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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just wondering what the ratio is here? How many of ya'll do the
Cuckold thing: let your wife go away to get fucked or let her lover humiliate you.
Stag thing: non humiliation, sex in front of you or as a threesome. |
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"Whats FLR??"
Female Led Relationship. Male has high pressure exec job, so happy to had over Fab life to the female to take the lead. More details on her single profile;
https://m.fabswingers.com/profile/curiousvixen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whats FLR??
Female Led Relationship. Male has high pressure exec job, so happy to had over Fab life to the female to take the lead. More details on her single profile;
https://m.fabswingers.com/profile/curiousvixen"
Ooh we need that as a search criteria. I lurve FLR couples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondering what the ratio is here? How many of ya'll do the
Cuckold thing: let your wife go away to get fucked or let her lover humiliate you.
Stag thing: non humiliation, sex in front of you or as a threesome. "
We do it where the boyfriend arranged everything but isn’t allowed to be at the meet itself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd love to explore being a cuckold but I don't think many (most?) women would be keen to be involved with men who were submissive to them in a relationship.
Seems to unnerve them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd love to explore being a cuckold but I don't think many (most?) women would be keen to be involved with men who were submissive to them in a relationship.
Seems to unnerve them."
Depends how you approach them |
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I predominately set up meets, play etc
We love 3sums both ways, as we both love watching the other one fucking someone else.
I always have to finish off with hubby though, it’s just feels like amazing having him give me a final intense orgasm. Then I’m tingling all the way home excited about the reclaim sex we’ll have when we get it cx |
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"Just wondering what the ratio is here? How many of ya'll do the
Cuckold thing: let your wife go away to get fucked or let her lover humiliate you.
Stag thing: non humiliation, sex in front of you or as a threesome. "
Stag & Vixen couple … Mrs Sheer is a natural Hotwife  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like a big of both but it really depends on the other male and how much we trust him so we always start with Stag unless the other male doesn't know that Mr thexcouple knows. |
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The OP waaaaaay over simplifies things suggesting there’s only 2 dynamics and it’s that clear cut between the 2 of them.
If you want to get into specifics we identify best as a contemporary cuckolding couple with NO HUMILIATION. My husband is an Alpha Cuck.
To keep it simple I normally just say I’m a hotwife! |
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"I (dan) am too alpha male to be a cuck, but I adore other men worshipping kim.
She can be very dominant with other guys, so I’m not even sure what you’d call us to be honest "
Why are you too Alpha Male to be a Cuck?
You can be an Alpha Cuck you know. My husband is incredibly Alpha but loves to worship me, gets off on me getting off and likes to be submissive to me and me alone in the bedroom. Humiliation is abhorrent to both of us.
Have a google about Contemporary Cuckolding and Alpha Cucks and you might find you identify with it! 
People seem to think the weak minded can’t fuck their wives wet lettuce cucks portrayed in Porn are a real thing when it most cases the actual reality couldn’t be further from the truth! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondering what the ratio is here? How many of ya'll do the
Cuckold thing: let your wife go away to get fucked or let her lover humiliate you.
Stag thing: non humiliation, sex in front of you or as a threesome. "
Either for us. |
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I’d say both for us - if playing with a single guy can equally enjoy just sitting back and watching or joining in as a threesome; likewise I do enjoy being a cuck and having Mrs and bull humiliate me |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"I (dan) am too alpha male to be a cuck, but I adore other men worshipping kim.
She can be very dominant with other guys, so I’m not even sure what you’d call us to be honest
Why are you too Alpha Male to be a Cuck?
You can be an Alpha Cuck you know. My husband is incredibly Alpha but loves to worship me, gets off on me getting off and likes to be submissive to me and me alone in the bedroom. Humiliation is abhorrent to both of us.
Have a google about Contemporary Cuckolding and Alpha Cucks and you might find you identify with it!
People seem to think the weak minded can’t fuck their wives wet lettuce cucks portrayed in Porn are a real thing when it most cases the actual reality couldn’t be further from the truth! "
Exactly this...and the only way for a guy to find out what both partners enjoy is through chatting to them both and exploring what they both like with them.. |
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By *inyppMan
over a year ago
watertown |
Wife and I love our hot wife/ cuckold relationship. I really love the humiliation!! Took lots of discussion over many years before we tried it - and now we have two regular guys she sees and we could not be happier. Love watching her with them knowing she is being so totally satisfied!! Experience has brought out her dominant side too which I love. |
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"I (dan) am too alpha male to be a cuck, but I adore other men worshipping kim.
She can be very dominant with other guys, so I’m not even sure what you’d call us to be honest
Why are you too Alpha Male to be a Cuck?
You can be an Alpha Cuck you know. My husband is incredibly Alpha but loves to worship me, gets off on me getting off and likes to be submissive to me and me alone in the bedroom. Humiliation is abhorrent to both of us.
Have a google about Contemporary Cuckolding and Alpha Cucks and you might find you identify with it!
People seem to think the weak minded can’t fuck their wives wet lettuce cucks portrayed in Porn are a real thing when it most cases the actual reality couldn’t be further from the truth! "
I think this description fits us in some aspects, I have been the male in other couples role play and also enjoy being in the reverse but humiliation etc are a huge no no for either of us..
End of the day a lable is just that and some are too not broad enough to cover the different scenarios or role play that people enjoy.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The key part of the fantasy for me lies in knowing that P is enjoying watching and participating. Definitely not into the humiliation element at all - it’s him choosing to share that’s the turn on |
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"What's the difference in hotwife/hothusband Vs stag and vixen ? Just curious  "
The hot bit generally refers to humiliation and lording over somebody that you are shagging somebody's other half because they are not good enough.
Stag/vixen is much more positive. It celebrates seeing your other half and another person having pleasure together. It has been described as like an out-of-body experience for somebody seeing their other half doing to somebody else what they have experienced themselves. |
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Certainly don’t do the humiliation thing but have to put ‘cuckold’ as an interest as there is no ‘hotwife’ option. That being said he likes to watch her and has enjoyed listening and would like to explore that boundary with the right person but defo not into humiliation.
He prides himself on being able to have her anytime, any place and anywhere therefore enjoys her playing too. |
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"What's the difference in hotwife/hothusband Vs stag and vixen ? Just curious
The hot bit generally refers to humiliation and lording over somebody that you are shagging somebody's other half because they are not good enough.
Stag/vixen is much more positive. It celebrates seeing your other half and another person having pleasure together. It has been described as like an out-of-body experience for somebody seeing their other half doing to somebody else what they have experienced themselves."
That’s really not an accurate definition of a hot wife. And you’ll offend an awful lot of hotwives on here suggesting that.
Stag & Vixen - Normally Male led. Think of a proud stag. The Male will often be the one to seek out other guys to join them for a MFM. Very positive.
Hot wifing - a guy who thinks his wife is hot and wants to share her but doesn’t necessarily want to partake in other partners himself. The most broad of all the labels. Hot wives are rarely interested in a longer term relationship with their fuck buddies.
Traditional cuckolding - the Cuck likes to watch. May involve humiliation such as clean up duties.
Contemporary cuckolding - no humiliation. Very positive. Often something that attracts “Alpha Cucks”. The cuckoldstress is in control. May watch or let her meet alone. The Cuck is more than capable of satisfying his Cuckoldstress but they like the added bonus of her experiencing other partners. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stag & Vixen - Normally Male led. Think of a proud stag. The Male will often be the one to seek out other guys to join them for a MFM. Very positive.
Hot wifing - a guy who thinks his wife is hot and wants to share her but doesn’t necessarily want to partake in other partners himself. The most broad of all the labels. Hot wives are rarely interested in a longer term relationship with their fuck buddies.
Traditional cuckolding - the Cuck likes to watch. May involve humiliation such as clean up duties.
Contemporary cuckolding - no humiliation. Very positive. Often something that attracts “Alpha Cucks”. The cuckoldstress is in control. May watch or let her meet alone. The Cuck is more than capable of satisfying his Cuckoldstress but they like the added bonus of her experiencing other partners. "
in a nutshell this 
i/we would class ourselve's more traditional but its that thing as in everything in life weare al;l different and all want different so we modify thing to suit us.
i do think there;s a bit of a stigma towards trad cuckold as we know quite a few couples who would not dare to admit they like the humilation side of things due to being judged but balls to em we will do what makes us feel good as should everyone else no matter what or who you are.
not my fault my hubs has a useless dick that only looks good in knickers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Have enjoyed a few cuckold meets that don't fit any definition perfectly. But the more traditional aspects have always played a large part each time.
This began as ticking off a box rather than lacking satisfaction, but found the experience worth repeating every so often. |
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By *inyppMan
over a year ago
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"Stag & Vixen - Normally Male led. Think of a proud stag. The Male will often be the one to seek out other guys to join them for a MFM. Very positive.
Hot wifing - a guy who thinks his wife is hot and wants to share her but doesn’t necessarily want to partake in other partners himself. The most broad of all the labels. Hot wives are rarely interested in a longer term relationship with their fuck buddies.
Traditional cuckolding - the Cuck likes to watch. May involve humiliation such as clean up duties.
Contemporary cuckolding - no humiliation. Very positive. Often something that attracts “Alpha Cucks”. The cuckoldstress is in control. May watch or let her meet alone. The Cuck is more than capable of satisfying his Cuckoldstress but they like the added bonus of her experiencing other partners.
in a nutshell this
i/we would class ourselve's more traditional but its that thing as in everything in life weare al;l different and all want different so we modify thing to suit us.
i do think there;s a bit of a stigma towards trad cuckold as we know quite a few couples who would not dare to admit they like the humilation side of things due to being judged but balls to em we will do what makes us feel good as should everyone else no matter what or who you are.
not my fault my hubs has a useless dick that only looks good in knickers "
Jen my wife so agrees - as she says it’s not her fault I was born with a little clit instead of a cock!! Love watching her with a real man!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can someone briefly explain the differences between cuck, hot wife, male/female led and whatever other terms are used please?
Can someone explain what we are?
Every one of our meets have been with guys. Hubby doesn't play he likes to watch or take pics if guy is ok with that, or just be there but not actively watching if they are really uncomfortable.
We select guys together, either he okays them, writes them off (like they ignore him in messages + only talk to me), or probably suggests guys to meet more than I suggest to him.
Considering meeting guys alone + leaving him at home make a difference?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can someone briefly explain the differences between cuck, hot wife, male/female led and whatever other terms are used please?
Can someone explain what we are?
Every one of our meets have been with guys. Hubby doesn't play he likes to watch or take pics if guy is ok with that, or just be there but not actively watching if they are really uncomfortable.
We select guys together, either he okays them, writes them off (like they ignore him in messages + only talk to me), or probably suggests guys to meet more than I suggest to him.
Considering meeting guys alone + leaving him at home make a difference? "
Sounds like a mix of Hot wifing - a guy who thinks his wife is hot and wants to share her but doesn’t necessarily want to partake in other partners himself. The most broad of all the labels. Hot wives are rarely interested in a longer term relationship with their fuck buddies.
Contemporary cuckolding - no humiliation. Very positive. Often something that attracts “Alpha Cucks”. The cuckoldstress is in control. May watch or let her meet alone. The Cuck is more than capable of satisfying his Cuckoldstress but they like the added bonus of her experiencing other partners.
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"Can someone briefly explain the differences between cuck, hot wife, male/female led and whatever other terms are used please?
Can someone explain what we are?
Every one of our meets have been with guys. Hubby doesn't play he likes to watch or take pics if guy is ok with that, or just be there but not actively watching if they are really uncomfortable.
We select guys together, either he okays them, writes them off (like they ignore him in messages + only talk to me), or probably suggests guys to meet more than I suggest to him.
Considering meeting guys alone + leaving him at home make a difference?
Sounds like a mix of Hot wifing - a guy who thinks his wife is hot and wants to share her but doesn’t necessarily want to partake in other partners himself. The most broad of all the labels. Hot wives are rarely interested in a longer term relationship with their fuck buddies.
Contemporary cuckolding - no humiliation. Very positive. Often something that attracts “Alpha Cucks”. The cuckoldstress is in control. May watch or let her meet alone. The Cuck is more than capable of satisfying his Cuckoldstress but they like the added bonus of her experiencing other partners.
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Lol that you literally copy and pasted my definitions from an above post! |
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"Can someone briefly explain the differences between cuck, hot wife, male/female led and whatever other terms are used please?
Can someone explain what we are?
Every one of our meets have been with guys. Hubby doesn't play he likes to watch or take pics if guy is ok with that, or just be there but not actively watching if they are really uncomfortable.
We select guys together, either he okays them, writes them off (like they ignore him in messages + only talk to me), or probably suggests guys to meet more than I suggest to him.
Considering meeting guys alone + leaving him at home make a difference? "
You are whatever you want to be! Have a read of how I defined them in my previous post.
You could argue you are partially Stag & Vixen, Hot Wife or contemporary cuckold.
One thing I’d say you are probably not is traditional cuckold |
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Really glad I read this forum. I wasn’t aware of the stag and vixen description but it fits our fetish (I think).
We have a great day to day sex life and my wife also loves to meet younger men. I watch or record and humiliation does nothing for me personally.
She loves to be adored and spoiled by a fit young adonis.
I love to see her turned on and love that she is the fantasy of other men.
The build up and the memories/footage is something we share.
You can’t choose your fetish, it chooses you and we are very lucky that everybody gets what they came for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can someone briefly explain the differences between cuck, hot wife, male/female led and whatever other terms are used please?
Can someone explain what we are?
Every one of our meets have been with guys. Hubby doesn't play he likes to watch or take pics if guy is ok with that, or just be there but not actively watching if they are really uncomfortable.
We select guys together, either he okays them, writes them off (like they ignore him in messages + only talk to me), or probably suggests guys to meet more than I suggest to him.
Considering meeting guys alone + leaving him at home make a difference?
You are whatever you want to be! Have a read of how I defined them in my previous post.
You could argue you are partially Stag & Vixen, Hot Wife or contemporary cuckold.
One thing I’d say you are probably not is traditional cuckold"
Thank you. I think you are right, cuckold just doesn't feel right. There is no humiliation, there is no actual denial, there is no "cleaning up" etc that often cucks do.
So what's the difference between hot wife VS drag and vixen, why are people one and not the other?
These are just labels at the end of the day, it's more about understanding oneself and who you are x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is there somewhere in Between? In our case, it’s a pride thing but also with a small amount of cuckold, in that I clean up and assist him fucking Karen in any way he wants.
We don’t feel we fit strictly in either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bit of both. Bf arranges everything so he knows and there’s no humiliation, so he’s a Stag then hands over and is not there in the meet, so he’s like a cuckold. Best of both ways for us both.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My husband and I don't play together but he's definitely a stag. He prefers me to go off and do my thing and tell him about it afterwards when we have 'reclaim' sex. It's definitely not a humiliation thing for him. |
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When we first started out we thought we were a cuckold couple however as our swinging journey has continued we realise we are much more stag and vixen as hubby not into humiliation at all from either myself or whoever I am playing with he just enjoys watching me have fun and put on a show for him |
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