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Couple needed....! How hard?

By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Hi guys

All we're after is a professional physically fit couple that like to party all nite, we are based in the midlands so traveling shouldn't be a problem and we are after a Friday night, but can we find what we're after .....? A big fat no lol gutted, are we doing something wrong?, Or is this site attracting too may fake time wasters - I hope not as it has been great.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

a long list of demands offering nothing in return...

We wouldnt contact you...as i have said before swinging is about a great shag not a quick shag

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

"a long list of demands offering nothing in return...

We wouldnt contact you...as i have said before swinging is about a great shag not a quick shag

Lol offering nothing! 2 professional people that train hard to maintain a heathly fit body and take pride in there appearance, no nothing in return....... Standards! Not the end of the world if you didn't contact us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"a long list of demands offering nothing in return...

We wouldnt contact you...as i have said before swinging is about a great shag not a quick shag

couldn't agree more

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Thank you, appreciated x x x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Guess you need to stand out, send interesting emails, and be adaptable...

That's what us single men have to do

But, I would have though you were the ideal singers, slim, fit, sexy, so maybe you need to re-valuate how your using the site x

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Yes good call, and thanks for the comments

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

my evergreen solution - go to a club !

I ve never been to Chameleons - but have been to several of the Manchester clubs... and always have a good time

at a club you get to mix and mingle and take things at your own pace

worth a try ?

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By *ollie_JCouple over a year ago

London

Just happens like that sometimes..

We are the same as you, we dip our toes in now and again and we struggle for meets.

If it were us, we would add more to your profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Difficult to comment really without knowing how you've gone about it - have you just put up the status update or put a meet today in the relevant section etc? How long have you been looking?

I guess sometimes its just not that easy to find someone who fits your bill and you theirs for a specific date.

There's not a lot on your profile to go by for someone like me who likes something to read

but if it's not been a problem in the past then it's probably just bad luck this time.

You still have a couple of days - good luck.

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Ty, we have been to clubs but like to get a little wasted and relax at home though

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Good call, I will edit it asap, thanks for your suggestion - nice profile btw x

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Yes I agree, good call, will update it now, we are on the 'meet' list maybe try the organised events page too then, TY xx

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By *un_JuiceCouple over a year ago

Nr Chester

There's an arguement that yes the profile is vague. But at the same time anyone approached or that approach you would determine everyones boundaries.

Good luck.

Also nocturnal and like long and late ones x

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Hi guys

ok.... something to think about... i think a lot of people know what is about to come next....

if you spend more words on your "complaint" than you do on your "profile", then isn't it a no brainer about where to possible start......

your profile is your shop window... it is the place where people get to know and find out about you???

so what would they know about you so far? where does it scream "my god this couple is fantastic and i just have to meet them!"?

part of it is the effort you put in, and yes... a profile is part of that "effort"......

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

"There's an arguement that yes the profile is vague. But at the same time anyone approached or that approach you would determine everyones boundaries.

Good luck.

Also nocturnal and like long and late ones x"

Good call! I like it x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi guys

ok.... something to think about... i think a lot of people know what is about to come next....

if you spend more words on your "complaint" than you do on your "profile", then isn't it a no brainer about where to possible start......

your profile is your shop window... it is the place where people get to know and find out about you???

so what would they know about you so far? where does it scream "my god this couple is fantastic and i just have to meet them!"?

part of it is the effort you put in, and yes... a profile is part of that "effort"......

I agree. Your pics are great and you obviously spend time making yourselves look good, but your profile text is letting you down, imho.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"a long list of demands offering nothing in return...

We wouldnt contact you...as i have said before swinging is about a great shag not a quick shag

Ohhhh well forgive me for being a size 12 and a housewife

Your profile will appeal to other people who want to talk about gym membership and salaries...but as this is a swinging site i tend to find that some mention of hat we offer sexually tens to work...

And remember we are not the ones short of meets, and our standards are very high, no feckwits, racists,bigots,ppl up there own arse, marrieds playing away,trophy wife swappers, homophobes,Daily Mail readers, men with vwe in their name, slut shamers, people unable to hold an intelligent conversation,adele fans and those who take swinging seriously.

Bloody hell sometimes i am amazed anyone

fits our standards at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"....

And remember we are not the ones short of meets, and our standards are very high, no feckwits, racists,bigots,ppl up there own arse, marrieds playing away,trophy wife swappers, homophobes, Daily Mail readers, men with vwe in their name, slut shamers, people unable to hold an intelligent conversation,adele fans and those who take swinging seriously.

Bloody hell sometimes i am amazed anyone fits our standards at all

I wasn't going to say anything

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By *ath-N-DelCouple over a year ago

Glasgow area

Your profile will appeal to other people who want to talk about gym membership and salaries...but as this is a swinging site i tend to find that some mention of what we offer sexually tends to work...

And remember we are not the ones short of meets, and our standards are very high

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps there are very few gym fit professionals on this site... perhaps those people are too busy being doctors and lawyers and going to the gym to think about coming on to this site...

the more you cut groups of people away from what you want the less people there are to meet,

the less people there are to meet, the less likely you are to get a meet,

and apparently the less likely you are to get a meet the more likely you are to come on the forum and make a post about it....

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

"a long list of demands offering nothing in return...

We wouldnt contact you...as i have said before swinging is about a great shag not a quick shag

Ohhhh well forgive me for being a size 12 and a housewife

Your profile will appeal to other people who want to talk about gym membership and salaries...but as this is a swinging site i tend to find that some mention of hat we offer sexually tens to work...

Bloody hell sometimes i am amazed anyone

fits our standards at all

'And remember we are not the ones short of meets, and our standards are very high, no feckwits, racists,bigots'

'Your profile will appeal to other people who want to talk about gym membership and salaries...'

A bigot is a person obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices,

your forgiven, now jog on!

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Noted - am working on a change of profile as we speak, thank you

"Hi guys

ok.... something to think about... i think a lot of people know what is about to come next....

if you spend more words on your "complaint" than you do on your "profile", then isn't it a no brainer about where to possible start......

your profile is your shop window... it is the place where people get to know and find out about you???

so what would they know about you so far? where does it scream "my god this couple is fantastic and i just have to meet them!"?

part of it is the effort you put in, and yes... a profile is part of that "effort"......

I agree. Your pics are great and you obviously spend time making yourselves look good, but your profile text is letting you down, imho."

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

LMAO good point well made lol ty
"Perhaps there are very few gym fit professionals on this site... perhaps those people are too busy being doctors and lawyers and going to the gym to think about coming on to this site...

the more you cut groups of people away from what you want the less people there are to meet,

the less people there are to meet, the less likely you are to get a meet,

and apparently the less likely you are to get a meet the more likely you are to come on the forum and make a post about it...."

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Hi guys

Yes.

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By *otswbabeCouple over a year ago

north cornwall

Can only reiterate what has been said. There are the type of couples on here that you are looking for but they are not plentiful. If you want to play with the minority it just lowers your chances. Therefore playing on a certain date becomes a little stressful to arrange. You will prob find it easier to find the people first then arrange a mutually convenient date. Also, clubs are great for first contact and to arrange to meet again privately. Good luck.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"....

And remember we are not the ones short of meets, and our standards are very high, no feckwits, racists,bigots,ppl up there own arse, marrieds playing away,trophy wife swappers, homophobes, Daily Mail readers, men with vwe in their name, slut shamers, people unable to hold an intelligent conversation,adele fans and those who take swinging seriously.

Bloody hell sometimes i am amazed anyone fits our standards at all

I wasn't going to say anything

We are available for a select few...do you want to go on the waiting list,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi guys

Yes."

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I am glad that a rewrite is coming... The irony of it all is that you wrote as much about yourself in the opening post as you did in your profile...

So just to drive home that point here is something to think about.... If I were a couple how would we know we were right for you? The answer is....... We wouldnt!

You don't mention them at all!

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Totally agree x ty x
"Can only reiterate what has been said. There are the type of couples on here that you are looking for but they are not plentiful. If you want to play with the minority it just lowers your chances. Therefore playing on a certain date becomes a little stressful to arrange. You will prob find it easier to find the people first then arrange a mutually convenient date. Also, clubs are great for first contact and to arrange to meet again privately. Good luck. "

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Lol erm....... No ty
"....

And remember we are not the ones short of meets, and our standards are very high, no feckwits, racists,bigots,ppl up there own arse, marrieds playing away,trophy wife swappers, homophobes, Daily Mail readers, men with vwe in their name, slut shamers, people unable to hold an intelligent conversation,adele fans and those who take swinging seriously.

Bloody hell sometimes i am amazed anyone fits our standards at all

I wasn't going to say anything

We are available for a select few...do you want to go on the waiting list,

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By *mf4BxJCouple over a year ago

edinburgh

Don't think she was asking you!

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Step 1 – put in the leg work… you have to go looking before you will find.

Putting up a meet today, changing your status and even putting something on the events page and then sitting back waiting for someone to come to you will limit your chances…. as all the people who think like you will be doing the same, sitting back and waiting for people to come to them.

Step 2 – most genuine professionals chuckle at other people referring to themselves as professional just because they work. May be re-evaluate how you describe yourselves, may be self-employed or small business owners. After all you might be missing out on some fit intelligent people in highly paid jobs who are not actually professionals as such.

Step 3 – be prepared to beg a little. If you are looking for people who think they are better than most and ‘special’, then they will want to be made to feel that way.

Step 4 – consider widening your search range to people who find attitude and important factor was well as looks. This will of course mean changing your demeanour a little and looking at other people from eye-level.

Hope this helps.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol erm....... No ty....

And remember we are not the ones short of meets, and our standards are very high, no feckwits, racists,bigots,ppl up there own arse, marrieds playing away,trophy wife swappers, homophobes, Daily Mail readers, men with vwe in their name, slut shamers, people unable to hold an intelligent conversation,adele fans and those who take swinging seriously.

Bloody hell sometimes i am amazed anyone fits our standards at all

I wasn't going to say anything

We are available for a select few...do you want to go on the waiting list,

With all due respect......The thread was not started saying 'who wants to meet us' (unless I should read something between the lines).

I don't think sniping backwards and forwards is helping you very much realy.

Everyone is offering you honest advice which you are free to take or not take, Puddles advice was no different to anyone elses. Your profile is very short and (as I have said before) whilst you put a lot of effort into your personal apearence and work etc, you are not putting the same sort of effort into your advert.

Untill you tell people what you want to do and what you like, your profile comes accross as a very negative one with what appears to be very little effort put into it. Therefore it's little wonder that you don't get much interest from people.

Are you putting the same amount of effort into your mails to people as you are putting into your profile? If so, I can't say I am suprised in the lack of interest.

This advice is offered with the best of wishes and wether you would meet me or not, I wouldn't mail you as there is not enough info for me to make an informed decision.......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"a long list of demands offering nothing in return...

We wouldnt contact you...as i have said before swinging is about a great shag not a quick shag

Ohhhh well forgive me for being a size 12 and a housewife

Your profile will appeal to other people who want to talk about gym membership and salaries...but as this is a swinging site i tend to find that some mention of hat we offer sexually tens to work...

Bloody hell sometimes i am amazed anyone

fits our standards at all

Haha. What is a trophy wife swapper?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In all honesty it's not so much to do with the fact that you're in neat shape and have a good job that gets you meets in this lifestyle. It's the people that don't have their heads firmly wedged up their backsides and those are more concerned with the friendships that can be formed that get the meets. Especially when you are talking couple to couple. No-one wants to feel like they are being judged and to be frank, it sounds like you do alot of that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Buggering hell jem, I wish you'd said something sooner.... I love adele! lol xx

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By *mf4BxJCouple over a year ago

edinburgh

What is professional anyway?

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By *ot - CoupleCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

Drop the word professional, professional what?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Drop the word professional, professional what?"

Whilst I have (fairly plain) views on this, I disagree.

If this couple do not want to meet bricklayers, bin men or factory oppo's (to name three non profesional employees, not to limit or stigmatise any of them), they do not have to.

I would agree that they are daft to put this limit on the number of people they will meet for the silly reason that they don't have letters after their name or the amount of money they have in the bank, but they are perfectly entitled to do that.

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By *mf4BxJCouple over a year ago

edinburgh

But a bricklayer is more of a professional in bricklaying than I am...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is professional anyway?"

I always associate professional with prostitution. Otherwise what has your employment got to do with sex?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Drop the word professional, professional what?

Whilst I have (fairly plain) views on this, I disagree.

If this couple do not want to meet bricklayers, bin men or factory oppo's (to name three non profesional employees, not to limit or stigmatise any of them), they do not have to.

I would agree with that the word professional is stigmatised and some see it as a wall to high to jump over. It does put many off though and if you are not getting meets it could be a contributing factor.

To the OP well your profile comes across as being a little bit cold and it could be part of the problem. However if you are struggling it may well be in the sort of message you are sending out to people you like asking them if they are interested in you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But a bricklayer is more of a professional in bricklaying than I am..."

Of course they are (and more than me) but I would think it fairly reasonable to call a bricklayer a Trade or Craftsman than a profesional.......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi guys

Love this! Sounds OK to us, shame we are not free on Friday!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi guys

Love this! Sounds OK to us, shame we are not free on Friday!!!!"

Now you have a profile I would consider sending a mail for (humanah humanah!)

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By *mf4BxJCouple over a year ago

edinburgh

"But a bricklayer is more of a professional in bricklaying than I am...

Of course they are (and more than me) but I would think it fairly reasonable to call a bricklayer a Trade or Craftsman than a profesional......."

But many trades work for 4 years to get their qualifications. To me that shows more of a professional dedication than some other definitions of the word.

On the whole I think the word is a bit of a non entity. You could be a professional lap dancer, professional tradesman or a professional wanker. To me it just says someone that does what they do well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But a bricklayer is more of a professional in bricklaying than I am...

Of course they are (and more than me) but I would think it fairly reasonable to call a bricklayer a Trade or Craftsman than a profesional......."

According to the passport office, you need your photo signed by a professional, the list is of jobs that require a professional qualification ie doctor, nurse, teacher etc so unless you have a job that requires a professional qualification you should not call yourself professional. Running your own business does not require said qualifications

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But a bricklayer is more of a professional in bricklaying than I am...

Of course they are (and more than me) but I would think it fairly reasonable to call a bricklayer a Trade or Craftsman than a profesional.......

Strange you should say that after associating prostitution with being a professional. Also they can run their own company and still being a professional, Architects, lawyers, accountants, doctors often run their own business to name but a few.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But a bricklayer is more of a professional in bricklaying than I am...

Of course they are (and more than me) but I would think it fairly reasonable to call a bricklayer a Trade or Craftsman than a profesional.......

But many trades work for 4 years to get their qualifications. To me that shows more of a professional dedication than some other definitions of the word.

You are mixing up a professional with someone who has a profession as they are not always the same thing. Personally I would much rather be able to say I am proud of my work and what I achieve than try and label it.

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By *un_JuiceCouple over a year ago

Nr Chester

Not directed at the OP but all.

How can anyone be judged by their profession ? Is intelligence and ability to hold conversation, hygiene the hallmarks of a professional ?

With many would it not be fair to suggest status and ego be the main thing here ?

They're everything we try and avoid.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With many would it not be fair to suggest status and ego be the main thing here ?

"
Precicely, but you can't deny anyone the right to exercise those judgements, no mater how you feel about it as you are making similar judgements, it's just that your criteria are different and there are bound to be people around who don't agree with your criteria.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Though the 'What is a professional' thread are plenty on the forums.

Guess if you need to ask, then your not one. Bit like some people saying no text speak, no this or no that.

They don't want to meet someone who doesn't fit the 'criteria' Of course the people they meet could be fully paid up professionals, and still be arseholes and as cheap as much, but that why meets for a chat are arrange

Wonder if anyone has on their profile, the 'more common you are, the better for us'

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By *un_JuiceCouple over a year ago

Nr Chester

"With many would it not be fair to suggest status and ego be the main thing here ?

Precicely, but you can't deny anyone the right to exercise those judgements, no mater how you feel about it as you are making similar judgements, it's just that your criteria are different and there are bound to be people around who don't agree with your criteria."

True, maybe the junk genes amongst us that are not considered good blood ought to stick to yates bars and phoenix nights type clubs after all.

The class system and how people are judged by their indoctrination smells a bit pongy.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Lol erm....... No ty....

And remember we are not the ones short of meets, and our standards are very high, no feckwits, racists,bigots,ppl up there own arse, marrieds playing away,trophy wife swappers, homophobes, Daily Mail readers, men with vwe in their name, slut shamers, people unable to hold an intelligent conversation,adele fans and those who take swinging seriously.

Bloody hell sometimes i am amazed anyone fits our standards at all

I wasn't going to say anything

We are available for a select few...do you want to go on the waiting list,

With all due respect......The thread was not started saying 'who wants to meet us' (unless I should read something between the lines).

I don't think sniping backwards and forwards is helping you very much realy.

Are you putting the same amount of effort into your mails to people as you are putting into your profile? If so, I can't say I am suprised in the lack of interest.

This advice is offered with the best of wishes and wether you would meet me or not, I wouldn't mail you as there is not enough info for me to make an informed decision......."

Thanks georgy but it seems the OP has taken against me for reasons best known to themeselves...i think it might be the fact we get meets

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

Buggering hell jem, I wish you'd said something sooner.... I love adele! lol xx"

for you we will drop our standards

(btw kev likes adele too lol)

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By *edangel_2013Woman over a year ago

southend

I'd rather meet a bin man than Patrick Bateman.

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By *ovedupstillCouple over a year ago

mullinwire

"In all honesty it's not so much to do with the fact that you're in neat shape and have a good job that gets you meets in this lifestyle. It's the people that don't have their heads firmly wedged up their backsides and those are more concerned with the friendships that can be formed that get the meets. Especially when you are talking couple to couple. No-one wants to feel like they are being judged and to be frank, it sounds like you do alot of that.

indeed.

we wouldnt even consider meeting (not that you would mee tus anyway as we arent 'society; perfect.

i'm going bald and can do without someone looking down on me lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

i'm going bald and can do without someone looking down on me lol"

No licking for the ladies then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not directed at the OP but all.

How can anyone be judged by their profession ? Is intelligence and ability to hold conversation, hygiene the hallmarks of a professional ?

With many would it not be fair to suggest status and ego be the main thing here ?

They're everything we try and avoid."

People judge on all sorts of factors from sexuality, race, etiquette to profession often with disastrous results. The word professional angers some and doesn't others as they see it differently. People who are shall we say lower working class aren't necessarily slovenly dirty scum bags, far from it. They do not like the word professional as it makes them feel inferior in many cases. People who use the word are not really looking for people with a high intersect they are looking fro well presented well dressed people with sophistication and the where with all to fund a swinging life style that includes hotel and travel costs. Its a shame the word is seen so negatively but like the word gay it is used out of its original context.

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By *ovedupstillCouple over a year ago

mullinwire

i'm going bald and can do without someone looking down on me lol

No licking for the ladies then."

i generally HOPE they are looking up to the heavens in that instance lol

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Not directed at the OP but all.

How can anyone be judged by their profession ? Is intelligence and ability to hold conversation, hygiene the hallmarks of a professional ?

With many would it not be fair to suggest status and ego be the main thing here ?

They're everything we try and avoid.

We are as middle class as they come and dislike the word, tbh i tend to see it as the sort of word aspiring working class daily express readers would use.Yes judgmental, but ppl who are secure in who they are and what they do rarely need to bang on about it.

Coming from the area i do i am likely to be talking to surgeon,lady(i do mean the titled sort) farmer,bricklayer, minor celeb,shop assistant or unemployed person going about my day to day life. i accept we have some things in common and others we are worlds apart on, it is clear when someone messages us if their the sort we would get along with, regardless of job or income.

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By *ovedupstillCouple over a year ago

mullinwire

must admit, we met a couple recently that i thought was well out of our 'social'' aspect, but they want to meet again, so what is class when it comes to being sociable and nice?

have found, and its not specific, but the higher up the social ladder you get, the harder it is to differenciate between someones arse and head.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not directed at the OP but all.

How can anyone be judged by their profession ? Is intelligence and ability to hold conversation, hygiene the hallmarks of a professional ?

With many would it not be fair to suggest status and ego be the main thing here ?

They're everything we try and avoid.

I fail to see why you feel the need to impress to people that you perceive yourself as middle class, its not about you I was commenting on the word professional being taken out of context and not commenting on your aspirations.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"must admit, we met a couple recently that i thought was well out of our 'social'' aspect, but they want to meet again, so what is class when it comes to being sociable and nice?

have found, and its not specific, but the higher up the social ladder you get, the harder it is to differenciate between someones arse and head."

You are probably right as academic and work related success can inflate someone ego. Saying that I have found equally as big ego's with people who have achieved little in life but then is triggered by lack of success. People in the main can be very strange at times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"must admit, we met a couple recently that i thought was well out of our 'social'' aspect, but they want to meet again, so what is class when it comes to being sociable and nice?

have found, and its not specific, but the higher up the social ladder you get, the harder it is to differenciate between someones arse and head.

I found Billy Connollies line to be very true, in factm that if you got a group of working class people, a group of middle class people and a group of upper class people (his definition was welders, accountants and aristocrats as I recall) together in a pub the Upper and the Working class people would get on like a house on fire and the Middle would be sat at their tables scowling at the workers and wondering why the aristo's were talking to worthy people like them.

I worked in a hotel in the Channel Islands for a summer season and the umpeenth lord of where ever it was was a cracking chap, loved to entertain and, on my occasional day off, we would sit and listen to the cricket together while he bought all the ale......bloody good bloke......

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By *mf4BxJCouple over a year ago

edinburgh

"must admit, we met a couple recently that i thought was well out of our 'social'' aspect, but they want to meet again, so what is class when it comes to being sociable and nice?

have found, and its not specific, but the higher up the social ladder you get, the harder it is to differenciate between someones arse and head.

As Billy so elequontly put it, it's the V neck pull over brigade in the middle that fuck the class system up!

I love that sketch. Middle class man talking about how much he'd make if he sold his house, asks the working class man what he would get and he replies 'about 10 years'.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"must admit, we met a couple recently that i thought was well out of our 'social'' aspect, but they want to meet again, so what is class when it comes to being sociable and nice?

have found, and its not specific, but the higher up the social ladder you get, the harder it is to differenciate between someones arse and head.

I think you will find its the person in the main not the perceived class that counts. Often its the people though who are trying to be more end up being less. I have met some fantastic people from both ends but have to agree with Billy over the pub situation. I just think too much is being made of a word that really dose not mean "no scruffy unkept unsanitary herberts" that some obviously think it does mean.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I don’t seem to have a shortage of fit couples with a more than good standard of living (some are even professionals) who like meeting me…. yet the only time I go to the gym is to get change for the chocolate machine.

What is attractive to the OP may not be what is attractive to other people who look and live like the OP. Whilst fit people will never go short of a shag, when adults with a bit of sagacity about them look to spend a whole evening together with other people, in my experience, they tend to look for people with compatible cerebral/emotional maturity and a bit of depth.

Also from personal experience…. most people who have to tell others they have class or a great sense of humour rather than show it, tend not to.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Not directed at the OP but all.

How can anyone be judged by their profession ? Is intelligence and ability to hold conversation, hygiene the hallmarks of a professional ?

With many would it not be fair to suggest status and ego be the main thing here ?

They're everything we try and avoid.

Because you suggested ppl who were working class disliked the word professional , i was merely offering evidence that that was not necessarily true

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By *mf4BxJCouple over a year ago

edinburgh

I suppose it boils down to, to me, anyone that puts percieved professional status and fitness above any other preference then that indicates, to me, they're a bit obsessed with both factors. And that makes for a boring night.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suppose it boils down to, to me, anyone that puts percieved professional status and fitness above any other preference then that indicates, to me, they're a bit obsessed with both factors. And that makes for a boring night."

I would agree that they are a little obsessed but having watched some of the women drool over some men with toned bodies the fitness seems very popular with some as stamina and energy are welcomed. They could still be boring though but sexually satisfying.

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By *mf4BxJCouple over a year ago

edinburgh

Not knocking someone for keeping fit and taking care of themselves, but can't click with people when it's all they've got!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not knocking someone for keeping fit and taking care of themselves, but can't click with people when it's all they've got!"

God forbid I really dont see how anyone could but I do smile at the way some of the women openly lust after a fit bodied guy on the forums then say the opposite.

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Fair point, was certainly not looking down at people at all, just our preferences x

"Step 1 – put in the leg work… you have to go looking before you will find.

Step 3 – be prepared to beg a little. If you are looking for people who think they are better than most and ‘special’, then they will want to be made to feel that way.

Hope this helps."

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

The only time i'd look down on you is if i were taller, i don't look down on anyone, who am i to judge, i just know what i want and will try my best to get it lol
"In all honesty it's not so much to do with the fact that you're in neat shape and have a good job that gets you meets in this lifestyle. It's the people that don't have their heads firmly wedged up their backsides and those are more concerned with the friendships that can be formed that get the meets. Especially when you are talking couple to couple. No-one wants to feel like they are being judged and to be frank, it sounds like you do alot of that.

indeed.

we wouldnt even consider meeting (not that you would mee tus anyway as we arent 'society; perfect.

i'm going bald and can do without someone looking down on me lol"

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

yep! lol

"Hi guys

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

You couldn't me more wrong, or arrogent for that matter

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

lol well put, how do you know i am not a brick layer though! a very professional brick layer for that matter! lol
"Drop the word professional, professional what?

Whilst I have (fairly plain) views on this, I disagree.

If this couple do not want to meet bricklayers, bin men or factory oppo's (to name three non profesional employees, not to limit or stigmatise any of them), they do not have to.

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Cheers guys, it is a shame xxx
"Hi guys

Love this! Sounds OK to us, shame we are not free on Friday!!!!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wonder if anyone has on their profile, the 'more common you are, the better for us'

*runs off to update profile*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi guys

We think one mistake you've made is the already many times mentioned "professional", the P word.

To some, this can raise the hackles as much as the C word.

Also, to many, feeling the need to say you have a "good standard of living" can seem boastful and give the impression that your more interested in peoples material wealth than the people themselves.

Lastly, advertising for "fit good looking couples" is a bit ambiguous in as much as not that many people like to describe themselves as such.

They much prefer that decision to be made by the people viewing their profile, even those who are conventionally good looking would probably be too modest to say "I'll apply for that".

Let your pictures do the talking, you often find that like attracts like anyway.

Just our humble opinion.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You couldn't me more wrong, or arrogent for that matter

Pleased to hear it. And I have been known to be wrong about people before. I was basing my comment on your post alone and do not know you so of course I could be wrong. But your post did come across that way. The thing that got me was your use of the word standards, it seemed to me that you would consider someone meeting someone like myself to lack standards and while us more natural ladies may not attend the gym everyday I don't believe people lower their standards to meet us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont lower your standards. We have on the odd occasion and we've always regretted it............you learn the hard way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol well put, how do you know i am not a brick layer though! a very professional brick layer for that matter"

Nothing except that I have yet to meet a brick layer who would call themself a bricklayer.

I consider myself a (self educated) intelectual, but I wouldn't dream of saying so on my cockprofile for fear of looking like a cock. I just behave naturally (and let others dicide im a cock!

) but then im gettin meets at the moment so it works for me.

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

lmao fantastic, good point lol x

"I'd rather meet a bin man than Patrick Bateman. "

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By *bbandflowCouple over a year ago

South Devon

"You couldn't me more wrong, or arrogent for that matter

"
Take it you're not a professional proof reader..spelling not up to standard..lol

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Ok, here goes have taken everybodys (or most)peoples advice on board and think this is how our profile should now read.

"Distinctly average couple,(don't seem to scare the birds) not too small and not too tall, we find each other funny and sometimes have clever moments. Good at our jobs but never professional, go to the gym when we can be arsed but not run too fast or lift weights too heavy. Can't hold a tune, can't dance for toffee. But like good company, do not in any way take ourselves too seriously and think life is for the enjoying...sometimes read the daily mail though. Don't watch Jeremy Kyle or call going for a macdonalds tea, just a preference nothing against jeremy.Also hate the phrase "at the end of the day". Happy swinging all, much love xxxx

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple over a year ago

North Cornwall

Everyone judges others as to whether or not they are likely to feel comfortable with them. No matter whether the subject is shap, size, interlect or bank balance etc. The common denominator is always that people who don't fit the criteria feel judged or rejected. human nature I guess but someones preferences are no reason to get arsey IMHO. Each to their own. Everyone has standards they just differ in height and subject matter.

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By *bbandflowCouple over a year ago

South Devon

"Ok, here goes have taken everybodys (or most)peoples advice on board and think this is how our profile should now read.

"
..that's the cutest post/modern/ironic profile I've yet to see..shed loads in the inbox no probs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is there such a thing as the swinging elite? We've found a few couples who certainly think they fit in that category!!!! Maybe people are just a bit too picky and then miss out on a bloody good time! Xxx

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Lol put it this way.... The party's full (and there all fit professionals....!) ((joke!) ffs xxx ty xxx
"Ok, here goes have taken everybodys (or most)peoples advice on board and think this is how our profile should now read.

..that's the cutest post/modern/ironic profile I've yet to see..shed loads in the inbox no probs."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great thread guys nice one

Made me laugh.

Carry on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pmsl at this thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

just 1 question who the fuck is patrick bateman?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

your profile is very short, try a little more on there.

and good luck, its not easy

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By *ollie_JCouple over a year ago

London

"just 1 question who the fuck is patrick bateman?"

American Pyscho

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Funny how , as soon as the word "professional" is mentioned, the inverted snobs appear en masse.

It's almost as if they are sat at their PCs awaiting it's arrival...

"Him".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Funny how , as soon as the word "professional" is mentioned, the inverted snobs appear en masse.

It's almost as if they are sat at their PCs awaiting it's arrival...

"Him"."

A snob is someone who believes that some people are inherently inferior to him or her for any one of a variety of reasons ( thanks wiki)

So how can one be an inverted snob?? unless you believe that people are inherently superior to yourself.

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By *ovedupstillCouple over a year ago

mullinwire

"Funny how , as soon as the word "professional" is mentioned, the inverted snobs appear en masse.

It's almost as if they are sat at their PCs awaiting it's arrival...

"Him"."

not neccesarily.

i am a professional (driver) as i have had to undertake extra training to do my work, but i wouldnt put it on a profile cuz it is meaningless to who i am or what i look for in someone else.

we have met people that have better jobs than us, more money, better standard of living, and yet, when naked are absolutely no different from us what so ever. so why does it really need to be on a swinging profile??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Funny how , as soon as the word "professional" is mentioned, the inverted snobs appear en masse.

It's almost as if they are sat at their PCs awaiting it's arrival...

"Him".

not neccesarily.

i am a professional (driver) as i have had to undertake extra training to do my work, but i wouldnt put it on a profile cuz it is meaningless to who i am or what i look for in someone else.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

It really does depend on the context doesn't it.

I can't see the problem with the 'p' word being used if it to give a very broad sweeping generalised idea of a preference....no one would be jumping up and down if a profile said "down to earth working class folk looking for the same". In fact people who bitch about the 'p' word when it is clearly being used in this context look like the grapes they bought where a little off.

Sometimes it is not used in this context and there is a nasty undertaone of "I'm better than you".

However, it does seem to have become a buzz word and every Tom, Dick and carpet fitter seems to refer to themselves as 'professional'.... and that bugs me a tad. It's like the desire for everyone and anyone who joins the site to call themselves a 'swinger' just because they are here. It's how words lose their meaning and that has the potential to fuck up clear communication.

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By *ovedupstillCouple over a year ago

mullinwire

since the dawn of time words have been there to be used in the context they are wanted, not neccesarily in what they were originally meant for.

hence why there is sch ambiguity in religious readings and scripture.

if the laws of the land were specific then fine, thats how its taken, but languae leaves so many grey areas its almost easy to misunderstand and misrepresent

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Funny how , as soon as the word "professional" is mentioned, the inverted snobs appear en masse.

It's almost as if they are sat at their PCs awaiting it's arrival...

"Him".

not neccesarily.

i am a professional (driver) as i have had to undertake extra training to do my work, but i wouldnt put it on a profile cuz it is meaningless to who i am or what i look for in someone else.

Profiles are - as often said - shop windows, a chance to show who people are & their preferences. If you see something on a profile that you don't like or appreciate, then , surely, you just move on until you find a profile you feel an afinity with.If you don't "get" a profile then they are not for you.Whatever people put on their profiles, as long as it's not offensive to an individual or group,is their own business.

We all come across profiles which don't & do appeal. Often we don't understand the point of something or it's context but the right people will. That's what matters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Funny how , as soon as the word "professional" is mentioned, the inverted snobs appear en masse.

It's almost as if they are sat at their PCs awaiting it's arrival...

"Him".

not neccesarily.

i am a professional (driver) as i have had to undertake extra training to do my work, but i wouldnt put it on a profile cuz it is meaningless to who i am or what i look for in someone else.

We all come across profiles which don't & do appeal. Often we don't understand the point of something or it's context but the right people will. That's what matters. "

I entirely agree with you. Wether you think people who use the words 'profesional' and 'good standard of living' are your sort of people or up their own arses, you have a couple of choices. You can mail them if you like them or move onto the next profile if you don't.

Everyone is free to describe themselves as they like, just aas we are free to think of them what we like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi guys

Yes."

Love it Polo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Though that should have been a wink

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

professional, physically fit couple Thats what puts alot off .... and some if not fit dont go to gym 3 or 4 times a week maybe worried as dont live up to what your looking for . xxx

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Forget this post.... Damn your so sexy!!! Xx seb xx

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Though that should have been a wink

I'd expect nothing less from you Lairdy pants..... nice to see you btw.

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

The forget the post your damn sexy was for you xxx
"professional, physically fit couple Thats what puts alot off .... and some if not fit dont go to gym 3 or 4 times a week maybe worried as dont live up to what your looking for . xxx"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The forget the post your damn sexy was for you xxxprofessional, physically fit couple Thats what puts alot off .... and some if not fit dont go to gym 3 or 4 times a week maybe worried as dont live up to what your looking for . xxx"
You both look sexy too xx so next time put wishing to meet nice sexy people and i bet your mail box be full xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"a long list of demands offering nothing in return...

We wouldnt contact you...as i have said before swinging is about a great shag not a quick shag

Ohhhh well forgive me for being a size 12 and a housewife

Your profile will appeal to other people who want to talk about gym membership and salaries...but as this is a swinging site i tend to find that some mention of hat we offer sexually tens to work...

Bloody hell sometimes i am amazed anyone

fits our standards at all

thats the best reply ever i liked it actually made me laugh out loud xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to say professional, gym fit, articulate, attractive all words that are very intimidating.

We have just received a wink off a couple with all there words and more in their profile and while on reflection we consider ourselves to tick most if not all these boxes we will not reply as we are already put off by their exacting list of standards.

My advice to you would be to re write you're profile making it as friendly and inviting as possible.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I have to say professional, gym fit, articulate, attractive all words that are very intimidating.

My advice to you would be to re write you're profile making it as friendly and inviting as possible."

Agrees with the above

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By *r n mrs togetherCouple over a year ago

redruth

we arnt fit by no means lol but trying to get a meet on a friday nite for us as well is impossible

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok, here goes have taken everybodys (or most)peoples advice on board and think this is how our profile should now read.

I think you should change it to this, it made me chuckle

you guys look amazing and I hope you find what you are looking for xxx

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By *unfit2 OP Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

Thanks sue, that's a lovely thing to say, we hope we do too, best wishes x x x
"Ok, here goes have taken everybodys (or most)peoples advice on board and think this is how our profile should now read.

I think you should change it to this, it made me chuckle

you guys look amazing and I hope you find what you are looking for xxx"

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