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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Where would a curious young bi male start to try and explore his submissive side?
Genuinely asking for a friend so I can help him out point him in the right direction as I've 0 clue
He says he wants to be dominated and used as a, play thing for a dom lady or Dom couples with a bi male
So any pointers or any info would be greatly received also if you are interested please pm
I know not the norm but feel sorry for him and feel everyone should be able to get their kink on
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Is very difficult to say without knowing him, his level of knowledge or interests OP - BDSM and D/s covers a very broad spectrum and it would depend where he sits on that spectrum and the type of domination he's looking for - for instance is he just looking for "kink play" or full on BDSM whips and chains? What style of domination is he looking for? Is he looking for something 24/7 or just occasionally? These and many more questions any self-respecting dominant will want to know the answer to.
So can only really offer some generic answers without knowing more:
First up, he should really ensure he's as informed as possible about D/s and what it means to him, there are some very good books (Screw The Roses Bring Me The Thorns and SM101 are two) that are worthy reads - likewise some very good sites about, that have lots of information, can't name them here but anyone with a serious interest will have at least heard of them.
Completing some on-line BDSM questionnaires, especially ones that list various activities that can be rated 1-5 according to level of interest, is a good idea too and will help him understand where his interests lie and what he is looking for.
Attending Munches (socials for the kink world) is also recommended, googling "munches" and the name of the local town Will help locate them - talking to others with experience can only be a good thing, even if he doesn't meet anyone there that suits his needs.
Some clubs host fetish nights which might be worth a try, but he should go along with no expectations of playing and purely to observe, anything beyond that is a bonus.
Obviously having a profile here that reflects his interests can only help, likewise the other well known fetish site.
Can't stress enough the importance it being informed and knowing what he is looking for, and also being aware that Dommes looking for male subs are the unicorns of the kink world. It's key that he understands himself and his needs, and also knows what he's looking for in a dominant and is able to question them just as much as they question him - things like limits and boundaries are also important.
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