I’m really interested in trying new things, I’m basically open to pretty much anything. I’m wondering how you would approach your partner to see exactly where they would stand in all this, any pointers would be appreciated |
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I wouldn’t make a fab page before speaking to them 
My husband literally just asked me how I’d feel, and I told him.
Put absolutely no pressure on your partner to agree to it. If they say no, then it’s no. Respect that. |
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"Just have a conversation with them and see where you agree."
What other way is there.?
Even if you said your mate was talking about it, she'll no doubt ask who.
Depending on how long you've been together, you probably have an idea how she would react. |
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How's your emotional communication? Do you share affection that isn't sexual, do you talk openly together about how you feel? If so good, the next step will be easy. If not, work on that together.
Assuming everything else in your relationship is good sit down with her and say you'd like to discuss fantasies with no judgement or obligation on either side. Tell her yours, ask her what hers are. Remember it's a two way conversation that needs to continue for ever. If you don't get to experience swinging with her you might have some great experiences you'd never imagined before. |
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"How's your emotional communication? Do you share affection that isn't sexual, do you talk openly together about how you feel? If so good, the next step will be easy. If not, work on that together.
Assuming everything else in your relationship is good sit down with her and say you'd like to discuss fantasies with no judgement or obligation on either side. Tell her yours, ask her what hers are. Remember it's a two way conversation that needs to continue for ever. If you don't get to experience swinging with her you might have some great experiences you'd never imagined before."
Yes, that
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Would also love to approach my partner about it, we have very open discussions about sex and also share a lot of affection. I would be worried that she’d think ill of me though and then not feel the same way. We’re off to PDI in October and has already agreed to go naked in the dunes 
For the ladies that were asked, did you always fantasise about it or never even considered it before? |
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"Would also love to approach my partner about it, we have very open discussions about sex and also share a lot of affection. I would be worried that she’d think ill of me though and then not feel the same way. We’re off to PDI in October and has already agreed to go naked in the dunes
For the ladies that were asked, did you always fantasise about it or never even considered it before?"
The thing is whatever we felt before isn't relevant to your partner because we aren't her. Only you know her and how she's likely to react.
For many women if it's not something they've previously considered the first thought they have is "why aren't I enough for him" closely followed by "he no longer desires me" |
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