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I get messages from people at the other end of the country on a regular basis.
I don’t understand it because there’s no way that I’d travel for 6 plus hours to meet a stranger and there’s no way I’d want someone to do that to meet me.
People are willing to do it though, it’s too much.
Is this normal? Would you travel that far to meet a stranger? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people do, if i was single and had free weekends i definitely would for the right person. Im in dublin and hopefully in the coming weeks, i have someone coming from the uk for some fun  |
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"Some people do, if i was single and had free weekends i definitely would for the right person. Im in dublin and hopefully in the coming weeks, i have someone coming from the uk for some fun "
Really? Maybe I’m just lazy then  |
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"Would never travel that far. People are prone to disappearing at the last minute & not meeting - imagine travelling 6hrs for that to happen! No thanks!"
Exactly!!! There’s plenty of people nearer. |
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By *ompip3Couple
over a year ago
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When we first started, we deliberately looked much further afield, in case we came across someone we knew locally.
Our first ever meet was in Belfast!! BUT we like to travel and have a weekend/overnight away often, so it fitted in with our story for family etc.
Each to their own, I suppose? We now meet locally too, but would consider Liverpool lol! xx |
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over a year ago
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In general no and I wouldn't go that far purely for that purpose. However if I liked someone enough and I was closer for other reasons I would potentially make a detour. |
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"By the time you get around to meeting them they aren't strangers though..not if you get chatting and get along.."
I see what you’re saying but to me, if I’ve never met the guy in person, they’re a stranger. I know others feel differently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get messages from people at the other end of the country on a regular basis.
I don’t understand it because there’s no way that I’d travel for 6 plus hours to meet a stranger and there’s no way I’d want someone to do that to meet me.
People are willing to do it though, it’s too much.
Is this normal? Would you travel that far to meet a stranger? "
I think if fabsters were incorporating it in a mini break it's feesable. I have a friend in Liverpool (coincidence!), who I'd love to meet, but I'd love to visit that place anyway. X |
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"When we first started, we deliberately looked much further afield, in case we came across someone we knew locally.
Our first ever meet was in Belfast!! BUT we like to travel and have a weekend/overnight away often, so it fitted in with our story for family etc.
Each to their own, I suppose? We now meet locally too, but would consider Liverpool lol! xx"
I suppose if you enjoy travelling anyway and the meet is kind of just part of travelling about. |
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"In general no and I wouldn't go that far purely for that purpose. However if I liked someone enough and I was closer for other reasons I would potentially make a detour. "
A detour if you’re not that far for other reasons is one thing but travelling from say Devon for example to Liverpool to have a drink with a stranger - madness in my opinion. |
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"I get messages from people at the other end of the country on a regular basis.
I don’t understand it because there’s no way that I’d travel for 6 plus hours to meet a stranger and there’s no way I’d want someone to do that to meet me.
People are willing to do it though, it’s too much.
Is this normal? Would you travel that far to meet a stranger? I think if fabsters were incorporating it in a mini break it's feesable. I have a friend in Liverpool (coincidence!), who I'd love to meet, but I'd love to visit that place anyway. X"
Slightly different if you’re meeting a friend also. |
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"In general no and I wouldn't go that far purely for that purpose. However if I liked someone enough and I was closer for other reasons I would potentially make a detour.
A detour if you’re not that far for other reasons is one thing but travelling from say Devon for example to Liverpool to have a drink with a stranger - madness in my opinion."
I once had someone writing from south of London demanding I meet him because of my holdups.
I'm pretty sure they have M&S down there... |
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"It's almost always a hard no for me.
Exactly! Imagine the pressure of knowing that person has travelled the length of the country! "
That's exactly it. I don't want to feel the pressure like I owe them.
I have met people who happen to come here, but even that I usually don't. |
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"It's almost always a hard no for me.
Exactly! Imagine the pressure of knowing that person has travelled the length of the country!
That's exactly it. I don't want to feel the pressure like I owe them.
I have met people who happen to come here, but even that I usually don't. "
Exactly this!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get messages from people at the other end of the country on a regular basis.
I don’t understand it because there’s no way that I’d travel for 6 plus hours to meet a stranger and there’s no way I’d want someone to do that to meet me.
People are willing to do it though, it’s too much.
Is this normal? Would you travel that far to meet a stranger? "
Oh to be 20 years younger and living in Liverpool! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went to Amsterdam to meet someone but not from here and was chatting for 5 months previously. I also met someone in Hong Hong and Dubai but was going there for work so tied it in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But...I don’t meet just for sex. I wouldn’t travel far unless i had build up a friendship first and wanted to spend time with that person in and out of the bedroom. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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We always travel so it's not pointless at all. We tend to have our meets in London, we won't meet locally and prefer to be 'out of town', works just fine. If a no show occurs we continue sightseeing. |
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"But...I don’t meet just for sex. I wouldn’t travel far unless i had build up a friendship first and wanted to spend time with that person in and out of the bedroom. "
And this is where I'd meet if someone happened to be in my area. If we'd been talking for a good while first and developed at least rapport. |
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"In actual fact these guys never turn up. I tried a few who said they'd travel anywhere but when it came it none of them arrived "
Yeah I tried once. It was for a GB as it happens so not much lost, but it didn't make me feel it much. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I've done 5 and 6 hour round trips to meet people from here in the past and they have done similar for me, often meeting in the middle somewhere which makes the country a very small place.
Each and every one of those meets the person has turned up and we've had a great time.
But then each and every one of those meets we have spent time getting to know each other and building a connection and chemistry first - which has ultimately made the meet worthwhile - regardless of whether there was sex involved or not.
Each to their own though and if travelling for a meet doesn't work for anyone then that's equally fine  |
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My objection is mostly, I always feel acutely that there's a power dynamic/ imbalance here. On the site I have the power and it emboldens me to meet, but in person things revert to more normal dynamics and I'm on the back foot. It's also possible to conceal things here. I don't want to be in the position where someone is saying, well I did x therefore you owe me y. If I do anything I want it to be entirely of my own free will. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is Wrexham to far ?(about 40 miles)
I think even that’s too far! Particularly with the number of beautiful welsh girls on your doorstep! "
I'm a liverpool supporter so I'm there quite a bit.wish I could make it for the parade. |
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Girl from London messaged me. Chatted for a month and then she came to visit for a weekend. 1 night in a hotel and the rest at mine (making sure she wasn’t crazy first). Amazing weekend.
However recently I went all the way to Manchester only to be stood up. |
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If you get chatting and there is a definite connection why not.
The best meet i have had was a three hour drive, but we made a full weekend of it, had some great fun in and out of the bedroom.
She is coming my way next when we both have a weekend free.
Be a bit far for a fuck and go though!! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"My objection is mostly, I always feel acutely that there's a power dynamic/ imbalance here. On the site I have the power and it emboldens me to meet, but in person things revert to more normal dynamics and I'm on the back foot. It's also possible to conceal things here. I don't want to be in the position where someone is saying, well I did x therefore you owe me y. If I do anything I want it to be entirely of my own free will. "
I can understand how that could be the perception, but that is where building a connection and doing some due diligence beforehand comes into it - if it's been made perfectly clear up front what the boundaries and essence of any meet is, then you should expect them to be respected regardless of whether that person has come from two streets away or the other end of the country, and if there's a sense they won't be respected (again regardless of distance) then the meet doesn't happen. |
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"My objection is mostly, I always feel acutely that there's a power dynamic/ imbalance here. On the site I have the power and it emboldens me to meet, but in person things revert to more normal dynamics and I'm on the back foot. It's also possible to conceal things here. I don't want to be in the position where someone is saying, well I did x therefore you owe me y. If I do anything I want it to be entirely of my own free will.
I can understand how that could be the perception, but that is where building a connection and doing some due diligence beforehand comes into it - if it's been made perfectly clear up front what the boundaries and essence of any meet is, then you should expect them to be respected regardless of whether that person has come from two streets away or the other end of the country, and if there's a sense they won't be respected (again regardless of distance) then the meet doesn't happen."
In theory, yes. In practice... It feels higher risk, so there's my line. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"My objection is mostly, I always feel acutely that there's a power dynamic/ imbalance here. On the site I have the power and it emboldens me to meet, but in person things revert to more normal dynamics and I'm on the back foot. It's also possible to conceal things here. I don't want to be in the position where someone is saying, well I did x therefore you owe me y. If I do anything I want it to be entirely of my own free will.
I can understand how that could be the perception, but that is where building a connection and doing some due diligence beforehand comes into it - if it's been made perfectly clear up front what the boundaries and essence of any meet is, then you should expect them to be respected regardless of whether that person has come from two streets away or the other end of the country, and if there's a sense they won't be respected (again regardless of distance) then the meet doesn't happen.
In theory, yes. In practice... It feels higher risk, so there's my line. "
And that is the only thing that matters and should be respected |
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