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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well I have been reading through forum and seen some interesting post and its got me wondering. How many out there who are part of a couple have Masters\Doms that are not their spouse.
This is NOT a post about is it right or wrong. I'm just interested in knowing who out there has a Master but still has a normal relationship too. My curiosity is based on my own experiences and would like to chat to other like minded people.
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hi,
i have Sir and kev, or perhaps it would be better to say they have me 
i am very lucky, i have met too men who are willing to share me, although our relationships are very different.
i think it works because we are all honest, kev chose not to be my Dom, and finding one was a decision i made with his consent, and Sir is not looking for a romantic relationship. We may be very close but he never wants or expects more than my submission...oh and smiles and monstrous orgasms
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"hi,
i have Sir and kev, or perhaps it would be better to say they have me
i am very lucky, i have met too men who are willing to share me, although our relationships are very different.
i think it works because we are all honest, kev chose not to be my Dom, and finding one was a decision i made with his consent, and Sir is not looking for a romantic relationship. We may be very close but he never wants or expects more than my submission...oh and smiles and monstrous orgasms
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I sort of understand how it can work as although never had a master I did when I was married see a guy with permission from my hubby. The only thing I dont get and it may just have been a slip of the finger is you putting Sir before Kev, silly maybe yes but I know my hubby always came first in everything well nearly everything you did let me cum first  |
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This is not a personal dig at Jem, I don't want to single her out but she's the only person I know that has a master who is not her partner.
I can understand the very basics of the master/slave relationship, although its not for me.
I can even understand for it to work successfully it has to be a complete submission, not just sexually but mentally. But sometimes it comes across as obsession. I often wonder then how hubby feels, seeing his wife in awe of another man to that degree, when the majority of comments are written with the master in mind.
It makes me wonder whether the hubby is cuckold and I do wonder about the dynamics when the men come face to face. Who is given top dog billing then. And what about talking about the master at home. How does it make hubby feel to witness the mental submission. And what would happen if the master found another woman. How does the master feel when he knows he's got total submission in relation to the subs other family.
Please don't think its a dig, it certainly isn't, I am genuinely interested in how it could work. You must all be very strong, I know myself its something I couldn't allow in my own life. But then, as I've said countless times, I don't have a full understanding of it. |
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Most slaves and subs I know have masters that are not their partners to be fair...
Or should I say that master is not in a one on one relationship with them... Many tell me how lucky I am.
So I don't think jem is in the minority.
Cali |
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"hi,
i have Sir and kev, or perhaps it would be better to say they have me
i am very lucky, i have met too men who are willing to share me, although our relationships are very different.
i think it works because we are all honest, kev chose not to be my Dom, and finding one was a decision i made with his consent, and Sir is not looking for a romantic relationship. We may be very close but he never wants or expects more than my submission...oh and smiles and monstrous orgasms
I sort of understand how it can work as although never had a master I did when I was married see a guy with permission from my hubby. The only thing I dont get and it may just have been a slip of the finger is you putting Sir before Kev, silly maybe yes but I know my hubby always came first in everything well nearly everything you did let me cum first "
Slip of the finger,but you are right, kev comes first...to avoid repeating myself will answer more fully to u and iconic |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Thanks for your responses xx
We are new to the D\s side of things and I was just wanting to see how others relationships work. I know myself I could never be sub to Benz. But with right Master I know I can be sub. Benz is happy for me to explore and doesn't have a problem with me having a Master.
Everyones relationship is different and i would never judge anyones relationship and I wouldn't want ours judged.
Jem thanks for sharing. |
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"This is not a personal dig at Jem, I don't want to single her out but she's the only person I know that has a master who is not her partner.
I can understand the very basics of the master/slave relationship, although its not for me.
I can even understand for it to work successfully it has to be a complete submission, not just sexually but mentally. But sometimes it comes across as obsession. I often wonder then how hubby feels, seeing his wife in awe of another man to that degree, when the majority of comments are written with the master in mind.
It makes me wonder whether the hubby is cuckold and I do wonder about the dynamics when the men come face to face. Who is given top dog billing then. And what about talking about the master at home. How does it make hubby feel to witness the mental submission. And what would happen if the master found another woman. How does the master feel when he knows he's got total submission in relation to the subs other family.
Please don't think its a dig, it certainly isn't, I am genuinely interested in how it could work. You must all be very strong, I know myself its something I couldn't allow in my own life. But then, as I've said countless times, I don't have a full understanding of it. "
i think the mistake you are making is assuming submission can be real and total whilst still within limits, but many who claim to be bdsm experts also so that
Before we even met Sir made clear that my children and kev would always come first, he has his priorities too,being aware that a D/s relationship must fit into the real world is vital if it to be successful. To be honest my experience is the most important qualities necessary in bdsm are intelligence and self awareness. Which is where your comment about kev and sir meeting comes in, good manners and having no need to assert himself in a crass manner mean there would be no pissing contest,kev is my life partner...of course if we were cuck it would be very different.
i think it is important to recognize that in our particular situation we are not typical swinhgers, we have had boy/girlfriends in the past and see our relationship as open with honesty.
i am more poly than anything else, and kev falls in love very easily, its the buddhist in him
Our love is the deep bedrock on which our life is based, of a quality no other can touch, but we both believe there are many different types of love.Maybe that is our strength. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is not a personal dig at Jem, I don't want to single her out but she's the only person I know that has a master who is not her partner.
I can understand the very basics of the master/slave relationship, although its not for me.
I can even understand for it to work successfully it has to be a complete submission, not just sexually but mentally. But sometimes it comes across as obsession. I often wonder then how hubby feels, seeing his wife in awe of another man to that degree, when the majority of comments are written with the master in mind.
It makes me wonder whether the hubby is cuckold and I do wonder about the dynamics when the men come face to face. Who is given top dog billing then. And what about talking about the master at home. How does it make hubby feel to witness the mental submission. And what would happen if the master found another woman. How does the master feel when he knows he's got total submission in relation to the subs other family.
Please don't think its a dig, it certainly isn't, I am genuinely interested in how it could work. You must all be very strong, I know myself its something I couldn't allow in my own life. But then, as I've said countless times, I don't have a full understanding of it.
i think the mistake you are making is assuming submission can be real and total whilst still within limits, but many who claim to be bdsm experts also so that
Before we even met Sir made clear that my children and kev would always come first, he has his priorities too,being aware that a D/s relationship must fit into the real world is vital if it to be successful. To be honest my experience is the most important qualities necessary in bdsm are intelligence and self awareness. Which is where your comment about kev and sir meeting comes in, good manners and having no need to assert himself in a crass manner mean there would be no pissing contest,kev is my life partner...of course if we were cuck it would be very different.
i think it is important to recognize that in our particular situation we are not typical swinhgers, we have had boy/girlfriends in the past and see our relationship as open with honesty.
i am more poly than anything else, and kev falls in love very easily, its the buddhist in him
Our love is the deep bedrock on which our life is based, of a quality no other can touch, but we both believe there are many different types of love.Maybe that is our strength. "
Thank you Jem , both you and Cali I think are probably the most open and honest people on here x |
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