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"Going to a club and really want my hubby to get off watching me fucking others,any ideas on how to get him to come round to the idea of enjoying watch me take others cock,I need to get him turned so it all becomes natural.any help appreciated" Has he not enjoyed your previous encounters? | |||
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"Going to a club and really want my hubby to get off watching me fucking others,any ideas on how to get him to come round to the idea of enjoying watch me take others cock,I need to get him turned so it all becomes natural.any help appreciated" You need him to? Respect that it isn’t his thing and move on.  | |||
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"I wont let him,It would make me jealous,but he does like me playing with others but no fucking,we always go to a club on single men nite" Sound like you both need to put the brakes on and have a serious discussion. It comes across that he may be already past his comfort zone and feels unable to tell you. | |||
"Yes I know but I really want to and likes to see me play" But if he’s not into it then you need to respect that? I’d hate it if my husband couldn’t respect my comfort zones, my turn ons etc | |||
"Isn’t it a little hypocritical of you to try and convince him to let you fuck another bloke when, by your own admission, you won’t allow him to fuck another woman? "this  | |||
"Isn’t it a little hypocritical of you to try and convince him to let you fuck another bloke when, by your own admission, you won’t allow him to fuck another woman? "Ah see it’s difficult. I’m hoping it’s just the way it’s worded 
I play and my husband doesn’t. The thought of him being with someone else doesn’t turn me on at all. And thankfully for me, he has absolutely no desire to fuck anyone else anyway. But he knows fine well that if his desires changed, we would have a chat and we’d both be willing to make it work (who knows, I might love it when the deed is actually done!).
I would never ‘not allow’ him.
But then again - he doesn’t ‘allow me’ to sleep with anyone else. It’s a mutual decision. Like things need to be in a swinging relationship.
Sorry - rambled on about nothing there didn’t I | |||
"We have been to clubs and i have done everything else,he gets turned on but I want to be fucked,hes thinks i wont like his cock anymore if i enjoy someone else's,for me it's just another cock i think lol" Well respect his choice and comfort! | |||
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"Going to a club and really want my hubby to get off watching me fucking others,any ideas on how to get him to come round to the idea of enjoying watch me take others cock,I need to get him turned so it all becomes natural.any help appreciated" Grow up and don’t be so selfish, it’s quite simple...  | |||
"Isn’t it a little hypocritical of you to try and convince him to let you fuck another bloke when, by your own admission, you won’t allow him to fuck another woman? " | |||
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"Maybe I didnt explain it properly,he loves me playing around but I want to fuck,he isn't bothered about fucking other women,I wouldn't like it but also wouldn't stop him." Okay. So respect him and accept that you fucking other men isn’t for him | |||
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"The thing is he wants me to but unsure how I would feel about him after I was,has any other women had problems with there man after and has any women liked it that much that they had a problem because of this " But you started off saying he didn’t want you to and you did? Now it’s the other way round? Are you back tracking? No. I never doubted how I’d feel about my husband. I questioned how I’d feel about myself - would I feel guilty? But nope. My husband loved it, and so did I. But not once did I ever ever feel unsure as to how I would feel about my husband after. We have a completely solid marriage. | |||
"The thing is he wants me to but unsure how I would feel about him after I was,has any other women had problems with there man after and has any women liked it that much that they had a problem because of this " If you are so uncertain of afterwards, don't do it. | |||
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"Maybe I didnt explain it properly,he loves me playing around but I want to fuck,he isn't bothered about fucking other women,I wouldn't like it but also wouldn't stop him." The goal posts are moving a bit here OP ??? First you say you wouldn't let him have sex with other women. Then you say he doesn't want to but you would let him if he did ? Do you really know for sure he 'loves you playing around' , or maybe, it's possible he hates it and has only gone along with it so far because he doesn't want to lose you ? The impression so far is that your relationship is a bit one-sided, and doesn't sound like the typical power-balanced relationships that happy swinging couples usually have. | |||
"Isn’t it a little hypocritical of you to try and convince him to let you fuck another bloke when, by your own admission, you won’t allow him to fuck another woman?
Ah see it’s difficult. I’m hoping it’s just the way it’s worded
I play and my husband doesn’t. The thought of him being with someone else doesn’t turn me on at all. And thankfully for me, he has absolutely no desire to fuck anyone else anyway. But he knows fine well that if his desires changed, we would have a chat and we’d both be willing to make it work (who knows, I might love it when the deed is actually done!).
I would never ‘not allow’ him.
But then again - he doesn’t ‘allow me’ to sleep with anyone else. It’s a mutual decision. Like things need to be in a swinging relationship.
Sorry - rambled on about nothing there didn’t I "No you didn't, and very well said, the hypocrisy thing is always thrown into the mix and understandably so but you said it how we absolutely see it. I (he) like to see Mrs N with others, Mrs not so, but we respect what both of us want to see and not want to, if one of us ever felt left out or slightly put out it's the end of our swinging life, our relationship comes first. I think the op should respect his wishes, he has his boundaries as does she, there shouldn't need to be any convincing, conversation yes, always. | |||
"Isn’t it a little hypocritical of you to try and convince him to let you fuck another bloke when, by your own admission, you won’t allow him to fuck another woman?
Ah see it’s difficult. I’m hoping it’s just the way it’s worded
I play and my husband doesn’t. The thought of him being with someone else doesn’t turn me on at all. And thankfully for me, he has absolutely no desire to fuck anyone else anyway. But he knows fine well that if his desires changed, we would have a chat and we’d both be willing to make it work (who knows, I might love it when the deed is actually done!).
I would never ‘not allow’ him.
But then again - he doesn’t ‘allow me’ to sleep with anyone else. It’s a mutual decision. Like things need to be in a swinging relationship.
Sorry - rambled on about nothing there didn’t I
No you didn't, and very well said, the hypocrisy thing is always thrown into the mix and understandably so but you said it how we absolutely see it. I (he) like to see Mrs N with others, Mrs not so, but we respect what both of us want to see and not want to, if one of us ever felt left out or slightly put out it's the end of our swinging life, our relationship comes first. I think the op should respect his wishes, he has his boundaries as does she, there shouldn't need to be any convincing, conversation yes, always."
I’m glad someone could see where my ramble was coming from! Exactly the same with us. Our marriage always comes first | |||
"Yes I know but I really want to and likes to see me play" Have a good thorough discussion with him about it. Then you know how both of you stand and what to do next. He might be worried of losing you or it’s something that doesn’t turn him on. | |||
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"I'd stop digging myself a bigger hole tbh" You can dig a bigger hole with that big dick of yours stallion | |||
"Can't really make someone enjoy something. If it's not his thing then it's just not. " This. | |||
"Maybe I didnt explain it properly,he loves me playing around but I want to fuck,he isn't bothered about fucking other women,I wouldn't like it but also wouldn't stop him." That's strange, as when someone asked about him fucking other women, your reply was "I wont let him,It would make me jealous". | |||
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"I'd stop digging myself a bigger hole tbh You can dig a bigger hole with that big dick of yours stallion " I want to shov-el of it into your pretty mouth.  | |||
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"Going to a club and really want my hubby to get off watching me fucking others,any ideas on how to get him to come round to the idea of enjoying watch me take others cock,I need to get him turned so it all becomes natural.any help appreciated" If it’s not his thing it’s not his thing ! Plenty of things in the swing scene that leaves me cold but it’s about making the things that turn you on even better Don’t push him on it because it could ruin the whole swing experience | |||
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"Are you familiar with the concept of 'reclaim' sex? Its kind of like a harder version of make up sex Several husbands who share their wife have spoken of the virtues of it. " Always have to reclaim the wife after shes been used | |||
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"Yes I know but I really want to and likes to see me play" I like cereal but I wouldn’t want a bath full forcing down my throat? | |||
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"Maybe I didnt explain it properly,he loves me playing around but I want to fuck,he isn't bothered about fucking other women,I wouldn't like it but also wouldn't stop him." even taking this statement as you say " you wouldnt like it" well he obviously "doesnt like it" so as many before have said put your big girl knickers on and respect his thoughts! " getting " him to do it is deffo not the way to proceed, if you have talked about it and he said "no" then end of | |||
"Are you familiar with the concept of 'reclaim' sex? Its kind of like a harder version of make up sex Several husbands who share their wife have spoken of the virtues of it. " Yes but that is for husbands that WANT to do that not ones "persuaded" to do that! | |||
" I don't think her not wanting him to fuck another woman is the problem here. She has every right to not want her partner to sleep with another woman. It's an agreement that works for many people, myself included, and believe it or not my partner is completely happy with it working that way. I think the problem is you sound like you're trying to force this to happen and that isn't OK. If your partner has made it clear he isn't interested in you fucking another man then it's time to drop it and enjoy the fun you're already having. " I think that you’ll find that is the problem. If she’s not willing to compromise, she can’t have her cake and eat it. The majority of men don’t want their wives/partners being banged, whilst they’re left to merely watch and, be disallowed the same freedom. | |||
" I don't think her not wanting him to fuck another woman is the problem here. She has every right to not want her partner to sleep with another woman. It's an agreement that works for many people, myself included, and believe it or not my partner is completely happy with it working that way. I think the problem is you sound like you're trying to force this to happen and that isn't OK. If your partner has made it clear he isn't interested in you fucking another man then it's time to drop it and enjoy the fun you're already having. I think that you’ll find that is the problem. If she’s not willing to compromise, she can’t have her cake and eat it. The majority of men don’t want their wives/partners being banged, whilst they’re left to merely watch and, be disallowed the same freedom. " Oh for goodness sake I’ve explained this on so many posts, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable if my husband fucked someone else. It isn’t a turn on for me. It turns him on when I fuck someone else. He isn’t ‘disallowed’ the same freedom. When it comes to relationships and swinging, it should be mutual decisions, no ‘allowing’, no ‘my wife says I can’t do this...’ etc. It’s all about MUTUAL DECISIONS Which clearly many people do not get. The amount of stupid abusive messages I’ve received because I don’t ‘let’ my husband play is ridiculous. He doesn’t ‘let’ me play, he doesn’t fucking own me. | |||
" I don't think her not wanting him to fuck another woman is the problem here. She has every right to not want her partner to sleep with another woman. It's an agreement that works for many people, myself included, and believe it or not my partner is completely happy with it working that way. I think the problem is you sound like you're trying to force this to happen and that isn't OK. If your partner has made it clear he isn't interested in you fucking another man then it's time to drop it and enjoy the fun you're already having. I think that you’ll find that is the problem. If she’s not willing to compromise, she can’t have her cake and eat it. The majority of men don’t want their wives/partners being banged, whilst they’re left to merely watch and, be disallowed the same freedom. Oh for goodness sake I’ve explained this on so many posts, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable if my husband fucked someone else. It isn’t a turn on for me. It turns him on when I fuck someone else. He isn’t ‘disallowed’ the same freedom. When it comes to relationships and swinging, it should be mutual decisions, no ‘allowing’, no ‘my wife says I can’t do this...’ etc. It’s all about MUTUAL DECISIONS Which clearly many people do not get. The amount of stupid abusive messages I’ve received because I don’t ‘let’ my husband play is ridiculous. He doesn’t ‘let’ me play, he doesn’t fucking own me. "You are not the op, nor the individual in which I had replied to. You and your husband may see things the way you have described, that isn’t the same for the majority. The husband in this situation is evidently not a porn addict, thus doesn’t view watching as better than the action/sensation. If he were the op clearly wouldn’t be asking the question. This new “my husband doesn’t own me” crap being spouted, should go for the husband also then, if she sleeps with others; he does also regardless of her insecurities. | |||
" I don't think her not wanting him to fuck another woman is the problem here. She has every right to not want her partner to sleep with another woman. It's an agreement that works for many people, myself included, and believe it or not my partner is completely happy with it working that way. I think the problem is you sound like you're trying to force this to happen and that isn't OK. If your partner has made it clear he isn't interested in you fucking another man then it's time to drop it and enjoy the fun you're already having. I think that you’ll find that is the problem. If she’s not willing to compromise, she can’t have her cake and eat it. The majority of men don’t want their wives/partners being banged, whilst they’re left to merely watch and, be disallowed the same freedom. Oh for goodness sake I’ve explained this on so many posts, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable if my husband fucked someone else. It isn’t a turn on for me. It turns him on when I fuck someone else. He isn’t ‘disallowed’ the same freedom. When it comes to relationships and swinging, it should be mutual decisions, no ‘allowing’, no ‘my wife says I can’t do this...’ etc. It’s all about MUTUAL DECISIONS Which clearly many people do not get. The amount of stupid abusive messages I’ve received because I don’t ‘let’ my husband play is ridiculous. He doesn’t ‘let’ me play, he doesn’t fucking own me.
You are not the op, nor the individual in which I had replied to. You and your husband may see things the way you have described, that isn’t the same for the majority.
The husband in this situation is evidently not a porn addict, thus doesn’t view watching as better than the action/sensation. If he were the op clearly wouldn’t be asking the question.
This new “my husband doesn’t own me” crap being spouted, should go for the husband also then, if she sleeps with others; he does also regardless of her insecurities.
"No, he shouldn’t. Neither of them should. That’s the point. No one owns the other just because they’re married. They need to sit and have a chat, and come to a mutual decision. If she can’t respect that, or he can’t respect that, they either need to stop swinging, leave the relationship, or just cheat | |||
" I don't think her not wanting him to fuck another woman is the problem here. She has every right to not want her partner to sleep with another woman. It's an agreement that works for many people, myself included, and believe it or not my partner is completely happy with it working that way. I think the problem is you sound like you're trying to force this to happen and that isn't OK. If your partner has made it clear he isn't interested in you fucking another man then it's time to drop it and enjoy the fun you're already having. I think that you’ll find that is the problem. If she’s not willing to compromise, she can’t have her cake and eat it. The majority of men don’t want their wives/partners being banged, whilst they’re left to merely watch and, be disallowed the same freedom. Oh for goodness sake I’ve explained this on so many posts, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable if my husband fucked someone else. It isn’t a turn on for me. It turns him on when I fuck someone else. He isn’t ‘disallowed’ the same freedom. When it comes to relationships and swinging, it should be mutual decisions, no ‘allowing’, no ‘my wife says I can’t do this...’ etc. It’s all about MUTUAL DECISIONS Which clearly many people do not get. The amount of stupid abusive messages I’ve received because I don’t ‘let’ my husband play is ridiculous. He doesn’t ‘let’ me play, he doesn’t fucking own me.
You are not the op, nor the individual in which I had replied to. You and your husband may see things the way you have described, that isn’t the same for the majority.
The husband in this situation is evidently not a porn addict, thus doesn’t view watching as better than the action/sensation. If he were the op clearly wouldn’t be asking the question.
This new “my husband doesn’t own me” crap being spouted, should go for the husband also then, if she sleeps with others; he does also regardless of her insecurities.
No, he shouldn’t. Neither of them should. That’s the point. No one owns the other just because they’re married. They need to sit and have a chat, and come to a mutual decision. If she can’t respect that, or he can’t respect that, they either need to stop swinging, leave the relationship, or just cheat "You clearly misunderstood my op. The option of cheating is always there, it signs the end of the relationship. If one isn’t happy with the terms they have committed to, leave and live the life you wish to. Life’s too short for people to remain in relationships out of situational comforts. One gets cake, the other gets bread. It’s then no longer mutual nor swinging either. I agree with you about the communication, in case this post comes across otherwise. People cause so much dramas by avoiding it. | |||
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"Thanks for advice,he hasn't mentioned fucked another women,I'd prefer it if he didnt,I want to fuck others with him there because he enjoys it,we ate solid but what I'm worried about is how he will feel once I've fucked someone,how he will feel about me," If he enjoys it, where’s the issue? | |||
" I don't think her not wanting him to fuck another woman is the problem here. She has every right to not want her partner to sleep with another woman. It's an agreement that works for many people, myself included, and believe it or not my partner is completely happy with it working that way. I think the problem is you sound like you're trying to force this to happen and that isn't OK. If your partner has made it clear he isn't interested in you fucking another man then it's time to drop it and enjoy the fun you're already having. I think that you’ll find that is the problem. If she’s not willing to compromise, she can’t have her cake and eat it. The majority of men don’t want their wives/partners being banged, whilst they’re left to merely watch and, be disallowed the same freedom. Oh for goodness sake I’ve explained this on so many posts, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable if my husband fucked someone else. It isn’t a turn on for me. It turns him on when I fuck someone else. He isn’t ‘disallowed’ the same freedom. When it comes to relationships and swinging, it should be mutual decisions, no ‘allowing’, no ‘my wife says I can’t do this...’ etc. It’s all about MUTUAL DECISIONS Which clearly many people do not get. The amount of stupid abusive messages I’ve received because I don’t ‘let’ my husband play is ridiculous. He doesn’t ‘let’ me play, he doesn’t fucking own me. "I’m with you on this ... exactly the same as my situation - myself and my other half mutually decided what we like to see and what we don’t like I get tons of messages on my couple account from couples where the fem is actually put out that he doesn’t want to play with her - like he ‘should’ want to !! | |||
"Isn’t it a little hypocritical of you to try and convince him to let you fuck another bloke when, by your own admission, you won’t allow him to fuck another woman? "This ???? | |||
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"We only ever meet in swingers clubs nowhere else." Another reason we rarely go to swingers clubs nowadays too much of this non mutual play with people with issues going on, so easy to hide this kind of play and mentality in open play rooms in clubs | |||
"Going to a club and really want my hubby to get off watching me fucking others,any ideas on how to get him to come round to the idea of enjoying watch me take others cock,I need to get him turned so it all becomes natural.any help appreciated" To be honest most hubbies enjoy watching there wife’s or girlfriends fucking other guys and I definitely get turned on having them watching me fuck there wife’s and girlfriends | |||
"Going to a club and really want my hubby to get off watching me fucking others,any ideas on how to get him to come round to the idea of enjoying watch me take others cock,I need to get him turned so it all becomes natural.any help appreciated To be honest most hubbies enjoy watching there wife’s or girlfriends fucking other guys and I definitely get turned on having them watching me fuck there wife’s and girlfriends " Most? | |||
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"Going to a club and really want my hubby to get off watching me fucking others,any ideas on how to get him to come round to the idea of enjoying watch me take others cock,I need to get him turned so it all becomes natural.any help appreciated" the night you plan to do the deed just before you leave to set off for club give him a prezzie two tickets to his fav sporting event, his mind will be all a flutter......... You can do anything then  | |||
"Going to a club and really want my hubby to get off watching me fucking others,any ideas on how to get him to come round to the idea of enjoying watch me take others cock,I need to get him turned so it all becomes natural.any help appreciated To be honest most hubbies enjoy watching there wife’s or girlfriends fucking other guys and I definitely get turned on having them watching me fuck there wife’s and girlfriends " Speak for yourself.... Cuckolds love this scenario, not: “most men”. This is another unfortunate symptom of prolonged usage of pornography. The love of viewing over that of performing. R.I.P. western men. | |||
"This isn’t swinging, how awful the lady wants to fuck other guys but wouldn’t be happy for her man to fuck other women, wish these types of people wouldn’t use this site "Swinging isn’t just about couple swap tho People have all kinds of kinds and desires but if you are in the swinging world as a couple its about enjoying what you both want to see and do Plenty couples get their kicks with only one half that plays but they are the couples that both actually want that There is no set of rules ALL have to follow to enjoy the scene | |||
"This isn’t swinging, how awful the lady wants to fuck other guys but wouldn’t be happy for her man to fuck other women, wish these types of people wouldn’t use this site
Swinging isn’t just about couple swap tho
People have all kinds of kinds and desires but if you are in the swinging world as a couple its about enjoying what you both want to see and do
Plenty couples get their kicks with only one half that plays but they are the couples that both actually want that
There is no set of rules ALL have to follow to enjoy the scene "It’s not swinging if you involve others in unfair play and have issues which will cause problems when you do play. Swinging is about having sexual fun with liberated people who do not have jealousy issues, hang ups etc The saying “sort your own sh1t out first before involving others” is applicable | |||
"This isn’t swinging, how awful the lady wants to fuck other guys but wouldn’t be happy for her man to fuck other women, wish these types of people wouldn’t use this site
Swinging isn’t just about couple swap tho
People have all kinds of kinds and desires but if you are in the swinging world as a couple its about enjoying what you both want to see and do
Plenty couples get their kicks with only one half that plays but they are the couples that both actually want that
There is no set of rules ALL have to follow to enjoy the scene
It’s not swinging if you involve others in unfair play and have issues which will cause problems when you do play.
Swinging is about having sexual fun with liberated people who do not have jealousy issues, hang ups etc
The saying “sort your own sh1t out first before involving others” is applicable "Ah I see what you’re saying now , my misunderstanding as I thought you were meaning that couples where one of them doesn’t want to see they other play is not what the scene is about | |||
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"The thing is he wants me to but unsure how I would feel about him after I was,has any other women had problems with there man after and has any women liked it that much that they had a problem because of this " Think this is the most common concern for most couples at the beginning. I was concerned how the gf would be after she’d been with another male. My thought process was “If he has a bigger dick or sexier body then why would she want me after that?”. When we first started looking for couples, I was sat looking through fab couples profiles and she was literally sat there in tears. We stopped looking for a bit and then tried again on the agreement it was just a soft swap. So now we’ve gone from her in tears over looking a female half of couples to her watching me and other female give each other oral. She now gets turned on watching that. You can’t force someone to do something they don’t want to. It’s all about trust, communication and understanding. Without that, it’s going to get messy. I really wish the gf would have a go a trying stuff with another female. I have resigned to accepting that would never happen as I respect her too much to even attempt to force it. | |||
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"I wont let him,It would make me jealous,but he does like me playing with others but no fucking,we always go to a club on single men nite" | |||
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"Most are,most men think with there dicks" It sounds like both of you are pretty insecure, you think if you let him off the leash he'll think with his dick and run off to pussy land He seems like he thinks you're the best thing he has and is scared to lose you so agrees with you having fun but doesn't want to get cucked This is confusing
Maybe you both need to be blindfolded to let go of that jealousy or sthn like that idk | |||
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he might aswell chop it off and put it on the mantle piece while you have a full blown orgy in front of him! Only kidding it’s got to be a two way thing and do what suits both parties or not at all | |||
I see the other guy as a human vibrator who enhances our sex life | |||
"Maybe I didnt explain it properly,he loves me playing around but I want to fuck,he isn't bothered about fucking other women,I wouldn't like it but also wouldn't stop him." Have you tried the idea of him and the other guy both enjoying you at same time? That way you get what you want, he’s sees you enjoying yourself too and then you get fucked by both! Happy to help out, in same area | |||
"I want someone to fuck me hard while my husband watches Him seeing me being touched, licked and fucked would make us both so horny, I can just imagine looking him in the eyes while another blokes throbbing hard dick is filling me, and him not being permitted to touch me" Awesome love doing this it’s incredibly horny fucking another mans wife in front of him and making her cum! Love it | |||
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"I just love watching hubby fucking other women turns me on so much
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"Going to a club and really want my hubby to get off watching me fucking others,any ideas on how to get him to come round to the idea of enjoying watch me take others cock,I need to get him turned so it all becomes natural.any help appreciated" Talk to him | |||
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