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"So the only options are a zillion messages or none?
I hear there's this thing between black and white, called grey...
Sigh "
Why sigh?
Should I be grateful waking up to 100+ cum drain my ballz baebs? I don't want any of that.
Guys act like we should be grateful for any attention we get, no matter how stupid, offensive, or abusive. No. Messages I don't want are just a burden.
If my messages dried up I'd message myself. If that didn't work I'd try other methods. If that didn't work I'd wank. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I changed my heading recently to try to cut down on the amount of mail I get and I have to say it worked a treat. It's like a breath of fresh air. I now make contact with the people I'm interested in.
I think the message system is flawed and an option to completely close your mailbox to everyone would be a good idea. Perhaps a message saying something like "this person is not accepting mail at present please try again later". This would give women a break if they felt they needed it as sometimes a lot of mail can get on your nerves. Especially from people who arent what you're looking for. |
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"I changed my heading recently to try to cut down on the amount of mail I get and I have to say it worked a treat. It's like a breath of fresh air. I now make contact with the people I'm interested in.
I think the message system is flawed and an option to completely close your mailbox to everyone would be a good idea. Perhaps a message saying something like "this person is not accepting mail at present please try again later". This would give women a break if they felt they needed it as sometimes a lot of mail can get on your nerves. Especially from people who arent what you're looking for. "
That’s a very good idea.
It makes the messaging status quite clear. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So the only options are a zillion messages or none?
I hear there's this thing between black and white, called grey...
Sigh
Why sigh?
Should I be grateful waking up to 100+ cum drain my ballz baebs? I don't want any of that.
Guys act like we should be grateful for any attention we get, no matter how stupid, offensive, or abusive. No. Messages I don't want are just a burden.
If my messages dried up I'd message myself. If that didn't work I'd try other methods. If that didn't work I'd wank. "
If it makes you so unhappy!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My problem is, I am looking to meet (although for awhile I had a similar heading and oh the abuse I got!). I just wish there were less and that people bothered to read/ message me in particular. "
I havent had any abuse since I changed it and I do still meet but I'm now in control. I send the messages to people who meet my requirements.
What it has done is cut out all the guys who have an insta-shag attitude and let's face it that's who most of the unwanted mail comes from. |
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By *il73Woman
over a year ago
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"I changed my heading recently to try to cut down on the amount of mail I get and I have to say it worked a treat. It's like a breath of fresh air. I now make contact with the people I'm interested in.
I think the message system is flawed and an option to completely close your mailbox to everyone would be a good idea. Perhaps a message saying something like "this person is not accepting mail at present please try again later". This would give women a break if they felt they needed it as sometimes a lot of mail can get on your nerves. Especially from people who arent what you're looking for. "
I hid my profile...and now only get messages from guys i already know  |
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I don’t think there is a problem of amount of messages but with quality of them. Most of them are delete and block kind of thing. I would prefer if there would be like 3 questions to answer before sending message. Person can enter 3 questions themselves and if right options/ answers are clicked message will be delivered.
Most of time waste is when I’m 5’11 and I at best would go with someone 5’10 maybe 5’9 but most messages I receive are from guys under 5’9 time waste for everyone. For guy who took time to write or paste message and for me to read, check out profile, answer or block, delete message  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After I blocked men and TVs, my messages stopped completely! Should have been born gay, I'd be so much more in demand!"
If you identify as bisexual it has a very similar effect. Seems they only want straight fellas  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My current profile puts most off and the messages I do receive are of a significantly higher quality, generally. It’s very easy to filter out those who haven’t read it now!
Before the ‘I’m looking for a life partner’ rewrite I usually blocked men and searched out who I fancied. It made my fab experience much more fun. So, if the messages stopped I’d just go back to that.
Very few women actually WANT sixty or more ‘Gorgeous! Stunning! Wanna chat?’ messages every single night from faceless torso and cock avatars. |
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"So the only options are a zillion messages or none?
I hear there's this thing between black and white, called grey...
Sigh
Why sigh?
Should I be grateful waking up to 100+ cum drain my ballz baebs? I don't want any of that.
Guys act like we should be grateful for any attention we get, no matter how stupid, offensive, or abusive. No. Messages I don't want are just a burden.
If my messages dried up I'd message myself. If that didn't work I'd try other methods. If that didn't work I'd wank.
If it makes you so unhappy!!!!"
I'm making the best I can of a less than ideal situation. I can't quality control my messages, so here I am. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree the message system is flawed. All you hear is women wanting this wanting that on your message, so many shouty profiles about how much they dont like this or that, so you read the profiles and Construct a thoughtful, particular, funny, relevant, sexy, polite, complimentary (or all of the above) message and what happens? Zero. Its really quite deflating. No wonder guys just send out any old shite as its a lot easier to type as like every woman on here guys also don't have the time to construct rabbie burns for every woman for it to be deleted on ignored. There needs to be a better system of filtering out the shite messages that offend so much, so I guess that would enable nice messages to be viewed instead.. Yes purely a numbers game, so many guys, blah blah. Just window shopping.. :-/ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So the only options are a zillion messages or none?
I hear there's this thing between black and white, called grey...
Sigh
Why sigh?
Should I be grateful waking up to 100+ cum drain my ballz baebs? I don't want any of that.
Guys act like we should be grateful for any attention we get, no matter how stupid, offensive, or abusive. No. Messages I don't want are just a burden.
If my messages dried up I'd message myself. If that didn't work I'd try other methods. If that didn't work I'd wank.
If it makes you so unhappy!!!!
I'm making the best I can of a less than ideal situation. I can't quality control my messages, so here I am. "
Fair play
You seem to make the best of the messages you get |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So the only options are a zillion messages or none?
I hear there's this thing between black and white, called grey...
Sigh
Why sigh?
Should I be grateful waking up to 100+ cum drain my ballz baebs? I don't want any of that.
Guys act like we should be grateful for any attention we get, no matter how stupid, offensive, or abusive. No. Messages I don't want are just a burden.
If my messages dried up I'd message myself. If that didn't work I'd try other methods. If that didn't work I'd wank. "
I'm guessing the sigh is because s certain question was asked and in typically fab style the question was ignored and directed towards a different angle
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get that the level of messages some ladies get can’t be fun
However
How would you feel if the messages stopped?"
most messages i get are respectful and nice but i have filters and i find these help immensely
if they stopped so be it, im not forcing people to message me or wink |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If we are active on the forums we can get 20-30 a day. If not around 10 a week.
Changing our status brings the most in.  "
We’ll take the changing status idea on board as we’re lucky to get more than 3 a week lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If we are active on the forums we can get 20-30 a day. If not around 10 a week.
Changing our status brings the most in.
We’ll take the changing status idea on board as we’re lucky to get more than 3 a week lol"
They are not always positive messages, should have mentioned that part  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If we are active on the forums we can get 20-30 a day. If not around 10 a week.
Changing our status brings the most in.
We’ll take the changing status idea on board as we’re lucky to get more than 3 a week lol
They are not always positive messages, should have mentioned that part "
Btw, not sure why you don’t you’re a good looking couple! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The ones that moan about single males could always block them and do the searching for themselves. "
What,and ruin the chance of a good whinge?
Don't be ridiculous b  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The ones that moan about single males could always block them and do the searching for themselves.
What,and ruin the chance of a good whinge?
Don't be ridiculous b "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe there needs to be an element of functionality from Bumble, the dating app.
There, both people must match, but only the woman can message the guy, and only when there is a match.
I’ve no idea how it could be implemented on here, but I think there does need to be a way to curb the amount of tosh that people send to one another, so much of it is just drivel and useless. |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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"I changed my heading recently to try to cut down on the amount of mail I get and I have to say it worked a treat. It's like a breath of fresh air. I now make contact with the people I'm interested in.
I think the message system is flawed and an option to completely close your mailbox to everyone would be a good idea. Perhaps a message saying something like "this person is not accepting mail at present please try again later". This would give women a break if they felt they needed it as sometimes a lot of mail can get on your nerves. Especially from people who arent what you're looking for. "
Can you not set your profile to hidden during those times?
I'm pretty sure you can still continue messaging people you are already in contact with and post in the forums with your profile set to hidden.
I had a female friend who used to stay hidden while offline so she would never be greeted with 60 odd messages (some very odd ) every time she logged in |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I changed my heading recently to try to cut down on the amount of mail I get and I have to say it worked a treat. It's like a breath of fresh air. I now make contact with the people I'm interested in.
I think the message system is flawed and an option to completely close your mailbox to everyone would be a good idea. Perhaps a message saying something like "this person is not accepting mail at present please try again later". This would give women a break if they felt they needed it as sometimes a lot of mail can get on your nerves. Especially from people who arent what you're looking for.
Can you not set your profile to hidden during those times?
I'm pretty sure you can still continue messaging people you are already in contact with and post in the forums with your profile set to hidden.
I had a female friend who used to stay hidden while offline so she would never be greeted with 60 odd messages (some very odd ) every time she logged in"
I could but as you say hiding my profile doesnt stop mail from anyone who has previously messaged. Sometimes people just want a complete break from messages and that includes people they know and normally chat with. |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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I could but as you say hiding my profile doesnt stop mail from anyone who has previously messaged. Sometimes people just want a complete break from messages and that includes people they know and normally chat with. "
No quite what I meant.
I have a friend (on her friends list) who has hidden her profile as she's on an extended break from the site
I can't send her any new messages but (I hink at least) I could reply to messages she has sent me.
So in other words ongoing conversations can continue - new ones cannot start
make sense? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So the only options are a zillion messages or none?
I hear there's this thing between black and white, called grey...
Sigh
Why sigh?
Should I be grateful waking up to 100+ cum drain my ballz baebs? I don't want any of that.
Guys act like we should be grateful for any attention we get, no matter how stupid, offensive, or abusive. No. Messages I don't want are just a burden.
If my messages dried up I'd message myself. If that didn't work I'd try other methods. If that didn't work I'd wank.
I'm guessing the sigh is because s certain question was asked and in typically fab style the question was ignored and directed towards a different angle
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Men in my area have mostly given up messaging me, so I only get a few crap messages daily here.
Win Win situation 
Why don’t they message you ?"
Because they know their profile is shite, they only have cock pics and I forewarn them in my profile that they wont get a response (If they bother reading it that is) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I changed my heading recently to try to cut down on the amount of mail I get and I have to say it worked a treat. It's like a breath of fresh air. I now make contact with the people I'm interested in.
I think the message system is flawed and an option to completely close your mailbox to everyone would be a good idea. Perhaps a message saying something like "this person is not accepting mail at present please try again later". This would give women a break if they felt they needed it as sometimes a lot of mail can get on your nerves. Especially from people who arent what you're looking for. "
If people delete Men off the looking for list it takes their profile off the searches and reduces mail to almost none. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get that the level of messages some ladies get can’t be fun
However
How would you feel if the messages stopped?"
I love it. My inbox is empty.
It's really not difficult to get it that way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So the only options are a zillion messages or none?
I hear there's this thing between black and white, called grey... "
True, and you can block single men and send messages yourself, try it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men in my area have mostly given up messaging me, so I only get a few crap messages daily here.
Win Win situation
Why don’t they message you ?
Because they know their profile is shite, they only have cock pics and I forewarn them in my profile that they wont get a response (If they bother reading it that is)"
Wow, and you think they are the reasons you don’t get any messages? |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Men in my area have mostly given up messaging me, so I only get a few crap messages daily here.
Win Win situation
Why don’t they message you ?
Because they know their profile is shite, they only have cock pics and I forewarn them in my profile that they wont get a response (If they bother reading it that is)
Wow, and you think they are the reasons you don’t get any messages? "
I didn't say I didn't get messages just that many men have tried frequently to gain my attention, but they never change their approach, so then they give up.
And yes, my profile is blunt enough to stop many from messaging for a reason, it works for me, so no complaints here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men in my area have mostly given up messaging me, so I only get a few crap messages daily here.
Win Win situation
Why don’t they message you ?
Because they know their profile is shite, they only have cock pics and I forewarn them in my profile that they wont get a response (If they bother reading it that is)
Wow, and you think they are the reasons you don’t get any messages?
I didn't say I didn't get messages just that many men have tried frequently to gain my attention, but they never change their approach, so then they give up.
And yes, my profile is blunt enough to stop many from messaging for a reason, it works for me, so no complaints here "
Fair enough, there could be other reasons why men don’t message you? |
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"So the only options are a zillion messages or none?
I hear there's this thing between black and white, called grey...
Sigh
Why sigh?
Should I be grateful waking up to 100+ cum drain my ballz baebs? I don't want any of that.
Guys act like we should be grateful for any attention we get, no matter how stupid, offensive, or abusive. No. Messages I don't want are just a burden.
If my messages dried up I'd message myself. If that didn't work I'd try other methods. If that didn't work I'd wank. "
Love this |
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"If we are active on the forums we can get 20-30 a day. If not around 10 a week.
Changing our status brings the most in.
We’ll take the changing status idea on board as we’re lucky to get more than 3 a week lol"
...or 3 a month! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So the only options are a zillion messages or none?
I hear there's this thing between black and white, called grey...
Sigh
Why sigh?
Should I be grateful waking up to 100+ cum drain my ballz baebs? I don't want any of that.
Guys act like we should be grateful for any attention we get, no matter how stupid, offensive, or abusive. No. Messages I don't want are just a burden.
If my messages dried up I'd message myself. If that didn't work I'd try other methods. If that didn't work I'd wank.
I'm guessing the sigh is because s certain question was asked and in typically fab style the question was ignored and directed towards a different angle
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Yup |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get that the level of messages some ladies get can’t be fun
However
How would you feel if the messages stopped?"
deflated,forlorn,rambunctious, desolate, unwanted and |
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"I get that the level of messages some ladies get can’t be fun
However
How would you feel if the messages stopped?deflated,forlorn,rambunctious, desolate, unwanted and "
Most single men say that |
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"I get that the level of messages some ladies get can’t be fun
However
How would you feel if the messages stopped?
Stopped really what and make sense "
Ironically you say make sense when you don’t
What is it with Mancs ? |
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