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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
Fabsteroos
Are any ladies shy going in hot tubs/jacuzzi’s etc in clubs?
I’m not a stick insect by any means and I’m thinking of taking swimwear to my next club visit as I’m not confident being totally naked around lots of people in the hot tub.
Would I be frowned upon in swimwear? Yes I know it’s an adult club but it has put me off going in the hot tub so far.
Advice/ideas welcome
Bhubaysi xx |
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over a year ago
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"Fabsteroos
Are any ladies shy going in hot tubs/jacuzzi’s etc in clubs?
I’m not a stick insect by any means and I’m thinking of taking swimwear to my next club visit as I’m not confident being totally naked around lots of people in the hot tub.
Would I be frowned upon in swimwear? Yes I know it’s an adult club but it has put me off going in the hot tub so far.
Advice/ideas welcome
Bhubaysi xx "
Obviously not a lady but as a guy id like to see a women in a club in swimwear....leaves a little to the imagination |
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By *c1989Woman
over a year ago
Manchester |
I have been to quest twice now.
I'm am not slim by any stretch and didn't mind being naked with strangers in the tub.
On my last visit a couple did get in in swim wear. That didn't phase me... I was more taken aback when the lady of another couple randomly started sucking her partners cock. But then I remember where I was hahaha.
I did notice another lady walking around the club in bikini bottoms which made me think I may do the same in future. I'm not very good with lingerie and such. It's all a bit alien to me.
So do as you please and as has been said it leaves something to the imagination.
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By *c1989Woman
over a year ago
Manchester |
"At my club they might let you for the first visit, but they would have words with you. Once in the tub, no one can see you anyway, so I can't personally see the need to wear anything"
Is that the case then? Some clubs have a no clothes on at all in the hot tub policy?
I don't see it as being different to wearing lingerie in a dress down on arrival club.
Swim wear is appropriate for hot tubs, surely.
Are there clubs wear you must be naked at all times? |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
It wouldn't be a problem at the club I go to. Most people are naked in the hot tub, but there are some who wear swimwear or lingerie, and no one has a problem with it. You're there to enjoy yourselves, so whatever you're comfortable with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always get so nervous before going to a club but once they i try not to look at the other ladies and just enjoy myself"
oh and hope you have a great time
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just to add from a guys pov.
I'm always shy in changing rooms in the vanilla world (swimming pools etc) but in a club I have never found it a problem to strip right down. I think because everyone else is it's easier |
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I’ve only been to clubs a couple of times.
I wore a bikini and I must admit, lots of people (either in the hot tub or walking around) would ask why I had it on. That made me feel even more self conscious! The club didn’t have an issue but the number of comments (albeit in a friendly way) made it seem like the other people did. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got over my shyness in clubs quite quickly. I don't know if it'd be allowed, but you are wonderful as you are, and there are all shapes and sizes in the club, including in the hot tub. "
Totally agree with this |
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"Nothing wrong in wearing swimwear, lingerie, shorts, pants, knickers etc in a hot tub and why should there be? Go ahead and say bugger to the nay sayers!"
I agree! Don’t know why it wouldn’t be allowed? |
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By *riage12Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
I can’t speak for everyone as I have been used to showering naked / getting changed around other people for years now due to my job. But in general i just see it as the human body, I have no issue stripping off in clubs and see all women as beautiful regardless of shape and size.
Once you overcome that fear of judgement you’ll feel liberated and can soak up the atmosphere and just enjoy it. Every time I’ve got in the hot tub at a club nobody has ever once batted an eyelid to the fact I’ve been naked. |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
"I wore a bikini and I must admit, lots of people (either in the hot tub or walking around) would ask why I had it on. That made me feel even more self conscious!"
That's sad. I guess a lot depends on the particular club, and the culture that has developed there. And also, being the one in the bikini, you're going to hear what everyone has to say. As an observer, I only see what happens during the 20 minutes or so that we're in the hot tub together.
OP, which club are you thinking about? Perhaps someone has first-hand experience there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fabsteroos
Are any ladies shy going in hot tubs/jacuzzi’s etc in clubs?
I’m not a stick insect by any means and I’m thinking of taking swimwear to my next club visit as I’m not confident being totally naked around lots of people in the hot tub.
Would I be frowned upon in swimwear? Yes I know it’s an adult club but it has put me off going in the hot tub so far.
Advice/ideas welcome
Bhubaysi xx "
Wear what you feel comfortable in .. We see underwear and swimwear in the hot tub and are regulars at Quest. No issues in this club. Hope you enjoy the hot tub as much as we do x  |
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"I’ve only been to clubs a couple of times.
I wore a bikini and I must admit, lots of people (either in the hot tub or walking around) would ask why I had it on. That made me feel even more self conscious! The club didn’t have an issue but the number of comments (albeit in a friendly way) made it seem like the other people did."
A friend I accompanied to a club had the same issue and commenters so she stripped off once we got in the hot tub and I wore her bikini for the next couple of hours. I am by no means a CD but it seemed to diffuse the situation as I got the comments
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"I’ve only been to clubs a couple of times.
I wore a bikini and I must admit, lots of people (either in the hot tub or walking around) would ask why I had it on. That made me feel even more self conscious! The club didn’t have an issue but the number of comments (albeit in a friendly way) made it seem like the other people did.
A friend I accompanied to a club had the same issue and commenters so she stripped off once we got in the hot tub and I wore her bikini for the next couple of hours. I am by no means a CD but it seemed to diffuse the situation as I got the comments
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I think that’s what they were wanting, for me to take it off. There was no way that that was happening so it just all hit a bit annoying for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At my club they might let you for the first visit, but they would have words with you. Once in the tub, no one can see you anyway, so I can't personally see the need to wear anything"
..and this is just the reason why I have always avoided clubs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At my club they might let you for the first visit, but they would have words with you. Once in the tub, no one can see you anyway, so I can't personally see the need to wear anything
..and this is just the reason why I have always avoided clubs "
There are many clubs with no hot tubs and no need to get naked. I’ve only been to a spa or a swinging club with just play rooms. No pressure whatsoever to strip off. |
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"Well guys I’m digging out my sexy bikini and wearing that! Let anyone dare say anything.
Haaaaa I’ll get attention though!!
I’ll do what I want at the end of the day! It’s my body....
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Good for you!!! I’m sure no club can make you strip naked! That can’t be right. If there is one that does, it would be one to avoid anyway! |
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"I have been to quest twice now.
I'm am not slim by any stretch and didn't mind being naked with strangers in the tub.
On my last visit a couple did get in in swim wear. That didn't phase me... I was more taken aback when the lady of another couple randomly started sucking her partners cock. But then I remember where I was hahaha.
I did notice another lady walking around the club in bikini bottoms which made me think I may do the same in future. I'm not very good with lingerie and such. It's all a bit alien to me.
So do as you please and as has been said it leaves something to the imagination.
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There was a lady in there on Saturday night with swimwear on too, doesn't bother us either, you can’t see anything anyway when you’re sat down x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In all honesty I went in the tub exactly because I was body conscious the first time.
It was a naturist club from the moment you went in and the jacuzzi was my safety net to slink below the bubbles whilst I calmed down a bit.
After that I was nice and relaxed and ready to fumble  |
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Nope.
I'm never topless. Not on cam or in clubs. I take swimwear if I want and when I dress down its always underwear. Lately I've used a lace cardi to cover some more.
Got into the hot tub at f last week in my bikini. No weird looks.
Got in there later that night in just a bralette, no weird looks.
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"Well guys I’m digging out my sexy bikini and wearing that! Let anyone dare say anything.
Haaaaa I’ll get attention though!!
I’ll do what I want at the end of the day! It’s my body....
Good for you!!! I’m sure no club can make you strip naked! That can’t be right. If there is one that does, it would be one to avoid anyway!"
I think it’s probably a case of they don’t want to upset the couples! If I’m told to strip naked there will be Trouble lol.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well guys I’m digging out my sexy bikini and wearing that! Let anyone dare say anything.
Haaaaa I’ll get attention though!!
I’ll do what I want at the end of the day! It’s my body....
Good for you!!! I’m sure no club can make you strip naked! That can’t be right. If there is one that does, it would be one to avoid anyway!"
I wore swimwear in a hot tub at a club and no-one said anything. They can't force you to get naked.
I've never been in a hot tub since though. Spunk soup.  |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
There's a good chance you're one of the bikini'd people I was thinking about, Brat. If you're who I think you are, you look fantastic in it.
"Spunk soup. "
They don't allow that sort of play in the hot tub at ClubF! I've never worried about what's in the water. |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"There's a good chance you're one of the bikini'd people I was thinking about, Brat. If you're who I think you are, you look fantastic in it.
Spunk soup.
They don't allow that sort of play in the hot tub at ClubF! I've never worried about what's in the water."
There will be chemicals in it to keep it clean I imagine! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a good chance you're one of the bikini'd people I was thinking about, Brat. If you're who I think you are, you look fantastic in it.
Spunk soup.
They don't allow that sort of play in the hot tub at ClubF! I've never worried about what's in the water."
I used to work in a swimming pool and got my pool plant operators certificate. Hot tubs are disgusting little things unless you clean them out constantly. After doing the course, I avoid public ones as much as I can unless I’m d*unk.  |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
"There will be chemicals in it to keep it clean I imagine! "
Yes, there are. And the chlorine can get a bit bad on the eyes when the bubbles are on. But you still don't want any extras in there. |
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"I’ve only been to clubs a couple of times.
I wore a bikini and I must admit, lots of people (either in the hot tub or walking around) would ask why I had it on. That made me feel even more self conscious! The club didn’t have an issue but the number of comments (albeit in a friendly way) made it seem like the other people did.
A friend I accompanied to a club had the same issue and commenters so she stripped off once we got in the hot tub and I wore her bikini for the next couple of hours. I am by no means a CD but it seemed to diffuse the situation as I got the comments
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I think that’s what they were wanting, for me to take it off. There was no way that that was happening so it just all hit a bit annoying for me."
Agree, and have to say you did right x |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"Well guys I’m digging out my sexy bikini and wearing that! Let anyone dare say anything.
Haaaaa I’ll get attention though!!
I’ll do what I want at the end of the day! It’s my body....
Good for you!!! I’m sure no club can make you strip naked! That can’t be right. If there is one that does, it would be one to avoid anyway!"
I know of at least one club with a naked only hot tub.....  |
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"Well guys I’m digging out my sexy bikini and wearing that! Let anyone dare say anything.
Haaaaa I’ll get attention though!!
I’ll do what I want at the end of the day! It’s my body....
Good for you!!! I’m sure no club can make you strip naked! That can’t be right. If there is one that does, it would be one to avoid anyway!
I know of at least one club with a naked only hot tub..... "
What??? That doesn’t seem right to me! Aren’t people supposed to feel comfortable in a club? Imposing nudity isn’t right in my view when swimwear is an option. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went to Townhouse recently, they are pretty chilled tbh. Soon got comfortable wearing just my towel.
Honestly, it is liberating, and there are beautiful ladies all shapes and sizes, nobody judges, everyone is there for fun.
I have more lumps than I should, but it is more how you conduct yourself. Be confident, be you and have fun
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its very liberating to go naked in the pool. Sure the first time it's like erm ... Am I really doing this. After a few times it's like who cares and I d been bigger and smaller than I am now.
I haven't been to the pool yet at the new abfabs but that has more to do with having my make up on than anything else.
If I saw someone in a bikini I'd still think ... "You do know you can do this naked right " but that's because it's freeing to do that and because everyone else is naked it really doesn't matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First time I went to a club, I wore my normal clothes in the bar area (as was allowed). However quickly stripped off to a towel.
I felt much more conspicuous fully dressed than I did in the towel. It's freeing! |
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I think it’s cool that people feel so liberated being naked but, should you want to keep on a bikini for example, that should be cool too. I can’t understand a club enforcing nudity on its guests if it’s supposed to be a place where you are comfortable? It’s not like wandering around in a duffle coat - it’s a bikini! |
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Steph started out in a bikini in club hot tubs. No one batted an eye. After a few visits, she got more comfortable and just wore the bottoms. A few visits on and she's happy to strip off entirely. 
Go at your own pace and don't worry about what others say. If the club want to force you to be uncomfortable then they're not a great club. |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"Well guys I’m digging out my sexy bikini and wearing that! Let anyone dare say anything.
Haaaaa I’ll get attention though!!
I’ll do what I want at the end of the day! It’s my body....
Good for you!!! I’m sure no club can make you strip naked! That can’t be right. If there is one that does, it would be one to avoid anyway!
I know of at least one club with a naked only hot tub.....
What??? That doesn’t seem right to me! Aren’t people supposed to feel comfortable in a club? Imposing nudity isn’t right in my view when swimwear is an option."
Some clubs are also instant dress down - it works in some places though....
I will just say I host at SX in Blackpool - just want to be clear it's not that club that is instant dress down and they do allow bikinis in hot tubs |
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"Well guys I’m digging out my sexy bikini and wearing that! Let anyone dare say anything.
Haaaaa I’ll get attention though!!
I’ll do what I want at the end of the day! It’s my body....
Good for you!!! I’m sure no club can make you strip naked! That can’t be right. If there is one that does, it would be one to avoid anyway!
I know of at least one club with a naked only hot tub.....
What??? That doesn’t seem right to me! Aren’t people supposed to feel comfortable in a club? Imposing nudity isn’t right in my view when swimwear is an option.
Some clubs are also instant dress down - it works in some places though....
I will just say I host at SX in Blackpool - just want to be clear it's not that club that is instant dress down and they do allow bikinis in hot tubs "
So how do you know which clubs insist on nudity? Is it on their website? Definitely ones to avoid! |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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Wear whatever you want to wear, I've been in hot tubs in latex dresses a few times, I really like how it feels. I've also been in the hot tubs in lingerie, I don't think anybody will notice it's about you being comfortable |
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"I think it’s cool that people feel so liberated being naked but, should you want to keep on a bikini for example, that should be cool too. I can’t understand a club enforcing nudity on its guests if it’s supposed to be a place where you are comfortable? It’s not like wandering around in a duffle coat - it’s a bikini! "
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"Wear whatever you want to wear, I've been in hot tubs in latex dresses a few times, I really like how it feels. I've also been in the hot tubs in lingerie, I don't think anybody will notice it's about you being comfortable"
I wouldn’t want to go against club rules though if they insist on nudity as some said above. I’d avoid those clubs. |
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"I know a couple of clubs that have a specific naked day when I would expect this to be enforced but at the vast majority of clubs you are never obliged to be naked. "
Oh, ok. So just check the website before going then. |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"Well guys I’m digging out my sexy bikini and wearing that! Let anyone dare say anything.
Haaaaa I’ll get attention though!!
I’ll do what I want at the end of the day! It’s my body....
Good for you!!! I’m sure no club can make you strip naked! That can’t be right. If there is one that does, it would be one to avoid anyway!
I know of at least one club with a naked only hot tub.....
What??? That doesn’t seem right to me! Aren’t people supposed to feel comfortable in a club? Imposing nudity isn’t right in my view when swimwear is an option.
Some clubs are also instant dress down - it works in some places though....
I will just say I host at SX in Blackpool - just want to be clear it's not that club that is instant dress down and they do allow bikinis in hot tubs
So how do you know which clubs insist on nudity? Is it on their website? Definitely ones to avoid! "
Not nudity in the club - just the hot tub..... |
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"Well guys I’m digging out my sexy bikini and wearing that! Let anyone dare say anything.
Haaaaa I’ll get attention though!!
I’ll do what I want at the end of the day! It’s my body....
Good for you!!! I’m sure no club can make you strip naked! That can’t be right. If there is one that does, it would be one to avoid anyway!
I know of at least one club with a naked only hot tub.....
What??? That doesn’t seem right to me! Aren’t people supposed to feel comfortable in a club? Imposing nudity isn’t right in my view when swimwear is an option.
Some clubs are also instant dress down - it works in some places though....
I will just say I host at SX in Blackpool - just want to be clear it's not that club that is instant dress down and they do allow bikinis in hot tubs
So how do you know which clubs insist on nudity? Is it on their website? Definitely ones to avoid!
Not nudity in the club - just the hot tub..... "
Ah ok! So you can wear what you want as long as you avoid the hot tub? That sounds ok. |
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