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All the squabbling, insults and egos on these forums
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Is it just wide-spread sexual tension?  "
No, just different personalities rubbing against each other.
I generally find that these are nicer and kinder than most though, there are some lovely people knocking around if you can see past the judgement and gossiping. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It does kill the mood sometimes though, you forget you are on a sex site 
I prefer to not be in the mood when I plan meets. "
Interesting, why is that? |
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"It does kill the mood sometimes though, you forget you are on a sex site
I prefer to not be in the mood when I plan meets.
Interesting, why is that? "
To make sure I'm making decisions for the right reasons, I'm not overlooking risks, etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love the forums. Both reading and participating.
Also find them very useful for finding out more about people than you ever can from their profiles alone.
Some posts/comments would stop me from ever contacting the writer. However, on a more positive note I’ve got to know some really lovely people on the back of reading their forum contributions. I would probably have never come across their profiles otherwise.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"It does kill the mood sometimes though, you forget you are on a sex site "
And *that* is where people go wrong - they see "sex site" and think it somehow means people have to act differently and lose site of the fact that members are in fact just normal people who have normal lives and just like real life will have those they are drawn to and those that rub them up the wrong way or that they disagree with.
So for me, this place is no different from real life and I expect the petty squabbles and disagreements just as much as the flirting and sex talk - it's just normal behaviour  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It does kill the mood sometimes though, you forget you are on a sex site
I prefer to not be in the mood when I plan meets.
Interesting, why is that?
To make sure I'm making decisions for the right reasons, I'm not overlooking risks, etc. "
It’s like going food shopping hungry. A big no no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It does kill the mood sometimes though, you forget you are on a sex site
And *that* is where people go wrong - they see "sex site" and think it somehow means people have to act differently and lose site of the fact that members are in fact just normal people who have normal lives and just like real life will have those they are drawn to and those that rub them up the wrong way or that they disagree with.
So for me, this place is no different from real life and I expect the petty squabbles and disagreements just as much as the flirting and sex talk - it's just normal behaviour "
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"It does kill the mood sometimes though, you forget you are on a sex site "
Firstly, this is not a sex site.
Secondly, there are other aspects to the site than just the forum. No one is forcing you to join in or read the posts.
You know how the saying goes: When the fun stops, stop. |
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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago
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"Is it just wide-spread sexual tension? "
More like sexual frustration for some.
I don't take the forums to seriously, not the centre of my swinging experience
But it's the internet, it always gives room for faceless people to insult others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah, sometimes it's people silly being cunts.
Sometimes it's people on the lookout for someone to wind up.
Sometimes I may bite harder than normal if I'm due on.
Sometimes some people may be sexually frustrated.
Mostly, it's people with differing opinions, not being afraid to speak them.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It does kill the mood sometimes though, you forget you are on a sex site
Firstly, this is not a sex site.
Secondly, there are other aspects to the site than just the forum. No one is forcing you to join in or read the posts.
You know how the saying goes: When the fun stops, stop. "
Sorry my mistake, just so many bums, tits, genitals and copulation pictures on here I mistook it for a sex site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It does kill the mood sometimes though, you forget you are on a sex site
Firstly, this is not a sex site.
Secondly, there are other aspects to the site than just the forum. No one is forcing you to join in or read the posts.
You know how the saying goes: When the fun stops, stop.
Sorry my mistake, just so many bums, tits, genitals and copulation pictures on here I mistook it for a sex site "
Swingers site my lovely. Swingers site |
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"It does kill the mood sometimes though, you forget you are on a sex site
Firstly, this is not a sex site.
Secondly, there are other aspects to the site than just the forum. No one is forcing you to join in or read the posts.
You know how the saying goes: When the fun stops, stop.
Sorry my mistake, just so many bums, tits, genitals and copulation pictures on here I mistook it for a sex site
Swingers site my lovely. Swingers site "
The clue is in the name fab swingers.  |
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"It does kill the mood sometimes though, you forget you are on a sex site
I prefer to not be in the mood when I plan meets.
Interesting, why is that?
To make sure I'm making decisions for the right reasons, I'm not overlooking risks, etc.
It’s like going food shopping hungry. A big no no. "
This. I don't want to walk out with chocolate and stuff I'm allergic to. Vegetables are important occasionally  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It does kill the mood sometimes though, you forget you are on a sex site
Firstly, this is not a sex site.
Secondly, there are other aspects to the site than just the forum. No one is forcing you to join in or read the posts.
You know how the saying goes: When the fun stops, stop.
Sorry my mistake, just so many bums, tits, genitals and copulation pictures on here I mistook it for a sex site
Swingers site my lovely. Swingers site
The clue is in the name fab swingers. "
Quite. So what is the difference in a sex site v a swingers site? I take it the latter only involves bingo? |
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"It does kill the mood sometimes though, you forget you are on a sex site
Firstly, this is not a sex site.
Secondly, there are other aspects to the site than just the forum. No one is forcing you to join in or read the posts.
You know how the saying goes: When the fun stops, stop.
Sorry my mistake, just so many bums, tits, genitals and copulation pictures on here I mistook it for a sex site
Swingers site my lovely. Swingers site "
And what do swingers do, play dominos?
It's a sex site, in my opinion.
You can dress it up, or dress it down but the majority of people here are here for actual sex or to perve.
Only a minority of members use the forums.
Nothing wrong with dominos by the way...
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I'm not sure the distinction between sex site and swinging site is clear. The main "sex site" pushback seems to be, for me, "you expect respect and friendliness? This is a sex site!" If I had to live like that I'd leave, but fortunately (due to me being in demand or whatever else), I don't have to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure the distinction between sex site and swinging site is clear. The main "sex site" pushback seems to be, for me, "you expect respect and friendliness? This is a sex site!" If I had to live like that I'd leave, but fortunately (due to me being in demand or whatever else), I don't have to. "
I’m guessing that when the site first started it WAS for the swinging community but the lines have been blurred over time.
I agree wholeheartedly with you, self entitled people who think they can join and get instant sexual gratification are confusing it with any other sex site
We’re all on here for our reasons. As long as it works for the user that’s what matters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure the distinction between sex site and swinging site is clear. The main "sex site" pushback seems to be, for me, "you expect respect and friendliness? This is a sex site!" If I had to live like that I'd leave, but fortunately (due to me being in demand or whatever else), I don't have to.
I’m guessing that when the site first started it WAS for the swinging community but the lines have been blurred over time.
I agree wholeheartedly with you, self entitled people who think they can join and get instant sexual gratification are confusing it with any other sex site
We’re all on here for our reasons. As long as it works for the user that’s what matters."
Absolutely agree. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure the distinction between sex site and swinging site is clear. The main "sex site" pushback seems to be, for me, "you expect respect and friendliness? This is a sex site!" If I had to live like that I'd leave, but fortunately (due to me being in demand or whatever else), I don't have to.
I’m guessing that when the site first started it WAS for the swinging community but the lines have been blurred over time.
I agree wholeheartedly with you, self entitled people who think they can join and get instant sexual gratification are confusing it with any other sex site
We’re all on here for our reasons. As long as it works for the user that’s what matters."
As a relative newbie I like the balance of swinging and instant single hookups up on here, I like the site Those of you who have been around for years on here and seen it slightly change from a pure focus on swinging may think differently though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't find it too bad on here. Keyboard warriors are much worse on FB and the like.
It's just the holier than thou judgemental attitudes on Fab that annoy. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Quite. So what is the difference in a sex site v a swingers site?"
To be honest it always makes me grin when people say "this is not a sex site" - after all what is the basic ingredient of swinging (the definition of which is a whole other discussion!!)? 
I rest my case |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Quite. So what is the difference in a sex site v a swingers site?
To be honest it always makes me grin when people say "this is not a sex site" - after all what is the basic ingredient of swinging (the definition of which is a whole other discussion!!)?
I rest my case "
This!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Quite. So what is the difference in a sex site v a swingers site?
To be honest it always makes me grin when people say "this is not a sex site" - after all what is the basic ingredient of swinging (the definition of which is a whole other discussion!!)?
I rest my case
This! "
For me, it’s when people say ‘after all, it’s just a sex site’ that bugs me. I go to lots of group social events and always have guys I talk to beforehand asking if I played. I get fed up with trying to explain it’s just a social gathering. They then respond with ‘well, it is a sex site, what do you expect’ Drives me mad with that attitude and I won’t meet guys that think like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure the distinction between sex site and swinging site is clear. The main "sex site" pushback seems to be, for me, "you expect respect and friendliness? This is a sex site!" If I had to live like that I'd leave, but fortunately (due to me being in demand or whatever else), I don't have to.
I’m guessing that when the site first started it WAS for the swinging community but the lines have been blurred over time.
I agree wholeheartedly with you, self entitled people who think they can join and get instant sexual gratification are confusing it with any other sex site
We’re all on here for our reasons. As long as it works for the user that’s what matters.
As a relative newbie I like the balance of swinging and instant single hookups up on here, I like the site Those of you who have been around for years on here and seen it slightly change from a pure focus on swinging may think differently though. "
Tbh we’ve only been in the site a couple of years. Was just thinking out loud about the reasoning.
I’m very much of the mindset that people use the site how they see fit as long as they treat others well.
It’s when you politely turn someone down and they come back with “why are you on a sex site the?” that it jars a bit. |
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Agreed with the above.
Do as you like on the site. But if you swing your proverbial fist, it needs to stop before my nose.
"it's a sex site, therefore I will..." fine.
"it's a sex site, therefore you must..." no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure the distinction between sex site and swinging site is clear. The main "sex site" pushback seems to be, for me, "you expect respect and friendliness? This is a sex site!" If I had to live like that I'd leave, but fortunately (due to me being in demand or whatever else), I don't have to.
I’m guessing that when the site first started it WAS for the swinging community but the lines have been blurred over time.
I agree wholeheartedly with you, self entitled people who think they can join and get instant sexual gratification are confusing it with any other sex site
We’re all on here for our reasons. As long as it works for the user that’s what matters.
As a relative newbie I like the balance of swinging and instant single hookups up on here, I like the site Those of you who have been around for years on here and seen it slightly change from a pure focus on swinging may think differently though.
Tbh we’ve only been in the site a couple of years. Was just thinking out loud about the reasoning.
I’m very much of the mindset that people use the site how they see fit as long as they treat others well.
It’s when you politely turn someone down and they come back with “why are you on a sex site the?” that it jars a bit."
I get that. I see this as a lifestyle I want to share with someone special. Many people wouldn’t want to share their partner and only use this as a quick fix. As long as we all respect each other that’s all that counts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not sure the distinction between sex site and swinging site is clear. The main "sex site" pushback seems to be, for me, "you expect respect and friendliness? This is a sex site!" If I had to live like that I'd leave, but fortunately (due to me being in demand or whatever else), I don't have to.
I’m guessing that when the site first started it WAS for the swinging community but the lines have been blurred over time.
I agree wholeheartedly with you, self entitled people who think they can join and get instant sexual gratification are confusing it with any other sex site
We’re all on here for our reasons. As long as it works for the user that’s what matters.
As a relative newbie I like the balance of swinging and instant single hookups up on here, I like the site Those of you who have been around for years on here and seen it slightly change from a pure focus on swinging may think differently though.
Tbh we’ve only been in the site a couple of years. Was just thinking out loud about the reasoning.
I’m very much of the mindset that people use the site how they see fit as long as they treat others well.
It’s when you politely turn someone down and they come back with “why are you on a sex site the?” that it jars a bit.
I get that. I see this as a lifestyle I want to share with someone special. Many people wouldn’t want to share their partner and only use this as a quick fix. As long as we all respect each other that’s all that counts. "
Exactly. It doesn’t work for everyone but if it suits then it’s wonderful.
And you can get to know some really interesting people that you would never have met in vanilla life x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Agreed with the above.
Do as you like on the site. But if you swing your proverbial fist, it needs to stop before my nose.
"it's a sex site, therefore I will..." fine.
"it's a sex site, therefore you must..." no. "
Perfectly explained |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm not sure the distinction between sex site and swinging site is clear. The main "sex site" pushback seems to be, for me, "you expect respect and friendliness? This is a sex site!" If I had to live like that I'd leave, but fortunately (due to me being in demand or whatever else), I don't have to.
I’m guessing that when the site first started it WAS for the swinging community but the lines have been blurred over time.
I agree wholeheartedly with you, self entitled people who think they can join and get instant sexual gratification are confusing it with any other sex site
We’re all on here for our reasons. As long as it works for the user that’s what matters.
As a relative newbie I like the balance of swinging and instant single hookups up on here, I like the site Those of you who have been around for years on here and seen it slightly change from a pure focus on swinging may think differently though.
Tbh we’ve only been in the site a couple of years. Was just thinking out loud about the reasoning.
I’m very much of the mindset that people use the site how they see fit as long as they treat others well.
It’s when you politely turn someone down and they come back with “why are you on a sex site the?” that it jars a bit.
I get that. I see this as a lifestyle I want to share with someone special. Many people wouldn’t want to share their partner and only use this as a quick fix. As long as we all respect each other that’s all that counts.
Exactly. It doesn’t work for everyone but if it suits then it’s wonderful.
And you can get to know some really interesting people that you would never have met in vanilla life x"
I have found it fascinating on here if I am honest, opened me up to a whole new world. It is great to see sexually liberated and adventurous people, especially straight couples. Great site and many interesting characters |
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"I'm not sure the distinction between sex site and swinging site is clear. The main "sex site" pushback seems to be, for me, "you expect respect and friendliness? This is a sex site!" If I had to live like that I'd leave, but fortunately (due to me being in demand or whatever else), I don't have to.
I’m guessing that when the site first started it WAS for the swinging community but the lines have been blurred over time.
I agree wholeheartedly with you, self entitled people who think they can join and get instant sexual gratification are confusing it with any other sex site
We’re all on here for our reasons. As long as it works for the user that’s what matters.
As a relative newbie I like the balance of swinging and instant single hookups up on here, I like the site Those of you who have been around for years on here and seen it slightly change from a pure focus on swinging may think differently though.
Tbh we’ve only been in the site a couple of years. Was just thinking out loud about the reasoning.
I’m very much of the mindset that people use the site how they see fit as long as they treat others well.
It’s when you politely turn someone down and they come back with “why are you on a sex site the?” that it jars a bit.
I get that. I see this as a lifestyle I want to share with someone special. Many people wouldn’t want to share their partner and only use this as a quick fix. As long as we all respect each other that’s all that counts.
Exactly. It doesn’t work for everyone but if it suits then it’s wonderful.
And you can get to know some really interesting people that you would never have met in vanilla life x
I have found it fascinating on here if I am honest, opened me up to a whole new world. It is great to see sexually liberated and adventurous people, especially straight couples. Great site and many interesting characters "
Same for us OP! And I love all the twists and turns that a single thread can take |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
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Quite. So what is the difference in a sex site v a swingers site?
To be honest it always makes me grin when people say "this is not a sex site" - after all what is the basic ingredient of swinging (the definition of which is a whole other discussion!!)?
I rest my case
This!
For me, it’s when people say ‘after all, it’s just a sex site’ that bugs me. I go to lots of group social events and always have guys I talk to beforehand asking if I played. I get fed up with trying to explain it’s just a social gathering. They then respond with ‘well, it is a sex site, what do you expect’ Drives me mad with that attitude and I won’t meet guys that think like that. "
Oh I agree totally that there is more to it than my somewhat simplistic justification and InASwingDress explained it perfectly later - my amusement is more at the purists that try and delineate swinging site from sex site by proclaiming "this is not a sex site" whenever anyone says it is, despite sex being the underlying purpose of swinging.
Kind of the opposite extreme of the definition argument to the one you're referring to |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Quite. So what is the difference in a sex site v a swingers site?
To be honest it always makes me grin when people say "this is not a sex site" - after all what is the basic ingredient of swinging (the definition of which is a whole other discussion!!)?
I rest my case
This!
For me, it’s when people say ‘after all, it’s just a sex site’ that bugs me. I go to lots of group social events and always have guys I talk to beforehand asking if I played. I get fed up with trying to explain it’s just a social gathering. They then respond with ‘well, it is a sex site, what do you expect’ Drives me mad with that attitude and I won’t meet guys that think like that.
Oh I agree totally that there is more to it than my somewhat simplistic justification and InASwingDress explained it perfectly later - my amusement is more at the purists that try and delineate swinging site from sex site by proclaiming "this is not a sex site" whenever anyone says it is, despite sex being the underlying purpose of swinging.
Kind of the opposite extreme of the definition argument to the one you're referring to "
At least my status about it has stopped the type of fuck boys I don’t want, messaging me. For now!! Ha |
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Quite. So what is the difference in a sex site v a swingers site?
To be honest it always makes me grin when people say "this is not a sex site" - after all what is the basic ingredient of swinging (the definition of which is a whole other discussion!!)?
I rest my case
This!
For me, it’s when people say ‘after all, it’s just a sex site’ that bugs me. I go to lots of group social events and always have guys I talk to beforehand asking if I played. I get fed up with trying to explain it’s just a social gathering. They then respond with ‘well, it is a sex site, what do you expect’ Drives me mad with that attitude and I won’t meet guys that think like that. "
I think it's the fact that most who use the phrase 'sex site' mean free prostitutes. Dial a shag.
Which is fine for people who want that.
But I think the type who throw in the 'sex site' comment as in your example don't give a shit what the other person wants. 'They want sex so spread them or you're a time waster'. And off home they go for a lonely wank. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Quite. So what is the difference in a sex site v a swingers site?
To be honest it always makes me grin when people say "this is not a sex site" - after all what is the basic ingredient of swinging (the definition of which is a whole other discussion!!)?
I rest my case
This!
For me, it’s when people say ‘after all, it’s just a sex site’ that bugs me. I go to lots of group social events and always have guys I talk to beforehand asking if I played. I get fed up with trying to explain it’s just a social gathering. They then respond with ‘well, it is a sex site, what do you expect’ Drives me mad with that attitude and I won’t meet guys that think like that.
Oh I agree totally that there is more to it than my somewhat simplistic justification and InASwingDress explained it perfectly later - my amusement is more at the purists that try and delineate swinging site from sex site by proclaiming "this is not a sex site" whenever anyone says it is, despite sex being the underlying purpose of swinging.
Kind of the opposite extreme of the definition argument to the one you're referring to
At least my status about it has stopped the type of fuck boys I don’t want, messaging me. For now!! Ha"
Bet it doesn’t! You’ll still get someone who’ll message to try and convince you otherwise! 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sex site or swingers site, surely splitting hairs.
It's basically want you want it to be, as long as continues to fun. "
Absolutely. Long may it last.
Or they last (in a perfect world!) 
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By (user no longer on site)
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Quite. So what is the difference in a sex site v a swingers site?
To be honest it always makes me grin when people say "this is not a sex site" - after all what is the basic ingredient of swinging (the definition of which is a whole other discussion!!)?
I rest my case
This!
For me, it’s when people say ‘after all, it’s just a sex site’ that bugs me. I go to lots of group social events and always have guys I talk to beforehand asking if I played. I get fed up with trying to explain it’s just a social gathering. They then respond with ‘well, it is a sex site, what do you expect’ Drives me mad with that attitude and I won’t meet guys that think like that.
I think it's the fact that most who use the phrase 'sex site' mean free prostitutes. Dial a shag.
Which is fine for people who want that.
But I think the type who throw in the 'sex site' comment as in your example don't give a shit what the other person wants. 'They want sex so spread them or you're a time waster'. And off home they go for a lonely wank. "
Or to their partner that they didn’t mention. |
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"Sex site or swingers site, surely splitting hairs.
It's basically want you want it to be, as long as continues to fun.
Absolutely. Long may it last.
Or they last (in a perfect world!)
V x"
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