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Not bringing condoms to a sex club

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I’ve encountered this a few times and an always astonished men do this if they’re looking to play. I’ve always walked away.

Does anyone have any insights into why someone might go to a club, look to play (because I’m not twisting their arm) and NOT have condoms on them? Especially at play parties.

It’s a complete mood killer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Running out is a different thing. I’m talking top of the evening, cock out, no condoms.

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By *asteregg01Woman over a year ago

Leeds

I've had this happen to me before. ALL PLAY STOPS I believe most guys think they can just slip it in bare. (In my opinion)

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By *ambornemanMan over a year ago

In your town now

Condoms are a mood killer you got that right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Running out is a different thing. I’m talking top of the evening, cock out, no condoms."

We were clubf last Sunday and 2 men,both approx early 50s a, had no condoms and b, when we gave them some hadn't a clue how to put them on / use them!! One of the guys was blowing air into his cpndom at one point serious!

Wife told them no chance lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Running out is a different thing. I’m talking top of the evening, cock out, no condoms.

Wife told them no chance lol"

Casual barebacking in a club. Always the option of choice - NOT! Astonishing.

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman over a year ago

Pontypridd

Plenty of guys do it. Because they want bareback. My experience of clubs is that at least a third of guys try for bareback. I was once warned by a watcher that the guy about to enter me hadn’t put on a condom on. He was ordered out of the room but it spoilt the whole playtime and I didn’t bother carrying on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've had this happen to me before. ALL PLAY STOPS I believe most guys think they can just slip it in bare. (In my opinion)"

Unfortunately I think you are right. I suspect you and I have encountered this at the same kind of events.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Plenty of guys do it. Because they want bareback. My experience of clubs is that at least a third of guys try for bareback. I was once warned by a watcher that the guy about to enter me hadn’t put on a condom on. He was ordered out of the room but it spoilt the whole playtime and I didn’t bother carrying on. "

Wow. I haven’t experienced anything like 30%. I’d say more 5-10%. It may be different by region and event. Maybe regular club goers are better prepared and more versed in rules of the scene? I would hope.

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By *ohnjones3210Man over a year ago

Chester

Think of it a different way... You're semi naked, down to your underpants.. and you're aimlessly walking around with a condom packet in your hand. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman over a year ago

Pontypridd

"Think of it a different way... You're semi naked, down to your underpants.. and you're aimlessly walking around with a condom packet in your hand. Lol."

My fb wears a wristband and tucks them under that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Condoms are a mood killer you got that right

Not really... And nowhere near as much of one as someone trying to bb you when that's not what's on the menu

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By *ohnjones3210Man over a year ago

Chester

"Think of it a different way... You're semi naked, down to your underpants.. and you're aimlessly walking around with a condom packet in your hand. Lol.

My fb wears a wristband and tucks them under that. "

That's a good idea...

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By *xperimentalistMan over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Some clubs provide, seems some don't, people should be checking before attending and coming prepared

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is no excuse for any guy not having condoms when visiting a club, easy to get hold off and most clubs do supply them.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Condoms are a mood killer you got that right

Not if you know how to put them on they're not and even if they were - the alternative to them is potentially going to be more of a mood killer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps I'm old school having been a late teens in the early 1980s and pretty much had it drummed into you about safe sex, I always have a condom on me when go to meet someone, even if it's just a social because you never know if it might turn into something more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Think of it a different way... You're semi naked, down to your underpants.. and you're aimlessly walking around with a condom packet in your hand. Lol."

Just the one!! You have low ambitions. Many tick them under the band of their locker key. The really well prepared have a little play bag with lube, little toy etc. That’s what all those little ‘pencil cases’ are. We’re not writing on each other..

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Think of it a different way... You're semi naked, down to your underpants.. and you're aimlessly walking around with a condom packet in your hand. Lol.

My fb wears a wristband and tucks them under that. "

That, or tuck them into the towel, or have even seen some guys with a small pouch/bag that they go and get and bring to the play area.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Condoms are a mood killer you got that right

I feel Club’s may not be for you. I’m pretty sure very few women will be into casual barebacking in a club.

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By *uxomBloomsWoman over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells

Yes, I spend a fortune on condoms because no one ever has any, it doesn't help that I'm allergic to latex so need something like Skyns.

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By *ntraditionalwomanWoman over a year ago

Manchester

"Condoms are a mood killer you got that right

No the mood killer is men like you thinking is ok to bare back ladies. No respect for your sexual health or other around you

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By *JohnMan over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I made myself a little pouch that clips onto my locker key. Never short!

It's come to the rescue of others a couple of times (it's easy to underestimate how many to bring when the night turns better than you expect). They sell them at the bar, but you don't want to put the action on hold.

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By *inkynudeMan over a year ago

London

Most clubs I’ve been to offered free condoms which is super practical. Idk why don’t all clubs do it...

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By *ill74Man over a year ago

New forest area

It's not all men.

I have been to a few clubs. Condoms were supplied. And used.

Bareback is a no no for me.

Please don't label all men the same.

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By *offee and KinksCouple over a year ago

Notts/Derby

Purple Mamba has them in every room and in the bar & lounge areas, free of charge. Along with wipes, lube and other cleaning products.

So no excuses for anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve encountered this a few times and an always astonished men do this if they’re looking to play. I’ve always walked away.

Does anyone have any insights into why someone might go to a club, look to play (because I’m not twisting their arm) and NOT have condoms on them? Especially at play parties.

It’s a complete mood killer."

Because very often they will find those that also dont wear condoms. As much as they will be knocked back by those that do.

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By *adyJayneWoman over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

I have a glasses case that I use which has condoms (latex free as well as latex) lube and a vibrator. It astounds me the amount of men who don't carry condoms, and even more the amount that don't carry condoms but walk round with baby oil!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's not all men.

I have been to a few clubs. Condoms were supplied. And used.

Bareback is a no no for me.

Please don't label all men the same."

Given that there are posts explicitly discussing what percentage of men do it, and nothing in the OP even implied it was anywhere like all men, I’m not sure how you come to the conclusion that ‘all men’ are being labelled the same?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have a glasses case that I use which has condoms (latex free as well as latex) lube and a vibrator. It astounds me the amount of men who don't carry condoms, and even more the amount that don't carry condoms but walk round with baby oil!"

Oh wow! I’ve not encountered that! I think someone who was ‘prepared’ in that way would get a particularly frank goodbye.

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By *ill74Man over a year ago

New forest area

"It's not all men.

I have been to a few clubs. Condoms were supplied. And used.

Bareback is a no no for me.

Please don't label all men the same.

Waan't directed at anyone.

I agree some blokes are idiots, and ruin it for others.

Just fed up of that really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's not all men.

I have been to a few clubs. Condoms were supplied. And used.

Bareback is a no no for me.

Please don't label all men the same.

Waan't directed at anyone.

I agree some blokes are idiots, and ruin it for others.

Just fed up of that really."

No. The condomless are just left hard and frustrated while the women go off to find someone with respect. It just makes us more appreciative of the respectful players imho.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Condoms are a mood killer you got that right

Not if you know how to put them on they're not and even if they were - the alternative to them is potentially going to be more of a mood killer

I quite like putting them on a man myself, it's quite horny x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They don't use condoms. They fuck around bareback. That's what most men do 'in the real world'. They also assume that if someone is using condoms it's because they're infected.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had this happen to me before. ALL PLAY STOPS I believe most guys think they can just slip it in bare. (In my opinion)

Unfortunately I think you are right. I suspect you and I have encountered this at the same kind of events."

You are both right as I too have experienced this at a club.... think some guys think that no one would notice, or that they won't be stopped .

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"They don't use condoms. They fuck around bareback. That's what most men do 'in the real world'. They also assume that if someone is using condoms it's because they're infected. "

I think you and I must meet very different kinds of men in the ‘real world’.

I’d expect any man I had sex with, however we met and in whatever context, to bring condoms. In a sex club I think there are pretty much no excuses for not coming prepared if you’re going to stick your dick in someone there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They don't use condoms. They fuck around bareback. That's what most men do 'in the real world'. They also assume that if someone is using condoms it's because they're infected.

I think you and I must meet very different kinds of men in the ‘real world’.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They don't use condoms. They fuck around bareback. That's what most men do 'in the real world'. They also assume that if someone is using condoms it's because they're infected.

I think you and I must meet very different kinds of men in the ‘real world’.

In your OP you said you've met men a few times who don't have condoms. How is that different?

Lots of people bareback.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"They don't use condoms. They fuck around bareback. That's what most men do 'in the real world'. They also assume that if someone is using condoms it's because they're infected.

I think you and I must meet very different kinds of men in the ‘real world’.

In your OP you said you've met men a few times who don't have condoms. How is that different?

Lots of people bareback. "

How is what different to what?

I’ve encountered them. I haven’t had sex with them. Encounter is not a synonym for fuck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They don't use condoms. They fuck around bareback. That's what most men do 'in the real world'. They also assume that if someone is using condoms it's because they're infected.

I think you and I must meet very different kinds of men in the ‘real world’.

In your OP you said you've met men a few times who don't have condoms. How is that different?

Lots of people bareback.

How is what different to what?

I’ve encountered them. I haven’t had sex with them. Encounter is not a synonym for fuck."

Oh you're insinuating that I do fuck them. Ok

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

What! Women don't come with them pre fitted ? Shit!

Still it would explain why my cock has turned green and why I got a letter through the door from CSA the other day. I wish someone had have explain all this first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Condoms are a mood killer you got that right

Not if you know how to put them on they're not and even if they were - the alternative to them is potentially going to be more of a mood killer

Last I heard, HIV/AIDS, gonorrhoea, syphilis, pelvic inflammatory disease and herpes were mood killers.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Not everyone uses condoms or covering for manual/oral action, where kissing, lots of body caressing and more is enjoyed. Some people want bareback penetration too. Lots of reasons people don't have condoms, as many places have copious supplies.

Some people carry their own, due to allergies or preference too and chancers may just hope that the other people have them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its just respectful to have them in a club meet or a 1on1 meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

We've met guys in their own home who don't have them...

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By *xelf787Man over a year ago

Chorlton, Manchester

"Yes, I spend a fortune on condoms because no one ever has any, it doesn't help that I'm allergic to latex so need something like Skyns. "

I always use Skyns!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve encountered this a few times and an always astonished men do this if they’re looking to play. I’ve always walked away.

Does anyone have any insights into why someone might go to a club, look to play (because I’m not twisting their arm) and NOT have condoms on them? Especially at play parties.

It’s a complete mood killer."

I was at a well known bi-weekly event with a friend. He was watching as an older guy (early sixties) and I played, my chum stopped play when the pr**k took his condom off as he was about to enter me. Mightily pissed off. Mood ruined and air blue.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

It’s each person’s responsibility to have them... never rely on the other person having them

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By *ohnjones3210Man over a year ago

Chester

"It's not all men.

I have been to a few clubs. Condoms were supplied. And used.

Bareback is a no no for me.

Please don't label all men the same.

Waan't directed at anyone.

I agree some blokes are idiots, and ruin it for others.

Just fed up of that really.

No. The condomless are just left hard and frustrated while the women go off to find someone with respect. It just makes us more appreciative of the respectful players imho."

I can confirm to you that the condom-less ones do not get left hard and frustrated at all. Women don't just go off and find someone with respect. A condom-less guy can be just as respectful as any other guy. I think you're taking it a little bit too far!

I'll tell you about my very last experience just to help you see that it's actually very simple:

The last time I went to a club, two ladies were playing, one of them invited me over. We had a bit of fun... As I was about to go in, I politely asked "Hey, do you have a condom?", she simply said "Yes Hun!" and handed one over from her handbag. I put it on and the fun continued. It was a very simple and painless process and no emotional or physical damage was done.

Some men carry condoms, some don't, some women carry condoms and some don't. If the man doesn't have one, maybe give him one of yours! If he has one, and you don't, great! If neither have one, then simply go to get one!

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By *iss pleasuringWoman over a year ago

Somewhere near

Given we are in 2019 I ask myself why should it be down to the man to carry condoms,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve encountered this a few times and an always astonished men do this if they’re looking to play. I’ve always walked away.

Does anyone have any insights into why someone might go to a club, look to play (because I’m not twisting their arm) and NOT have condoms on them? Especially at play parties.

It’s a complete mood killer.

Thats shocking as is some of the other horror stories in this thread. We ended up telling the 2 joker's who couldn't use a condom to leave and entertained ourselves. This is why a spotter is essential I won't drink when we go to a club because my wife's safety and comfortability are of the upmost importance to me x

Not to play devil's advocate but I'm going to.

Is this an age related thing to some degree? All the people who have barebacked, not been good with condoms etc have been 50 plus in our experience.

We are in our 30s and people we have played with in there early 40s, 30s and 20s have all used condoms by default. Maybe the over 50s group weren't brought up with condoms in the same way younger generations have been?

I appreciate the problem will apply to all ages groups as well I'm only looking at our experiences x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

"Given we are in 2019 I ask myself why should it be down to the man to carry condoms, "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Given we are in 2019 I ask myself why should it be down to the man to carry condoms,

We as a couple carry condoms but sometimes they aren't the right size for some guys you'd think they'd know this and get the right size condoms for themselves before going to a club to play?

Personally I think it's should be all parties who carry condoms, single people and couples.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Given we are in 2019 I ask myself why should it be down to the man to carry condoms, "

Good point. However I think anybody who turns up to a meet or club without is impolite at best whatever gender

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"They don't use condoms. They fuck around bareback. That's what most men do 'in the real world'. They also assume that if someone is using condoms it's because they're infected.

I think you and I must meet very different kinds of men in the ‘real world’.

In your OP you said you've met men a few times who don't have condoms. How is that different?

Lots of people bareback.

How is what different to what?

I’ve encountered them. I haven’t had sex with them. Encounter is not a synonym for fuck.

Oh you're insinuating that I do fuck them. Ok"

I genuinely have no idea what you are talking about Steel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Given we are in 2019 I ask myself why should it be down to the man to carry condoms,

Good point. However I think anybody who turns up to a meet or club without is impolite at best whatever gender"

I always carry condoms. Running out is different to not bringing any.

And yes, if someone suggests sex without sorting themselves out with condoms first I do experience that as a lack of respect. I know I’m clean, I have no idea about you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I carry condoms on me most of the time have one in the wallet.

Even it’s a social or first date if I’m dating I always bring condoms with me.

Because you don’t know if would turn into something more sexual or not.

I would only go bareback if I was in a relationship with a girl or a long term lover where the mutual trust and respect has been build up.

Some don’t like it when you bring condoms out as they think you got something. Which surprises me considering how long safe sex has been taught in schools and campaigned about over the years.

In the situation you talk about OP, I think it’s because they think for them selves and safe sex doesn’t cross their mind because they just want to get the sex they want.

In the process not giving other club goers the respect they should.

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By *essica jamiesonWoman over a year ago

edinburgh

"Condoms are a mood killer you got that right

Not if you know how to put them on they're not and even if they were - the alternative to them is potentially going to be more of a mood killer

Last I heard, HIV/AIDS, gonorrhoea, syphilis, pelvic inflammatory disease and herpes were mood killers. "
BEST COMMENT! Ive said this before regarding bareback and the amount of folk who said i was talking crap! Lol lol u gotta laugh at bb brigade obv whatever std they have contracted is making them deluded..

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By *iamond coupleCouple over a year ago

leeds

We have experienced guys at the club coming to a room to play with no condoms. They are told no way is it happening to which most reply that they will go and get one. They are then told that even if they come back with a box full they still have no chance now or ever.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I personally like to provide my own condoms. I’m always astonished that 95% of women in my experience expect the men to provide the condoms.

It’s just as much my responsibility as it is there’s. I now play as a couple and we take enough for both of us.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

In clubs that don't provide condoms, my experience is that 80-90% of guys have them on them. But I always have my own. Of the ones that don't, maybe 30% try to argue with me about it, and no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes been to a few clubs where guys have no condoms, why ?. Some guys just like to watch and wank others love to be wanked or sucked by the wife or girlfriend, like when I meet a couple most that I have met enjoy lots the four play before the fucking not wam bam thank you mam, I always carry condoms it’s a must but try understanding other guys get off in different ways other than just fucking .

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Yes been to a few clubs where guys have no condoms, why ?. Some guys just like to watch and wank others love to be wanked or sucked by the wife or girlfriend, like when I meet a couple most that I have met enjoy lots the four play before the fucking not wam bam thank you mam, I always carry condoms it’s a must but try understanding other guys get off in different ways other than just fucking . "

In my experience, 99% of guys who want to play with me (possibly higher, although I can think of a single exception) want to penetrate. The OP was talking about those who want to play with her.

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By *W Cunning-linguistMan over a year ago

Gloucester ish

Tuck it under your watch strap or the wristband for your locker key, or get a small discreet bag to carry.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think that answer has to categories.

The lazy ones, who simply forget or cba with condoms, or think it's their playmates responsibility.

The ones who like bareback. They haven't brought any condoms, because they don't use them!

Steer clear if that's not your thing.

It would put me off for sure, but I always provide condoms, and like to use mine so I know for sure they're in date, seal not ripped or damaged etc...so u rarely find out if they're carrying tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Although most of the club's I've been have a healthy supply of condoms. I always bring a pack with me just in case.

However I have been in rooms where women have said she wanted it bareback, which quickly made me think how many other men she has said that too... I quickly grabbed my towel and made my excuses... Thanks is but no thanks

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By *mmaAndDavidHornyFuckersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

Get a gym towel with a pocket in it.

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By *omvampmMan over a year ago

gillingham

"It's not all men.

I have been to a few clubs. Condoms were supplied. And used.

Bareback is a no no for me.

Please don't label all men the same.

Waan't directed at anyone.

I agree some blokes are idiots, and ruin it for others.

Just fed up of that really.

No. The condomless are just left hard and frustrated while the women go off to find someone with respect. It just makes us more appreciative of the respectful players imho."

Respectfulness is key if you ask me a lot of people just assume things are ok be it not using a condom or touching uninvited it upsets me when I'm a club and I see this happern yes we are there for fun or we wudnt be there you can tuck condoms in towl or the pencil cases ( which I'm now Gona notice lol) but yer don't need to tuck respect and common decency of being polite anywhere it should be in you those without ruin it for all the decent people be it guys or ladies couples etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve encountered this a few times and an always astonished men do this if they’re looking to play. I’ve always walked away.

Does anyone have any insights into why someone might go to a club, look to play (because I’m not twisting their arm) and NOT have condoms on them? Especially at play parties.

It’s a complete mood killer."

I have an arm wallet which we keep condoms, lube and locker keys in. We have experienced people trying to slip it in with out one and also taking one off when in doggy position. I think it's that some guys feel in clubs that they have paid, not just to get in, but that it's a brothel and they deserve to get their needs met.

We've also had arranged meets at home when people haven't brought them which I find unbelievable as it states clearly on our profile it isn't happening unless condoms are worn. Male

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By *ibblingnewtWoman over a year ago

by the sea

A huge amount of people do play bareback I honestly don’t know why this shocks people

Just protect yourself

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By *amesnplanesMan over a year ago

Banbridge and Dublin

The condom availabilty thing is an issue.

The simplest solution would be for the clubs to have a healthy stock of condoms and lube throughout the club. I've seem some clubs take this approach and it doesn't take anyone by surprise.

I also know that the local health authorities do make free condoms available to clubs because prevention is significantly cheaper than trying to manage the medical issues post an infection.

With that in mind, I'm always a little surprised when some clubs then sell protection at a premium. Its on a par with catching a Ryanair flight and being sold a lifejacket in the departure lounge!

Anyway, I'm a good boyscout.... be prepared!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"A huge amount of people do play bareback I honestly don’t know why this shocks people

Just protect yourself "

Yep.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m always losing the condoms. I now keep a few spare them in my wife’s bra.

The funniest moment was in a group play and a chap who was nothing to do with us, reached out and put his hand in my wife’s bra to pull out a condom!

Could possibly be seen as inappropriate, but it made us both laugh!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m always losing the condoms. I now keep a few spare them in my wife’s bra.

The funniest moment was in a group play and a chap who was nothing to do with us, reached out and put his hand in my wife’s bra to pull out a condom!

Could possibly be seen as inappropriate, but it made us both laugh!

It is inappropriate but that being said he clearly knew where to find a condom and used it, so perhaps a pat on the back and we would have laughed too

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

There are lots of people who don't bring condoms to clubs, but I don't think it's an issue with some clubs, for example clubs where there's a big bowl of them on the counter or they sell them at the reception so people buy them on the way in. I guess you're talking more about the people who get involved in intimacy without having protection on them at that point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

And that’s absolutely fair enough, but those people wouldn’t suggest we played together.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple over a year ago

Stockport

"I’ve encountered this a few times and an always astonished men do this if they’re looking to play. I’ve always walked away.

Does anyone have any insights into why someone might go to a club, look to play (because I’m not twisting their arm) and NOT have condoms on them? Especially at play parties.

It’s a complete mood killer."

They’re always in our play bag that we take to clubs. But when we went on Saturday we totally forgot and left them in the locker!

luckily the couple we played with had some or it would have changed the mood a little rushing back to the locker to retrieve them! I wouldn’t mind but they are in a little bag on their own and easy to hang around my wrist so no excuse!

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

"Running out is a different thing. I’m talking top of the evening, cock out, no condoms.

Wife told them no chance lol"
we have had the same in club , go into a room lock bit play then find out they have none , off they go to get some,doors locked not to be opened till we finish , they nock as long as they want , thing is 3 for a pund at the bar.

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

"I’ve encountered this a few times and an always astonished men do this if they’re looking to play. I’ve always walked away.

Does anyone have any insights into why someone might go to a club, look to play (because I’m not twisting their arm) and NOT have condoms on them? Especially at play parties.

It’s a complete mood killer.

Not to play devil's advocate but I'm going to.

Is this an age related thing to some degree? All the people who have barebacked, not been good with condoms etc have been 50 plus in our experience.

I appreciate the problem will apply to all ages groups as well I'm only looking at our experiences x"
no seen a young lass first night at a club get bb by 5 guys she was about 25

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Condoms are a mood killer you got that right

No the mood killer is men like you thinking is ok to bare back ladies. No respect for your sexual health or other around you"

I think you will find alot of women bareback its not just men who do it.

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By *aralewisCouple over a year ago

South Yorkshire

We would never play unless it’s safe play...

Even with blow we use them

Loads of people don’t that’s why we state safe play at all times...I know it’s a mood killer but we all have our preferences and that’s our

Safe play or no Play

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By *omvampmMan over a year ago

gillingham

"We would never play unless it’s safe play...

Even with blow we use them

Loads of people don’t that’s why we state safe play at all times...I know it’s a mood killer but we all have our preferences and that’s our

Safe play or no Play "
that fair and all should respect each other's preference s x be a lot nicer easier and ultimately more fun if everyone did xxx

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By *layfulpairsxCouple over a year ago

Southend

We have seen plenty of guys try it on both recently and way back in the day. When I was a single guy I took condoms, simple as. It is laziness combined with the hope you'll be invited to bareback. Have some respect for the women in clubs, without taking condoms you are showing them none whatsoever.

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By *oubletroublexxCouple over a year ago

liverpool

We’ve never been to a club but we’ve had a meet were the condom has completely ripped, I (male) let them know and got told to just carry on. This made me hornier knowing the risks and the fact they didn’t care. What normally happens at clubs in that scenario or has that happened to anyone before?

Actually one of our verifications

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By *lorious hole bs16Man over a year ago

Bristol

Over the years i have got used to the fact that a lot of men dont take responsibility for themselves and rely on others to provide protection...(I blame the Mothers/wifes lol)

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By *JohnMan over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"the condom has completely ripped ... What normally happens at clubs in that scenario or has that happened to anyone before?"

I've seen that happen once. He did the right thing - stopped and told her. Unfortunately it was his last condom. They were both enjoying themselves, and I had spares, so they were able to continue without too much interruption.

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By *eedsortingMan over a year ago

Radley

I suspect the laziness one is a common answer. Either they expect to find free ones at the club or the people they plan in getting intimate with having a supply. Those that try to go BB (either blatantly from the start or the more sinister whipping it off just before cumming) are a different beast altogether and it really isn't on. A simple matter of respect for the people you are with and at least check with them first. Yes, there are a number of people who like to BB and that's their choice. Yes, there are potential consequences but one assumes they are aware of them and are taking a calculated risk. There's a risk to most things we do. Smoking, driving, choice of food we eat etc, etc. Sometimes the risks are more subtle or what we consider better "odds" or the effects may not hit us for years. Maybe it's because our world feels so much safer in many ways that we have a primal instinct to want to take risks. Who knows. But trying to go BB without at least talking about it is the height of disrespect

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

"Given we are in 2019 I ask myself why should it be down to the man to carry condoms, "

Because he has something to put them on?

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Given we are in 2019 I ask myself why should it be down to the man to carry condoms,

Because he has something to put them on?

And/or women have to put in a lot more time, effort, money, etc into their appearance.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

My first swinging experiences were at private parties where bowls of condoms were provided.

However at regular clubs I always have a sports wristband with a zipped compartment which holds a few condoms. I'm always shocked even ladies are surprised by this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agree with OP - this is really not in i think.

Indeed there are a number of single guys who not only hope for bareback, but o have seen try to sneak their way in.

Unfortunately at a recent party, one guy got his way and not only penetrated condom less but also came inside her without consent.

She was completely distraught, and rightly so, that's r-a-p-e in my view.

The guy had taken off by the time everyone realised what had happened, (and it wasn't that long after) leading me to believe he had done this before.

I think guys like this ought to be blacklisted period across all clubs.

I think it is incumbent that we look out for each other and if this behaviour is noticed that it is brought to the attention of the couple or woman that this is about to take place to confirm if that is their wish.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Me n trim always bring our own. I can safely say that 99% of all guys have their own and more impressive are the ones with a pack of wipes as well. Very handy.

The 1 guy who failed in the condom department quickly got told to go get one or no play. Didn't take him long to find one. Will never ever consider bareback apart from trim. ( We have been together 7 years and live together)

To me that's a boyfriend/husband privileged.

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By *ickeyandmouseCouple over a year ago

nr Alicante

The Spanish men are terrible, and I’m not talking necessarily single men. Usually group play and the guy part of a couple. Mouse knows to be wary.

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I've only been to one club but was impressed by the free condoms freely available. I thought all clubs would be the same, but from reading this thread apparently not.

Those wristband purses meant for the gym are great for condoms. Handy hint of the day.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple over a year ago

Stockport

No excuse for it

And yes there's usually condo s about , on the bar etc

And we would always offer one if someone had ran out

But if they said they didn't have any , then we might wonder why

When we swapped , swapped

The condom thing was a big issue

Not using them , that's a given

But in a 4sum we go through loads !

It's not like we just swap , it's any combination of play ,

So lots of condom changing

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I've only been to one club but was impressed by the free condoms freely available. I thought all clubs would be the same, but from reading this thread apparently not.

Those wristband purses meant for the gym are great for condoms. Handy hint of the day."

I use a clear toiletries bag. I put other stuff in there as well, but it passes the bag inspection (no bags unless it's clear what's in it) at every club I've been to.

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By *ustylouWoman over a year ago

Aylesbury

I once had a guy try to enter me bare in a club. He soon found my foot in his chest/shoulder and kicked him across the room. He then went to put a condom on but I told him he had ruined the mood and stopped all play and asked everyone to leave the room. A few disappointed guys spoke to him after and made it clear it wasnt cool.

I always carry my own condoms with me but its scary how many guys dont.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I once had a guy try to enter me bare in a club. He soon found my foot in his chest/shoulder and kicked him across the room. He then went to put a condom on but I told him he had ruined the mood and stopped all play and asked everyone to leave the room. A few disappointed guys spoke to him after and made it clear it wasnt cool.

I always carry my own condoms with me but its scary how many guys dont. "

Yeah, creepy/ boundary crossing guys in clubs can ruin everyone's night.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it’s the man’s responsibility to carry them I do and if no condoms no play

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would have thought that any club or play party should provide ample supplies of condoms, lube and wipes available for all. Free safe sex packs are readily available from STD clinics etc

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By *ucy LewdWoman over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

I can only imagine it's because they genuinely don't understand how pregnancy is a life altering condition for women.

Or they're misogynistic cunts and they don't care.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

There are clubs with bag inspection?

How is one supposed to take a bag full of kink equipment and toys in a small transparent baggy?

Gosh... I still learn something every day.

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By *ucy LewdWoman over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

"Agree with OP - this is really not in i think.

Indeed there are a number of single guys who not only hope for bareback, but o have seen try to sneak their way in.

Unfortunately at a recent party, one guy got his way and not only penetrated condom less but also came inside her without consent.

She was completely distraught, and rightly so, that's r-a-p-e in my view.

The guy had taken off by the time everyone realised what had happened, (and it wasn't that long after) leading me to believe he had done this before.

I think guys like this ought to be blacklisted period across all clubs.

I think that guys like this ought to go to prison, personally. It's sexual assault and it's illegal.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"There are clubs with bag inspection?

How is one supposed to take a bag full of kink equipment and toys in a small transparent baggy?

Gosh... I still learn something every day. "

It's sort of more, no bags, but I need this stuff and given everyone can see what it is, I'm not called on it.

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By *parky4gMan over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

"Running out is a different thing. I’m talking top of the evening, cock out, no condoms.

Can’t believe he brought a pump but no condoms

Wife told them no chance lol"

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

"There are clubs with bag inspection?

How is one supposed to take a bag full of kink equipment and toys in a small transparent baggy?

Gosh... I still learn something every day.

It's sort of more, no bags, but I need this stuff and given everyone can see what it is, I'm not called on it. "

Very interesting. Certainly not the policy at the clubs I've attended, indeed they provide lockers for bags of toys and clothes. Is it a security thing?

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"There are clubs with bag inspection?

How is one supposed to take a bag full of kink equipment and toys in a small transparent baggy?

Gosh... I still learn something every day.

It's sort of more, no bags, but I need this stuff and given everyone can see what it is, I'm not called on it.

Very interesting. Certainly not the policy at the clubs I've attended, indeed they provide lockers for bags of toys and clothes. Is it a security thing? "
oh this is in addition to lockers, sorry. My stuff goes in lockers and it's fine, I dress down, but carry the clear bag with me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m agreeing with the op, in fact we were at the same party the other week and it amazed me how many guys turned up without condoms. I always carry them however I was emptied out that night for use with me and passing them out for use with others, same thing happened a week later however was another friend of mine that had all of hers given away.

It’s common courtesy to bring them, not all clubs and events provide them, the parties I refer to specifically say to bring condoms with you as they aren’t provided.

And don’t get me started with the number of guys that try it on, had one the other week, oh can I not do you raw I don’t like condoms.

My answer: I’ve fucked 5 guys before you, if you think I’ll fuck you bare what makes you think I wouldn’t with the others - you ain’t special now bag it up or no play.

His answer .... oh yeah I’ll pop one on, do you have one as I didn’t bring any!

Just to make it clear the others were all covered!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Over the years i have got used to the fact that a lot of men dont take responsibility for themselves and rely on others to provide protection...(I blame the Mothers/wifes lol)"

I reckon the ones who don't take condoms are married. They're scared of taking a condom home by mistake and getting kicked out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Townhouse have condoms in pots all over the place, no excuse imho

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple over a year ago

Stockport

" I think it’s the man’s responsibility to carry them I do and if no condoms no play"

Bless you, but it’s also a woman’s responsibility too! If you’re gonna play safe always bring condoms..... think my husband said earlier we sometimes go through loads when there’s lots of swapping and changing. I’d rather have too many than not enough x

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By *r FirecrackerMan over a year ago

London

"Running out is a different thing. I’m talking top of the evening, cock out, no condoms.

Wife told them no chance lol"

Blowing air into a condom!!! Jesus I am howling here

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By *r FirecrackerMan over a year ago

London

"They don't use condoms. They fuck around bareback. That's what most men do 'in the real world'. They also assume that if someone is using condoms it's because they're infected. "

Most men.....you keep very poor male company.

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman over a year ago

somewhere

"Running out is a different thing. I’m talking top of the evening, cock out, no condoms.

Wife told them no chance lol"

Balloon animals

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Townhouse have condoms in pots all over the place, no excuse imho"

Would be good if all clubs follow this but cupids, quest, chams, party pad don’t off the top of my head although some sell them behind the bar.

Sx do and was good to see them keeping them fully stocked throughout the evening.

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

If she wants me.... should plan ahead.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They don't use condoms. They fuck around bareback. That's what most men do 'in the real world'. They also assume that if someone is using condoms it's because they're infected.

Most men.....you keep very poor male company. "

No I don't go near them.

They are welcome to their views and lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Townhouse have condoms in pots all over the place, no excuse imho

Would be good if all clubs follow this but cupids, quest, chams, party pad don’t off the top of my head although some sell them behind the bar.

Sx do and was good to see them keeping them fully stocked throughout the evening. "

I don't understand this. It's the people's responsibility to get condoms if they want them. Why should the club baby sit them?

I never use anyone else's, I don't trust that they're not broken or within expiry.

If they don't have any I just assume they're into bareback. I respect their wishes and they can find someone else who also wants that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Townhouse have condoms in pots all over the place, no excuse imho

Would be good if all clubs follow this but cupids, quest, chams, party pad don’t off the top of my head although some sell them behind the bar.

Sx do and was good to see them keeping them fully stocked throughout the evening. "

Yes, I was impressed to see it tbh, because I know other clubs don't, not that they should be expected too, just good to see they had thought of it.

I take my own anyway, but we all know how annoying it is to run out x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't understand this. It's the people's responsibility to get condoms if they want them. Why should the club baby sit them?

I never use anyone else's, I don't trust that they're not broken or within expiry.

If they don't have any I just assume they're into bareback. I respect their wishes and they can find someone else who also wants that.

Absolutely agree with you, they shouldn't have too an in an ideal world they wouldn't need too, but it is good they think of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to admit it's always a pain trying to find somewhere to put them in clubs that demand undies only in the play areas.

I've tended to stuff them into my undies, otherwise you feel like a div walking around with a roll of rubbers.

I however would very much appreciate the humour of wearing them in an ammo belt across the shoulder

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have to admit it's always a pain trying to find somewhere to put them in clubs that demand undies only in the play areas.

I've tended to stuff them into my undies, otherwise you feel like a div walking around with a roll of rubbers.

I however would very much appreciate the humour of wearing them in an ammo belt across the shoulder

That would look brilliant!

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By *ntraditionalwomanWoman over a year ago

Manchester

"Condoms are a mood killer you got that right

Not if you know how to put them on they're not and even if they were - the alternative to them is potentially going to be more of a mood killer

Last I heard, HIV/AIDS, gonorrhoea, syphilis, pelvic inflammatory disease and herpes were mood killers. BEST COMMENT! Ive said this before regarding bareback and the amount of folk who said i was talking crap! Lol lol u gotta laugh at bb brigade obv whatever std they have contracted is making them deluded..

Great comments. I couldn't agree more. Go with condoms and put them on. Ive someone suggests not using then happy days if bareback is your thing . Alot of club going women wont bareback. I loss all respect for any man who think he can bareback

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By *inkycreamCouple over a year ago

manchester

Fear these guys can only really enjoy wanking, shows total lack of respect and experience

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

Two words guys ..shag bag ...to put your condoms and stuff in

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There are clubs with bag inspection?

How is one supposed to take a bag full of kink equipment and toys in a small transparent baggy?

Gosh... I still learn something every day. "

I’ve escalated to a drawstring bag with a kilo of kit in it. I didn’t realise some clubs had bag inspection!!

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By *awtymarkyMan over a year ago

chester

I keep mine under my watch strap

and go back to my locker for re supply if I am on a mission

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

"There are clubs with bag inspection?

How is one supposed to take a bag full of kink equipment and toys in a small transparent baggy?

Gosh... I still learn something every day.

I’ve escalated to a drawstring bag with a kilo of kit in it. I didn’t realise some clubs had bag inspection!!"

I usually take a small duffel bag with condoms, toys and kink equipment. But it goes in a locker unless required. I carry condoms around in a sports wrist band. I can fit four in there with more in the bag.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

piss poor preparation predicts piss poor preformance......

the amount of guys i have had in club turn around to me and say "can i use one of yours?" astounds me...

no you cheap fucker... get your own!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Agree with OP - this is really not in i think.

Indeed there are a number of single guys who not only hope for bareback, but o have seen try to sneak their way in.

Unfortunately at a recent party, one guy got his way and not only penetrated condom less but also came inside her without consent.

She was completely distraught, and rightly so, that's r-a-p-e in my view.

The guy had taken off by the time everyone realised what had happened, (and it wasn't that long after) leading me to believe he had done this before.

I think guys like this ought to be blacklisted period across all clubs.

I think that guys like this ought to go to prison, personally. It's sexual assault and it's illegal."

I agree surely it's sexual assault at a minimum if not R.a.p.e.

I wonder what would have happened if she had reported it to the police?

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By *c1989Woman over a year ago