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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago
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I would assume each story would be different, but they all have their reasons. Some probably don’t have to and just can, others may have reasons which mean something to them but might not to others. Huge range of reasons to do it, many don’t actually act on it and this site is just fantasy, self-esteem boasting and/or wank fodder. |
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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago
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"I would assume each story would be different, but they all have their reasons. Some probably don’t have to and just can, others may have reasons which mean something to them but might not to others. Huge range of reasons to do it, many don’t actually act on it and this site is just fantasy, self-esteem boasting and/or wank fodder. "
*boosting* not boasting  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t get why people start half the posts they do...
some people like speaking about their own life experiences..."
Exactly this.
Sometimes people don't have others around them to talk too about what they are going through.
Especially this lifestyle, it can be very lonely when you have no one who understands
Hope you are ok OP, some just like having their cake and eating it x |
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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago
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"I don’t get why people start half the posts they do...
some people like speaking about their own life experiences...
Exactly this.
Sometimes people don't have others around them to talk too about what they are going through.
Especially this lifestyle, it can be very lonely when you have no one who understands
Hope you are ok OP, some just like having their cake and eating it x"
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The only person who can tell you why they cheated is that person. They rarely do though.
I had a friend whose husband serially cheated. He found her profound distress to be proof that she loved him. She left him eventually, to his profound distress. |
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And the entitled posters continue. Why do you have to be horrible to her when all she's doing is asking for advice? There's no need for it.
OP people cheat for many reasons. Some more understandable than others. But mainly people cheat because they don't have the balls to discuss things they aren't happy with. Most people cheat to spare feelings. For me personally I'd rather be single than in a monogamous relationship. My partner knows I'm on here and we often laugh about meets I've had or people I speak to. Sometimes people are just arseholes and if it has happened to you all I can do is say not everyone is like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t get why people start half the posts they do...
some people like speaking about their own life experiences...
Exactly this.
Sometimes people don't have others around them to talk too about what they are going through.
Especially this lifestyle, it can be very lonely when you have no one who understands
Hope you are ok OP, some just like having their cake and eating it x"
Well she’s one half of a couple on here so if she’s talking through life experiences is it the here and now? |
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"I don’t get why people start half the posts they do...
some people like speaking about their own life experiences...
Exactly this.
Sometimes people don't have others around them to talk too about what they are going through.
Especially this lifestyle, it can be very lonely when you have no one who understands
Hope you are ok OP, some just like having their cake and eating it x
Well she’s one half of a couple on here so if she’s talking through life experiences is it the here and now?"
Don't you be getting all "entitled" now  |
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Basically my husband tells me he loves me as a wife and a parent- but he doesn’t desire me. We’ve had sex twice this year. I’m at the stage where I feel like a sexual deviant for even suggesting it. It fucking hurts. We live like room mates who share a bed. In order for me to tolerate the lack of passion in our marriage I look elsewhere so I can be his wife for every other part of our marriage. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cheating partners I don’t get why they have to cheat "
Because they would rather not deal with life, it’s an easier option to cheat isn’t it?
Human nature is a fairly valid argument, for some more so than others.
Because people want their life to be for them, not others.
There’s three reasons, I respect anyone who does what they want if it’s legal and doesn’t fuck others over. And if the truth hurts others, it’s not a great way to live I imagine, for anyone involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t get why people start half the posts they do...
some people like speaking about their own life experiences...
Exactly this.
Sometimes people don't have others around them to talk too about what they are going through.
Especially this lifestyle, it can be very lonely when you have no one who understands
Hope you are ok OP, some just like having their cake and eating it x
Well she’s one half of a couple on here so if she’s talking through life experiences is it the here and now?"
She's not though is she? She has removed his details, which infers that she is talking in the present.
Anyway, she is obviously looking for support, personally I'd rather contribute to a thread of substance over the endless hot or nots/rate the user above.
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"Basically my husband tells me he loves me as a wife and a parent- but he doesn’t desire me. We’ve had sex twice this year. I’m at the stage where I feel like a sexual deviant for even suggesting it. It fucking hurts. We live like room mates who share a bed. In order for me to tolerate the lack of passion in our marriage I look elsewhere so I can be his wife for every other part of our marriage. "
Ever sat down and asked why he doesn’t desire you like he used to? People change for reasons mostly. What was his reason for changing his feelings towards you? If you don’t mind me asking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was in a relationship that turned sexless i got my eye turned by another woman who showed me affection and took it. I learnt a valuable lesson that i wouldn't repeat again |
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Don't you be getting all "entitled" now "
Shall I define entitled for you or maybe I can use it in a sentence so you better understand why I defend people on the forum who are coming for advice and closed minded individuals *cough* have to ruin it for others. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would assume each story would be different, but they all have their reasons. Some probably don’t have to and just can, others may have reasons which mean something to them but might not to others. Huge range of reasons to do it, many don’t actually act on it and this site is just fantasy, self-esteem boasting and/or wank fodder. "
. I told him we can fuck ppl together but he went behind my back on to a gay chat site and cheated on me and lied to me about it
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The only person who can tell you why they cheated is that person. They rarely do though.
I had a friend whose husband serially cheated. He found her profound distress to be proof that she loved him. She left him eventually, to his profound distress."
yea he did it 5 times I took him back every time till now |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don’t get why people start half the posts they do...
some people like speaking about their own life experiences...
Exactly this.
Sometimes people don't have others around them to talk too about what they are going through.
Especially this lifestyle, it can be very lonely when you have no one who understands
Hope you are ok OP, some just like having their cake and eating it x
Well she’s one half of a couple on here so if she’s talking through life experiences is it the here and now?"
yes it is here and now he cheated 5 times even tho I told him we as we both on here we can fuck people together and he can fuck who he wants as long as he doesn’t do it behind my back and lie to me and delete texts and calls |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Basically my husband tells me he loves me as a wife and a parent- but he doesn’t desire me. We’ve had sex twice this year. I’m at the stage where I feel like a sexual deviant for even suggesting it. It fucking hurts. We live like room mates who share a bed. In order for me to tolerate the lack of passion in our marriage I look elsewhere so I can be his wife for every other part of our marriage.
Ever sat down and asked why he doesn’t desire you like he used to? People change for reasons mostly. What was his reason for changing his feelings towards you? If you don’t mind me asking "
he said his feelings hasn’t changed for me |
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He just said after 15 years the spark is gone and he doesn’t look at me that way anymore and hasn’t for a while.
It’s difficult to accept because we are amazing in every other aspect of our lives.
He said he would be quite happy for us to stay together in a sexless marriage as I make him happy. I just don’t turn him on.
And I know it’s not his lack of actual sex drive as he frequently watches porn. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Cheating partners I don’t get why they have to cheat
I don't know why people whinge"
not whinging am asking. Guess u never been cheated on god forbid u do |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"He just said after 15 years the spark is gone and he doesn’t look at me that way anymore and hasn’t for a while.
It’s difficult to accept because we are amazing in every other aspect of our lives.
He said he would be quite happy for us to stay together in a sexless marriage as I make him happy. I just don’t turn him on.
And I know it’s not his lack of actual sex drive as he frequently watches porn. "
we was only together 10 months we fuck almost every day apart from when iam with my terminally ill mother so it’s not that |
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Don't you be getting all "entitled" now
Shall I define entitled for you or maybe I can use it in a sentence so you better understand why I defend people on the forum who are coming for advice and closed minded individuals *cough* have to ruin it for others. "
Yes please. If you could. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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"I would assume each story would be different, but they all have their reasons. Some probably don’t have to and just can, others may have reasons which mean something to them but might not to others. Huge range of reasons to do it, many don’t actually act on it and this site is just fantasy, self-esteem boasting and/or wank fodder. . I told him we can fuck ppl together but he went behind my back on to a gay chat site and cheated on me and lied to me about it "
Some people will cheat no matter how good they have it,
Some would never cheat no matter how hard things are .
Sadly some people (men and women) get off on deceit and sneaking around.
Don't take him back again OP,you will only be hurting yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would assume each story would be different, but they all have their reasons. Some probably don’t have to and just can, others may have reasons which mean something to them but might not to others. Huge range of reasons to do it, many don’t actually act on it and this site is just fantasy, self-esteem boasting and/or wank fodder. . I told him we can fuck ppl together but he went behind my back on to a gay chat site and cheated on me and lied to me about it
Some people will cheat no matter how good they have it,
Some would never cheat no matter how hard things are .
Sadly some people (men and women) get off on deceit and sneaking around.
Don't take him back again OP,you will only be hurting yourself."
I won’t be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had this happen to me in the past and it genuinely really knocked me for years confidence wise although nobody would have ever guessed I hid it well but looking back I should of spoke to people close to me, so you do right getting it off your chest, if he’s on a gay chat site maybe it’s a sexuality issue rather than anything else ? Whatever his reasons he’s a cheat move on or you’ll be back here some day posting the very same thing. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You don’t get why? I don’t think there is one answer. In fact I know there isn’t. You would have ask each individual person who does if you want an answer to that. Alternatively you could follow the fab crowd with the “all cheaters are scum” opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You don’t get why? I don’t think there is one answer. In fact I know there isn’t. You would have ask each individual person who does if you want an answer to that. Alternatively you could follow the fab crowd with the “all cheaters are scum” opinion. "
Go on girl, you tell them !  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You don’t get why? I don’t think there is one answer. In fact I know there isn’t. You would have ask each individual person who does if you want an answer to that. Alternatively you could follow the fab crowd with the “all cheaters are scum” opinion.
Go on girl, you tell them ! "
I’m not being antagonistic. It’s true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You don’t get why? I don’t think there is one answer. In fact I know there isn’t. You would have ask each individual person who does if you want an answer to that. Alternatively you could follow the fab crowd with the “all cheaters are scum” opinion.
Go on girl, you tell them !
I’m not being antagonistic. It’s true "
I'm the antagonistic one...
I like to go fishing and see what bottom feeder I hook |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You don’t get why? I don’t think there is one answer. In fact I know there isn’t. You would have ask each individual person who does if you want an answer to that. Alternatively you could follow the fab crowd with the “all cheaters are scum” opinion.
Go on girl, you tell them !
I’m not being antagonistic. It’s true
I'm the antagonistic one...
I like to go fishing and see what bottom feeder I hook "
Yes I know darling |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just had abusive messages sent to my inbox from this.
Apparently I'm a tosser... True
But to mention my daughter is not on... Shame on you "
Idiots. Ignore. Sad people |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've just had abusive messages sent to my inbox from this.
Apparently I'm a tosser... True
But to mention my daughter is not on... Shame on you "
not by me u didn’t |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just had abusive messages sent to my inbox from this.
Apparently I'm a tosser... True
But to mention my daughter is not on... Shame on you
Idiots. Ignore. Sad people "
Yes from a woman... I bet if I did that I'd get a full permanent ban. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've just had abusive messages sent to my inbox from this.
Apparently I'm a tosser... True
But to mention my daughter is not on... Shame on you "
Happened to us all buddy, like you should care about text on a screen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just had abusive messages sent to my inbox from this.
Apparently I'm a tosser... True
But to mention my daughter is not on... Shame on you
Happened to us all buddy, like you should care about text on a screen. "
I'm a sensitive soul... I'll need counselling |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've just had abusive messages sent to my inbox from this.
Apparently I'm a tosser... True
But to mention my daughter is not on... Shame on you
Happened to us all buddy, like you should care about text on a screen.
I'm a sensitive soul... I'll need counselling "
The only counselling you need is to push that tab, with the word 'block' written on it. Bollox to 'em |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've just had abusive messages sent to my inbox from this.
Apparently I'm a tosser... True
But to mention my daughter is not on... Shame on you
Happened to us all buddy, like you should care about text on a screen.
I'm a sensitive soul... I'll need counselling "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t get why people start half the posts they do...
some people like speaking about their own life experiences...
Exactly this.
Sometimes people don't have others around them to talk too about what they are going through.
Especially this lifestyle, it can be very lonely when you have no one who understands
Hope you are ok OP, some just like having their cake and eating it x
Well she’s one half of a couple on here so if she’s talking through life experiences is it the here and now?
She's not though is she? She has removed his details, which infers that she is talking in the present.
Anyway, she is obviously looking for support, personally I'd rather contribute to a thread of substance over the endless hot or nots/rate the user above.
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I don’t look at people’s profiles when I reply, as far as I was concerned it was a couple posting a very open ended question. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Other women probably sexier & better in bed it was with men actually
You still going to Rios tomorrow then ?
To help with the break up ?????
If so what time ????"
I always go Rios |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The only person who can tell you why they cheated is that person. They rarely do though.
I had a friend whose husband serially cheated. He found her profound distress to be proof that she loved him. She left him eventually, to his profound distress."
Awesome!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't understand it either. Every partner I've had has cheated on me, for different reasons. One ex had a hall pass to sleep with someone else, and he still cheated  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't understand it either. Every partner I've had has cheated on me, for different reasons. One ex had a hall pass to sleep with someone else, and he still cheated "
yep hun he had a pass to fuck who he wanted as long as he told me first and not being my back x |
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"Other women probably sexier & better in bed it was with men actually
You still going to Rios tomorrow then ?
To help with the break up ?????
If so what time ???? I always go Rios "
What time you going tomorrow might see you there
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"Other women probably sexier & better in bed it was with men actually
You still going to Rios tomorrow then ?
To help with the break up ?????
If so what time ???? I always go Rios
What time you going tomorrow might see you there
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don’t know yet keep a eye on my status I always put when iam there |
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"Basically my husband tells me he loves me as a wife and a parent- but he doesn’t desire me. We’ve had sex twice this year. I’m at the stage where I feel like a sexual deviant for even suggesting it. It fucking hurts. We live like room mates who share a bed. In order for me to tolerate the lack of passion in our marriage I look elsewhere so I can be his wife for every other part of our marriage. "
We are in the same situation. |
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It's going to be so different for each person but cheating isn't also just one thing.
People may not be cheating when others assume that they are too.
It's probably only ever an important consideration for your own behavior - why are you doing it, why are you tempted, how could you negotiate alternative.
Humans are creatures of habit - we often stick around in relationships that we could evolve from.
People also seem to jump from heady teenage hormonal highs into long term relationships, without really having young adult experience of being themselves, independent of parents or a partner. They can then easily lack lots of experiences that they may be drawn to as they age or relationships decline or still faol to give them all of what they crave.
We're perhaps not naturally monogamous but religions etc have forced societys hands to make people conform to what is somewhat artificial.
Make your own decisions and respect others for their own |
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I think there are many possibilities, but I think the obvious answer is that they aren't getting enough (or the right type) of attention from their partners. There comes a point where enough is enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don’t look at people’s profiles when I reply, as far as I was concerned it was a couple posting a very open ended question."
Neither do I usually, but a look at the profile gives an insight, which can influence how I respond. |
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