"But then women won't be able to see my photos if they don't add me back "
Then get over it and accept that some men are gonna check you out. If you’re that bothered perhaps this isn’t the right site for you..... |
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"But then women won't be able to see my photos if they don't add me back "
Quote and we know who you're talking to.
If you have public photos on here, anyone on here can see them. Friends photos, friends can see them (but the scattergun invite anyone to be friends thing doesn't work, I don't think). |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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Why is it so annoying for you? If they can't message you then there's no problem. You have set your profile to 'not looking for single men' so you shouldn't be able to see if they've looked at you anyway. |
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Op as has been said you can only stop men from messaging you. Therefore as it stands you have a choice, put all your pictures in friends only or accept that men will look.
Men in couples will be able to look after all |
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"Men in couples will be able to look after all "
I am sure Paul will want a block put on that too!! Seems a strange thing to be worrying about. Loads of people look at loads of profiles, it is just what happens here at Fab... |
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"Men in couples will be able to look after all
I am sure Paul will want a block put on that too!! Seems a strange thing to be worrying about. Loads of people look at loads of profiles, it is just what happens here at Fab..."
He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though. |
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"He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though.
Not seen anyone patronizing him or dismissing him... well, not on this thread...."
People are dismissing his discomfort. This happens to women a lot, that's not right, it's not right when it happens to men either. |
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"Men in couples will be able to look after all
I am sure Paul will want a block put on that too!! Seems a strange thing to be worrying about. Loads of people look at loads of profiles, it is just what happens here at Fab...
He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though. " |
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"He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though.
Not seen anyone patronizing him or dismissing him... well, not on this thread....
People are dismissing his discomfort. This happens to women a lot, that's not right, it's not right when it happens to men either."
No one is dismissing his "discomfort", but where is it coming from? He is not in physical proximity to anyone not can he receive any messages. Some folk have taken a peek at his profile on Fab. So what...!! |
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"He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though.
Not seen anyone patronizing him or dismissing him... well, not on this thread....
People are dismissing his discomfort. This happens to women a lot, that's not right, it's not right when it happens to men either.
No one is dismissing his "discomfort", but where is it coming from? He is not in physical proximity to anyone not can he receive any messages. Some folk have taken a peek at his profile on Fab. So what...!!"
He moans about guys viewing him but adds women who says no adding me on their profiles if he doesn't like people doing certianing things like viewing him don't do thing to people they don't like |
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"You can set up message filters to block men from messaging you"
Think this also filters then from your ‘who looked at me’ list so that they don’t show up. |
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"He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though.
Not seen anyone patronizing him or dismissing him... well, not on this thread....
People are dismissing his discomfort. This happens to women a lot, that's not right, it's not right when it happens to men either.
No one is dismissing his "discomfort", but where is it coming from? He is not in physical proximity to anyone not can he receive any messages. Some folk have taken a peek at his profile on Fab. So what...!!"
^This^. I'm confused how the OP can be in public without feeling discomfort if another man should happen to glance at him. |
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"He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though.
Not seen anyone patronizing him or dismissing him... well, not on this thread....
People are dismissing his discomfort. This happens to women a lot, that's not right, it's not right when it happens to men either.
No one is dismissing his "discomfort", but where is it coming from? He is not in physical proximity to anyone not can he receive any messages. Some folk have taken a peek at his profile on Fab. So what...!!
^This^. I'm confused how the OP can be in public without feeling discomfort if another man should happen to glance at him."
OK. The way I read this is that he's uncomfortable with men looking at him in a sexual context and wishes he could stop that happening. That isn't the same as a man glancing at him in public.
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"He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though.
Not seen anyone patronizing him or dismissing him... well, not on this thread....
People are dismissing his discomfort. This happens to women a lot, that's not right, it's not right when it happens to men either.
No one is dismissing his "discomfort", but where is it coming from? He is not in physical proximity to anyone not can he receive any messages. Some folk have taken a peek at his profile on Fab. So what...!!"
We have different opinions in this it seems. Vive la difference! |
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" The way I read this is that he's uncomfortable with men looking at him in a sexual context and wishes he could stop that happening. That isn't the same as a man glancing at him in public. "
How does he know if men are "glancing at him in a sexual way" as opposed to a non-sexual way..?? He comes across as unduly sensitive about men's views of him. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though.
Not seen anyone patronizing him or dismissing him... well, not on this thread....
People are dismissing his discomfort. This happens to women a lot, that's not right, it's not right when it happens to men either.
No one is dismissing his "discomfort", but where is it coming from? He is not in physical proximity to anyone not can he receive any messages. Some folk have taken a peek at his profile on Fab. So what...!!
^This^. I'm confused how the OP can be in public without feeling discomfort if another man should happen to glance at him.
OK. The way I read this is that he's uncomfortable with men looking at him in a sexual context and wishes he could stop that happening. That isn't the same as a man glancing at him in public.
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"Because I was forever getting men message me even tho I'm straight, it's kind of disturbing getting men check my profile lol "
I get old, young, male, female, straight, bi, gay, bicurious, transvestites, fat, skinny, black and white viewing my profile, fabbing my pics, winking etc. Many are not my type but I do not get precious about it. If you can’t handle it you really should not be on here as others have said. |
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"Is their any way I can block men from seeing my pictures and checking my profile? Trying to be discreet "
Why are you only bothered about men seeing you?
And no, you can’t. You can filter your messages so that they cannot message you, but they can still view your profile. |
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As others point out, there are restrictions that Fab offers but not in the full/exact way that you'd like op.
A profile without public pics is likely to be less succesful overall imo. Whilst your public pics can be anything you like, subject to site rules, you don't have to include any of your physical details that may be recognisable by people who know you very intimately. Sometimes we spend so much time with others, that they can easily recognise something that distinguishes us. Obviously there are giveaway physical signs too, such as a mole or birthmark in a prominent specific place.
Trade-offs between getting the benefits of being a site user, when it's already incredibly difficult for you single men, who are amongst thousands of others versus retaining full privacy, so that random profile viewers don't have evidence that you're on a swinging site, that they may scrutinise, share etc. It's your call. Perhaps show your good physical features that wouldn't too easily give you away. |
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I get straight guys fabbing my pictures and messaging me all of the time. It’s even written on my Profile I’m only interested in Bi people. However it doesn’t bother me and believe me if the thought of guys looking at you on here bothers you, don’t ever go into a gay pub / club as this site is nothing compared to the comments and looks you’d get in those places |
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