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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi guys and sexy ladies 
How do you know if someone is a FB or a FWB? At what point does it change from one to the other?
Also to those who are a couple and have a FB, how often should/shouldn't you see them?
Is this the same for a FWB? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Different people have different definitions but the most commonly held ones are:
FB = Fuck Buddy = Turn up, get naked, have sex and go
FWB = Friend With Benefits = Meet, do something socially (cinema, gig, walk in the park etc), generally spend time together non-sexually as well as sexually - basically all the trimmings of a relationship but without any commitments to each other.
As for how often, that's down to the individuals to decide, in either scenario, for some it might be several times a week, others maybe once a month, others less frequent.
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"Different people have different definitions but the most commonly held ones are:
FB = Fuck Buddy = Turn up, get naked, have sex and go
FWB = Friend With Benefits = Meet, do something socially (cinema, gig, walk in the park etc), generally spend time together non-sexually as well as sexually - basically all the trimmings of a relationship but without any commitments to each other.
As for how often, that's down to the individuals to decide, in either scenario, for some it might be several times a week, others maybe once a month, others less frequent.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Away for Christmas |
"Different people have different definitions but the most commonly held ones are:
FB = Fuck Buddy = Turn up, get naked, have sex and go
FWB = Friend With Benefits = Meet, do something socially (cinema, gig, walk in the park etc), generally spend time together non-sexually as well as sexually - basically all the trimmings of a relationship but without any commitments to each other.
As for how often, that's down to the individuals to decide, in either scenario, for some it might be several times a week, others maybe once a month, others less frequent.
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What he said |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Surely for someone part of a couple or married, seeing someone else that often can potentially be a problem (developing feelings etc) and shouldn't be done? I'm sure I saw that being said elsewhere on the forum. Seems even more so for fwb than fb.
So when does the line cross from a fwb to a wife "having a boyfriend" and basically being a poly relationship?
The lines seem to be very blurred to me. Surely one aspect is frequency/time with them? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Surely for someone part of a couple or married, seeing someone else that often can potentially be a problem (developing feelings etc) and shouldn't be done? I'm sure I saw that being said elsewhere on the forum. Seems even more so for fwb than fb.
So when does the line cross from a fwb to a wife "having a boyfriend" and basically being a poly relationship?
The lines seem to be very blurred to me. Surely one aspect is frequency/time with them? "
Whilst it can be blurred lines it doesn't have to be if boundaries are put in place and agreed to and open and honest communication is in place between all involved. It's when those things aren't in place there's the most danger.
It's also key that the "attached" people have a stable relationship in the first place.
It's of course very much possible for two people to fall for each other regardless of their attached status or not, or even if they're not meeting separately, which is what boundaries etc help safeguard against - but it's arguable that if they had a stable and loving relationship in the first place and they're open and honest with one another that any dangers of that happening are minimised.
I'm attached and meet others separately with my partners full knowledge and look at any meets as stepping into a bubble - when I'm in that bubble I'm with the other person completely but fully respectful of my life outside it - when I leave the bubble I retain the memories of any time inside it but anything else remains in it until the next time I visit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just ask them what they think qns want, saves bother
Ask who?"
In your OP you asked at what point does it change. My answer is i would ask them.... If it has crossed your mind, the chances are that it has also crossed theirs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely for someone part of a couple or married, seeing someone else that often can potentially be a problem (developing feelings etc) and shouldn't be done? I'm sure I saw that being said elsewhere on the forum. Seems even more so for fwb than fb.
So when does the line cross from a fwb to a wife "having a boyfriend" and basically being a poly relationship?
The lines seem to be very blurred to me. Surely one aspect is frequency/time with them?
Whilst it can be blurred lines it doesn't have to be if boundaries are put in place and agreed to and open and honest communication is in place between all involved. It's when those things aren't in place there's the most danger.
It's also key that the "attached" people have a stable relationship in the first place.
It's of course very much possible for two people to fall for each other regardless of their attached status or not, or even if they're not meeting separately, which is what boundaries etc help safeguard against - but it's arguable that if they had a stable and loving relationship in the first place and they're open and honest with one another that any dangers of that happening are minimised.
I'm attached and meet others separately with my partners full knowledge and look at any meets as stepping into a bubble - when I'm in that bubble I'm with the other person completely but fully respectful of my life outside it - when I leave the bubble I retain the memories of any time inside it but anything else remains in it until the next time I visit."
Perfectly summed up |
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