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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just a thought for all those who are playing away and think they are clever by fooling there wives/partner or going behind there backs I wonder how many of the partners actually no what goes on but stay quiet for the sake of said relationship. If the partner is playing away but the wife is happy at home with the children and said lifestyle. Mmmm I wonder. What do other people think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I knew he was with someone else but had just had a baby so kept quiet, blamed myself for not being able to be the party animal I had once been.
And to be honest I couldn't say how I knew, I just did, didnt get it confirmed till years later when he confessed after we had split.
Looking back it was certainly a contributing factor to my low self esteem, I become withdrawn and lacked confidence as he made me feel worthless and if he had put half the effort into our marriage as he did into his affairs things may have been very different.
And yes my sex drive did dive after having a baby but it didnt disappear and a little bit of understanding would have helped, knowing he took it elsewhere and didnt respect me enough to have some patience nearly destroyed me.
In my book cheating is never a solution
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I grew up with it my dad having constant affairs when I was growing up mum being a doormat and just turning a blind eye for sake of me and my brother although we could see the damage he was doing. He even left her when I was 17 for two years after that said two years mum took him back no questions asked. I love him but I lost all respect for him a long time ago. No wonder I would rather be on my own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about the guys whose wives are having an affair."
Or the children involved with a cheater; my mum was playing the field with a man who she then left my dad for, took me and my brother with us, neither of us knew what the hell was going on as we were only little ones. I have to say it was awful knowing where my mum was going, the man she was playing with once came to the house. Seriously it was not fun at all, I got the impression that my mum was the sweet innocent party and my dad the wrong one, yet he did nothing. And I won't tell you what the "step dad" was like, not that she cared as the bitch is still with him  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have Sat back and read most of the playing away threads, and they all seem to be directed at married men! I am sure there are women who do the same thing! Isn't there?
Going back to the OP topic of conversation! Women do have very good intuition |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cheating is totally wrong I'm not going to try to justify my comments but the cheater male or female is being very selfish. Infidelity affects everyone who is in the picture it saddens me when people do that. I'm not saying that I'm totally perfect but I have never cheated on anyone in my life. The moral of cheating don't do it |
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myself and my ex wife didnt have sex for 6 months befre i found out she was playing away.
did i know? nt at all. i have always been one to take it or leave it, yet was always the one to instigate sex, so when i stopped doing it, we stopped doing it, if that makes sense.
tbf i was depressed due to being made redundant and she decided to take it elsewhere rather than show me understanding and support (after us being together 11 years and me supporting her through college and finding a job/career, but hell, its only ever 1 way isnt it!!!!)
im certain, Em would know immediately if i had got up to anything now, but due to the above i wouldnt even dream of it. |
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