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I'm not stupid...

By *adame 2Swords OP Woman over a year ago

Victoria, London

... met a guy at Silverleigh on four occasions, and if honest, I'm smitten.

Met once near him for a coffee (first time we saw each other clothed)

Messaged me to say he'd be at Silverleigh the next week, would I like to join him.

I turned up, he didn't, texted him, nothing, in fact nothing for a year. This week a message to say he's staying at Silverleigh over the weekend and Monday. I could go, but I have no car, round trip costs a fortune, and I don't know that he'll still be there. Decided therefore not to waste my time. Time and money are scarce right now, and it proves he's ignored me for a year, which is nasty and I don't need him in my life.

I won't be messaging him, not now I've seen him in his true colours.

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By *ebaucherouspoetMan over a year ago

Bradford

"... met a guy at Silverleigh on four occasions, and if honest, I'm smitten.

Met once near him for a coffee (first time we saw each other clothed)

Messaged me to say he'd be at Silverleigh the next week, would I like to join him.

I won't be messaging him, not now I've seen him in his true colours.

Couldnt agree more, stick to your gut on this one. The kind of person that will put you away on a shelf when they're bored until they're ready to pick you back up again are childish and don't deserve your time!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"... met a guy at Silverleigh on four occasions, and if honest, I'm smitten.

Met once near him for a coffee (first time we saw each other clothed)

Messaged me to say he'd be at Silverleigh the next week, would I like to join him.

I won't be messaging him, not now I've seen him in his true colours.

Good for you! You deserve so much better than this and I'm sure you'll find it x

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By *isstinseltoesWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I would wonder why he stood me up then made no effort to contact me for a year,think you're doing the

right thing.

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

I thought you “don’t meet”...so no problem it would seem

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By *adame 2Swords OP Woman over a year ago

Victoria, London

I meet, just not guy off here. I have my regulars

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By *adame 2Swords OP Woman over a year ago

Victoria, London

Thank you for your support, really appreciated. Difficult, because he's the only guy that's turned my head in years, would have been a great time, but I fear at my expense!!!

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Is this a massive case of ghosting??

You've definitely done the right thing. Cheeky fucker!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No way! The man’s a joker. There’s no coming back from a spectacular no show like that!

Tbh I’d tell him you’re going and then not turn up. I’m not normally spiteful but that’s appalling behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"... met a guy at Silverleigh on four occasions, and if honest, I'm smitten.

Met once near him for a coffee (first time we saw each other clothed)

Messaged me to say he'd be at Silverleigh the next week, would I like to join him.

I won't be messaging him, not now I've seen him in his true colours.

Sounds like most my ex meets they keep coming out the wood work 3 today in-fact !

OP don’t revisit you will only regret it x

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By *adame 2Swords OP Woman over a year ago

Victoria, London

yes it would be classed as ghosting, he didn't even apologise. he's obviously received my messages and chosen to let me worry myself some thing bad had happened to him. waste of my time and heartstrings.

nope not telling him I'm not turning up, he wouldn't for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"... met a guy at Silverleigh on four occasions, and if honest, I'm smitten.

Met once near him for a coffee (first time we saw each other clothed)

Messaged me to say he'd be at Silverleigh the next week, would I like to join him.

I won't be messaging him, not now I've seen him in his true colours.

"
you said present tense "you're smitten" did you mean you were smitten and he can do one now?

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By *inful xWoman over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

I'd of blocked him last year and never given him the chance to mug me off again like that. Once they shut the door, I like to bolt it

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By *adame 2Swords OP Woman over a year ago

Victoria, London

Was and am, but realised a narcissist so thinking with my head and not my heart for a change. Won't bother him in any case

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By *adame 2Swords OP Woman over a year ago

Victoria, London

Yes I should have, and won't put up with that behaviour ever again

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

If you like him, meet him - enjoy life. He’s probably got his reasons for not contacting you.

If it was me, I wouldn’t let you go but everyone is different and we should learn to be more forgiving

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you like him, meet him - enjoy life. He’s probably got his reasons for not contacting you.

If it was me, I wouldn’t let you go but everyone is different and we should learn to be more forgiving "

Hang on, they met four times and then he vanishes for a year with no explanation and just tips up like it's been a few days and expects everything to be the same, and your advice is "be more forgiving" ....seriously?

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"If you like him, meet him - enjoy life. He’s probably got his reasons for not contacting you.

If it was me, I wouldn’t let you go but everyone is different and we should learn to be more forgiving

The world would be a better place if we were a bit more forgiving and she clearly likes him.

So, yeah, seriously

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you like him, meet him - enjoy life. He’s probably got his reasons for not contacting you.

If it was me, I wouldn’t let you go but everyone is different and we should learn to be more forgiving

The world would be a better place if we were a bit more forgiving and she clearly likes him.

So, yeah, seriously "

After a year, we're not talking a few days here, a while year of nothing. Why should the OP be forgiving the guys a twat, he doesn't deserve it. It's because of guys !like him that single guys struggle so much, is it any wonder?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

nope. respect is lacking on his part

if he's done it once and is forgiven it sets a precedence ... behaviour is acceptable

and will continue the pattern

self care first. block even if it hurts

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"If you like him, meet him - enjoy life. He’s probably got his reasons for not contacting you.

If it was me, I wouldn’t let you go but everyone is different and we should learn to be more forgiving "

He obviously has his reasons but if they're valid he should explain them to the op and give her a chance to reconsider. Otherwise he's asking a woman to travel at her expense to meet him after not being in contact for a year. No self respecting woman would do that and no man with any respect for women would ask it.

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"If you like him, meet him - enjoy life. He’s probably got his reasons for not contacting you.

If it was me, I wouldn’t let you go but everyone is different and we should learn to be more forgiving

Fair points

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"... met a guy at Silverleigh on four occasions, and if honest, I'm smitten.

Met once near him for a coffee (first time we saw each other clothed)

Messaged me to say he'd be at Silverleigh the next week, would I like to join him.

I won't be messaging him, not now I've seen him in his true colours.

And?

If you’re not bothered why post.

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By *he Happy ManMan over a year ago

Merseyside

"... met a guy at Silverleigh on four occasions, and if honest, I'm smitten.

Met once near him for a coffee (first time we saw each other clothed)

Messaged me to say he'd be at Silverleigh the next week, would I like to join him.

I won't be messaging him, not now I've seen him in his true colours.

Good on you.

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By *he Happy ManMan over a year ago

Merseyside

"... met a guy at Silverleigh on four occasions, and if honest, I'm smitten.

Met once near him for a coffee (first time we saw each other clothed)

Messaged me to say he'd be at Silverleigh the next week, would I like to join him.

I won't be messaging him, not now I've seen him in his true colours.

I would have blocked him a year ago.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you like him, meet him - enjoy life. He’s probably got his reasons for not contacting you.

If it was me, I wouldn’t let you go but everyone is different and we should learn to be more forgiving "

The only reason someone could have for coming out with bullshit like this is that you’re the guy the OP is talking about. Of you pull this shit on a regular basis

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"... met a guy at Silverleigh on four occasions, and if honest, I'm smitten.

Met once near him for a coffee (first time we saw each other clothed)

Messaged me to say he'd be at Silverleigh the next week, would I like to join him.

I won't be messaging him, not now I've seen him in his true colours.

If it feels right it is right. You’ve done the right thing.

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By *he Happy ManMan over a year ago

Merseyside

"Thank you for your support, really appreciated. Difficult, because he's the only guy that's turned my head in years, would have been a great time, but I fear at my expense!!!"

If he turned your head I will rightly or wrongly assume he is a sexy guy. I will also rightly or wrongly assume he has lots of female attention.

A young guy I work with must be sexy as he gets lots of female attention if we all go out for drink after work. Even if he is with a woman other women will blatantly come onto him.

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"If you like him, meet him - enjoy life. He’s probably got his reasons for not contacting you.

If it was me, I wouldn’t let you go but everyone is different and we should learn to be more forgiving

The only reason someone could have for coming out with bullshit like this is that you’re the guy the OP is talking about. Of you pull this shit on a regular basis"

Neither of your assumptions is true

That’s the only reason is it?

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By *he Happy ManMan over a year ago

Merseyside

"yes it would be classed as ghosting, he didn't even apologise. he's obviously received my messages and chosen to let me worry myself some thing bad had happened to him. waste of my time and heartstrings.

nope not telling him I'm not turning up, he wouldn't for me"

From what you have said he is a chancer who doesn't respect you.

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By *he Happy ManMan over a year ago

Merseyside

"nope. respect is lacking on his part

if he's done it once and is forgiven it sets a precedence ... behaviour is acceptable

and will continue the pattern

self care first. block even if it hurts "

I agree.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"... met a guy at Silverleigh on four occasions, and if honest, I'm smitten.

Met once near him for a coffee (first time we saw each other clothed)

Messaged me to say he'd be at Silverleigh the next week, would I like to join him.

I won't be messaging him, not now I've seen him in his true colours.

I think the worst thing anyone on here can do is become smitten with somebody.

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By *adame 2Swords OP Woman over a year ago

Victoria, London

lol very true, he's why I've not been meeting. Anyway up shot is, is didn't message him, in fact deleted his number. Received nothing, so he didn't care anyway. Feel better though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"... met a guy at Silverleigh on four occasions, and if honest, I'm smitten.

Met once near him for a coffee (first time we saw each other clothed)

Messaged me to say he'd be at Silverleigh the next week, would I like to join him.

I won't be messaging him, not now I've seen him in his true colours.

"
most definitely doing the right thing

dont meet him stick your ground

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