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"What are the fetishes that seem to be popular, but you really don't see the appeal?
With me it's feet. About as sexy as going to Screwfix."
Agree, they are gross. Nothing nice about even the nicest feet and don’t get me started on men’s feet *vom |
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"Tieing boobs so that they go all blue... Yuk, and writing rude words in lipstick on someone's body. "
Do people do that, tie boobs so they go blue? That’s just wrong. |
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over a year ago
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Alot of people don't get this but I'm a non smoker with a smoking fetish. When I'm not turned on I cannot stand being near someone who's smoking but the second I'm turned on I love the smell, taste of it on someone and have it blown in my face, over my body and used as a human ashtray sometimes. Strange one and I don't even understand why I like it so much myself. But we're all different and all have our own niche fetishes at the end of the day we'd be boring if we were all into the same things.  |
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"What are the fetishes that seem to be popular, but you really don't see the appeal?
With me it's feet. About as sexy as going to Screwfix."
I'm glad foot worship is a thing... I was the same as you until I had my toes sucked and massaged... heaven! |
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over a year ago
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Playing separately. I don't understand it to a degree and at the moment it isn't something I'm comfortable with, however I don't find it gross or anything else putting people down for their choices, and it's something that will happen again for us in time.
Not a fetish as such but still something that some get off in and others don't.
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
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"Erm, people? Just because we don't understand something do we need to be derogatory about it?
Didn't think so."
Quite so. There are many fetishes that I don't get, but the people who like them obviously get something from it. It's not wrong, it's not disgusting, it's just not for me.
Someone explained the boob tying one to me recently. Apparently the relief when they are untied feels wonderful and tingly. It's still not something I want to do myself, but now I understand why people do. |
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over a year ago
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I don’t think about others fetishes if Iam honest but openly discuss mine to encourage the sharing of others...
although I don’t understand adult baby’s.
It’s wrong.
It’s weird.
I don’t like it. |
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over a year ago
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Feet; my ex had a foot fetish and he tried to explain it to me but I just never got it.
And also fisting, I don’t find the thought of it remotely erotic x |
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Poo. i really find poo quite nauseating and it's not exactly sterile.
Sploshing... I'm just not someone who enjoys mess like that.
Daddy/mummy - little. Lots of friends are into this and i really don't get how one becomes aroused by the trappings of childhood.
Nothing inherently wrong with any of the above (though poo safety is difficult). Just very much not my cup of tea.
I'm sure I do things people don't understand..... |
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"What are the fetishes that seem to be popular, but you really don't see the appeal?
With me it's feet. About as sexy as going to Screwfix.
Agree, they are gross. Nothing nice about even the nicest feet and don’t get me started on men’s feet *vom"
I could agree more, feet are not nice at all. I was in the swimming baths this morning and I had a front row view of someone’s feet........ I will never be the same  |
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"Tieing boobs so that they go all blue... Yuk, and writing rude words in lipstick on someone's body.
With you on that. Hate to see things like SLUT and CUM DUMP written on a lady. "
Well we knew we was weird  |
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Lol at the hatred of feet, when it’s my (Chris’s) best bodypart, very unfair.
There’s lots of fetishes we don’t ‘get’ but we do appreciate people are influenced throughout their lives in all sorts of different ways.
In maybe a hundred club visits I don’t think we’ve been shocked by anything, the thing we don’t follow is where a fetish activity doesn’t actually lead to sex. Eg being lead round on a collar literally all night. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"What are the fetishes that seem to be popular, but you really don't see the appeal?
With me it's feet. About as sexy as going to Screwfix."
I admit I have a little foot fetishism but, they have to be really good looking feet.
I suppose it like your favourite band or group that no one knows why you like them or it just for you. Until it becomes mainstream and then it just becomes fad. |
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I'm more curious about how some of the really niche/odd kinks get "set" in a person.
There's a few I don't get, and do nothing for me, but not much I wouldn't do if someone liked it enough.
Probably poo is the only one off the list! |
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"Hmmm well some of the fetishes that many of you are turning your noses up at are definitely on my list 
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Don't worry about them. You like what you like. These kink shaming vanilla bitches shouldn't put you off anything. You should join FL though, its much more open and accepting towards kink. |
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"Hmmm well some of the fetishes that many of you are turning your noses up at are definitely on my list
Don't worry about them. You like what you like. These kink shaming vanilla bitches shouldn't put you off anything. You should join FL though, its much more open and accepting towards kink. "
Proud to be a "vanilla bitch". Babe in Total Control of Herself.  |
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"Hmmm well some of the fetishes that many of you are turning your noses up at are definitely on my list
Don't worry about them. You like what you like. These kink shaming vanilla bitches shouldn't put you off anything. You should join FL though, its much more open and accepting towards kink.
Proud to be a "vanilla bitch". Babe in Total Control of Herself. "
That's good for you. People like what they like.
No need for vanilla people to be constantly kink shaming us just because they don't get it though. |
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"Also why are you insinuating that just because someone is kinky they must not have control of themselves. That's a bit ignorant. "
Certainly not. Just writing the abbreviation in full. It has nothing to do with sexual preferences. |
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"Hmmm well some of the fetishes that many of you are turning your noses up at are definitely on my list
Don't worry about them. You like what you like. These kink shaming vanilla bitches shouldn't put you off anything. You should join FL though, its much more open and accepting towards kink.
Proud to be a "vanilla bitch". Babe in Total Control of Herself.
That's good for you. People like what they like.
No need for vanilla people to be constantly kink shaming us just because they don't get it though. "
The question was "What don't you get?" Just answering the question. |
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"Hmmm well some of the fetishes that many of you are turning your noses up at are definitely on my list
Don't worry about them. You like what you like. These kink shaming vanilla bitches shouldn't put you off anything. You should join FL though, its much more open and accepting towards kink. "
Don’t see how it’s kink shaming?? Genuinely interesting question I think. |
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"Hmmm well some of the fetishes that many of you are turning your noses up at are definitely on my list
Don't worry about them. You like what you like. These kink shaming vanilla bitches shouldn't put you off anything. You should join FL though, its much more open and accepting towards kink.
Don’t see how it’s kink shaming?? Genuinely interesting question I think. "
The OPs question isn't. There is tons of kinks I don't get or have any interest in.
But the people commenting stuff about how it's gross or weird etc are kink shaming and that's not right.
It's already difficult enough to be kinky especially when you're new to it and your kink is particularly niche because you're already internalising tons of shame and embarrassment. And responses like the ones on here only make people feel more ashamed and embarrassed.
Some people here need to remember what site they are on. |
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"What are the fetishes that seem to be popular, but you really don't see the appeal?
With me it's feet. About as sexy as going to Screwfix."
So will I find you at Screwfix. What's so bad about Screwfix. You might get better luck there with what you want. |
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"Hmmm well some of the fetishes that many of you are turning your noses up at are definitely on my list
Don't worry about them. You like what you like. These kink shaming vanilla bitches shouldn't put you off anything. You should join FL though, its much more open and accepting towards kink.
Don’t see how it’s kink shaming?? Genuinely interesting question I think.
The OPs question isn't. There is tons of kinks I don't get or have any interest in.
But the people commenting stuff about how it's gross or weird etc are kink shaming and that's not right.
It's already difficult enough to be kinky especially when you're new to it and your kink is particularly niche because you're already internalising tons of shame and embarrassment. And responses like the ones on here only make people feel more ashamed and embarrassed.
Some people here need to remember what site they are on. "
No I disagree. Don’t really see any kink shaming on here, just opinions. Someone saying feet are gross isn’t kink shaming that’s an opinion. If someone feels they’re being kink shamed on here they need tougher skin if they’re going to hang around. I’ve seen it on here before and I don’t agree with it as each to their own but people are just answering the OP question as far as I can see. |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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I meant to send this a couple of hours ago but got side tracked.
I respect the right of free speech and commentary. But it applies both ways.
As someone involved in fetish it appears to me to be acceptable on fab to go beyond saying something is not for you or you don't understand it but to be rude about kinks and those that practice them. Despite the fact that the kinks are consensual, and not abusive. In other words adults having fun. I am sure vanilla people could say lots of rude things about swinging in its variety, such as weird, gross or strange.
As swingers we would say it is non of their business. As kinksters we say the same. It is not too long ago people were free to be abusive about gay people. When I was young I remember the jokes and comments made. We are only now rolling back that prejudice.
I am always puzzled by people giving views on non mainstream adult fun. Sometimes it feels like the bad old days when it was acceptable to be rude about people who had different cultures.
Even on the discussions about kink on Fab, people who are supposed to be experts in kink make very vanilla statements.
In kink they say " your kink is not my kink but I respect your right to do it". Which, in the absence of abuse or lack of consent, is the way to approach kinky practices you don't understand. |
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If we all liked the same thing fab would be a dull boring place "
I done want try poo but if a couple are into it. what they do is up to them.
I sat in pub one night listening to a vanilla friend go on about how disgusting oral sex was lol i just said nothing but thought might be why your gf left you
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By *n080971Man
over a year ago
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Assuming it’s legal i’d say don’t knock it till you’ve tried it. Never in a million years would have actually gone looking to be made wear a collar, bent over then flogged and fingered by a woman wearing a latex hood. Turns out it was quite fun |
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"Assuming it’s legal i’d say don’t knock it till you’ve tried it. Never in a million years would have actually gone looking to be made wear a collar, bent over then flogged and fingered by a woman wearing a latex hood. Turns out it was quite fun "
Good for you.. |
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Lots of things I don’t understand, but each to their own eh. Hence we have profiles with what we like on it. It’s not right to have a go at others just because it’s not your thing !!
Come on peeps be nice x |
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"I meant to send this a couple of hours ago but got side tracked.
I respect the right of free speech and commentary. But it applies both ways.
As someone involved in fetish it appears to me to be acceptable on fab to go beyond saying something is not for you or you don't understand it but to be rude about kinks and those that practice them. Despite the fact that the kinks are consensual, and not abusive. In other words adults having fun. I am sure vanilla people could say lots of rude things about swinging in its variety, such as weird, gross or strange.
As swingers we would say it is non of their business. As kinksters we say the same. It is not too long ago people were free to be abusive about gay people. When I was young I remember the jokes and comments made. We are only now rolling back that prejudice.
I am always puzzled by people giving views on non mainstream adult fun. Sometimes it feels like the bad old days when it was acceptable to be rude about people who had different cultures.
Even on the discussions about kink on Fab, people who are supposed to be experts in kink make very vanilla statements.
In kink they say " your kink is not my kink but I respect your right to do it". Which, in the absence of abuse or lack of consent, is the way to approach kinky practices you don't understand."
I think that saying that you find something disgusting is not being abusive or rude, it’s just a statement of fact. It’s no different to people calling the vanilla world boring.
Now if someone was derogatory towards someone because of their choices, then that would be different. |
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"I meant to send this a couple of hours ago but got side tracked.
I respect the right of free speech and commentary. But it applies both ways.
As someone involved in fetish it appears to me to be acceptable on fab to go beyond saying something is not for you or you don't understand it but to be rude about kinks and those that practice them. Despite the fact that the kinks are consensual, and not abusive. In other words adults having fun. I am sure vanilla people could say lots of rude things about swinging in its variety, such as weird, gross or strange.
As swingers we would say it is non of their business. As kinksters we say the same. It is not too long ago people were free to be abusive about gay people. When I was young I remember the jokes and comments made. We are only now rolling back that prejudice.
I am always puzzled by people giving views on non mainstream adult fun. Sometimes it feels like the bad old days when it was acceptable to be rude about people who had different cultures.
Even on the discussions about kink on Fab, people who are supposed to be experts in kink make very vanilla statements.
In kink they say " your kink is not my kink but I respect your right to do it". Which, in the absence of abuse or lack of consent, is the way to approach kinky practices you don't understand.
I think that saying that you find something disgusting is not being abusive or rude, it’s just a statement of fact. It’s no different to people calling the vanilla world boring.
Now if someone was derogatory towards someone because of their choices, then that would be different."
Like in the reply directly above yours? |
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over a year ago
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Here are lost of things I wouldn't do, but understand the fetish.
Scat is about the only one I just do not understand.
Anything else, I get why some people are into it, even if I'm not.
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I have a foot fetish (Mr) but I don’t love all feet. Big feet, chipped nail varnish etc are a turn off for me. On the other hand a delicate, clean pair of small feet with button toes are heaven. Shouldn’t hate all feet equally! |
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i must be so peculiar i love feet toes painted toes licking heels rimming spanking w/s snowballing etc etc i thought i heard somewhere there were two things you shouldnt try in your life and one of them was folk music - or was that jazz ?? |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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"I meant to send this a couple of hours ago but got side tracked.
I respect the right of free speech and commentary. But it applies both ways.
As someone involved in fetish it appears to me to be acceptable on fab to go beyond saying something is not for you or you don't understand it but to be rude about kinks and those that practice them. Despite the fact that the kinks are consensual, and not abusive. In other words adults having fun. I am sure vanilla people could say lots of rude things about swinging in its variety, such as weird, gross or strange.
As swingers we would say it is non of their business. As kinksters we say the same. It is not too long ago people were free to be abusive about gay people. When I was young I remember the jokes and comments made. We are only now rolling back that prejudice.
I am always puzzled by people giving views on non mainstream adult fun. Sometimes it feels like the bad old days when it was acceptable to be rude about people who had different cultures.
Even on the discussions about kink on Fab, people who are supposed to be experts in kink make very vanilla statements.
In kink they say " your kink is not my kink but I respect your right to do it". Which, in the absence of abuse or lack of consent, is the way to approach kinky practices you don't understand.
I think that saying that you find something disgusting is not being abusive or rude, it’s just a statement of fact. It’s no different to people calling the vanilla world boring.
Now if someone was derogatory towards someone because of their choices, then that would be different.
Like in the reply directly above yours? "
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"Lots of things I don’t understand, but each to their own eh. Hence we have profiles with what we like on it. It’s not right to have a go at others just because it’s not your thing !!
Come on peeps be nice x"
We dont all have profiles with what we like on it, despite fab supposedly being quite open minded etc when I listed my fetishes my profile got deleted so hence my profile is quite blank now. |
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"Tieing boobs so that they go all blue... Yuk, and writing rude words in lipstick on someone's body. "
This ..... also piss and poo just gross
Don't even get me started in this "if my master let's me " bollocks |
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"What are the fetishes that seem to be popular, but you really don't see the appeal?"
The whole dom/sub thing is a complete mystery to us. We're all equal and we don't want to treat anybody (or be treated) any other way. |
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"Messy food sex, what's sexual about it, just can't see the appeal??? X "
Food fun is great. I love covering a woman in something like yoghurt or chocolate sauce and whipped cream. Then slowly licking and kissing her clean. |
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"I've read this whole thread hoping to find out what skat (fab won't let me spell it correctly) is! Can someone please help  "
Poo play. Having somebody poo on you. Some scatters like to bite the poo in half. Not for me. |
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"What are the fetishes that seem to be popular, but you really don't see the appeal?
The whole dom/sub thing is a complete mystery to us. We're all equal and we don't want to treat anybody (or be treated) any other way. "
Hmm, it's a difficult one to explain. From the outside looking in it seems like an unequal partnership. But speaking from a sub perspective I am very much in control of the scene - if I'm not into it, we stop. It's the power play within the scene that we both find so erotic. It's not one person controlling the other in the non bdsm sense as it's something both parties seek. Does that make sense?
Mrs TMN x |
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"I meant to send this a couple of hours ago but got side tracked.
I respect the right of free speech and commentary. But it applies both ways.
As someone involved in fetish it appears to me to be acceptable on fab to go beyond saying something is not for you or you don't understand it but to be rude about kinks and those that practice them. Despite the fact that the kinks are consensual, and not abusive. In other words adults having fun. I am sure vanilla people could say lots of rude things about swinging in its variety, such as weird, gross or strange.
As swingers we would say it is non of their business. As kinksters we say the same. It is not too long ago people were free to be abusive about gay people. When I was young I remember the jokes and comments made. We are only now rolling back that prejudice.
I am always puzzled by people giving views on non mainstream adult fun. Sometimes it feels like the bad old days when it was acceptable to be rude about people who had different cultures.
Even on the discussions about kink on Fab, people who are supposed to be experts in kink make very vanilla statements.
In kink they say " your kink is not my kink but I respect your right to do it". Which, in the absence of abuse or lack of consent, is the way to approach kinky practices you don't understand."
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"I've read this whole thread hoping to find out what skat (fab won't let me spell it correctly) is! Can someone please help
Poo play. Having somebody poo on you. Some scatters like to bite the poo in half. Not for me. "
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"What are the fetishes that seem to be popular, but you really don't see the appeal?
The whole dom/sub thing is a complete mystery to us. We're all equal and we don't want to treat anybody (or be treated) any other way.
Hmm, it's a difficult one to explain. From the outside looking in it seems like an unequal partnership. But speaking from a sub perspective I am very much in control of the scene - if I'm not into it, we stop. It's the power play within the scene that we both find so erotic. It's not one person controlling the other in the non bdsm sense as it's something both parties seek. Does that make sense?
Mrs TMN x "
That’s how I feel. I haven’t felt the desire to relinquish power to anyone before I met Mr. I was always adamant it was wrong and abusive, but that was because I was approaching it from the viewpoint of someone who had been controlled in a non BDSM sense.
Then I met Mr. The pain I experience from being spanked is very much different to the pain I felt from being assaulted. But that’s just one small element of us. I choose to participate. I trust him completely. He loves that he has someone who does that. It’s a symbiotic relationship, not one of inequality. We fill a need within each other.
That is what I have found to be empowering. That I can now relax enough to trust someone else. He will never hurt me or make me do anything beyond what I want to do. I am not a sub to anyone but him. I may never be again. It’s the love I feel for the man, how truthful we are with each other and how I know that he respects my rights to have a say in what is done to my body, etc, that has meant I’m in this role.
I’m equal to him, I choose this and can walk away without fear of reprisals. I never could with my exes x
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Anything that assumes that both(all) parties are not equal is not on our radar. The schoolgirl thing is an absolute no-no as this assumes a dominant role for the "adult".
Anything that smells unpleasant and that can included someone beery breath.
G&A
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This has opened a big ole can of worms.
That's probably a fetish too.
I like a sexy foot, mine are an erogenous zone , I get turned on when a guy or woman cums on them. Strappy heeels clinging to my feet. Wanking a guy with my feet.
Once complimented a girl with tiny size 3/4 feet in high heel mules on the tube, she appreciated my compliment.
I have a theory alot of sc4t porn is fake. they make fake poo insert it and then poo it out.
I once made a fake poo, flour n water n chocolate powder and placed it on a friends car bonnet after a night out.
He was cussing the hell out of the "d*unken fucker" who crapped on his pride n joy. It looked pretty good, really pround of it too.
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"Tieing boobs so that they go all blue... Yuk, and writing rude words in lipstick on someone's body.
With you on that. Hate to see things like SLUT and CUM DUMP written on a lady. "
Oh god yeah !! I really don’t get that at all ... looks so nasty |
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"Tieing boobs so that they go all blue... Yuk, and writing rude words in lipstick on someone's body.
With you on that. Hate to see things like SLUT and CUM DUMP written on a lady.
Oh god yeah !! I really don’t get that at all ... looks so nasty "
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"Tieing boobs so that they go all blue... Yuk, and writing rude words in lipstick on someone's body.
With you on that. Hate to see things like SLUT and CUM DUMP written on a lady.
Oh god yeah !! I really don’t get that at all ... looks so nasty you back from your hols? Tan fading fast? "
Back and it’s staying nicely |
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"What are the fetishes that seem to be popular, but you really don't see the appeal?
The whole dom/sub thing is a complete mystery to us. We're all equal and we don't want to treat anybody (or be treated) any other way.
Hmm, it's a difficult one to explain. From the outside looking in it seems like an unequal partnership. But speaking from a sub perspective I am very much in control of the scene - if I'm not into it, we stop. It's the power play within the scene that we both find so erotic. It's not one person controlling the other in the non bdsm sense as it's something both parties seek. Does that make sense?
Mrs TMN x
That’s how I feel. I haven’t felt the desire to relinquish power to anyone before I met Mr. I was always adamant it was wrong and abusive, but that was because I was approaching it from the viewpoint of someone who had been controlled in a non BDSM sense.
Then I met Mr. The pain I experience from being spanked is very much different to the pain I felt from being assaulted. But that’s just one small element of us. I choose to participate. I trust him completely. He loves that he has someone who does that. It’s a symbiotic relationship, not one of inequality. We fill a need within each other.
That is what I have found to be empowering. That I can now relax enough to trust someone else. He will never hurt me or make me do anything beyond what I want to do. I am not a sub to anyone but him. I may never be again. It’s the love I feel for the man, how truthful we are with each other and how I know that he respects my rights to have a say in what is done to my body, etc, that has meant I’m in this role.
I’m equal to him, I choose this and can walk away without fear of reprisals. I never could with my exes x
Viv xx"
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