cheek.  | |||
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"I can admit to some of these. We're still learning what works for us, and part of learning is working out what we do and don't like/want. For me the taking one for the team and jealousy kinda came under the same bracket but not as you may expect. B was getting deep throated. I can't deep throat. He was loving it and I could have burst into tears and ran away. This gorgeous woman was doing something he was adoring, and it was something I physically couldn't do. Not that I didn't want to do it, but I just can't. I was jealous as fuck that she could do something I couldn't and he was loving it. Now in my mind I wanted to tear her head off and put it on my own so I could feel him wriggling, so I could feel his pleasure. I wanted to be the reason he was in heaven not someone else. I couldn't enhance that moment between them and I felt powerless and inferior. I didn't run and cry, I stayed and carried on watching even though I disliked it at that moment and I felt like shit.. therefore I was taking one for the team. I don't feel that way now, and it took me by surprise that I felt that way at the time. But that's what happens when we experience new things, we learn. We sometimes get broadsided by emotions and feelings that we didn't see coming or expect. P" And this from a lady who in my experience gives the finest oral it has ever been my pleasure to experience...  Though these aren't P's usual feelings at all the experience was a new one for us at the time and as such like everyone she had a "bedding in period" emotions wise, even if it was only in those first few moments? The overwhelming majority will get nervous in one way or another with new experiences and question their own views on it?
So in my opinion the OPs quoted comments can't all be dismissed out of hand, there is some truth in them, though obviously such truth will have been expanded on and blown up for artistic license and to amuse?
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"How about 7 bullshit things said by single women. No.1 Everything "Thankyou S | |||
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"The op is true in some cases. Just not all. " ???? | |||
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"How about 7 bullshit things said by single women. No.1 Everything
Thankyou S "The biggest bullshit by single women ( in general dating as well as Fab ) is No 4 on that list ie personality is more important than looks . I know lots of ugly men with great personalities and lots of ripped handsome men with no personalities . Guess which group is more successful with women ? Lots of money helps too. | |||
"This is an AMAZING thread. Pretty accurate for the majority of people - can't say everyone. Very well written too!
HOw do you know it's 'pretty accurate for the majority of people'? Did you do a survey?
How do you know it ISN'T, did you do a survey. Works both ways.
Stop taking it so seriously. Clearly it's tongue-in-cheek. "It doesn't work both ways. You made a silly claim, I challenged you. You didn't like it | |||
"Don't miss this one it, she's what this sites all about she didn't turn up "He says genuine arranges a meet no show He talks like a pro time waster No bullshit its true! | |||
"7 Bullshit Things Swingers Say But You Know Isn’t True 1. “We have no expectations.” Truth: Really? You spent a £70 entrance fee, drove an hour and a half, got dressed to the 9’s and paid the babysitter for the evening and you have zero expectations? We get the fact that there are some people that are in the LS just for the buffets and great DJ’s, but we think this phrase is bullshit. You have to have some expectations, even if its just to meet and greet a few potential playmates. Have you ever heard the phrase, “fail to plan, plan to fail?” The rule applies here. Guys, if you are going through the effort to meet people to fuck, please don’t act like you don’t have expectations. 2. “We never take one for the team.” Truth: I think we’ve all taken one for the team at some point. Especially after a few drinks. The beer goggles lower the standards that might be a little higher should we have been sober or we just feel the pressure from the moment to perform. So what if she was missing a few teeth? She had a rockin body didn’t she? Don’t bullshit us that you’ve never lowered your standards for the sake of the moment. You have to admit, you put a pillow over her face and went to pound town. Under normal circumstances, you might have not sucked that guy’s dick, but you were so turned on in the moment, you gobbled that shit up. Yea team! 3. “Lifestyle people are non-judgemental.” Truth: When we first entered the lifestyle, we were looking forward to the open, inclusive community that everyone claimed the lifestyle to be. Only to find that the LS is just like high-school, but worse. When you walk into a lifestyle club or party, everyone sizes you up immediately. You are a fresh piece of ass for the night. You are judged on how big your tits are, how well you’re dressed, and how big your dick is. Hell, some clubs have a strict dress code! They reserve the right to judge who gets in and who doesn’t. Don’t fall for this bullshit. Not only will you judge selectively who you want to fuck, other people will judge you too. Don’t take it personal. The sooner we all admit it and stop saying this bullshit, the better. 4. “I care more about personality than looks.” Truth: Well meaning, but ultimately bullshit. Phrase usually used by women who don’t want the guy they aren’t attracted to feel bad. The truth is, women aren’t looking for personality in the LS bro. They have “personality” that they married or have at home. They are looking for big dick, abs and hot guys. Same for the men. Looks mean something. Your personality might be bubbly as champagne, but if you look like you just rolled out of bed and haven’t showered in weeks, no dice. 5. “It’s not all about having an orgasm.” Truth: We call bullshit on this statement. It’s usually used by hippie, tantra couples that want to appear laid back and non-pushy. The thinking is that the LS is all about pleasure and, if it feels good, that is what matters. “Everyone doesn’t need to cum.” While we some what agree with this statement, we think this is bullshit. We’ve been in situations where only one person cums and the rest are left hanging. Not a good lifestyle experience. Let’s face it guys, we aren’t interested in fucking for 2 hours with no orgasm. 6. “We are a low mileage couple.” Truth: This cliche is infamous in the lifestyle, often used by women and couples who want to downplay the actual numbers of people they fuck on a monthly basis. “Low mileage” for a swinger couple means they only fuck between 10-12 couples a month. The term is relative. We understand you don’t want to appear slutty to that newbie couple you wanna get with, but we aren’t buying your bullshit. You both are perverted kinksters that fuck like bunnies. Don’t hide it. 7. “We never get jealous.” Truth: What you really mean is that you’ve been in the lifestyle so long fucking other people, you don’t REMEMBER getting jealous. Your memory is shot. Take us back to those first few months in the LS, to the time you first witnessed another man fucking your wife like a dirty whore. Listening to her say things she never said with you in bed and how he gave her that leg shaking orgasm you never witnessed before. Remember that ounce of jealousy then? Couples bullshit when they say they never get jealous. The truth is if you never, ever get jealous, then maybe you don’t really care. What are the bullshit phrases you’ve heard before? Fill us in on where you heard it and why you think it’s bullshit. Leave them in the comments below. " Yes, op number 3, judgemental and hypercritical of people for sure. Way too quick to judge. The arrange a meet bullshit lately Telling me that they not like that guy down road who didn't meet. Then no shows The part where you say genuine but you are a time waster. Genuine bullshit | |||
even funnier reading the comments. Very salty.
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"This is an AMAZING thread. Pretty accurate for the majority of people - can't say everyone. Very well written too!
HOw do you know it's 'pretty accurate for the majority of people'? Did you do a survey?
How do you know it ISN'T, did you do a survey. Works both ways.
Stop taking it so seriously. Clearly it's tongue-in-cheek.
It doesn't work both ways. You made a silly claim, I challenged you. You didn't like it "I disagree. I stand by my claim based on my personal experience. What is your silly claim which has been made in the same way as mine, presumably, based on? Where's your survey and the results then? Again, works both ways. | |||
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"7 Bullshit Things Swingers Say But You Know Isn’t True 1. “We have no expectations.” Truth: Really? You spent a £70 entrance fee, drove an hour and a half, got dressed to the 9’s and paid the babysitter for the evening and you have zero expectations? We get the fact that there are some people that are in the LS just for the buffets and great DJ’s, but we think this phrase is bullshit. You have to have some expectations, even if its just to meet and greet a few potential playmates. Have you ever heard the phrase, “fail to plan, plan to fail?” The rule applies here. Guys, if you are going through the effort to meet people to fuck, please don’t act like you don’t have expectations. 2. “We never take one for the team.” Truth: I think we’ve all taken one for the team at some point. Especially after a few drinks. The beer goggles lower the standards that might be a little higher should we have been sober or we just feel the pressure from the moment to perform. So what if she was missing a few teeth? She had a rockin body didn’t she? Don’t bullshit us that you’ve never lowered your standards for the sake of the moment. You have to admit, you put a pillow over her face and went to pound town. Under normal circumstances, you might have not sucked that guy’s dick, but you were so turned on in the moment, you gobbled that shit up. Yea team! 3. “Lifestyle people are non-judgemental.” Truth: When we first entered the lifestyle, we were looking forward to the open, inclusive community that everyone claimed the lifestyle to be. Only to find that the LS is just like high-school, but worse. When you walk into a lifestyle club or party, everyone sizes you up immediately. You are a fresh piece of ass for the night. You are judged on how big your tits are, how well you’re dressed, and how big your dick is. Hell, some clubs have a strict dress code! They reserve the right to judge who gets in and who doesn’t. Don’t fall for this bullshit. Not only will you judge selectively who you want to fuck, other people will judge you too. Don’t take it personal. The sooner we all admit it and stop saying this bullshit, the better. 4. “I care more about personality than looks.” Truth: Well meaning, but ultimately bullshit. Phrase usually used by women who don’t want the guy they aren’t attracted to feel bad. The truth is, women aren’t looking for personality in the LS bro. They have “personality” that they married or have at home. They are looking for big dick, abs and hot guys. Same for the men. Looks mean something. Your personality might be bubbly as champagne, but if you look like you just rolled out of bed and haven’t showered in weeks, no dice. 5. “It’s not all about having an orgasm.” Truth: We call bullshit on this statement. It’s usually used by hippie, tantra couples that want to appear laid back and non-pushy. The thinking is that the LS is all about pleasure and, if it feels good, that is what matters. “Everyone doesn’t need to cum.” While we some what agree with this statement, we think this is bullshit. We’ve been in situations where only one person cums and the rest are left hanging. Not a good lifestyle experience. Let’s face it guys, we aren’t interested in fucking for 2 hours with no orgasm. 6. “We are a low mileage couple.” Truth: This cliche is infamous in the lifestyle, often used by women and couples who want to downplay the actual numbers of people they fuck on a monthly basis. “Low mileage” for a swinger couple means they only fuck between 10-12 couples a month. The term is relative. We understand you don’t want to appear slutty to that newbie couple you wanna get with, but we aren’t buying your bullshit. You both are perverted kinksters that fuck like bunnies. Don’t hide it. 7. “We never get jealous.” Truth: What you really mean is that you’ve been in the lifestyle so long fucking other people, you don’t REMEMBER getting jealous. Your memory is shot. Take us back to those first few months in the LS, to the time you first witnessed another man fucking your wife like a dirty whore. Listening to her say things she never said with you in bed and how he gave her that leg shaking orgasm you never witnessed before. Remember that ounce of jealousy then? Couples bullshit when they say they never get jealous. The truth is if you never, ever get jealous, then maybe you don’t really care. What are the bullshit phrases you’ve heard before? Fill us in on where you heard it and why you think it’s bullshit. Leave them in the comments below. " | |||
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"Sounds like someone is more fed up with this site than us " I just look at the forums now I am not only fed up with the site the entire lifestyle is bullshit. most people here are just kidding themselves | |||
