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Disabled part2
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 and he was so nice about it that just made me feel even more like a horrible person | |||
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"My first post in forums, so don't shoot me down! I have a disability that no one would know about unless I told them. It doesn't affect the people I play with so they have no need to know. When my disability does affect how I play I withdraw from the site and don't play until well again. Some disabilities that are obvious you have to tell potential playmates so they can make informed decisions, but some disabilities are harder to spot or are not always there. Some illnesses that cause disabilities go into remission and people are well for months or years. In answer to the question, no I wouldn't tell potential meets about my my disability and i would only tell trusted my playmate, even then it is on a need to know basis." Welcome to the forums , Lotus . As I have mentioned in a previous thread on the same topic . I have a disability which is not visible to people if I was to be stood waiting for a bus for example. ( bad example I never use a bus lol ) . I would still tell anyone who I planned to meet about my disability as I understand this site is for people that want to have fun of a physical nature and I would not want to spoil that fun because I failed to mention this. | |||
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"Thank you zeraus, I get where you are coming from regarding telling people you play with, but I worked nearly 20 years with the people who have the same disability I have have and there is still a huge stigma attached to it. Everyone has a right to make an informed choice but not every disability can be talked about easily before meeting and building up a trust. As my disability does not affect me physically or my performance I prefer to keep quiet " Welcome and i agree, for nsa sex if your disability is not visible and does not affect the meet then why should you mention it...should i mention to every bloke who comes for mmf i have suffered from depression? | |||
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"Thank you zeraus, I get where you are coming from regarding telling people you play with, but I worked nearly 20 years with the people who have the same disability I have have and there is still a huge stigma attached to it. Everyone has a right to make an informed choice but not every disability can be talked about easily before meeting and building up a trust. As my disability does not affect me physically or my performance I prefer to keep quiet Welcome and i agree, for nsa sex if your disability is not visible and does not affect the meet then why should you mention it...should i mention to every bloke who comes for mmf i have suffered from depression?" Only talking about current disabilities otherwise were all going to have bloody long meets if where going to discuss all our past medical history | |||
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"I'm deaf, have been since birth, I just hope people see beyond that, but sadly been left in tears with rude people on here x" Rude people , deserve a block and move on . But then some ladies like the ruder type of guy  | |||
"Thank you Jemima, we would never meet anyone if we went in depth to non physical disabilities to potential playmates. It would be never ending mails regarding our heath and well being." Exactly...ppl deserve to know if it might affect the meet,otherwise it is private. | |||
"I'm deaf, have been since birth, I just hope people see beyond that, but sadly been left in tears with rude people on here x" Thats disgraceful Everyone has the right to say...sorry not what im looking for, noone has the right to be derogatory To be honest all this type of behaviour shows is they're not the type of peson you'd want to meet anyway | |||
If your disability is going to impact on someone else's enjoyment tell them, allow them to make an informed choice to play with you or not.
Accept it as a preference and don't accuse them of being shallow etc...we're each here for our own pleasure. Disability or not, we'll never appeal to everyone. | |||
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"For me you need to be up front about a disability if it is going to affect or impact on the person or people you are going to meet. My disability is in my profile to give people the chance to bow out early as it were. It is everyone's personal choice to meet or not with anyone on here disability or not, nothing worst than meeting and not feeling comfy with it, at the end of the day most are here for fun. " i think as far as sight goes it depends how bad the persons vision was, as i said on the other thread i really do not think i could play with a blind person, not because the fact they couldnt see bothered me but because they couldnt see ME would bother me, how do you know if someone is attracted to you if they cant see you? i know that if you cant see that probably wouldnt bother you as you'd go for other things about a person instead, but thinking this person may not fancy me if he could see me would bother me and i would feel i was taking advantage a little | |||
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"when i was younger ,i was great friends with a girl who never had useof her legs and was wheelchair bound ,she used to conplain that guys only wanted to be friends ,she was clever and the top haff of her body was lovely realy prity too,the enivatable hapened and we ended up haveing sex ,sad to say but to begin with i felt sorry for her a 20y/o virgin,but we grew closer and closer and the sex became making love she was a great looked had a lovely bottom ,and was in ways as strong as a ox and could probably put most women to shame ,the things she could do had mussle control way beyond ,she ended up going to uni and we grew apart ,and she met a lovly guy ,we still e.mail yet she and hubby live in austrial,.And she still says to this day that i gave her to self confadance to use her body for its porpose ,and loves me for it ,what a shame i let her go,aw" Good on you for that, it must have been a unique and interesting experience... | |||
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