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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Controversial one but - here’s a thread for all those that are on here in secret.
No judgement!
Drop in the thread so you can find others in the same situation as you...
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"A woman posted a similar thread not long ago, it turned into the usual witch hunt sadly!
As will this one no doubt ‘ "
Probably because swinging is all about trust and respect and folks who cheat are clearly lacking in both. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m cheating on my partner, I make it clear in my profile, say what you like about me, I’ve heard it all before, and no I don’t need advice on my marriage thank you!
Hello to all the other cheaters xxxx |
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No judgement from me. I do feel sorry for folk who have to hide it tho. Must be crap living your life having to sneak around.
I’m really interested to know how many folk have tried to bring it up with their SO and who have just thought ‘bugger it’ and brought themselves on here
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"Personally, and it’s just my opinion and I’m not in any way trying to cause a row, I find the sneaking round part of the excitement."
That’s cool. Didn’t mean it to sound shirty. Didn’t mean it like that at all xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally, and it’s just my opinion and I’m not in any way trying to cause a row, I find the sneaking round part of the excitement.
That’s cool. Didn’t mean it to sound shirty. Didn’t mean it like that at all xx"
I honestly didn’t take it like that at all lovely, It’s hard to get things across in the right way by text sometimes xxx |
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"I’m cheating on my partner, I make it clear in my profile, say what you like about me, I’ve heard it all before, and no I don’t need advice on my marriage thank you!
Hello to all the other cheaters xxxx "
Hello to you miss |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m in a relationship kinda he’s pulled the rug out and said we’re just friends, I’m still seeing him and chatting daily, it’s screwing with my head I’m not ready to put myself out there officially, he knows I’m on here I made the mistake before of taking myself off fab and even though I don’t cheat I still got screwed over and turns out he was on here regardless, I still live in hope of finding the perfect mix of sex and friendship that makes for a perfect monogamous relationship but even then I’ll arill keep my fab because I love the scene and the amazing people I’ve met and many of them like you are cheating on their partners and whilst that’s not for me I respect your choice, no one should feel any superiority over another persons life choices, for me a relationship is monogamous and even swingers who share all the details with each other in my eyes just isn’t for me but that’s what truly matters it’s not for ME doesn’t mean to say it’s not for you, some
People are happy to stay with someone they love without sex that’s their choice and some want to the love of that person but also need intimacy and seek that elsewhere, the world would truly be a boding place if everyone were the same. Fab is full of some of the most judgemental people I’ve ever met but it’s also got a helluva lot of really amazing people on it too, funny thing is most of the judge and jury kind of folks on here wouldn’t dare want anyone knowing they were swingers because the people they love and care about wouldn’t understand so to me it reminds me of projected guilt, the guilt they feel for lying to family and friends they pass onto others !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m cheating on my partner, I make it clear in my profile, say what you like about me, I’ve heard it all before, and no I don’t need advice on my marriage thank you!
Hello to all the other cheaters xxxx
Hello to you miss "
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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I'm cheating, I have my reasons but I'm not going to share them and I don't feel the need to justify myself.
Hi to all those in a similar situation and a even bigger hi to those that are happy to meet us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m cheating on God.
I’m actually a Catholic priest. Don’t tell anyone though.  "
I’ve always fancied corrupting a nun or a priest .... think I’m too old and the wrong sex for a priest though  |
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"I’m cheating on God.
I’m actually a Catholic priest. Don’t tell anyone though.
I’ve always fancied corrupting a nun or a priest .... think I’m too old and the wrong sex for a priest though "
nawty!!! but eerrrrrr you may be right at least on the wrong sex bit!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m cheating on God.
I’m actually a Catholic priest. Don’t tell anyone though.
I’ve always fancied corrupting a nun or a priest .... think I’m too old and the wrong sex for a priest though "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No judgement from me. I do feel sorry for folk who have to hide it tho. Must be crap living your life having to sneak around.
I’m really interested to know how many folk have tried to bring it up with their SO and who have just thought ‘bugger it’ and brought themselves on here
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With my Ex husband I tried so hard for along time to fix things he just wasn't on the same page because in the 15yrs we were a couple he still saw himself as the same guy I met back then before kids ect still and that he didn't need to alter a, thing so I had to change everything about me that made me eventually I felt I was dieing so when I started taking steps to become the person I once was he didn't like it I discovered fabs tried to get him involved it wasn't happening
Eventually even after marriage counciling and trying to convince me I has postnatal depression
I eventually cheated even though I regret how, it all happend because I've got no defence to the outside world I'm the one who cheated I broke the marriage I don't regret ending things I'm much happier person
And now I'm back again not single but missed all the forums fun and games so only here for that  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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OK lets not turn this into a lets throw the cheaters in stocks type of thread, it is asking for like minded people to join in.
If you want to talk about cheaters and how wrong it is then start another thread rather than spoil this one for the people who want to make each other known
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im going to hell obviously
See you there, at least it’s warm and where all the fun people will be  I’m with you ladies x"
Come on down, plenty of room for all the naughty ladies ( and the odd hot gent) xxx |
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Yep my cats have just realised I am on here! Yikes that’s my cover blown! Boy if they tell the wife - (meowing is the lingua franca in my household so my wife will understand lol)!
I’ll be downgraded from Sheba to Whiskas for dinner!  |
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By *ohnnw1Man
over a year ago
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"I’m cheating on my partner, I make it clear in my profile, say what you like about me, I’ve heard it all before, and no I don’t need advice on my marriage thank you!
Hello to all the other cheaters xxxx "
Hello Lexi, I’m near you and cheating also, for various reasons xx |
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Everyone is here for their own reasons.
Judgement shouldn't be made. If you don't want to get involved then scroll on past.
Maybe I'm saying that as I'm in that situation but like I say reasons are personal to the individual |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A woman posted a similar thread not long ago, it turned into the usual witch hunt sadly!
As will this one no doubt ‘
Probably because swinging is all about trust and respect and folks who cheat are clearly lacking in both."
Totally untrue! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A woman posted a similar thread not long ago, it turned into the usual witch hunt sadly!
As will this one no doubt ‘
Probably because swinging is all about trust and respect and folks who cheat are clearly lacking in both.
Totally untrue!"
Agreed its untrue. So many people on here quick to ram their opinions down your throat  |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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I am perhaps one of the best people to comment on this subject. Nearly 10 years ago when I was married I was monogamous and totally faithful, he cheated on me and it was very very hurtful. I ended the marriage and then got into swinging and the rest is history.
I have slept with many married and attached men and have found that they're all wonderful lovers, great company and have reasons to cheat most of which go well beyond just sex, what's missing is passion in their lives.
I have no issues with married men in fact I really enjoy them. I don't envy the situation they are in having to sneak around and risk hurting both themselves and their families. But I also understand that all they want is passion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think once you’re in this “scene” it’s hard to go back to a vanilla lifestyle. I was single when I first started here, and when I got in a relationship it all stopped. But I missed and craved it, till I eventually gave in and returned |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No judgement from me. I do feel sorry for folk who have to hide it tho. Must be crap living your life having to sneak around.
I’m really interested to know how many folk have tried to bring it up with their SO and who have just thought ‘bugger it’ and brought themselves on here
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PM sentx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think once you’re in this “scene” it’s hard to go back to a vanilla lifestyle. I was single when I first started here, and when I got in a relationship it all stopped. But I missed and craved it, till I eventually gave in and returned "
hubby is not here then, did he swing?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think once you’re in this “scene” it’s hard to go back to a vanilla lifestyle. I was single when I first started here, and when I got in a relationship it all stopped. But I missed and craved it, till I eventually gave in and returned hubby is not here then, did he swing? "
No hubby, just boyfriend. No he doesn’t |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am perhaps one of the best people to comment on this subject. Nearly 10 years ago when I was married I was monogamous and totally faithful, he cheated on me and it was very very hurtful. I ended the marriage and then got into swinging and the rest is history.
I have slept with many married and attached men and have found that they're all wonderful lovers, great company and have reasons to cheat most of which go well beyond just sex, what's missing is passion in their lives.
I have no issues with married men in fact I really enjoy them. I don't envy the situation they are in having to sneak around and risk hurting both themselves and their families. But I also understand that all they want is passion."
This rings a bell ! My Spidey suit helps me keep a low profile. Passion, excitement and feeling desired is what is lacking. I will keep trying but Fab helps scratch that itch. There is however too much judgement poured over us who choose to stray but that is life. I recieved a message back from a couple that read , ' i hope you get caught'. I thought that was quite nasty and uncalled for. |
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I am married and cheating and certainly not hiding from the fact. I live a very full and busy life but it is lacking passion and intimacy!
I have had the opportunity of a traditional affair but decided it was too much like cheating, i.e. building a relationship of sorts outside of my marriage. I used swingingheaven through out my twenties when I was a single chap but that site is very quiet now, so here I am on fab
I have the occasional meet now where I get to have fun without any emotional attachment. I am totally open about it with prospective meets some people its a flat no to a married, others its no problem at all, it works for me and I am not offended if it doesn't for others! |
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It's a bit of a fine line for me.
My hubby knows I'm on here. He knows I meet couples and ladies.
What he doesn't know is that I meet single or married men.
I don't want to rub salt in his wounds he can't perform any more, tried many different things to encourage it in the past yrs.
Gave up trying several yrs ago
I have needs ands wants let alone a fuck list
So am I cheating |
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"It's a bit of a fine line for me.
My hubby knows I'm on here. He knows I meet couples and ladies.
What he doesn't know is that I meet single or married men.
I don't want to rub salt in his wounds he can't perform any more, tried many different things to encourage it in the past yrs.
Gave up trying several yrs ago
I have needs ands wants let alone a fuck list
So am I cheating "
If he doesn't want you to meet single and married guys but you do I'd say yes it's cheating.
Can you not speak to him and add men to the couples and single women that he's ok with you meeting ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a bit of a fine line for me.
My hubby knows I'm on here. He knows I meet couples and ladies.
What he doesn't know is that I meet single or married men.
I don't want to rub salt in his wounds he can't perform any more, tried many different things to encourage it in the past yrs.
Gave up trying several yrs ago
I have needs ands wants let alone a fuck list
So am I cheating "
is he same age as you out of interest? |
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"It's a bit of a fine line for me.
My hubby knows I'm on here. He knows I meet couples and ladies.
What he doesn't know is that I meet single or married men.
I don't want to rub salt in his wounds he can't perform any more, tried many different things to encourage it in the past yrs.
Gave up trying several yrs ago
I have needs ands wants let alone a fuck list
So am I cheating is he same age as you out of interest? "
No, some what older |
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"It's a bit of a fine line for me.
My hubby knows I'm on here. He knows I meet couples and ladies.
What he doesn't know is that I meet single or married men.
I don't want to rub salt in his wounds he can't perform any more, tried many different things to encourage it in the past yrs.
Gave up trying several yrs ago
I have needs ands wants let alone a fuck list
So am I cheating "
Yes. You are. You're having sex with people behind his back. That's cheating. |
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"It's a bit of a fine line for me.
My hubby knows I'm on here. He knows I meet couples and ladies.
What he doesn't know is that I meet single or married men.
I don't want to rub salt in his wounds he can't perform any more, tried many different things to encourage it in the past yrs.
Gave up trying several yrs ago
I have needs ands wants let alone a fuck list
So am I cheating
Yes. You are. You're having sex with people behind his back. That's cheating."
Well I question it as he knows I have sex with couples and women |
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"It's a bit of a fine line for me.
My hubby knows I'm on here. He knows I meet couples and ladies.
What he doesn't know is that I meet single or married men.
I don't want to rub salt in his wounds he can't perform any more, tried many different things to encourage it in the past yrs.
Gave up trying several yrs ago
I have needs ands wants let alone a fuck list
So am I cheating
Yes. You are. You're having sex with people behind his back. That's cheating.
Well I question it as he knows I have sex with couples and women"
..but he doesn't know you're having sex with "single" men.
So you're cheating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sweet75 I would say yes you are cheating as you're going behind his back and keeping secrets from him. It sounds like you're breaking boundaries that you've both discussed and agreed with. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"It's a bit of a fine line for me.
My hubby knows I'm on here. He knows I meet couples and ladies.
What he doesn't know is that I meet single or married men.
I don't want to rub salt in his wounds he can't perform any more, tried many different things to encourage it in the past yrs.
Gave up trying several yrs ago
I have needs ands wants let alone a fuck list
So am I cheating
Yes. You are. You're having sex with people behind his back. That's cheating.
Well I question it as he knows I have sex with couples and women"
Doing what you do is obviously entirely up to you and my view on marrieds playing away is it is up to them...but...does he not want you to sleep with men and why you don't tell him? If so then you are keeping something it from your husband then yes that is cheating
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"It's a bit of a fine line for me.
My hubby knows I'm on here. He knows I meet couples and ladies.
What he doesn't know is that I meet single or married men.
I don't want to rub salt in his wounds he can't perform any more, tried many different things to encourage it in the past yrs.
Gave up trying several yrs ago
I have needs ands wants let alone a fuck list
So am I cheating
If he doesn't want you to meet single and married guys but you do I'd say yes it's cheating.
Can you not speak to him and add men to the couples and single women that he's ok with you meeting ?"
I think really he knows i do, and accepts it, he's aware that I visit my local swing club to meet my friends |
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"It's a bit of a fine line for me.
My hubby knows I'm on here. He knows I meet couples and ladies.
What he doesn't know is that I meet single or married men.
I don't want to rub salt in his wounds he can't perform any more, tried many different things to encourage it in the past yrs.
Gave up trying several yrs ago
I have needs ands wants let alone a fuck list
So am I cheating
If he doesn't want you to meet single and married guys but you do I'd say yes it's cheating.
Can you not speak to him and add men to the couples and single women that he's ok with you meeting ?
I think really he knows i do, and accepts it, he's aware that I visit my local swing club to meet my friends "
He doesn't know you do.
Because you haven't told him.
Because you're working outside of the agreement you have.
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"It's a bit of a fine line for me.
My hubby knows I'm on here. He knows I meet couples and ladies.
What he doesn't know is that I meet single or married men.
I don't want to rub salt in his wounds he can't perform any more, tried many different things to encourage it in the past yrs.
Gave up trying several yrs ago
I have needs ands wants let alone a fuck list
So am I cheating
Yes. You are. You're having sex with people behind his back. That's cheating.
Well I question it as he knows I have sex with couples and women
Doing what you do is obviously entirely up to you and my view on marrieds playing away is it is up to them...but...does he not want you to sleep with men and why you don't tell him? If so then you are keeping something it from your husband then yes that is cheating
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I think it's more that I don't wanna rub salt in his already wounded male ego, he can't give me what i need and want
But yeah as I'm not been totally truthful with him then I suppose it is classified as cheating
But find me a couple that is 199% truthful to each other |
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"It's a bit of a fine line for me.
My hubby knows I'm on here. He knows I meet couples and ladies.
What he doesn't know is that I meet single or married men.
I don't want to rub salt in his wounds he can't perform any more, tried many different things to encourage it in the past yrs.
Gave up trying several yrs ago
I have needs ands wants let alone a fuck list
So am I cheating
Yes. You are. You're having sex with people behind his back. That's cheating.
Well I question it as he knows I have sex with couples and women
Doing what you do is obviously entirely up to you and my view on marrieds playing away is it is up to them...but...does he not want you to sleep with men and why you don't tell him? If so then you are keeping something it from your husband then yes that is cheating
I think it's more that I don't wanna rub salt in his already wounded male ego, he can't give me what i need and want
But yeah as I'm not been totally truthful with him then I suppose it is classified as cheating
But find me a couple that is 199% truthful to each other "
..we are. We've had an honesty rule since day 1.
All the ugly stuff, good stuff. everything. It's hard as hell, but we live by it.
We wouldn't be here without that trust and honesty. |
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"It's a bit of a fine line for me.
My hubby knows I'm on here. He knows I meet couples and ladies.
What he doesn't know is that I meet single or married men.
I don't want to rub salt in his wounds he can't perform any more, tried many different things to encourage it in the past yrs.
Gave up trying several yrs ago
I have needs ands wants let alone a fuck list
So am I cheating
Yes. You are. You're having sex with people behind his back. That's cheating.
Well I question it as he knows I have sex with couples and women
Doing what you do is obviously entirely up to you and my view on marrieds playing away is it is up to them...but...does he not want you to sleep with men and why you don't tell him? If so then you are keeping something it from your husband then yes that is cheating
I think it's more that I don't wanna rub salt in his already wounded male ego, he can't give me what i need and want
But yeah as I'm not been totally truthful with him then I suppose it is classified as cheating
But find me a couple that is 199% truthful to each other
..we are. We've had an honesty rule since day 1.
All the ugly stuff, good stuff. everything. It's hard as hell, but we live by it.
We wouldn't be here without that trust and honesty."
Oh that's good you are |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a bit of a fine line for me.
My hubby knows I'm on here. He knows I meet couples and ladies.
What he doesn't know is that I meet single or married men.
I don't want to rub salt in his wounds he can't perform any more, tried many different things to encourage it in the past yrs.
Gave up trying several yrs ago
I have needs ands wants let alone a fuck list
So am I cheating
Yes. You are. You're having sex with people behind his back. That's cheating.
Well I question it as he knows I have sex with couples and women
Doing what you do is obviously entirely up to you and my view on marrieds playing away is it is up to them...but...does he not want you to sleep with men and why you don't tell him? If so then you are keeping something it from your husband then yes that is cheating
I think it's more that I don't wanna rub salt in his already wounded male ego, he can't give me what i need and want
But yeah as I'm not been totally truthful with him then I suppose it is classified as cheating
But find me a couple that is 199% truthful to each other
..we are. We've had an honesty rule since day 1.
All the ugly stuff, good stuff. everything. It's hard as hell, but we live by it.
We wouldn't be here without that trust and honesty."
Absolutely! Same here.
My fella and I share everything. No secrets, no lies. It is very possible! And the only way for me personally.
I try not to judge those who do cheat though, I don't agree with it morally but is none of my business and I'm sure people have their reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it's unfair to say find me a couple that is truthful just because you're not.
I've been with my partner for 10 years and there is nothing I would not tell him.
It sounds like you're feeling guilty about it and trying to get people to reassure you. But maybe he'd be understanding if you spoke to him about it. He's already happy to share you with other men in a couple situation, so maybe a solo session with a man wouldn't be as bad if you let him know it was purely just sex? It's up to you. But you are crossing a line at the moment and if you're happy to live like that then fair enough but don't let it mess with your head. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My penis needs sucking
If you suck all of the old bathwater out of my massive vag I'll suck your penis for 2 seconds?
Deal young lady with nice tits"
I will meet you at 04:12am and we will get down to business |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My penis needs sucking
If you suck all of the old bathwater out of my massive vag I'll suck your penis for 2 seconds?
Deal young lady with nice tits
I will meet you at 04:12am and we will get down to business "
I sleep at that time sorry |
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"I go on holiday with a couple so when I have sex down by the pool with the man of couple whilst she is in the villa, is that considered as me cheating..
She watches from the balcony "
Does your husband know?
That's the only definition you need to worry about.
What he knows about and is ok with, is fine
What you hide from him, is cheating. |
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"I go on holiday with a couple so when I have sex down by the pool with the man of couple whilst she is in the villa, is that considered as me cheating..
She watches from the balcony
Does your husband know?
That's the only definition you need to worry about.
What he knows about and is ok with, is fine
What you hide from him, is cheating."
He knows I go away with said couple,. And gets a full run down of my holiday |
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"I go on holiday with a couple so when I have sex down by the pool with the man of couple whilst she is in the villa, is that considered as me cheating..
She watches from the balcony
Does your husband know?
That's the only definition you need to worry about.
What he knows about and is ok with, is fine
What you hide from him, is cheating.
He knows I go away with said couple,. And gets a full run down of my holiday "
Then you answered your own question. |
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"A woman posted a similar thread not long ago, it turned into the usual witch hunt sadly!
As will this one no doubt ‘
Probably because swinging is all about trust and respect and folks who cheat are clearly lacking in both.
Totally untrue!
Agreed its untrue. So many people on here quick to ram their opinions down your throat "
So which bit of my statement is untrue? I'm sure the partners of those who are cheating would agree with my version of reality and not yours. It must be an awesome life living in cloud cuckoo land where vows and promises to a partner are so easily forgotten and thrown aside because you're feeling a little horny. |
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"I think it's unfair to say find me a couple that is truthful just because you're not.
I've been with my partner for 10 years and there is nothing I would not tell him.
It sounds like you're feeling guilty about it and trying to get people to reassure you. But maybe he'd be understanding if you spoke to him about it. He's already happy to share you with other men in a couple situation, so maybe a solo session with a man wouldn't be as bad if you let him know it was purely just sex? It's up to you. But you are crossing a line at the moment and if you're happy to live like that then fair enough but don't let it mess with your head. "
I wasn't looking for reassurance,
Simply looking for another point of view. I know I can be selfish and spoilt and don't always see the whole picture, I see it and say it kinda girl |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"It's a bit of a fine line for me.
My hubby knows I'm on here. He knows I meet couples and ladies.
What he doesn't know is that I meet single or married men.
I don't want to rub salt in his wounds he can't perform any more, tried many different things to encourage it in the past yrs.
Gave up trying several yrs ago
I have needs ands wants let alone a fuck list
So am I cheating
Yes. You are. You're having sex with people behind his back. That's cheating.
Well I question it as he knows I have sex with couples and women
Doing what you do is obviously entirely up to you and my view on marrieds playing away is it is up to them...but...does he not want you to sleep with men and why you don't tell him? If so then you are keeping something it from your husband then yes that is cheating
I think it's more that I don't wanna rub salt in his already wounded male ego, he can't give me what i need and want
But yeah as I'm not been totally truthful with him then I suppose it is classified as cheating
But find me a couple that is 199% truthful to each other "
I think you are clutching at straws there, not telling a husband that you are fucking men behind his back is not quite the same as saying you bought a bag for a fiver when really it was a tenner etc
I get where you are coming from though, if you think he would be upset and feel like you are rubbing his nose in it if you told him and that you think he has probably guessed anyway then it is a tough one, but it is still deceiving however you dress it up
If he knows you are going with couples then he must know anyway? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I go on holiday with a couple so when I have sex down by the pool with the man of couple whilst she is in the villa, is that considered as me cheating..
She watches from the balcony
Does your husband know?
That's the only definition you need to worry about.
What he knows about and is ok with, is fine
What you hide from him, is cheating."
Sweet75, I will suggest you read a very great write up on here about 3 weeks ago. Very similar to your situation and they got a brilliant solution. Very encouraging article.
I'll health and willy's my story
https//m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/894581
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"I’m cheating on my partner, I make it clear in my profile, say what you like about me, I’ve heard it all before, and no I don’t need advice on my marriage thank you!
Hello to all the other cheaters xxxx "
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"I go on holiday with a couple so when I have sex down by the pool with the man of couple whilst she is in the villa, is that considered as me cheating..
She watches from the balcony
Does your husband know?
That's the only definition you need to worry about.
What he knows about and is ok with, is fine
What you hide from him, is cheating.
Sweet75, I will suggest you read a very great write up on here about 3 weeks ago. Very similar to your situation and they got a brilliant solution. Very encouraging article.
I'll health and willy's my story
https//m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/894581
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Im not.about to go back tracking and search an effing story on here
Agree a handful of couples are 100% clear cut and truthful.
But in a man's world they all want need any cunt that is willing, simples
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
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"I’m cheating on my partner, I make it clear in my profile, say what you like about me, I’ve heard it all before, and no I don’t need advice on my marriage thank you!
Hello to all the other cheaters xxxx "
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By *euschMan
over a year ago
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"I’m cheating on my partner, I make it clear in my profile, say what you like about me, I’ve heard it all before, and no I don’t need advice on my marriage thank you!
Hello to all the other cheaters xxxx "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I cheated on my ex for ten years, but with same man who I am now engaged too, and on here, cheating for sex and cheating for love, two different things, but still no judgement here x |
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I like that your all honest that you cheat. And that's your business, what annoys me is when you have known singles for a while and then they get together as a couple on here. When they are married to other people, who don't have a clue!!! And jump in to couple relationships on here. Then write demands on their profile. Genuine couples only hahahaha.
Some people love the thrill of secrets but I think it's fair if every 1 is honest xx |
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