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Do you have to be a wealthy guy with a six pack to actually get interest from ladies on here
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, but bare in mind every woman on here has hundreds of good looking blokes chasing them and all them men have dicks, you'll need to stand out rather than blend in to be noticed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"New to this and have severe body confidence issues tried my luck a few times with no joy except from gay or bi guys ffs lol"
Be patient.
Choose who interests you and then approach with caution.
The harder you try to get a meet, the harder it is to get a meet, so just interact with people and you'll find out who may be interested. Don't fear small talk and try to make friends.
There are a small percentage of ladies who seek fuck and go, but they get snapped up quickly.
Ask yourself this. Do you want to be treated as a pole of convenience or a fuck that will do until something better comes along or would you prefer repeat meets with a friend?
However you want to be treated, treat others that way.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, I find humble confidence, politeness, courtesy and not sending dick pics is a great start. Just because ladies are on fab doesnt mean they should be treated any different to a lady you meet on an evening out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I imagine it's mostly just the sheer volume of messages women and couples get. First result on Google after Fab itself:
"I got 100 d**k pics in SIX minutes on UK’s biggest swinging site..." |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some guys are quite aggressive on here, and seem to think that because it's a swingers site, they have the right to have sex. We are all human and like to be treated as such. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
Well, all I can see is a cock, so I would automatically put you in 'The Cock' brigade and wouldn't be interested in the slightest, First impressions count, never forget that!
Also, make sure you match what they are looking for, otherwise, you will always be left disappointed |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Well, all I can see is a cock, so I would automatically put you in 'The Cock' brigade and wouldn't be interested in the slightest, First impressions count, never forget that!
Also, make sure you match what they are looking for, otherwise, you will always be left disappointed "
Plus you have a 5 word profile, what the hell did you expect?  |
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"New to this and have severe body confidence issues tried my luck a few times with no joy except from gay or bi guys ffs lol
Be patient.
Choose who interests you and then approach with caution.
The harder you try to get a meet, the harder it is to get a meet, so just interact with people and you'll find out who may be interested. Don't fear small talk and try to make friends.
There are a small percentage of ladies who seek fuck and go, but they get snapped up quickly.
Ask yourself this. Do you want to be treated as a pole of convenience or a fuck that will do until something better comes along or would you prefer repeat meets with a friend?
However you want to be treated, treat others that way.
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Nail on the head   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"New to this and have severe body confidence issues tried my luck a few times with no joy except from gay or bi guys ffs lol"
From my point of view this isn't the place for people with confidence issues. It can be brutal. I certainly don't want to meet someone who isn't confident and I really don't understand why you would put yourself through this. Get out in the real world. Meet real people and gain that confidence before even contemplating anything online. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"New to this and have severe body confidence issues tried my luck a few times with no joy except from gay or bi guys ffs lol
From my point of view this isn't the place for people with confidence issues. It can be brutal. I certainly don't want to meet someone who isn't confident and I really don't understand why you would put yourself through this. Get out in the real world. Meet real people and gain that confidence before even contemplating anything online. "
Absolutely this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not at all. Change your profile get it interesting. I changed mine... getting a fair few messages now. (Although not meeting. I have someone i have my eye on) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"New to this and have severe body confidence issues tried my luck a few times with no joy except from gay or bi guys ffs lol
From my point of view this isn't the place for people with confidence issues. It can be brutal. I certainly don't want to meet someone who isn't confident and I really don't understand why you would put yourself through this. Get out in the real world. Meet real people and gain that confidence before even contemplating anything online.
Absolutely this "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you were out to dinner with a lady, would you only talk about sex? Honestly, more than 30 mins, and I'm bored. "
30 minutes? What kind of superheroes are you meeting?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A selection of dodgy cock pics and a one line profile isn't likely to lead to a fapathon any time soon
Success here has nothing to do with money and little to do with having the perfect build
At the moment, I can see nothing attractive about you (and I'm one of those dreaded bi guys)
Give us (or rather, the ladies) something to go with
That starts with you liking you and finishes with how you portray and conduct yourself on here
It's not everyone that makes it work for them, but good luck in trying
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By *rotica xCouple
over a year ago
Chepstow/Portugal |
"Well, all I can see is a cock, so I would automatically put you in 'The Cock' brigade and wouldn't be interested in the slightest, First impressions count, never forget that!
Also, make sure you match what they are looking for, otherwise, you will always be left disappointed "
Supply and demand. Women are just as bad as men! Men are visual creatures. Women are more intellectual and this is how it works. Why do women put men down on these forums when they’re just as bad by saying “fab my pics” ... men put up cock pictures as they feel this attracted females. Females and also on many many couples profiles only show females in lingerie/boobs out/vaj spread.
Honestly men on here are doing great! If men stopped being Pervy - women who obsess about fab pictures being on hot pics would stress out more and men never win!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some guys are quite aggressive on here, and seem to think that because it's a swingers site, they have the right to have sex. We are all human and like to be treated as such. "
Agreed.
Just because this is a swingers website doesn't mean you should't woo the woman and entice her to meet you.
Speend time getting to know somebody before you ask for a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"New to this and have severe body confidence issues tried my luck a few times with no joy except from gay or bi guys ffs lol"
Women know what a cock looks like. You don't need 8 cock photos.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lol noooo! I prefer a bit of flesh on a guy. Someone with a six pack a) fooking boring and vain, b) I like my food too much, and he's not going to shame me as to what I eat!!!!"
that's a bit small
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By *hillboyMan
over a year ago
manchester |
"New to this and have severe body confidence issues tried my luck a few times with no joy except from gay or bi guys ffs lol"
yes it looks it I’ve been on here for 2 years on and off and I’ve only met 3 girls. I wouldn’t go on here if you have low confidence especially low body confidence because it will knock you altogether. Most girls on here are looking for tall and ripped men and if you don’t fall under that category you’re fucked you just havw to make do with what you get on here even the the little fat girls push above there weight on here. If you’re loaded and ripped and tall that’s good otherwise leave it
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"New to this and have severe body confidence issues tried my luck a few times with no joy except from gay or bi guys ffs lol yes it looks it I’ve been on here for 2 years on and off and I’ve only met 3 girls. I wouldn’t go on here if you have low confidence especially low body confidence because it will knock you altogether. Most girls on here are looking for tall and ripped men and if you don’t fall under that category you’re fucked you just havw to make do with what you get on here even the the little fat girls push above there weight on here. If you’re loaded and ripped and tall that’s good otherwise leave it "
You don’t sound bitter at all do you!
“Little fat girls” as you put it, are entitled to have a preference just as anyone else is.
Maybe the reason you haven’t had much success lies with you and not everyone else. |
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By *hillboyMan
over a year ago
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Haha yes they can have there preference but when they have there profiles saying they want a man that’s 6foot and ripped and there only 3foot and chubby don’t you just find it ironic sometimes you have to be true yourself |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Haha yes they can have there preference but when they have there profiles saying they want a man that’s 6foot and ripped and there only 3foot and chubby don’t you just find it ironic sometimes you have to be true yourself "
That's what they are doing, being true to themselves and knowing that their worth isn't defined by the size of their arse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Haha yes they can have there preference but when they have there profiles saying they want a man that’s 6foot and ripped and there only 3foot and chubby don’t you just find it ironic sometimes you have to be true yourself "
There’s nothing “ironic” about it.
Just because someone’s 3 foot as you said, it doesn’t mean they should only have sex with someone of that height, that’s ridiculous.
I think the problem is, you don’t like the fact women who you deem unattractive or average are getting meets more than yourself. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"But what makes you think that 6foot man who’s ripped is going to be interested in them when they can choose anyone "
I've fucked men that look like that, and I still do, what makes you think your preferences apply to everyone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But what makes you think that 6foot man who’s ripped is going to be interested in them when they can choose anyone "
Because everyone likes different things. It’s literally that simple.
Not all 6 foot “ripped” men want “ripped” women, and vice versa. Plenty of evidence on here to prove that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Haha I can’t see many tall ripped men getting with short chubby girls "
There’s enough evidence on here that it happens.
And as a 5’4 fat woman, I’ve been with tall “ripped” men. Shock! |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Haha I can’t see many tall ripped men getting with short chubby girls "
Really? Did a short, fat woman turn you down?
I'm short and fat and I fuck tall ripped guys, they seem to enjoy themselves and keep coming back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But most girls on here want men over 6foot and if there smaller than 5,10 then they don’t stand a chance "
Well that’s rubbish.
It might be the case that you don’t want women shorter than 5’10, but it’s not the case for all 6 foot men.
I’d suggest adopting a more positive approach to Fabswingers if you actually want some success. Even us fat woman are doing alright!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So would you say girls on here would mostly go for short lads over tall "
Nope I would say some girls like tall some like small, it’s whatever they are attracted to. |
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Been reading some of these comments n they couldn't be further from the truth...Mr is build, six pack ect n I can guarantee hes from boring or stuck up his own ass. Don't have to be 6ft skinny blond to pull a 'well built' man ffs I'm only a short ass n far from ripped or page 3 material!! Everyone has their own type..no need to be so judgy! Tall, short, fat, thin.. there's someone for everyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Haha yes they can have there preference but when they have there profiles saying they want a man that’s 6foot and ripped and there only 3foot and chubby don’t you just find it ironic sometimes you have to be true yourself "
Not ironic at all because even 6ft ripped guys have their preference too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been reading some of these comments n they couldn't be further from the truth...Mr is build, six pack ect n I can guarantee hes from boring or stuck up his own ass. Don't have to be 6ft skinny blond to pull a 'well built' man ffs I'm only a short ass n far from ripped or page 3 material!! Everyone has their own type..no need to be so judgy! Tall, short, fat, thin.. there's someone for everyone "
Same here and totally agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been reading some of these comments n they couldn't be further from the truth...Mr is build, six pack ect n I can guarantee hes from boring or stuck up his own ass. Don't have to be 6ft skinny blond to pull a 'well built' man ffs I'm only a short ass n far from ripped or page 3 material!! Everyone has their own type..no need to be so judgy! Tall, short, fat, thin.. there's someone for everyone "
Exactly this. |
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I felt exactly the same reading these comments. It feels like some people still have a mentality of teenagers! For us as a couple, when guys approach it’s literally all about how polite they are in their message and how they present themselves in their profile. I don’t ever think ‘oooh are they too short’ like if you’re good in bed why on Earth would your height matter?! Or your wealth for that matter! Don’t get me wrong I do like people who work out because that’s in line with our lifestyle, but I’ve fancied all sorts of men depending on mainly, their confidence and how well they groom themselves. Men on here who just put pictures of their penis thinking that that’s a good representation of themselves are mad. |
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"New to this and have severe body confidence issues tried my luck a few times with no joy except from gay or bi guys ffs lol yes it looks it I’ve been on here for 2 years on and off and I’ve only met 3 girls. I wouldn’t go on here if you have low confidence especially low body confidence because it will knock you altogether. Most girls on here are looking for tall and ripped men and if you don’t fall under that category you’re fucked you just havw to make do with what you get on here even the the little fat girls push above there weight on here. If you’re loaded and ripped and tall that’s good otherwise leave it "
Oh you charmer...stop!  |
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"New to this and have severe body confidence issues tried my luck a few times with no joy except from gay or bi guys ffs lol"
I think you'll find a negative attitude is far more off-putting than a bit of chub.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not in my opinion you don't OP,a genuine nice guy who's profile isn't just filled with cock pics and doesn't feel the need to send a cock pic will be off to a good start,and if he has the simple ability to make me laugh then thatis a huge plus |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would rather be with a funny guy, someone who can make my belly wobble!"
Some men with 6 packs are funny aswell and grounded , you don’t have to be overweight to be funny or grounded. |
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"No bud, I'm poor and chunky but do ok! Clubs and socials are the way to go for single guys on here "
Now this I agree with easiest way to show your there to actually meet people and not stand them up  |
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"lol noooo! I prefer a bit of flesh on a guy. Someone with a six pack a) fooking boring and vain, b) I like my food too much, and he's not going to shame me as to what I eat!!!!"
You can show a preference without insulting others you know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone can meet anyone.
BUT if it did take getting a 6pack to be more attractive, then why not hit the gym and do it? There’s literally nothing stopping you from making yourself more desirable in whatever way that might be.
Especially if it bothers you so much.
Now, I’m not saying anyone should change themselves. But if you’re unhappy then your lifestyle and your appearance are two things that are totally in your control |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would rather be with a funny guy, someone who can make my belly wobble!
Some men with 6 packs are funny aswell and grounded , you don’t have to be overweight to be funny or grounded. "
Yup! I don’t understand why others feel the need to put down those that look healthy and take good care of themselves. It seems a common thing in society in general |
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"Haha yes they can have there preference but when they have there profiles saying they want a man that’s 6foot and ripped and there only 3foot and chubby don’t you just find it ironic sometimes you have to be true yourself "
You realise this is fantasy right? You do realise some of us get to fulfil our fantasies over and over again. My playmates have mostly been high flyers, tall, fit as fuck, white alpha males.
Relinquishing power and control to a big, black woman was their kink, taking control was mine.
Some will struggle finding playmates because of their sense of entitlement and negative attitude.
Some people have narrow views: ie if you're black you should only meet other blacks, if you're short you must only meet other short people etc...etc...etc...
Once people accept they'll never have universal appeal the happier their life on fab will be. |
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"Haha I can’t see many tall ripped men getting with short chubby girls
There’s enough evidence on here that it happens.
And as a 5’4 fat woman, I’ve been with tall “ripped” men. Shock! "
My other half looks like a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis...met him on here. We've attended Curvy Girl and Sutton meets together.
I was married to another fit bloke. Why some people assume their view of the world is the only one still amazes me. |
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"Haha I can’t see many tall ripped men getting with short chubby girls
Walk down any high street..."
And you see beautiful women walking the street and on TV with average or ugly men don't forget this too lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Haha I can’t see many tall ripped men getting with short chubby girls
There’s enough evidence on here that it happens.
And as a 5’4 fat woman, I’ve been with tall “ripped” men. Shock!
My other half looks like a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis...met him on here. We've attended Curvy Girl and Sutton meets together.
I was married to another fit bloke. Why some people assume their view of the world is the only one still amazes me."
Jason Willis. Wowzers. |
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Everyone here has there own taste, I don't think I'm the best looking but don't think I'm the worst and dam there's possibly better out there but I change women's minds once they meet me, this is the reason I meet in club to show I'm poop at taking pics lol. But showing frustration is getting to you, shows desperation In my eyes. Learn how to communicate through typed words will help you a great deal( being as descriptive as possible) . Maybe read other people's profiles will help ( male, females, couples and tvs,/ts's) don't be shy of messaging people to get tips either, you'll some people will help |
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"New to this and have severe body confidence issues tried my luck a few times with no joy except from gay or bi guys ffs lol
I think you'll find a negative attitude is far more off-putting than a bit of chub.."
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P. S I'm a 6ft tall guy who's body keeps swapping between dad and 20 year old mes body lol and to be fair in general I don't like people that mistreat there bodies but if they make me laugh and we connect I don't care what you look like |
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"Haha I can’t see many tall ripped men getting with short chubby girls
There’s enough evidence on here that it happens.
And as a 5’4 fat woman, I’ve been with tall “ripped” men. Shock!
My other half looks like a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis...met him on here. We've attended Curvy Girl and Sutton meets together.
I was married to another fit bloke. Why some people assume their view of the world is the only one still amazes me.
Jason Willis. Wowzers."
Jason Willis that got me haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow I commented before I read all the comments and I don’t think I’ve seen a greater exercise in judgement or self pitying.
People of all different sizes choose the people they like. Maybe the superficial and negative outlook is the problem. Most women choose men they like not just ripped or tall and if they want that they can choose that. Punching above their weight is a horrible phrase, if two people like each other then they can. There are no rules relating to size and the perception of others. I’m not thin and I’m not very tall, and sometimes people with muscles are attracted to me anyway. . Good to know people who haven’t figured out personality is key think I’m unrealistic if someone hilariously funny who happens to have a six pack wants to fuck me lol. - Mrs |
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"Haha I can’t see many tall ripped men getting with short chubby girls
There’s enough evidence on here that it happens.
And as a 5’4 fat woman, I’ve been with tall “ripped” men. Shock!
My other half looks like a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis...met him on here. We've attended Curvy Girl and Sutton meets together.
I was married to another fit bloke. Why some people assume their view of the world is the only one still amazes me.
Jason Willis. Wowzers."
 ...I think he's more Bruce than Jason nowadays...but I won't burst his bubble. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Morning mate.
I know a woman on here. And she got 200 Messages in a day.
Yep 200. To be fair she had no filters. 300 would have way more fun.
So my first point is that your competition. Your profile is 1/201 So yours has to stand out.
I don't mean to be rude but I'm going to be blunt.
Your profile doesn't say much about you. Not do your pictures.
One thing I have noticed is dick pics seem to attract the wrong attention. (Feel free to take a look at mine. I've looked at yours. And no I'm not gay or bi or a dude who wears a dress.) I got well pleased when my did pic got fabbed. Only to have my small victory taken from me, All those who fabbed were men. Not a single female. So I'm seriously considering taking them down or setting them as friends only.
Think of your profile is an introduction. So my advice is if I wanted to talk to a woman in a bar I wouldnt flop my dick out and say evening. But I would check my hair. So say what your looking for and a bit more about yourself and pics of you looking cool. As I've no doubt both are interesting to the right person.
Update your profile as often as is practical. That way it appears on updates.
I have learned a bit of a cheat. Fabb the pictures of those you like. You may get a response. If they don't at least you may have made someone's day.
But it's tough for guys on fabb.
Good luck
Now ladies.
Any advice for a good looking happy, Irish fella.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wow I commented before I read all the comments and I don’t think I’ve seen a greater exercise in judgement or self pitying.
People of all different sizes choose the people they like. Maybe the superficial and negative outlook is the problem. Most women choose men they like not just ripped or tall and if they want that they can choose that. Punching above their weight is a horrible phrase, if two people like each other then they can. There are no rules relating to size and the perception of others. I’m not thin and I’m not very tall, and sometimes people with muscles are attracted to me anyway. . Good to know people who haven’t figured out personality is key think I’m unrealistic if someone hilariously funny who happens to have a six pack wants to fuck me lol. - Mrs "
NOW you tell me I need a personality - I'm screwed then! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, I find humble confidence, politeness, courtesy and not sending dick pics is a great start. Just because ladies are on fab doesnt mean they should be treated any different to a lady you meet on an evening out. "
You mean you don't send dick pics to every woman you meet, including those at work?!? Aha...I never knew....wondered why I kept getting arrested lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No - I'm a woman without a six pack and I get a lot of (welcome) attention from ladies."
I think that's got a lot to do with the fact that (having just viewed your pics) you're 'smoking hot' as the saying goes |
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No, I have a number of lady friends (he says hoping he’s not deluded) on here. I’m not rich and don’t have a six pack.
My advice to any chap on fab would be
Don’t be a dick.
Not suggesting that anybody is. |
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By *nnnikCouple
over a year ago
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It's not about the money or the six pack..
You'd have more luck as a couple, being a spare part amongst many on the shelves makes competition more fierce.
Best remedy is get yourself a partner who is into swinging, see it from a couples perspective?
Why are you single is the question. |
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"It's not about the money or the six pack..
You'd have more luck as a couple, being a spare part amongst many on the shelves makes competition more fierce.
Best remedy is get yourself a partner who is into swinging, see it from a couples perspective?
Why are you single is the question. "
You think bing single is a reason for no attention what so ever lol, delusion lol no personality and no positiveness is the reason in my eyes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wow I commented before I read all the comments and I don’t think I’ve seen a greater exercise in judgement or self pitying.
People of all different sizes choose the people they like. Maybe the superficial and negative outlook is the problem. Most women choose men they like not just ripped or tall and if they want that they can choose that. Punching above their weight is a horrible phrase, if two people like each other then they can. There are no rules relating to size and the perception of others. I’m not thin and I’m not very tall, and sometimes people with muscles are attracted to me anyway. . Good to know people who haven’t figured out personality is key think I’m unrealistic if someone hilariously funny who happens to have a six pack wants to fuck me lol. - Mrs
NOW you tell me I need a personality - I'm screwed then!"
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"Wow I commented before I read all the comments and I don’t think I’ve seen a greater exercise in judgement or self pitying.
People of all different sizes choose the people they like. Maybe the superficial and negative outlook is the problem. Most women choose men they like not just ripped or tall and if they want that they can choose that. Punching above their weight is a horrible phrase, if two people like each other then they can. There are no rules relating to size and the perception of others. I’m not thin and I’m not very tall, and sometimes people with muscles are attracted to me anyway. . Good to know people who haven’t figured out personality is key think I’m unrealistic if someone hilariously funny who happens to have a six pack wants to fuck me lol. - Mrs
NOW you tell me I need a personality - I'm screwed then!
Ah I see a hint of personality! Have you picked one up at the corner shop? "
Hole sale he sure as hell didn't get it off wish |
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"Haha I can’t see many tall ripped men getting with short chubby girls
There’s enough evidence on here that it happens.
And as a 5’4 fat woman, I’ve been with tall “ripped” men. Shock!
My other half looks like a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis...met him on here. We've attended Curvy Girl and Sutton meets together.
I was married to another fit bloke. Why some people assume their view of the world is the only one still amazes me."
It amazes me too.
I think it’s down to their own insecurities and wq that someone they themselves don’t find attractive can be more successful than them.
Your other half sounds like a looker! |
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"I’ve been judged before on here because my old profile said I don’t go for small chubby girls and I got a whole ton of abuse from girls haha "
And now you’re judging short and chubby girls for stating what they like on their profile, the irony. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wow I commented before I read all the comments and I don’t think I’ve seen a greater exercise in judgement or self pitying.
People of all different sizes choose the people they like. Maybe the superficial and negative outlook is the problem. Most women choose men they like not just ripped or tall and if they want that they can choose that. Punching above their weight is a horrible phrase, if two people like each other then they can. There are no rules relating to size and the perception of others. I’m not thin and I’m not very tall, and sometimes people with muscles are attracted to me anyway. . Good to know people who haven’t figured out personality is key think I’m unrealistic if someone hilariously funny who happens to have a six pack wants to fuck me lol. - Mrs
NOW you tell me I need a personality - I'm screwed then!
Ah I see a hint of personality! Have you picked one up at the corner shop? "
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"I’ve been judged before on here because my old profile said I don’t go for small chubby girls and I got a whole ton of abuse from girls haha
And now you’re judging short and chubby girls for stating what they like on their profile, the irony. "
This lady is a goddess. |
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"I’ve been judged before on here because my old profile said I don’t go for small chubby girls and I got a whole ton of abuse from girls haha
And now you’re judging short and chubby girls for stating what they like on their profile, the irony.
This lady is a goddess. "
Far from, but thank you very much! |
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"I’ve been judged before on here because my old profile said I don’t go for small chubby girls and I got a whole ton of abuse from girls haha
And now you’re judging short and chubby girls for stating what they like on their profile, the irony.
This lady is a goddess.
Far from, but thank you very much! "
My pleasure. Your avatar is certainly goddess-y. |
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"I’ve been judged before on here because my old profile said I don’t go for small chubby girls and I got a whole ton of abuse from girls haha
And now you’re judging short and chubby girls for stating what they like on their profile, the irony.
This lady is a goddess.
Far from, but thank you very much! "
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"Haha I can’t see many tall ripped men getting with short chubby girls
There’s enough evidence on here that it happens.
And as a 5’4 fat woman, I’ve been with tall “ripped” men. Shock!
My other half looks like a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis...met him on here. We've attended Curvy Girl and Sutton meets together.
I was married to another fit bloke. Why some people assume their view of the world is the only one still amazes me.
It amazes me too.
I think it’s down to their own insecurities and wq that someone they themselves don’t find attractive can be more successful than them.
Your other half sounds like a looker! "
He thinks so... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It says a lot about someone who thinks its just about money and a six pac. There are thousands of talented men who have neither but that can stimulate your mind to the point you meet. Lack of understanding is the biggest hindrance for men on here. |
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"I’ve been judged before on here because my old profile said I don’t go for small chubby girls and I got a whole ton of abuse from girls haha
And now you’re judging short and chubby girls for stating what they like on their profile, the irony.
This lady is a goddess.
Far from, but thank you very much!
Agree! You are a black goddess!! Shame to only do white but hey that’s preference "
Ah, thank you! |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"It says a lot about someone who thinks its just about money and a six pac. There are thousands of talented men who have neither but that can stimulate your mind to the point you meet. Lack of understanding is the biggest hindrance for men on here. "
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By *ita7Man
over a year ago
Kettering |
Its peaks & troughs for me
Currently peaking with some great regular meets & believe you me I have no six pack or the money. You just need to keep trying, listen to what people want & deliver. You will be surprised how many times I get asked back because I always go to a meet with the ideal of if you get them to enjoy the meet then you automatically will. It's a win win formula as far as I am concerned. |
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By *hillboyMan
over a year ago
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Haha girls crack me up on here when they say they don’t go for looks they go for personality yet like I’ve said before I’ve been on here for 3years on and off and I could probably count on my hands the replies I’ve had. How do you go for personality if you don’t message them back if you went for personality you would message them back and get to know them so please stop with the I go for personality you’re making yourself sound stupid haha |
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"Haha girls crack me up on here when they say they don’t go for looks they go for personality yet like I’ve said before I’ve been on here for 3years on and off and I could probably count on my hands the replies I’ve had. How do you go for personality if you don’t message them back if you went for personality you would message them back and get to know them so please stop with the I go for personality you’re making yourself sound stupid haha "
Do you think phrases such as “I’m in the middle of buying a dungeon” and “I would drag you up stairs like a rag doll” are signs of your charming personality ? Most women would be scared of being hurt after reading your profile |
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"Haha girls crack me up on here when they say they don’t go for looks they go for personality yet like I’ve said before I’ve been on here for 3years on and off and I could probably count on my hands the replies I’ve had. How do you go for personality if you don’t message them back if you went for personality you would message them back and get to know them so please stop with the I go for personality you’re making yourself sound stupid haha
Do you think phrases such as “I’m in the middle of buying a dungeon” and “I would drag you up stairs like a rag doll” are signs of your charming personality ? Most women would be scared of being hurt after reading your profile "
Or being tied into the cast for a remake of happy days going by the outfit
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"Haha girls crack me up on here when they say they don’t go for looks they go for personality yet like I’ve said before I’ve been on here for 3years on and off and I could probably count on my hands the replies I’ve had. How do you go for personality if you don’t message them back if you went for personality you would message them back and get to know them so please stop with the I go for personality you’re making yourself sound stupid haha "
Your profile would be a massive put off to anyone sub or not!!
You still need to get to know a person even if they are into the same kinks.
You come off sounding like a serial killer!! |
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"Haha girls crack me up on here when they say they don’t go for looks they go for personality yet like I’ve said before I’ve been on here for 3years on and off and I could probably count on my hands the replies I’ve had. How do you go for personality if you don’t message them back if you went for personality you would message them back and get to know them so please stop with the I go for personality you’re making yourself sound stupid haha "
Cant say I disagree.. Im doing not bad tbh as I don't expect anything on here. Been messaging politely and regularly ever since I joined and ive had 3 or 4 meets for coffee. It really is a bit bit of a waste of time.. So ive all but abandoned expecting dates or meets and just go with the flow. I date far more on pof of late actually and of a very kinky casual nature of that's what you are looking for. Far far less likely to get that in here as a single guy. Accept it and change tact perhaps. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some guys are quite aggressive on here, and seem to think that because it's a swingers site, they have the right to have sex. We are all human and like to be treated as such. "
I agree ghost ship. I get messages from the same guys, as many as ten in an hour with aggressive tone. Its a strange world out there x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Haha girls crack me up on here when they say they don’t go for looks they go for personality yet like I’ve said before I’ve been on here for 3years on and off and I could probably count on my hands the replies I’ve had. How do you go for personality if you don’t message them back if you went for personality you would message them back and get to know them so please stop with the I go for personality you’re making yourself sound stupid haha "
They’ve probably read your profile and decided from that, you are not for them.
Personality shows in the profile as well.
I personally go for looks first, and I’m not ashamed to say so. |
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"Haha girls crack me up on here when they say they don’t go for looks they go for personality yet like I’ve said before I’ve been on here for 3years on and off and I could probably count on my hands the replies I’ve had. How do you go for personality if you don’t message them back if you went for personality you would message them back and get to know them so please stop with the I go for personality you’re making yourself sound stupid haha
Do you think phrases such as “I’m in the middle of buying a dungeon” and “I would drag you up stairs like a rag doll” are signs of your charming personality ? Most women would be scared of being hurt after reading your profile "
Yep. I mean I’m actually terrified after reading the text on his profile!! “Face fuck you until you almost throw up”?! Dreadful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm an athletic fit guy but certainly don't have a six pack, and none of the ladies and couples i've spoken too would have a clue if I was loaded or not!
Don't get me wrong it can be tough to get a chat going at times, but sure that's the same for woman and couples as well. When i have managed to get the ball rolling though i've had some fun chats and some occasional cam/skype fun too so it ain't all bad |
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"lol noooo! I prefer a bit of flesh on a guy. Someone with a six pack a) fooking boring and vain, b) I like my food too much, and he's not going to shame me as to what I eat!!!!
Boring and vain because I know when to stop shoving food down my throat? "
I’m wondering if this also applies to women? I don’t have “6 pack” as such but I have toned abs. Am I boring and vain too? It’s an education every day being on here isn’t it..... |
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No you don't have to I would go as far as to say the majority would be put off by sombreness going on about money on here its a sex site not come to live with me in my pad site. |
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LJ you look bloody superb just as you are! X
"lol noooo! I prefer a bit of flesh on a guy. Someone with a six pack a) fooking boring and vain, b) I like my food too much, and he's not going to shame me as to what I eat!!!!
Boring and vain because I know when to stop shoving food down my throat?
I’m wondering if this also applies to women? I don’t have “6 pack” as such but I have toned abs. Am I boring and vain too? It’s an education every day being on here isn’t it..... "
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"Haha girls crack me up on here when they say they don’t go for looks they go for personality yet like I’ve said before I’ve been on here for 3years on and off and I could probably count on my hands the replies I’ve had. How do you go for personality if you don’t message them back if you went for personality you would message them back and get to know them so please stop with the I go for personality you’re making yourself sound stupid haha
Do you think phrases such as “I’m in the middle of buying a dungeon” and “I would drag you up stairs like a rag doll” are signs of your charming personality ? Most women would be scared of being hurt after reading your profile "
Exactly this.
I’m submissive myself and a quick read of his profile would put me off 100%, there’s no need to get to know the personality.
Although he hasn’t asked for profile advice or feedback so I won’t go further. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Haha girls crack me up on here when they say they don’t go for looks they go for personality yet like I’ve said before I’ve been on here for 3years on and off and I could probably count on my hands the replies I’ve had. How do you go for personality if you don’t message them back if you went for personality you would message them back and get to know them so please stop with the I go for personality you’re making yourself sound stupid haha "
I'm shallow as fuck and proud to admit it, I like good looking, athletic guys and I get them. I don't want to fuck a personality, I want their body.
You have a vile attitude, that's why you can't get replies, nobody wants to meet a man who is deluded, uses hardly any punctuation and has to put other people down to make up for his own lack of success. |
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"Haha girls crack me up on here when they say they don’t go for looks they go for personality yet like I’ve said before I’ve been on here for 3years on and off and I could probably count on my hands the replies I’ve had. How do you go for personality if you don’t message them back if you went for personality you would message them back and get to know them so please stop with the I go for personality you’re making yourself sound stupid haha
Do you think phrases such as “I’m in the middle of buying a dungeon” and “I would drag you up stairs like a rag doll” are signs of your charming personality ? Most women would be scared of being hurt after reading your profile
Exactly this.
I’m submissive myself and a quick read of his profile would put me off 100%, there’s no need to get to know the personality.
Although he hasn’t asked for profile advice or feedback so I won’t go further. "
Yup. It’s the most terrifying and off putting thing I’ve ever read in my life. And I’ve read some scary shit. |
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"lol noooo! I prefer a bit of flesh on a guy. Someone with a six pack a) fooking boring and vain, b) I like my food too much, and he's not going to shame me as to what I eat!!!!
Boring and vain because I know when to stop shoving food down my throat?
I’m wondering if this also applies to women? I don’t have “6 pack” as such but I have toned abs. Am I boring and vain too? It’s an education every day being on here isn’t it..... "
Look fantastic!!! People don't need six packs to be fit and have a nice figure. I havent got the time to maintain a six pack but do a massively physically demanding job that keeps me in reasonable shape. Good enough for me and every woman ive been lucky enough to meet. Be happy in yourself is number 1. |
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"Haha girls crack me up on here when they say they don’t go for looks they go for personality yet like I’ve said before I’ve been on here for 3years on and off and I could probably count on my hands the replies I’ve had. How do you go for personality if you don’t message them back if you went for personality you would message them back and get to know them so please stop with the I go for personality you’re making yourself sound stupid haha
Do you think phrases such as “I’m in the middle of buying a dungeon” and “I would drag you up stairs like a rag doll” are signs of your charming personality ? Most women would be scared of being hurt after reading your profile "
I would be thinking red flags !! |
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For me, you've gotta be interesting, intelligent, funny and confident
Usually it takes only one or two messages to know if we are similar wavelength... Then the fun begins
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Just be yourself! Just because a handful aren't interested doesn't mean everyone isn't.
You will 'come' across someone eventually! Just takes time.
Look at my account for example, loads of attention but endless waves of timewasters.
Got to keep the glass half full approach going! |
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By *hezuMan
over a year ago
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"lol noooo! I prefer a bit of flesh on a guy. Someone with a six pack a) fooking boring and vain, b) I like my food too much, and he's not going to shame me as to what I eat!!!!"
Thinking someone with abs is boring and vain means you're insecure. Never heard of a gym guy shaming what someone eats |
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I’m not bothered about a guys financial status for a swinging meet - irrelevant
As for a 6 pack ? Not really fussed ... like muscles yes but the whole abs like steel thing is overrated - a handsome face is the winner |
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"New to this and have severe body confidence issues tried my luck a few times with no joy except from gay or bi guys ffs lol"
Firstly you can stop men from messaging you and secondly you get out what you put in on here, so review your content perhaps!
As to your heading then I've never considered anyone's financial status and for me it's about the person much more than the looks! |
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"New to this and have severe body confidence issues tried my luck a few times with no joy except from gay or bi guys ffs lol"
Well your profile is so negative that you probably won't turn up anyway. You want everyone else to do the work. |
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"I’m not bothered about a guys financial status for a swinging meet - irrelevant
As for a 6 pack ? Not really fussed ... like muscles yes but the whole abs like steel thing is overrated - a handsome face is the winner "
Interesting.. Sounds like youd like me.. But as the op says it doesn't appear that way in here.. Lots of women say these things but when it comes down to it.. Its lip service really.. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"I’m not bothered about a guys financial status for a swinging meet - irrelevant
As for a 6 pack ? Not really fussed ... like muscles yes but the whole abs like steel thing is overrated - a handsome face is the winner
Interesting.. Sounds like youd like me.. But as the op says it doesn't appear that way in here.. Lots of women say these things but when it comes down to it.. Its lip service really.. "
Because your face is only handsome in your opinion. Everyone's version of a handsome face is different. |
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Someones financial situation, irrelevant. When I solo meet I pay for my own hotel and my own drinks. I dont let anyone pay for anything so they dont think I owe them something later on.
6 packs, really not arsed. I like someone to look after themselves but that could be anything from slim gym fit to average dad bod to chunky rugby builds. Having prominent ab muscles has never had any bearing on the men I've chosen to meet with. |
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"I’m not bothered about a guys financial status for a swinging meet - irrelevant
As for a 6 pack ? Not really fussed ... like muscles yes but the whole abs like steel thing is overrated - a handsome face is the winner
Interesting.. Sounds like youd like me.. But as the op says it doesn't appear that way in here.. Lots of women say these things but when it comes down to it.. Its lip service really..
Because your face is only handsome in your opinion. Everyone's version of a handsome face is different. "
Exactly what I was going to say |
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Go to some socials, chat to people who will hopefully verify you. I'm sure many women on here would look twice at a profile where the guy has been verified by others as a genuine respectful man over a profile with nothing.
Make an effort to be seen by people how you want to be remembered. Good luck. |
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