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By *rotica x OP Couple
over a year ago
Chepstow/Portugal |
Why is is okay for people to judge fetishes - yet it’s okay to dress as a school girl.... hmmm I’m seeing messages on here that contradict their own actions.
Why can’t people on here be true to themselves and stop acting like they’re gods gift. Sorry but we all have our likes and dislikes. I’m sure certain people will message on this.
My message is - STOP BULLYING PEOPLE WHEN YOU WE ALL HAVE THE SAME STANDARDS REGARDLESS
Tell me, do you have a school girl outfit - or men, do you have that school girl outfit fantasy?
Stop judging others. I’m sick of reading forums and seeing bullies and contradictions. Women are as bad as men. Standard. |
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over a year ago
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I own a school girl outfit 
And people don’t have the same standards. Some people will be creeped out by fetishes, and that’s okay. What isn’t okay is arguing with those and telling someone they are ‘wrong’ or being abusive to someone because of their fetish or kink (as long as it’s legal!).
Being pregnant has opened me up to a whole load of men who fetishise pregnant women, and that creeps me out a lot. I just block ‘em when they message me, cause I can’t be done with it.
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By *rotica x OP Couple
over a year ago
Chepstow/Portugal |
"I own a school girl outfit
And people don’t have the same standards. Some people will be creeped out by fetishes, and that’s okay. What isn’t okay is arguing with those and telling someone they are ‘wrong’ or being abusive to someone because of their fetish or kink (as long as it’s legal!).
Being pregnant has opened me up to a whole load of men who fetishise pregnant women, and that creeps me out a lot. I just block ‘em when they message me, cause I can’t be done with it.
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I’m very respectful to that response. I just hate seeing on the forums how people can’t respect others kinks yet see their own kinks as okay. Nothing is wrong (as long as it’s not illegal), and people here have their own preferences. That be - only searching for men or women or couples. |
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People don't respect each others kinks and preferences in general. There are a couple of things I don't do and get a whole heap of criticism over. Fortunately I don't give a twopenny damn.
Individuals however can be very respectful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it very odd that people who class themselves as open minded swingers can be so judgemental towards others.. there is absolutely no need to kink shame anyone yet it happens regularly on here |
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By *rotica x OP Couple
over a year ago
Chepstow/Portugal |
"I find it very odd that people who class themselves as open minded swingers can be so judgemental towards others.. there is absolutely no need to kink shame anyone yet it happens regularly on here"
I find it absolutely disgusting and I’m not ashamed to say it if I’m honest. I’ve had so many women say to me that I’m desperate for money or he’s holding me hostage for our age difference. Much like LGBT, I’m willing to stand up for our age difference and who we like and what we like. I don’t want to come on here and see diversity! I want people to see differences and explore them or just move along...
We are all adults. We like what we like! Get over it. Stop insulting others for what they like and get on with what you want to do. Don’t keep investing your hate on other people. I’m sick of it. |
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The school girl thing makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. I get that it's fine among grown ups on a site like this, but when it is mainstream (usually in music videos or hen nights) it is sexualising children so I'm prepared to give it a swerve for the greater good. |
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By *rotica x OP Couple
over a year ago
Chepstow/Portugal |
"The school girl thing makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. I get that it's fine among grown ups on a site like this, but when it is mainstream (usually in music videos or hen nights) it is sexualising children so I'm prepared to give it a swerve for the greater good."
Bless your heart. People seem to think it’s okay judging others kinks but as the school girl outfit is so regularly used, people seem to forget just what they’re reinacting. As it is a well known kink - I don’t think it’s being seen as what it is anymore. It’s an odd concept but it happens?? |
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I suppose what I mean is I'm prepared to be held to a higher standard when it comes to certain things like child abuse, misogyny, homophobia and racism because we have a lot of lost ground to make up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had my share of judgemental people on this site. They think they are holier than thou. Just because they don't like my profile or my kinks, they think they can judge me. You'd think people on this site would be more tolerant after all they wouldn't want people who are not on this site judging or even knowing about them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is is okay for people to judge fetishes - yet it’s okay to dress as a school girl.... hmmm I’m seeing messages on here that contradict their own actions.
Why can’t people on here be true to themselves and stop acting like they’re gods gift. Sorry but we all have our likes and dislikes. I’m sure certain people will message on this.
My message is - STOP BULLYING PEOPLE WHEN YOU WE ALL HAVE THE SAME STANDARDS REGARDLESS
Tell me, do you have a school girl outfit - or men, do you have that school girl outfit fantasy?
Stop judging others. I’m sick of reading forums and seeing bullies and contradictions. Women are as bad as men. Standard. "
I don't have a school girl outfit and I have no interest in one and my standards are different to yours but I completely understand where you're coming from  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree. My wife tells me storys about her school days. Let's just say they get me hot round the collar lol. Doesn't make me some type of sex offender. But I wouldn't post them storys because of people's reaction. And the people who run the site. People don't come here to offend anyone. I certainly don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We see a lot of kinks on here that we don't really understand but as long as it's legal no one should give a shit.
People who judge should also remember that people in the main would judge them for simply being on a site like this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We see a lot of kinks on here that we don't really understand but as long as it's legal no one should give a shit.
People who judge should also remember that people in the main would judge them for simply being on a site like this."
especially a judge |
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My message is - STOP BULLYING PEOPLE WHEN YOU WE ALL HAVE THE SAME STANDARDS REGARDLESS
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But we don't all have the same standards on here. For example some married people are secretly on here cheating and other people wont meet those that are. And bareback always divides opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My message is - STOP BULLYING PEOPLE WHEN YOU WE ALL HAVE THE SAME STANDARDS REGARDLESS
But we don't all have the same standards on here. For example some married people are secretly on here cheating and other people wont meet those that are. And bareback always divides opinion. "
The “we’re all adults and, as long as nobody gets hurt” motto shall give you a reason as to why some wish not to meet those in question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it very odd that people who class themselves as open minded swingers can be so judgemental towards others.. there is absolutely no need to kink shame anyone yet it happens regularly on here"
This ! |
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"I find it very odd that people who class themselves as open minded swingers can be so judgemental towards others.. there is absolutely no need to kink shame anyone yet it happens regularly on here
This !"
This for me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it very odd that people who class themselves as open minded swingers can be so judgemental towards others.. there is absolutely no need to kink shame anyone yet it happens regularly on here
This !"
I don’t find it odd, projection and transference are rife. Understanding and acceptance are what’s really needed. |
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I don't care what anyone else does so long as it doesn't affect me or hurt others. I don't get the school girl thing myself never have and now because I have a school aged daughter who has had a creepy shit of a stranger driving past her taking photo's after school.
Anyway just do what you want,people will shame others so what just ignore them and do what you enjoy. |
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A kink is a kink. As long as both parties are happy and healthy who gives a damn what you do as long as its legal.
It took me so long to admit I was little and I'm still anxious admitting we have a daddy/brat dynamic but I'm getting better at it.
Seen someone mention in the daddy thread yesterday, it's a problem for guys to be called daddy yet people call each other baby all of the time.
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Cmon people, it is fantasy, women like to dress up for sex and if it's a schoolgirl or a maid or a mistress it's all to get them in the mood , what about guys who like to be school boys and dominated ,
It's a play , would you rather a lights off missionary position wife once a week , no didn't think so .
Life is way too short , so if it's just you two then play away |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is is okay for people to judge fetishes - yet it’s okay to dress as a school girl.... hmmm I’m seeing messages on here that contradict their own actions.
Why can’t people on here be true to themselves and stop acting like they’re gods gift. Sorry but we all have our likes and dislikes. I’m sure certain people will message on this.
My message is - STOP BULLYING PEOPLE WHEN YOU WE ALL HAVE THE SAME STANDARDS REGARDLESS
Tell me, do you have a school girl outfit - or men, do you have that school girl outfit fantasy?
Stop judging others. I’m sick of reading forums and seeing bullies and contradictions. Women are as bad as men. Standard. "
We don't all have the same standards.
What's actually happened? You have a school girl outfit and people think you're weird because your man is old enough to be your dad? |
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"I find it very odd that people who class themselves as open minded swingers can be so judgemental towards others.. there is absolutely no need to kink shame anyone yet it happens regularly on here
This !
This for me too "
me too ! |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
I hate kink shaming!! I'm into being degraded so I don't mention it much. Because as soon as there is threads on it people become judgemental!!
I do own a school girl outfit it was for a roleplay scene.
There are kinks I don't enjoy but whatever floats your boat in my book!!
I think when people see we're into BDSM on our profile it puts them off! Oh well their loss |
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The problem occurs I think in trying to bring societal norms or behaviours into a world that breaks so many of those. This world is now one of judgement and like you OP I am baffled by someone's need to correct my thinking.
My response has always been "you do you". By the way I have a thing for electric blue eyeshadow, pubic hair and brightly coloured fishnets. This is born from 1970s porn which was what was kicking around when I was a lad. |
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I do find a man getting off on a lady wearing a school uniform a little distasteful..
I’m not judging others but what underlying factors are at work here ..
Speaking as a parent here and not a swinger ..
I’m just adding to the debate so don’t shoot me xx |
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"I hate kink shaming!! I'm into being degraded so I don't mention it much. Because as soon as there is threads on it people become judgemental!!
I do own a school girl outfit it was for a roleplay scene.
There are kinks I don't enjoy but whatever floats your boat in my book!!
I think when people see we're into BDSM on our profile it puts them off! Oh well their loss"
Not "their loss" as they have no interest. Never understand why people say that, but I digress...
To me, the kink shaming on here is akin to Lewis Hamilton berating Valentino Rossi for driving too fast. He can in his car but he can't on his bike. Some kinks are fine, others not. Who's going to be the judge and jury on deciding which ones are acceptable?
By virtue of being on this site, most would see us as disgusting, perverted deviants, so why bicker amongst ourselves? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate kink shaming!! I'm into being degraded so I don't mention it much. Because as soon as there is threads on it people become judgemental!!
I do own a school girl outfit it was for a roleplay scene.
There are kinks I don't enjoy but whatever floats your boat in my book!!
I think when people see we're into BDSM on our profile it puts them off! Oh well their loss"
How can it be their loss if they didn’t want it? In order to feel a sense of loss, I’d have to want something and then not get it.  |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"I hate kink shaming!! I'm into being degraded so I don't mention it much. Because as soon as there is threads on it people become judgemental!!
I do own a school girl outfit it was for a roleplay scene.
There are kinks I don't enjoy but whatever floats your boat in my book!!
I think when people see we're into BDSM on our profile it puts them off! Oh well their loss
How can it be their loss if they didn’t want it? In order to feel a sense of loss, I’d have to want something and then not get it. "
Just a phrase... |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"I hate kink shaming!! I'm into being degraded so I don't mention it much. Because as soon as there is threads on it people become judgemental!!
I do own a school girl outfit it was for a roleplay scene.
There are kinks I don't enjoy but whatever floats your boat in my book!!
I think when people see we're into BDSM on our profile it puts them off! Oh well their loss
How can it be their loss if they didn’t want it? In order to feel a sense of loss, I’d have to want something and then not get it.
Just a phrase... "
It was more about the fact they see BDSM perhaps puts them off rather than contact us. Because we do play vanilla as well! |
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"A kink is a kink. As long as both parties are happy and healthy who gives a damn what you do as long as its legal.
It took me so long to admit I was little and I'm still anxious admitting we have a daddy/brat dynamic but I'm getting better at it.
Seen someone mention in the daddy thread yesterday, it's a problem for guys to be called daddy yet people call each other baby all of the time.
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That's not what you said in the other thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm always happy to dress up and be kinky . Each to their own but I dont like the schoolgirl scenario etc. Just as much as I dont like seeing a 60 year old dude eye balling a schoolgirl walking to her bus stop in the morning. It cringes me out! Yuk. I dont think u can compare a maid dress up to a school girl for example . It has a completely different meaning for me and that's fine. Just like it's fine if u do like it. It's an opinion and that's it xxmiss |
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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago
huddersfield |
My kink is dressing like female yes people do juge before getting to know someone it's my thing makes me feel good but am still a genuine person that's respectfull of others I'd allways chat and meet others as male if that's what they want |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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See, I don't see the schoolgirl outfit as that bad, I have one and if I wear it it's not because of the "young" sentiment, it's about being taught something new, that someone else is in control to a degree.
I do find them creepy in countries (Japan) where the entire premise of the outfit seems to be age related.
I'm sure people think we're freaks for wearing some of the things we do, for some of our kinks, as we may find some of theirs odd. Doesn't mean I might respect them any less as a person, just means we might not get on in the desire department.
Providing there are good hearts beneath it, live and let live, and more power to the people for letting themselves enjoy.
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By *rotica x OP Couple
over a year ago
Chepstow/Portugal |
PERSONALLY I just think people on here should stop writing negative shaming to others. The majority being male - female shaming men.
That’s what got me to write this post. I don’t give a crap about what your kink is - so why do you have a problem with mine.
There is a message back to this post by someone mentioning our age... sorry - we are in the 21st century wtf has age got to do with love?? I’m sure many males would love to find a younger female for fertility but I’m sure other males want older for their maturity...
This post has nothing to do about AGE difference of a relationship. It’s about kink shaming and bullying on these forums.
I’d love to throw out the old “grow up” strategy. But it hasn’t and will never work...
People are so politically correct nowadays (I’m 25) and it’s ruining what we were!! I can’t watch comedians any more with out thinking “if I laugh people will be offended” but ones joke is another’s problem.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your kink is not my kink but your kink is OK. "
Or in our case it would be more along the lines of "Your kink is probably one of our kinks, but if not it's OK"... 
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