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over a year ago
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"Just think it is a shame that we can not have a list of the idiots and time wasters that ruin fun for everyone."
And how would you feel if we put your name on it?
Obviously you haven't wasted our time, but do you see how open it would be to abuse? |
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" If we couldn't make a meet we would let you know. Not exchange mobile numbers then block you. "
But you promised to meet us and then blocked us. Timewasters!!!......total lies of course, but prove it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there’s two types of time waster. Those who set out to do it and those who lose their nerve at the last minute.
Whilst we’ve never done the latter we have sympathy and wouldn’t rule out a second meet. However we always have a plan B for if meets get cancelled for whatever reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just think it is a shame that we can not have a list of the idiots and time wasters that ruin fun for everyone.
And how would you feel if we put your name on it?
Obviously you haven't wasted our time, but do you see how open it would be to abuse? "
Hubby here yeah agreed it could be abused certainly.
What if 3 different members who all had multiple verifications themselves had to put someone's name forward independently for time wasting before said person would appear on the list?
I haven't got the answers our experience so far as a couple is -
100% success rate with meeting verified (not just photo verified) singles and couples.
100% failure rate with meeting non verified members again singles and couples.
This has meant my wife is placing a much higher trust in the verification system now and only wants to meet people with genuine verifications (it's pretty easy to spot the fakers with multiple accounts verifying themselves if you spend five minutes following the verification trails).
I tend to be the softer one so I know that it's hard for single males and everyone has to start somewhere though.
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"I suppose so, but to chat for 2 days, swap numbers then block you just before you are going to meet is a time waster. I just think it would be nice to warn others. "
Now you see, that to me isn't timewasting but a tactical withdrawal. Something could have been said that put them off, they had a better offer or changed their mind: who knows, people are not beholden to meet and can and do, change their mind.
If a date, time and place was set and you turned up but they didn't, then yes, a timewaster and you'd every right to feel aggrieved.
They changed their mind, you don't want to appear entitled and petulant, so...onwards and upwards. |
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"It happend unfortunately. I had one the other night .... seems whilst I was waiting for him to turn up , he was getting it on with someone else 
Block and move on  "
Now this is timewasting, and not a nice person either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose so, but to chat for 2 days, swap numbers then block you just before you are going to meet is a time waster. I just think it would be nice to warn others.
Now you see, that to me isn't timewasting but a tactical withdrawal. Something could have been said that put them off, they had a better offer or changed their mind: who knows, people are not beholden to meet and can and do, change their mind.
If a date, time and place was set and you turned up but they didn't, then yes, a timewaster and you'd every right to feel aggrieved.
They changed their mind, you don't want to appear entitled and petulant, so...onwards and upwards. "
No. Three or four hours before is a tactical retreat. Last minute, if something puts you off, you really should say what it is and not leave them hanging.
Let’s not forget, a lot of people put quite a bit of effort into meets, from getting babysitters to doing hair to sorting out travel arrangements. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I suppose so, but to chat for 2 days, swap numbers then block you just before you are going to meet is a time waster. I just think it would be nice to warn others. "
What you need to remember is that anyone can back out of sex at any time. It's called Consent! So basically what you are saying is that if people chat for 2 days, exchange numbers and start arranging a meet then they have to have sex....No I don't think so.
Even if they get to the meet then back out they are not time wasters. Nobody has to fuck anyone they decide not to. Yes a message saying so would be nice but then you would probably still call that time wasting. They have changed their minds, get over it.
No we do not want a list.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"too hard to prove unfortunately "
Not really. I mean not taking about the people who let you down or the one's who come up with reasons they can't meet last minute. Or just bcz you feel pissed off that you brand them a time waster. I'd be on about the ones who send you a postcode,phone number exchange face picture's and then just as you're getting ready. You messaged to just make sure and they don't reply. But yet they're online for the next 1-3 hours. Please tell me what else would have happened if they can still be online. Fab logs you out automatically after 5 minutes of any page not being refreshed  . So they can't say we didn't see the message. I'd like that list. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose so, but to chat for 2 days, swap numbers then block you just before you are going to meet is a time waster. I just think it would be nice to warn others. "
We only have your word for it that what you're saying is truthful.
Its to easy to complain about people who have simply annoyed you. |
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"I suppose so, but to chat for 2 days, swap numbers then block you just before you are going to meet is a time waster. I just think it would be nice to warn others.
We only have your word for it that what you're saying is truthful.
Its to easy to complain about people who have simply annoyed you."
Why wouldn't you believe him?. Unless you know him as a compulsive liar then don't cut him down |
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"I suppose so, but to chat for 2 days, swap numbers then block you just before you are going to meet is a time waster. I just think it would be nice to warn others.
What you need to remember is that anyone can back out of sex at any time. It's called Consent! So basically what you are saying is that if people chat for 2 days, exchange numbers and start arranging a meet then they have to have sex....No I don't think so.
Even if they get to the meet then back out they are not time wasters. Nobody has to fuck anyone they decide not to. Yes a message saying so would be nice but then you would probably still call that time wasting. They have changed their minds, get over it.
No we do not want a list.
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"Just think it is a shame that we can not have a list of the idiots and time wasters that ruin fun for everyone."
Agreed we got stood up 3 times in 24 hours Friday & Saturday...no explanation...however Saturday turned out good in the end .  |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
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"Just think it is a shame that we can not have a list of the idiots and time wasters that ruin fun for everyone."
I have read all your profile and I like what I see but, there’s miles between us and I DO have a beard at the moment which you hate (but I am not married to my hair).
I would have gladly met you two—fully shaved—even if it didn’t lead anywhere. I am sorry you have been let down x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A meet in the first place would be nice better off paying for it most of em charge anyways its a sex site come on people get with the programme link up do ur thing then start again be honest thats all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A meet in the first place would be nice better off paying for it most of em charge anyways its a sex site come on people get with the programme link up do ur thing then start again be honest thats all "
I guess that's raised your stock by 10 points  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose so, but to chat for 2 days, swap numbers then block you just before you are going to meet is a time waster. I just think it would be nice to warn others.
We only have your word for it that what you're saying is truthful.
Its to easy to complain about people who have simply annoyed you.
Why wouldn't you believe him?. Unless you know him as a compulsive liar then don't cut him down "
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It would be great if they had something on here where you could report a timewaster.
It would have to be something that took time - a form that would be completed asking for details and not just a button to click - that way you would have to put effort into reporting a timewaster.
After let's say 5 reports the user gets banned. |
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Certainly agree there should be something in terms of a strike system or ban for letting people down on a regular basis or in fact not turning up at all, it certainly does make things difficult for the decent people and genuine folk, really does my box in you hear it lots on here |
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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago
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"Certainly agree there should be something in terms of a strike system or ban for letting people down on a regular basis or in fact not turning up at all, it certainly does make things difficult for the decent people and genuine folk, really does my box in you hear it lots on here "
simply impossible to manage and very easily open to be abused. |
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"Certainly agree there should be something in terms of a strike system or ban for letting people down on a regular basis or in fact not turning up at all, it certainly does make things difficult for the decent people and genuine folk, really does my box in you hear it lots on here
simply impossible to manage and very easily open to be abused. "
Indeed!
You only have to look at the herd mentality on some posts to see it wouldn't be a far stretch for friends to band together to get someone banned. |
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