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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I’ve been chatting to people on here and it’s hard to find what I’m after, thought I’d give this a go instead 
So I’m looking for a nice lass (preferably in her 40s) that would happily let a guy book a hotel for the night for them. No pressure for me to stay but when they arrive there will be some new lingerie, a dress and some new heels for them to wear if they fancy a night out as well.
There’s no pressure to play although I would definitely hope they’d fancy it. Wonder if anyone is on here that might fancy it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This could only really work with someone that knows you well enough to know you mean what you say and say what you mean.
I wouldn't ever consider this as an option even if I was meeting privately and I've been offered something similar by others. Kinda makes me feel cheap and under pressure to do what you ask and a little creepy as it's a request from a stranger. Might even question people that know me if this was on offer.
Good luck with your search but I can see why it's not going to be an easy find. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Many women here like to go 50/50 on everything OP simply because it removes any sense of obligation or expectation from the equation - know you have said there would be no pressure, but by doing those things you subconsciously create pressure if that makes sense?
Similarly a lot of women don't like having what they wear (including lingerie) chosen for them and prefer to choose what they are comfortable with rather than a blokes idea of what he might think is comfortable.
There are of course those that would accept your offer and indeed some women/couples expect the man to pay for the hotel etc - personally I think expecting it is a bit much and wouldn't entertain the idea unless it was a longstanding thing and we were taking it in turns or similar.
What you're suggesting is a nice idea in theory, and plays right into your username, but as said above there are aspects of it that won't appeal to some for the reasons I've given. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I’ve been chatting to people on here and it’s hard to find what I’m after, thought I’d give this a go instead
So I’m looking for a nice lass (preferably in her 40s) that would happily let a guy book a hotel for the night for them. No pressure for me to stay but when they arrive there will be some new lingerie, a dress and some new heels for them to wear if they fancy a night out as well.
There’s no pressure to play although I would definitely hope they’d fancy it. Wonder if anyone is on here that might fancy it "
sounds like you need a escort not a meet reading this |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
I'm sure you're genuine but many might see what you're offering as some kind of paid arrangement - even though it's not cash.
You might get lucky, but as your experience to date has proven, probably not for most. |
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"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be. "
I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this. "
Yep, same here. I'm my own woman - I wear the lingerie and the clothes that I like. Sugar daddy thing just doesn't do it, sorry.
Not even my OH would try and buy me lingerie. In fact, even when i'm browsing at love honey and ask for his opinion he doesn't want to give it - he prefers not to know and for me to surprise him!
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"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.
I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this. "
I think most would...it was a 'Pretty Woman' reference really... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.
I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this. "
I get that you don’t like this idea, I’m not trying to do anything creepy or weird I’m simply putting a fantasy out there that I like the look of with the hopes that someone may say yes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm afraid in this context it seems creepy and weird in itself. "
That is your perception and I’m not trying to dig at the fact you hold that opinion I’m simply saying that not all guys are the way you perceive and posting over and over about your lack of interest isn’t exactly constructive to someone just trying to use the site for something positive in their eyes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.
I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this. "
yeah i agree.
i am fully independent and i can afford nice hotels, nice underwear why would i need to feel cheap |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.
I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this.
yeah i agree.
i am fully independent and i can afford nice hotels, nice underwear why would i need to feel cheap "
I’m not trying to make women feel cheap, I’m simply trying to bring a touch of something old fashioned into a bedroom |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.
I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this. "
So the saying 'everyone has their price' is actually not true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.
I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this.
yeah i agree.
i am fully independent and i can afford nice hotels, nice underwear why would i need to feel cheap
I’m not trying to make women feel cheap, I’m simply trying to bring a touch of something old fashioned into a bedroom "
What happens to the lingerie etc when the evening is over?
And the lady has said " no" to sex? |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
"I’m not trying to make women feel cheap, I’m simply trying to bring a touch of something old fashioned into a bedroom "
I think that's where you're going wrong - times have changed, women are independant and see men trying to 'buy' them rather than appeal to them as creepy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.
I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this.
yeah i agree.
i am fully independent and i can afford nice hotels, nice underwear why would i need to feel cheap
I’m not trying to make women feel cheap, I’m simply trying to bring a touch of something old fashioned into a bedroom "
well its not. you are a stranger that person is a stranger looking for nsa fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.
I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this.
yeah i agree.
i am fully independent and i can afford nice hotels, nice underwear why would i need to feel cheap
I’m not trying to make women feel cheap, I’m simply trying to bring a touch of something old fashioned into a bedroom
What happens to the lingerie etc when the evening is over?
And the lady has said " no" to sex?"
and what happens if the said Lingerie isnt to the taste of the lady or god forbid doesnt fit? |
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"I'm afraid in this context it seems creepy and weird in itself.
That is your perception and I’m not trying to dig at the fact you hold that opinion I’m simply saying that not all guys are the way you perceive and posting over and over about your lack of interest isn’t exactly constructive to someone just trying to use the site for something positive in their eyes "
I'm sorry you feel that way, but personally I feel that my perspective has merit. That there are very good reasons why women won't want to do this and will find the idea distasteful. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You might get away with this if you look like Richard Gere but otherwise you're fucked, or not as the case may be.
I'd block the hottest, most charismatic, richest man in the world if he tried this.
yeah i agree.
i am fully independent and i can afford nice hotels, nice underwear why would i need to feel cheap
I’m not trying to make women feel cheap, I’m simply trying to bring a touch of something old fashioned into a bedroom
What happens to the lingerie etc when the evening is over?
And the lady has said " no" to sex?"
She can keep if she likes it, if she says no we simply go out separate ways and yeah I get that’s a far fetched idea but I have no plans to try and force anything |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
As a thought OP - if this is a fantasy scenario, why not discuss with someone you have already met, that knows you and perhaps with whom you've discussed and played out other fantasies - you may have more luck that way, rather than trying to find someone new, as this thread has shown  |
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"As a thought OP - if this is a fantasy scenario, why not discuss with someone you have already met, that knows you and perhaps with whom you've discussed and played out other fantasies - you may have more luck that way, rather than trying to find someone new, as this thread has shown "
You can f-off with your common sense approach too! |
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This to me is a hatmless fantasy if both sides are buying in to it.
My concern would be letting someone else choose my clothes...that has the potential to be a big fail...wrong sizes, wrong style...I'd find that more uncomfortable than any other aspect of this scenario...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just want to find a funny woman whos kind of attractive and that wants to do fun things(non sexual) and they wouldnt mind a penis in her mouth later on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I’ve been chatting to people on here and it’s hard to find what I’m after, thought I’d give this a go instead
So I’m looking for a nice lass (preferably in her 40s) that would happily let a guy book a hotel for the night for them. No pressure for me to stay but when they arrive there will be some new lingerie, a dress and some new heels for them to wear if they fancy a night out as well.
There’s no pressure to play although I would definitely hope they’d fancy it. Wonder if anyone is on here that might fancy it "
My wife would be very interested in the new lingerie, dress and heels. Don't waste your money on a hotel room, though, just leave the package behind reception and she'll pick it up sometime. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"So I’ve been chatting to people on here and it’s hard to find what I’m after, thought I’d give this a go instead
So I’m looking for a nice lass (preferably in her 40s) that would happily let a guy book a hotel for the night for them. No pressure for me to stay but when they arrive there will be some new lingerie, a dress and some new heels for them to wear if they fancy a night out as well.
There’s no pressure to play although I would definitely hope they’d fancy it. Wonder if anyone is on here that might fancy it
My wife would be very interested in the new lingerie, dress and heels. Don't waste your money on a hotel room, though, just leave the package behind reception and she'll pick it up sometime."
Dammit, why didn't I think of that?!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I’ve been chatting to people on here and it’s hard to find what I’m after, thought I’d give this a go instead
So I’m looking for a nice lass (preferably in her 40s) that would happily let a guy book a hotel for the night for them. No pressure for me to stay but when they arrive there will be some new lingerie, a dress and some new heels for them to wear if they fancy a night out as well.
There’s no pressure to play although I would definitely hope they’d fancy it. Wonder if anyone is on here that might fancy it
My wife would be very interested in the new lingerie, dress and heels. Don't waste your money on a hotel room, though, just leave the package behind reception and she'll pick it up sometime.
Dammit, why didn't I think of that?!! "
You're probably too principled and not blatantly opportunistic like us  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Creepy, kinda like buying someone’s time and putting a lot of pressure on them for more
A different meet would be doing something out of the norm how about a helicopter ride ? "
Geez, you don't come cheap! How about a trip to the zoo or something,instead? |
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Creepy, kinda like buying someone’s time and putting a lot of pressure on them for more
A different meet would be doing something out of the norm how about a helicopter ride ?
Geez, you don't come cheap! How about a trip to the zoo or something,instead?"
It’s about the sane price as a good hotel dinner and wine and all the fancy undies the op is willing to pay for |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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As a first meet no it's not for me. However if we had met a few times then yes I'd be fine with this. The main problem is most men want to run before they can walk... one step at a time buttercup. You cant build a house without the foundation.
I also need a pair of new shoes |
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It's notmy thing but i wouldn't feel creeped out about it. Kind of seems like you enjoy treating a woman who would enjoy a guy making choices for her via gifts. Seems more a relationship type of thing though. |
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Op how about trying to set up regular meets with someone band trying that scenario after a few dates?
I understand that its your fantasy but there aren't many swooning maidens in the forum, however there are women who will like the idea. I think you might have to adjust your expectations and possibly liaise with the woman about size, taste etc. There's nothing worse than uncomfortable lingerie.
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I like the idea as a concept but certainly not on a first date. If I’d known a guy for some time he knew what I liked and offered the same scenario why not. Husbands by their wives lingerie all the time, a full outfit I’d go with it for a night. Obviously I need shoes and a new bag
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like the idea as a concept but certainly not on a first date. If I’d known a guy for some time he knew what I liked and offered the same scenario why not. Husbands by their wives lingerie all the time, a full outfit I’d go with it for a night. Obviously I need shoes and a new bag
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Hehehe! Obviously! LOL xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I just want to find a funny woman whos kind of attractive and that wants to do fun things(non sexual) and they wouldnt mind a penis in her mouth later on
How is that non sexual  "
LOL... This. |
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"I like the idea as a concept but certainly not on a first date. If I’d known a guy for some time he knew what I liked and offered the same scenario why not. Husbands by their wives lingerie all the time, a full outfit I’d go with it for a night. Obviously I need shoes and a new bag
Hehehe! Obviously! LOL xx"
You know it sister   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd never do this for a first meet, but if I knew you a bit, then I'd consider this lovely and would be all for it.
I don't think you'd get many/any ladies to do this for a first meet cos we're all just very careful... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd like to go to Longleat Make sure you buy plenty of feed they are a greedy bunch!
I think I may have popped that comment on the wrong thread. Hah bloody nora not sure this was what the op was looking for "
Sorry ?? not long been in from work. I quite like a good zoo! Never specified where the social would be but I mean I’ve no idea how the animals would react to Lingerie |
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"So I’ve been chatting to people on here and it’s hard to find what I’m after, thought I’d give this a go instead
So I’m looking for a nice lass (preferably in her 40s) that would happily let a guy book a hotel for the night for them. No pressure for me to stay but when they arrive there will be some new lingerie, a dress and some new heels for them to wear if they fancy a night out as well.
There’s no pressure to play although I would definitely hope they’d fancy it. Wonder if anyone is on here that might fancy it "
Seems very creepy. ‘No pressure’ means exactly the opposite. |
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