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over a year ago
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How many more mature ladies prefer having fun with guys much younger than themselves?
23 year old guy here, love ladies 47+. Seems very hard to find someone who’s interested in meeting a guy of my age... is it because I’m considered inexperienced? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many more mature ladies prefer having fun with guys much younger than themselves?
23 year old guy here, love ladies 47+. Seems very hard to find someone who’s interested in meeting a guy of my age... is it because I’m considered inexperienced?"
Most ladies dont want to play with guys the same as their children.. i prefer younger guys  |
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I love mature women they are a big turn on for me, my best sexual experience s have been with nature ladies, they are fabulous. I'm picky when it comes to guys younger than me, got to be completely smooth, not even beards.
My age on my profile is wrong it's to fox any hackers. my age is a secret and will be until the end of time and the galaxies merge as one, sorry on a bit of trip there. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am not 47+ but I still dont meet with guys in their 20's. Mostly this is because every time I have met one it has been an evening of disappointment."
Yeah I get that people my age can be inexperienced, which lets others down, but everyone’s different. I’ve had my share of experiences so I know what I’m doing, others don’t. |
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It's not the inexperience, quite a few older men don't have a lot of experience.
For me it's a whole range of reasons. We have no common reference points, young men tend to be all about the destination and not the journey, stamina is their main selling point and I simply prefer an older man. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It’s nice to know people have genuine reasons, I always thought it was literally down to my age and being considered a waste of time. Hopefully I’ll find someone yet |
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"It’s nice to know people have genuine reasons, I always thought it was literally down to my age and being considered a waste of time. Hopefully I’ll find someone yet "
So what are your reasons for preferring older women? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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For starters, I’m just genuinely more attracted to an older woman. And they make much better friends than people of my age, they’re not as self centred I find, only looking out for themselves. The conversations I enjoy more as they’re more passionate and in-depth. That’s jus my opinion though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lot of young guys these days look too preened and feminised - might help to have chest hair, shorter hair styles and maybe short beards to look more appealing to older women? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lot of young guys these days look too preened and feminised - might help to have chest hair, shorter hair styles and maybe short beards to look more appealing to older women? "
I don’t have a lot of chest hair because I don’t like having a lot. That’s my preference. I shouldn’t have to change how I want to actually look just to get an interest from people. If you don’t like me for how I actually am then I’d rather not meet them anyway, again just my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lot of young guys these days look too preened and feminised - might help to have chest hair, shorter hair styles and maybe short beards to look more appealing to older women?
I don’t have a lot of chest hair because I don’t like having a lot. That’s my preference. I shouldn’t have to change how I want to actually look just to get an interest from people. If you don’t like me for how I actually am then I’d rather not meet them anyway, again just my opinion "
From what I have come across, older women seem to prefer a man looking a man. Generational thing maybe. Younger women are probably used to it. But you want older women though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lot of young guys these days look too preened and feminised - might help to have chest hair, shorter hair styles and maybe short beards to look more appealing to older women?
I don’t have a lot of chest hair because I don’t like having a lot. That’s my preference. I shouldn’t have to change how I want to actually look just to get an interest from people. If you don’t like me for how I actually am then I’d rather not meet them anyway, again just my opinion "
Only ever be you, if someone wants you to change and do things you don't want to, just on the off chance they will play with you, tell em to sod off. I like younger men that are confident in who they are, I want a yes man as much as I would want an arrogant one... I would never change from doing what I want, for a man to show me interest so ya know |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lot of young guys these days look too preened and feminised - might help to have chest hair, shorter hair styles and maybe short beards to look more appealing to older women?
I don’t have a lot of chest hair because I don’t like having a lot. That’s my preference. I shouldn’t have to change how I want to actually look just to get an interest from people. If you don’t like me for how I actually am then I’d rather not meet them anyway, again just my opinion
Only ever be you, if someone wants you to change and do things you don't want to, just on the off chance they will play with you, tell em to sod off. I like younger men that are confident in who they are, I want a yes man as much as I would want an arrogant one... I would never change from doing what I want, for a man to show me interest so ya know "
See this is exactly my point, older females are more mature and know what they want. People my age these days are too focused on impressing other people trying to fit in. I much prefer doing what I want and not giving a shit if someone doesn’t agree or like it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There will be many factors OP. Some may have children the same age or older than you. Some wouldn't want to feel like they are teaching someone they consider inexperienced. Saying that, there are some who relish that opportunity and love very young men. It may just take a little more grafting to find it |
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We do exist - I love younger guys. But the balance between appealing youth and being juvenile is hard to get right. I've met some awesome 20 somethings that had the balance right and were amazing in bed, and I've spoken to (not met as I am not a fool) some 40 somethings that need to grow up. One of the issues I have with younger guys is they can rarely accommodate and some don't even drive. It puts barriers in the way of a meet, and women will probably just chose a guy that doesn't present barriers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm 50, I meet younger guys, younger than my late 20's kids.
Just my preference, people get turned on by many different things, as I said on another thread I have also met men in their 40's but if we click then we do. I just seem to click more with guys in their 20's. That's the fun of fab for me, living out fantasies, living my life the way I choose to, not everyone's way but I'm true to me xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm 50, I meet younger guys, younger than my late 20's kids.
Just my preference, people get turned on by many different things, as I said on another thread I have also met men in their 40's but if we click then we do. I just seem to click more with guys in their 20's. That's the fun of fab for me, living out fantasies, living my life the way I choose to, not everyone's way but I'm true to me xx"
Hey josie! Glad to hear your lovelly! |
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Out of genuine curiosity OP, is it the way they look that you are attracted to? Or the perception (rightly or wrongly) that they are more experienced? Or both? I find it fascinating when men seem to go for an older category as a label, rather than a person by person criteria |
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I'm 26 now but been with a older woman twice I went with a 36 year old when I was 18 and a 42 year old when I was 21 it's all about how mature you are for your age I would say interests play a lot in common aswell what other people have said aswell them having kids your age or older |
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"We do exist - I love younger guys. But the balance between appealing youth and being juvenile is hard to get right. I've met some awesome 20 somethings that had the balance right and were amazing in bed, and I've spoken to (not met as I am not a fool) some 40 somethings that need to grow up. One of the issues I have with younger guys is they can rarely accommodate and some don't even drive. It puts barriers in the way of a meet, and women will probably just chose a guy that doesn't present barriers."
Yeah I get that. The accommodation thing I’ve noticed is quite a deal breaker, which is understandable really, especially if they have children. I think maturity is a big part of it too like you said. I know people on their 30’s/40’s who act like a teenager and I have friends around my age who are some of the maturist people I know! Judging I find is a key factor as some people judge you before talking just based on the age. |
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"Out of genuine curiosity OP, is it the way they look that you are attracted to? Or the perception (rightly or wrongly) that they are more experienced? Or both? I find it fascinating when men seem to go for an older category as a label, rather than a person by person criteria "
I’d say I’m more attracted to older women as a whole, but that isn’t really the main thing for me. Although attraction is important, I just find they’re generally more fun to be around. Conversations are much better, you can really have an in depth conversation with people and some have great stories to tell. I wouldn’t even put it down to the fact that they have more experience, to me i’d Say that was just a bonus really!
Hope that answers your question |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I often find young guys messages, are a real turn off before thinking ahead "
Oh trust me I know. I’ve seen some of the messages younger guys send, thinking they’re the king of smooth talk... really not the case  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Out of genuine curiosity OP, is it the way they look that you are attracted to? Or the perception (rightly or wrongly) that they are more experienced? Or both? I find it fascinating when men seem to go for an older category as a label, rather than a person by person criteria
I’d say I’m more attracted to older women as a whole, but that isn’t really the main thing for me. Although attraction is important, I just find they’re generally more fun to be around. Conversations are much better, you can really have an in depth conversation with people and some have great stories to tell. I wouldn’t even put it down to the fact that they have more experience, to me i’d Say that was just a bonus really!
Hope that answers your question "
It does answer it. Thank you lovely. That's actually a very interesting reply |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Out of genuine curiosity OP, is it the way they look that you are attracted to? Or the perception (rightly or wrongly) that they are more experienced? Or both? I find it fascinating when men seem to go for an older category as a label, rather than a person by person criteria
I’d say I’m more attracted to older women as a whole, but that isn’t really the main thing for me. Although attraction is important, I just find they’re generally more fun to be around. Conversations are much better, you can really have an in depth conversation with people and some have great stories to tell. I wouldn’t even put it down to the fact that they have more experience, to me i’d Say that was just a bonus really!
Hope that answers your question
It does answer it. Thank you lovely. That's actually a very interesting reply "
Not a problem, glad I could clear it up |
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Some would say they won’t because you are their childrens age, some of us have children much older than you and some of us don’t care about age, it’s all down to attraction.
Remember though, just because someone likes meeting men of your age, does not mean they will meet you, just as you wouldn’t meet someone based on how many years they’ve been alive alone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Some would say they won’t because you are their childrens age, some of us have children much older than you and some of us don’t care about age, it’s all down to attraction.
Remember though, just because someone likes meeting men of your age, does not mean they will meet you, just as you wouldn’t meet someone based on how many years they’ve been alive alone."
I understand that, I neve assume just because I’m within their age bracket that a meet is something that’s just going to happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm 50, I meet younger guys, younger than my late 20's kids.
Just my preference, people get turned on by many different things, as I said on another thread I have also met men in their 40's but if we click then we do. I just seem to click more with guys in their 20's. That's the fun of fab for me, living out fantasies, living my life the way I choose to, not everyone's way but I'm true to me xx
Hey josie! Glad to hear your lovelly! "
You seem pretty great yourself xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many more mature ladies prefer having fun with guys much younger than themselves?
23 year old guy here, love ladies 47+. Seems very hard to find someone who’s interested in meeting a guy of my age... is it because I’m considered inexperienced?"
No it's probàbly because we have children of a similar age... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Age is no issue as long as it mutual fun and not just one sided. You don't see many men saying they have issues with younger women because they are the same age as their daughters  "
That’s a good point actually. You don’t see it very often at all |
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When the potential playmate is younger than our kids its a total No-No.
Its always interesting standing in the Thursday morning Pension queue and speculating who is going to get sorted out before the tea cups and digestives make an appearance.
All you under 40's can be dismissive but us geriatrics have now got the time and experience to leisurely enjoy our sex life, and one final thought! Our pensions are paying for our pleasure.
Have a nice day! |
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Each to their own, we have a sizeable age gap but doesn't make any difference whatsoever in or out of the bedroom.
Age is just a number - it's the person that matters. My guy's far more mature & respectful than some older men I know & I'd choose him over them any day of the week because of it & not necessarily because of his age (his stamina sure helps though)!
Agree with those who say it weirds them out if the guy is the same age as their own children though. Luckily that doesn't apply to me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Age gap is definitely a turn on for me, but that's down to my own kinks... plus more mature women tend to know what I'm talking about when music tastes come up... or at least have heard of what i listen to  its definitely hard to pin point it though, I think OP has it right with more engaging conversations, see allot of people talking about mental stimulation leads to sensual sensation. Makes sense to me! |
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"I am not 47+ but I still dont meet with guys in their 20's. Mostly this is because every time I have met one it has been an evening of disappointment."
I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am not 47+ but I still dont meet with guys in their 20's. Mostly this is because every time I have met one it has been an evening of disappointment.
I agree"
I think as long as they are honest with their experience and expectations it would be good |
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"How many more mature ladies prefer having fun with guys much younger than themselves?
23 year old guy here, love ladies 47+. Seems very hard to find someone who’s interested in meeting a guy of my age... is it because I’m considered inexperienced?"
No it's because I'm considered old and wouldn't want to put my body next to your young one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How many more mature ladies prefer having fun with guys much younger than themselves?
23 year old guy here, love ladies 47+. Seems very hard to find someone who’s interested in meeting a guy of my age... is it because I’m considered inexperienced?
No it's because I'm considered old and wouldn't want to put my body next to your young one."
I wouldn’t exactly say you’re old. But even so, why let that stop you from having fun if you were actually into younger guys? I understand if you don’t feel comfortable yourself, but if you’re doing it because of other people’s no opinions, don’t let that bother you |
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"47+ is very specific. What is wrong with 46 year olds ?"
Nothing, I’m not against meeting anyone of any age. I only put 47+ as I find women from late 40’s onwards are my main preference.
But like I said, I have no issues with anyone else of any age, if they’re a decent person with a good personality then I’m cool with that too |
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From my teenage days, I have always been interested in women older than myself. Now I am much more grown, I am looking forward to meeting woman far older than me. Conversing with them is more matured and relaxing. No pressure!!!! |
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"From my teenage days, I have always been interested in women older than myself. Now I am much more grown, I am looking forward to meeting woman far older than me. Conversing with them is more matured and relaxing. No pressure!!!!"
Exactly. Conversations are much better and there’s no pressure for anything. Makes having fun with them a more pleasurable experience in every way |
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The Mr is very much into older women even up to his mum's age 
Me, bonuses to both young and older gentlemen.
Inexperience isn't nec an issue as I get to wear my bossy pants!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The Mr is very much into older women even up to his mum's age
Me, bonuses to both young and older gentlemen.
Inexperience isn't nec an issue as I get to wear my bossy pants! "
And who wouldn’t like an older women taking full control |
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"I’ve chatted to younger guys on here but as a rule they’ve all been a bit needy really. "
yeah some younger guys can be very needy but some aren't but sometimes the neediness comes across as maybe they are new to all of this |
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"I’ve chatted to younger guys on here but as a rule they’ve all been a bit needy really.
yeah some younger guys can be very needy but some aren't but sometimes the neediness comes across as maybe they are new to all of this "
And a lot of the younger guys here have just assumed that by joining the site, they’re guaranteed sex and that women are going to throw themselves at their feet. You need to find the guys who understand that isn’t the case. Granted it’s not easy, I’m a guy and I’ll admit some just make the male gender embarrassing as a whole |
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"I’ve chatted to younger guys on here but as a rule they’ve all been a bit needy really.
yeah some younger guys can be very needy but some aren't but sometimes the neediness comes across as maybe they are new to all of this
And a lot of the younger guys here have just assumed that by joining the site, they’re guaranteed sex and that women are going to throw themselves at their feet. You need to find the guys who understand that isn’t the case. Granted it’s not easy, I’m a guy and I’ll admit some just make the male gender embarrassing as a whole "
that is very true a lot of young guys do join this site expecting sex but some of those young guys don't have that expectation |
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"I’ve chatted to younger guys on here but as a rule they’ve all been a bit needy really.
yeah some younger guys can be very needy but some aren't but sometimes the neediness comes across as maybe they are new to all of this
And a lot of the younger guys here have just assumed that by joining the site, they’re guaranteed sex and that women are going to throw themselves at their feet. You need to find the guys who understand that isn’t the case. Granted it’s not easy, I’m a guy and I’ll admit some just make the male gender embarrassing as a whole
that is very true a lot of young guys do join this site expecting sex but some of those young guys don't have that expectation "
also OP maybe your profile picture and your other pictures might be a draw back as to why as well |
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"I’ve chatted to younger guys on here but as a rule they’ve all been a bit needy really.
yeah some younger guys can be very needy but some aren't but sometimes the neediness comes across as maybe they are new to all of this
And a lot of the younger guys here have just assumed that by joining the site, they’re guaranteed sex and that women are going to throw themselves at their feet. You need to find the guys who understand that isn’t the case. Granted it’s not easy, I’m a guy and I’ll admit some just make the male gender embarrassing as a whole
that is very true a lot of young guys do join this site expecting sex but some of those young guys don't have that expectation
also OP maybe your profile picture and your other pictures might be a draw back as to why as well"
I’ve tried different pics which didn’t really make any sort of difference really. Plus I don’t want my face pics displayed publicly due to privacy and the type of work that I do, hence why they’re only accessible to friends |
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