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Both are important as you must be attracted to the person and enjoy their company but if you’re talking about long-term relationships then personality is key for me. I’d much rather have someone who makes me laugh, is kind, considerate, loving and intelligent than someone who looks pretty but bores the shit out of me.
I got lucky with my Husband as he’s the whole shebang. 
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"No, I go for looks every time."
If you were out in a club and there's two guys you find attractive, the better looking one is obnoxious, a bit of a dick and the other guy's coming across polite and generally a decent bloke would you still go for the better looking guy? |
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"No, I go for looks every time.
If you were out in a club and there's two guys you find attractive, the better looking one is obnoxious, a bit of a dick and the other guy's coming across polite and generally a decent bloke would you still go for the better looking guy? "
Probably. I’m only going to use him for an hour or so, so who cares what his personality is like  |
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over a year ago
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"That's accualy so hypocritical.
On profiles read they wans some converional skills (personality), and here they go for looks
Find it hilarious  "
I go for looks because I couldn’t fuck someone I’m not attracted too. Yes, I need to like the persons personality, if they were a total cunt it wouldn’t matter how hot they were, I’d find them repulsive.
But the nicest man in the world could be unattractive to me, and I wouldn’t fuck them just because they’ve got a lovely personality |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't go for either over the other - I want both in equal amounts for me to really enjoy myself. What I find attractive might not always be classically good looking but it's attractive to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looks will entice you first. However, if you realise that they are a dick, it's amazing how you can quickly find them unattractive "
This must be my downfall  |
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"I've an obnoxious personality and awful looks....
Nobody wants me "
Have you still got the mini? Some girls love a man with a nice car regardless of how they look and act. Maybe that could be your way in. 
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"Looks will entice you first. However, if you realise that they are a dick, it's amazing how you can quickly find them unattractive "
I’m finished with them by the time I realise that so it’s all good  |
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"Looks will entice you first. However, if you realise that they are a dick, it's amazing how you can quickly find them unattractive "
Agreed! And an average looking man with a cracking personality and good sense of humour can easily win some women over.
Lou x |
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I don't see how with most casual hook ups on fab and elsewhere you can really get to know someone's personality. I know some do but they are the minority. The best you can hope for really is you have a similar sense of humour and get along superficially. I mean, you can date someone for six months before you discover they're an absolute arse. |
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To summarise
If don't look attractive enough for a specific lady, you have no chance even if your personality is of the charts.
If you attractive with personality of dead fish you can still get a shag but no relationship.
If you have both you are in heaven
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To summarise
If don't look attractive enough for a specific lady, you have no chance even if your personality is of the charts.
If you attractive with personality of dead fish you can still get a shag but no relationship.
If you have both you are in heaven
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Yep! |
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"To summarise
If don't look attractive enough for a specific lady, you have no chance even if your personality is of the charts.
If you attractive with personality of dead fish you can still get a shag but no relationship.
If you have both you are in heaven
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"To summarise
If don't look attractive enough for a specific lady, you have no chance even if your personality is of the charts.
If you attractive with personality of dead fish you can still get a shag but no relationship.
If you have both you are in heaven
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That correct. Because all women think the same. We’re like predictable robots.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I genuinely don't think I could fuck someone with a shitty personality no matter how good looking they were. It's such a turn off.
Personality would come first if I could only pick one. |
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"I genuinely don't think I could fuck someone with a shitty personality no matter how good looking they were. It's such a turn off.
Personality would come first if I could only pick one. "
Credit to you, but you are in minority  |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"No, I go for looks every time.
If you were out in a club and there's two guys you find attractive, the better looking one is obnoxious, a bit of a dick and the other guy's coming across polite and generally a decent bloke would you still go for the better looking guy?
Probably. I’m only going to use him for an hour or so, so who cares what his personality is like "
Ah, understood. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I genuinely don't think I could fuck someone with a shitty personality no matter how good looking they were. It's such a turn off.
Personality would come first if I could only pick one. "
But would it, really?
Would you approach or allow somebody to approach you if you found them unattractive? Sure if they don't have an attractive personality their looks mean nothing, but to allow that personality to take centre stage their looks will always be first impression. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I genuinely don't think I could fuck someone with a shitty personality no matter how good looking they were. It's such a turn off.
Personality would come first if I could only pick one.
But would it, really?
Would you approach or allow somebody to approach you if you found them unattractive? Sure if they don't have an attractive personality their looks mean nothing, but to allow that personality to take centre stage their looks will always be first impression. "
You're right you know. The more I think about it the more I think I'm kidding myself.
I just asked my partner and told him I'd choose personality over looks and he just laughed in my face
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"Both are important as you must be attracted to the person and enjoy their company but if you’re talking about long-term relationships then personality is key for me. I’d much rather have someone who makes me laugh, is kind, considerate, loving and intelligent than someone who looks pretty but bores the shit out of me.
I got lucky with my Husband as he’s the whole shebang.
I think you have to say transgender nowadays you can’t say SheBang
Lou x "
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I genuinely don't think I could fuck someone with a shitty personality no matter how good looking they were. It's such a turn off.
Personality would come first if I could only pick one.
But would it, really?
Would you approach or allow somebody to approach you if you found them unattractive? Sure if they don't have an attractive personality their looks mean nothing, but to allow that personality to take centre stage their looks will always be first impression.
You're right you know. The more I think about it the more I think I'm kidding myself.
I just asked my partner and told him I'd choose personality over looks and he just laughed in my face
I change my answer "
Nothing wrong with that at all, and I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of. Most people do it, that's the thing.
Physical attractiveness is different for everyone. I don't consider myself attractive, most don't! But a few do.
The truly attractive people just get more chances to show how good their personality is, it's the advantage to good looks. Which is why in a round about way it is more important. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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Even if it's just fab meets there's still got to be something there in common for us. Just thinking back to some of our meets and we're talking before, during a mid break, whatever, if they couldn't string a sentence together or just talked pointlessly we would have both wanted to leave. Couldn't go through with the good looking, dumb and full of cum process. |
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"I genuinely don't think I could fuck someone with a shitty personality no matter how good looking they were. It's such a turn off.
Personality would come first if I could only pick one.
But would it, really?
Would you approach or allow somebody to approach you if you found them unattractive? Sure if they don't have an attractive personality their looks mean nothing, but to allow that personality to take centre stage their looks will always be first impression.
You're right you know. The more I think about it the more I think I'm kidding myself.
I just asked my partner and told him I'd choose personality over looks and he just laughed in my face
I change my answer
Nothing wrong with that at all, and I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of. Most people do it, that's the thing.
Physical attractiveness is different for everyone. I don't consider myself attractive, most don't! But a few do.
The truly attractive people just get more chances to show how good their personality is, it's the advantage to good looks. Which is why in a round about way it is more important. "
I agree. You just have to sit back and observe how people react differently to people, even in the small world of forum. |
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"You can’t judge a book and all that !!!
What if you ladies after looks and attraction end up with joey Essex
Would you help him tie his laces and put him on the right bus home after "
I’ve already left, he can tie his own laces in my absence |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"You can’t judge a book and all that !!!
What if you ladies after looks and attraction end up with joey Essex
Would you help him tie his laces and put him on the right bus home after "
Ladies? All of us guys do it too. It is human nature. The difference however is when it comes to just sex, nothing but sex - fuck and run - some men are more flexible with what they would usually consider attractive just to have sex. They will drop their "standards" on looks and personality just for a shag. Women are much more disciplined as a whole. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I guess it depends what one is looking for.
Shag
Or
Some relationship
Something in between maybe?? "
Another great deciding factor.
A one off thing - looks always win, personality only plays a minor role.
Something regular - both are important
Relationship - both are important
Oh look at that, looks are important in all 3. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I guess it depends what one is looking for.
Shag
Or
Some relationship
Something in between maybe??
Another great deciding factor.
A one off thing - looks always win, personality only plays a minor role.
Something regular - both are important
Relationship - both are important
Oh look at that, looks are important in all 3."
As I said, looks will entice you in so yes. But I doubt I would fuck a dickhead because for me it's unattractive |
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"I genuinely don't think I could fuck someone with a shitty personality no matter how good looking they were. It's such a turn off. "
I used to think that but then one time at a festival this smoking hot Eastern Europan girl with black hair and amazing bright blue eyes came up and started chatting to me, giving me all the signs etc etc. We kiss and everything is looking great. Then the conversation turns to condoms and do I have one because she doesn't want to get AIDS. So far, fair enough. But then the conversation took a bizarre turn for the wierd and she started voicing some really off key and deeply racist stuff about AIDS (which I won't repeat, because it was fully out of order) but the upshot was about how she would never fuck Blacks or Jews or Arabs because of it. Now this stuff she was coming out with fully repulsed me, and under normal circumstances, would have totally caused me to abandon a conversation, but by this point, I am also fully into the fact that I am about to shag her and we are already back in the tent. So, I pretended not to have heard and got right back down to the fun stuff. For several very enjoyable hours.
We then parted ways and never spoke to each other again. Which left me with some fantastic footage for the wank bank and the smug knowledge that she just slept with a (part) Arab without even realising!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Guys I've dated were nothing like the majority of my Fab meets. Usually older, a little out of shape and made me laugh until I cried. Ultimately they were just absolutely lovely guys who I adored being in the company of, fancied the pants off and didn't make everything about sex. Personality wins every time for me when dating.
On Fabs I get to meet gorgeous guys who I'd probably never have the opportunity to meet or play with if I wasn't on here. I initially check out their pics to see if there's a physical attraction and take things from there. Their personality isn't of great importance. As long as they're respectful and respectful of my boundaries, I'm happy
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"I genuinely don't think I could fuck someone with a shitty personality no matter how good looking they were. It's such a turn off.
I used to think that but then one time at a festival this smoking hot Eastern Europan girl with black hair and amazing bright blue eyes came up and started chatting to me, giving me all the signs etc etc. We kiss and everything is looking great. Then the conversation turns to condoms and do I have one because she doesn't want to get AIDS. So far, fair enough. But then the conversation took a bizarre turn for the wierd and she started voicing some really off key and deeply racist stuff about AIDS (which I won't repeat, because it was fully out of order) but the upshot was about how she would never fuck Blacks or Jews or Arabs because of it. Now this stuff she was coming out with fully repulsed me, and under normal circumstances, would have totally caused me to abandon a conversation, but by this point, I am also fully into the fact that I am about to shag her and we are already back in the tent. So, I pretended not to have heard and got right back down to the fun stuff. For several very enjoyable hours.
We then parted ways and never spoke to each other again. Which left me with some fantastic footage for the wank bank and the smug knowledge that she just slept with a (part) Arab without even realising! "
Yes but that's a one off, doubtful anything regular would have come of it because of these extreme differences.
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You need both there has to be be that mental and physical connection. Initially there is that physically connection but over time the mental stimulation and personality takes over. Might look like brad Pitt but if you got the personality of a gold fish then its not gonna work |
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"Guys I've dated were nothing like the majority of my Fab meets. Usually older, a little out of shape and made me laugh until I cried. Ultimately they were just absolutely lovely guys who I adored being in the company of, fancied the pants off and didn't make everything about sex. Personality wins every time for me when dating.
On Fabs I get to meet gorgeous guys who I'd probably never have the opportunity to meet or play with if I wasn't on here. I initially check out their pics to see if there's a physical attraction and take things from there. Their personality isn't of great importance. As long as they're respectful and respectful of my boundaries, I'm happy
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I agree with this completely. Same here |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Bottom line will always be this
Are you physically attracted to them enough for you to even start to give a shit about their personality in the first place?
This is why looks trumps personality and always will.
You see the proof on here everyday, if you don't like the look of their pictures you will never talk to them enough to learn of their personality. |
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Yes but that's a one off, doubtful anything regular would have come of it because of these extreme differences.
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Well, of course, I would never knowingly date or be friends with a racist. If she had expressed those opinions earlier in the conversation I'd have totally called her out on it and that would probably have been the end of our interactions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You can’t judge a book and all that !!!
What if you ladies after looks and attraction end up with joey Essex
Would you help him tie his laces and put him on the right bus home after
Ladies? All of us guys do it too. It is human nature. The difference however is when it comes to just sex, nothing but sex - fuck and run - some men are more flexible with what they would usually consider attractive just to have sex. They will drop their "standards" on looks and personality just for a shag. Women are much more disciplined as a whole."
And this is how I get to sleep with some pretty hot guys ha ha, don't ever change lads! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Conversely, in the real world I have found myself attracted to the most unlikely people. Purely based on their ability to let their personality shine through... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I tend to message guys from the forum based on the messages they write so where their personality shines through. I don’t ask for a face pic until we’ve then pmed for a bit.
Looks- of course become important but a pic is such a shitty way to find out what someone really looks like as many people simply aren’t photogenic.
Hence the importance of that first social meet.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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On here,Looks are obviously what grabs your attention.
Then you hope the personality matches.
We have found though that through clubs, that we are regulars of. You get to know people and find that some people that we normally wouldn't go for based on looks are such a laugh and nice people that you find yourself attracted to them regardless. |
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