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over a year ago
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What isit with people on here abusing you after you turn them down, and surely they do it too most people? so why are they still on the site they should be removed and banned from using the site ...I get most of the abuse from men I have a feeling why they abuse me after but if a man could enlighten me why that would be great |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They can't handle rejection. And assume you owe them everything cause they're god's gift. "
Clearly hun lol it's like being back in school sometimes you have to laugh don't you the things I get called which you prob have aswell it's funny |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They can't handle rejection. And assume you owe them everything cause they're god's gift.
Clearly hun lol it's like being back in school sometimes you have to laugh don't you the things I get called which you prob have aswell it's funny "
Like funny in yeah okay mate if that makes you feel better |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The simplest of solutions is available to you.
When you send a no thanks. You then block that person immediately afterwards. You'll never be abused for saying no again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The simplest of solutions is available to you.
When you send a no thanks. You then block that person immediately afterwards. You'll never be abused for saying no again."
Agreed. It may sound harsh to some but you come first. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The simplest of solutions is available to you.
When you send a no thanks. You then block that person immediately afterwards. You'll never be abused for saying no again."
Good idea didn't think of this lol will start doing so, thanks for advice lol |
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"What isit with people on here abusing you after you turn them down, and surely they do it too most people? so why are they still on the site they should be removed and banned from using the site ...I get most of the abuse from men I have a feeling why they abuse me after but if a man could enlighten me why that would be great "
Because they arent men. They are little boys who haven't learnt respect. You haven't done any thing wrong. If people have egos that dont like to be knocked they are in the wrong place |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The simplest of solutions is available to you.
When you send a no thanks. You then block that person immediately afterwards. You'll never be abused for saying no again.
Agreed. It may sound harsh to some but you come first."
Makes sense to really cause if I don't fancy them no point them being able to message me is there |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What isit with people on here abusing you after you turn them down, and surely they do it too most people? so why are they still on the site they should be removed and banned from using the site ...I get most of the abuse from men I have a feeling why they abuse me after but if a man could enlighten me why that would be great
Because they arent men. They are little boys who haven't learnt respect. You haven't done any thing wrong. If people have egos that dont like to be knocked they are in the wrong place"
Agree with you at the end of the day people ain't gonna be everyone's taste are they |
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"What isit with people on here abusing you after you turn them down, and surely they do it too most people? so why are they still on the site they should be removed and banned from using the site ...I get most of the abuse from men I have a feeling why they abuse me after but if a man could enlighten me why that would be great
Because they arent men. They are little boys who haven't learnt respect. You haven't done any thing wrong. If people have egos that dont like to be knocked they are in the wrong place
Agree with you at the end of the day people ain't gonna be everyone's taste are they "
Thats why we can set filters and why we a have our own minds. Abuse anywhere shouldn't be tolerated. Block as people above have said. Or raise your age profile so gentlemen hint hint can message lol. Joking just be you and stay true |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Happens every day!
I pity the people who do it tbh (and it does come from women and couples at times too). They clearly can't take rejection."
I pity them aswell defo gonna start blocking guys I say no thanks too but we shouldn't have to do this the people who abuse people after should be removed and banned from using the site |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What isit with people on here abusing you after you turn them down, and surely they do it too most people? so why are they still on the site they should be removed and banned from using the site ...I get most of the abuse from men I have a feeling why they abuse me after but if a man could enlighten me why that would be great
Because they arent men. They are little boys who haven't learnt respect. You haven't done any thing wrong. If people have egos that dont like to be knocked they are in the wrong place
Agree with you at the end of the day people ain't gonna be everyone's taste are they
Thats why we can set filters and why we a have our own minds. Abuse anywhere shouldn't be tolerated. Block as people above have said. Or raise your age profile so gentlemen hint hint can message lol. Joking just be you and stay true "
I don't think being a gentleman comes within the age because I've had older guys abuse me after as well I think it's more about just who you are as a person |
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"What isit with people on here abusing you after you turn them down, and surely they do it too most people? so why are they still on the site they should be removed and banned from using the site ...I get most of the abuse from men I have a feeling why they abuse me after but if a man could enlighten me why that would be great
Because they arent men. They are little boys who haven't learnt respect. You haven't done any thing wrong. If people have egos that dont like to be knocked they are in the wrong place
Agree with you at the end of the day people ain't gonna be everyone's taste are they
Thats why we can set filters and why we a have our own minds. Abuse anywhere shouldn't be tolerated. Block as people above have said. Or raise your age profile so gentlemen hint hint can message lol. Joking just be you and stay true
I don't think being a gentleman comes within the age because I've had older guys abuse me after as well I think it's more about just who you are as a person"
Damn these older guys giving me a bad name. Well when you are free for a drink let me know and i will make amends for there wrongs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It sad sometimes people take it so well other just get vile. "
They really do makes me glad that I turned them down there is no need for it at the end of day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a terrible indictment of the way people act in general. Personally, i agree it's most likely down to the mindset that if you're here you're gonna Shag anyone and the fact that you have dared to say no to them as they are (in Thier world) the 'most amazing lay you're gonna get love and you should be grateful'so the fact you've dared to turn them down just hits the ego spot nicely.
Tbh, the mere fact they have a reply even a no should be a welcome relief to the black hole 99% of sent messages go to!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What isit with people on here abusing you after you turn them down, and surely they do it too most people? so why are they still on the site they should be removed and banned from using the site ...I get most of the abuse from men I have a feeling why they abuse me after but if a man could enlighten me why that would be great "
They’ve obviously not developed into an adult yet that’s why. I blame the parents  |
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"Happens every day!
I pity the people who do it tbh (and it does come from women and couples at times too). They clearly can't take rejection.
I pity them aswell defo gonna start blocking guys I say no thanks too but we shouldn't have to do this the people who abuse people after should be removed and banned from using the site "
They are if they're reported. I'll post how admin deal with it next |
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Here is an explanation from Admin from another thread on how they deal with reports.
******Just a quick note. If people report others and we can verify that they have broken site rules, we always take action (either a first and final warning, partially suspended account, fully suspended, mixture of the above).
Every single report sent via the REPORT link is reviewed. Clearly it's not in our interests to have people on here who are bad for the site. Equally we need to verify what has been reported and be fair to those who have been reported.
Admin
PS. we never provide feedback on what has happened. It's just not practical given that we get 100s of reports a day.
Here is what the page says after a report has been submitted:
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Your feedback has been saved.
A website admin will shortly review your feedback and take the necessary action. After reviewing the evidence available to us, we may disable an account, remove a user, disable certain aspects of that user's account or issue a warning.
By leaving feedback you help improve the site for everyone who uses it. Thank you.****** |
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"It sad sometimes people take it so well other just get vile.
They really do makes me glad that I turned them down there is no need for it at the end of day "
Yes it the lines we know we’re not skinny. People are like your lucky your find anyone with high standards looking like that.
Or one guy was like I messaged the wrong couple I don’t do fattys. Wtf it’s a joke we just want to have a nice chat and great sex. Not to be shamed. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is a great question.
I assume abuse is primarily from men to women, and the women concerned should do what they feel appropriate for their personal wellbeing.
I assume the abuse women receive is driven by rejection from men, which is driven in turn by a combination of their low self esteem and their personal self confidence.
I would much rather someone say, sorry, just don’t fancy you.
Great question! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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long may they carry on with the abuse as its self sorts those who go on the block list and never come off oh and its not just men its all too many on here with a sense of entitlment me thinks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always report and block. It’s totally unacceptable.
In fairness to the guys on here we’ve had abusive replies from women and couples too.
There’s plenty of lovely people on here that more than make up for the small minority x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never once had abuse, they're probably relieved! 
But yeah, if it happens a lot then blocking is the way to go I think, why give them opportunity to message again after you say no, even if they don't send a nasty message, they still have chance to try again in a few days/weeks. It just cuts down unwanted messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What isit with people on here abusing you after you turn them down, and surely they do it too most people? so why are they still on the site they should be removed and banned from using the site ...I get most of the abuse from men I have a feeling why they abuse me after but if a man could enlighten me why that would be great "
When these people message you are they asking to meet you?? |
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"Always report and block. It’s totally unacceptable.
In fairness to the guys on here we’ve had abusive replies from women and couples too.
There’s plenty of lovely people on here that more than make up for the small minority x"
Same We say it like 1/20 is just out of order. So blocked |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always report and block. It’s totally unacceptable.
In fairness to the guys on here we’ve had abusive replies from women and couples too.
There’s plenty of lovely people on here that more than make up for the small minority x
Same We say it like 1/20 is just out of order. So blocked"
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"What isit with people on here abusing you after you turn them down, and surely they do it too most people? so why are they still on the site they should be removed and banned from using the site ...I get most of the abuse from men I have a feeling why they abuse me after but if a man could enlighten me why that would be great "
I’m sure it’s not restricted to men and of course it’s not just Fab.
It’s a sad fact of all internet contact sites. The combination of free to join, people to contact, and the lethal part - a keyboard with anonymity!
I was warned when going on dating sites: only believe a fraction of what you see / read. Develop a thick skin quick. Never worry about rejection. Don’t be rude or crude as you wouldn’t be in real life.sadly many people forget the last bit.
I’ve had abuse from women on ‘vanilla’ dating sites if after a few (often dull) messages if I say “thanks but no thanks”, or even if I simply don’t reply quick enough. People! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What isit with people on here abusing you after you turn them down, and surely they do it too most people? so why are they still on the site they should be removed and banned from using the site ...I get most of the abuse from men I have a feeling why they abuse me after but if a man could enlighten me why that would be great
I’m sure it’s not restricted to men and of course it’s not just Fab.
It’s a sad fact of all internet contact sites. The combination of free to join, people to contact, and the lethal part - a keyboard with anonymity!
I was warned when going on dating sites: only believe a fraction of what you see / read. Develop a thick skin quick. Never worry about rejection. Don’t be rude or crude as you wouldn’t be in real life.sadly many people forget the last bit.
I’ve had abuse from women on ‘vanilla’ dating sites if after a few (often dull) messages if I say “thanks but no thanks”, or even if I simply don’t reply quick enough. People!"
I agree, you also have to bare in mind that just because someone on here send messages you that doesn’t necessarily mean they won’t to meet you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What i don't get is what makes anyone think it right to abuse anyone for not wanting to connect with the other person online when they wouldn't say a word face to face |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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Take the no reply no interest advice as stated in faq section. I'm now doing this and ignoring anything that is if no interest to me. The abuse, why nots and trying to persuade me to meet has dropped off an awful lot. |
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over a year ago
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"You're asking the wrong audience. I don't think men who send abusive messages would even bother using forums."
I'm not asking the men who send abuse I'm asking men why would they do it as a man know another man's mind better like how they think liek such as if I need man advice I go too my male friends not my female |
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"You're asking the wrong audience. I don't think men who send abusive messages would even bother using forums.
I'm not asking the men who send abuse I'm asking men why would they do it as a man know another man's mind better like how they think liek such as if I need man advice I go too my male friends not my female "
All men are different, any abuse sent on here is wrong , just block them |
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"You're asking the wrong audience. I don't think men who send abusive messages would even bother using forums.
I'm not asking the men who send abuse I'm asking men why would they do it as a man know another man's mind better like how they think liek such as if I need man advice I go too my male friends not my female
All men are different, any abuse sent on here is wrong , just block them "
I am now lol |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"What isit with people on here abusing you after you turn them down, and surely they do it too most people? so why are they still on the site they should be removed and banned from using the site ...I get most of the abuse from men I have a feeling why they abuse me after but if a man could enlighten me why that would be great "
Report block, use filters don't engage with anyone you aren't interested in. A reply isn't compulsory. |
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"You're asking the wrong audience. I don't think men who send abusive messages would even bother using forums.
I'm not asking the men who send abuse I'm asking men why would they do it as a man know another man's mind better like how they think liek such as if I need man advice I go too my male friends not my female "
If we don't do it how can we possibly understand why others do it?
Small dick syndrome?
Big ego syndrome?
My guess is as good as yours. |
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"What isit with people on here abusing you after you turn them down, and surely they do it too most people? so why are they still on the site they should be removed and banned from using the site ...I get most of the abuse from men I have a feeling why they abuse me after but if a man could enlighten me why that would be great
Report block, use filters don't engage with anyone you aren't interested in. A reply isn't compulsory. "
I use filters lol and I already report them and now I block people I don't fancy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Experienced this afew times from single blokes and afew single women ive turned down.
My profile clearly states im not looking for single males.
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How do they message you? You have blocked all single men |
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