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How many messages have you been sent by one person without you replying or doing anything whatsoever
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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago
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I know most people would just block him but I'm actually interested to see how many messages I continue to get,
I have had 7 in under 24 hours without me responding at all, it's strange how people think they'll just send another message and maybe get a response if somebody obviously hasn't responded to the other ones.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think I've had about 20-30 b4 I block them. Yeah, usually getting more needy and angry. Get the hint, I'm not interested. I usually reply with something really snotty and block them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Must be either so funny or frustrating for single ladies on here. To send that many messages is just mad. Then to get angry or rude when you don't answer. 
I'll generally send a little wink to see if any interest and a message. If I hear nothing back just assume she's not interested and move on. I know guys messages get lost in the hundreds of others sent to ladies so expect less replies. Wish I was as popular lol. The curse of the single guy on fab (the fake profiles and time wasters ruin it for the genuine ones). |
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It's an interesting question. I know I'm not answering the question directly but I would like to make a point if I may to this thread.
For me, I will always reply to each message I receive because I think that's courteous. On the other side, I'm sure women on here receive lots of messages so I do understand if they do not reply to each message so that's reasonable and after all that's their choice, they do not have to reply to anyone.
However, I think that if a guy has taken the time to write a nice reply with some meaningful content that is not a copy and paste or a one liner like do you want to fuck me, or great tits etc, then a reply would not harm. It may also help him understand why you do not want to meet so may help him in the long run when replying to folk. Having said that, if the person in question is receiving many messages from many folk or many messages from the same person, then I understand that they may not reply or they just block them, it's their choice.
If only the ratio on FS regarding men versus women was more equal...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get the same message from the same guy (copy and paste) every 3 days or so. It helps me remember what day of the week it is and keep in touch with reality.
I should block tbh. |
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" No luck here. I should be so lucky
It's not the right kind of lucky!
I'm not talking about well written individual messages,I'm talking about three or four worded messages"
Yeah. It's usually annoying or worse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I write individual messages based on the profile of the person I'd like to chat with/meet.
If it's read and deleted, I take it as them not being interested in me. If it's unread, deleted or not, then I will sometimes send a new message as the first could have been lost in an avalanche of messages.
How many women message single guys first? I get sent messages through other sites but not fab, why is that? |
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By *AABMan
over a year ago
Not far |
Soooooo all those "100's of messages every day" could actually be from just a handful of men. Easy to bulk delete then. So what happens to the small number of thoughtfully composed messages referencing key points in your profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Soooooo all those "100's of messages every day" could actually be from just a handful of men. Easy to bulk delete then. So what happens to the small number of thoughtfully composed messages referencing key points in your profile?"
If I’m not interested I won’t reply.
I read all my messages. I just mark them as unread before deleting |
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"I know most people would just block him but I'm actually interested to see how many messages I continue to get,
I have had 7 in under 24 hours without me responding at all, it's strange how people think they'll just send another message and maybe get a response if somebody obviously hasn't responded to the other ones.
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I had this exact conversation with a friend recently, after getting 11 messages accross 1 day from someone.
I wasn't even online.
I decided to see what would happen.
It's now been almost 2wks & we're on message 25!  |
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The one's that crack us up are the one's where a guy ( sorry chaps but it's pretty much guys who do this sure there must be more than a few women who are loon's but in general it's men)
He messages Mrs doesn't reply maybe ten messages later he gives up.
A month or two goes past
Receive a message from same guy.
Hey remember me,how are you?
We spoke a few months ago and was planning a meet are you still interested?
Mrs hasn't got the best memory recall and fall's for this one time and again and replies, suddenly you can't get ride of him.
The strange thing is this and I'm sure fems and couples will confirm this.
Many guy's use the same tactics as described above and others.
My question is,
Is there a secret forum or chatroom where oddballs exchange ideas on how to harass and intimidate and generally be a pest? |
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We have a couple of guys who "check in" every couple of months, which is fine (and one of whom we messaged back a couple of times). What bugs us is when we've corresponded with someone in the past and it's petered out, and then they message again a few months later as though it was their first message again. Makes is feel so special!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The one's that crack us up are the one's where a guy ( sorry chaps but it's pretty much guys who do this sure there must be more than a few women who are loon's but in general it's men)
He messages Mrs doesn't reply maybe ten messages later he gives up.
A month or two goes past
Receive a message from same guy.
Hey remember me,how are you?
We spoke a few months ago and was planning a meet are you still interested?
Mrs hasn't got the best memory recall and fall's for this one time and again and replies, suddenly you can't get ride of him.
The strange thing is this and I'm sure fems and couples will confirm this.
Many guy's use the same tactics as described above and others.
My question is,
Is there a secret forum or chatroom where oddballs exchange ideas on how to harass and intimidate and generally be a pest?"
I hate the whole ‘we spoke before’ because they can see the wee summary. I usually reply with ‘no, we haven’t spoken. I told you I wasn’t interested, that doesn’t count as a conversation. Same applies here ’ |
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"Soooooo all those "100's of messages every day" could actually be from just a handful of men. Easy to bulk delete then. So what happens to the small number of thoughtfully composed messages referencing key points in your profile?"
It's usually not.
And I never know which nice, thoughtful polite message will not take no for an answer or escalate to abuse or threats if I decline. So blanket rule applies. |
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By *AABMan
over a year ago
Not far |
"Soooooo all those "100's of messages every day" could actually be from just a handful of men. Easy to bulk delete then. So what happens to the small number of thoughtfully composed messages referencing key points in your profile?
If I’m not interested I won’t reply.
I read all my messages. I just mark them as unread before deleting "
Which kind of reinforces the point, the content of a first message is pretty much irrelevant. Why mark the messages as unread before deleting them? Why not just delete? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Soooooo all those "100's of messages every day" could actually be from just a handful of men. Easy to bulk delete then. So what happens to the small number of thoughtfully composed messages referencing key points in your profile?
If I’m not interested I won’t reply.
I read all my messages. I just mark them as unread before deleting
Which kind of reinforces the point, the content of a first message is pretty much irrelevant. Why mark the messages as unread before deleting them? Why not just delete?"
Depends on my mood. Sometimes I’ll open, read, Mark unread and delete. Sometimes I’ll let the messages gather for a week then on a quiet evening, open them all, leave them as read and bulk delete. Just depends.
And the content of a first message isn’t irrelevant. |
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" No luck here. I should be so lucky
It's not the right kind of lucky!
I'm not talking about well written individual messages,I'm talking about three or four worded messages"
Ahh understood. I’ve been doing that but still no luck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" No luck here. I should be so lucky
It's not the right kind of lucky!
I'm not talking about well written individual messages,I'm talking about three or four worded messages
Ahh understood. I’ve been doing that but still no luck "
Most don’t like that, so that could explain why |
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I hate the whole ‘we spoke before’ because they can see the wee summary. I usually reply with ‘no, we haven’t spoken. I told you I wasn’t interested, that doesn’t count as a conversation. Same applies here ’"
God yes!
I got 14 of those one day this week.
I ended up handing my phone to a friend to clear my inbox for me |
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I hate the whole ‘we spoke before’ because they can see the wee summary. I usually reply with ‘no, we haven’t spoken. I told you I wasn’t interested, that doesn’t count as a conversation. Same applies here ’
God yes!
I got 14 of those one day this week.
I ended up handing my phone to a friend to clear my inbox for me"
I sometimes get it from complete strangers who I know I've never spoken to before. Some even demanding a meet for their patience.
I block liars. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I hate the whole ‘we spoke before’ because they can see the wee summary. I usually reply with ‘no, we haven’t spoken. I told you I wasn’t interested, that doesn’t count as a conversation. Same applies here ’
God yes!
I got 14 of those one day this week.
I ended up handing my phone to a friend to clear my inbox for me
I sometimes get it from complete strangers who I know I've never spoken to before. Some even demanding a meet for their patience.
I block liars. "
I had one today |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Over 50! I was in London for a weekend so wasn’t on Fab, and he did it over 24 hours.
Swift block!
I just don’t understand why they think that will get our attention, or will make us want to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's an interesting question. I know I'm not answering the question directly but I would like to make a point if I may to this thread.
For me, I will always reply to each message I receive because I think that's courteous. On the other side, I'm sure women on here receive lots of messages so I do understand if they do not reply to each message so that's reasonable and after all that's their choice, they do not have to reply to anyone.
However, I think that if a guy has taken the time to write a nice reply with some meaningful content that is not a copy and paste or a one liner like do you want to fuck me, or great tits etc, then a reply would not harm. It may also help him understand why you do not want to meet so may help him in the long run when replying to folk. Having said that, if the person in question is receiving many messages from many folk or many messages from the same person, then I understand that they may not reply or they just block them, it's their choice.
If only the ratio on FS regarding men versus women was more equal...
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A response isn’t needed if one isn’t interested.
All it does for some men is give them a green light to send more messages with “why not” “you won’t regret it” and the rest.
Besides, what may be meaningful to you, may not be meaningful to me.
Also guys can send a “meaningful” message which has been copied and pasted and all they do isn’t change the name.
I’d much rather spend my time focusing on those I’m actually interested in.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Soooooo all those "100's of messages every day" could actually be from just a handful of men. Easy to bulk delete then. So what happens to the small number of thoughtfully composed messages referencing key points in your profile?"
Actually no.
These guys who send 20/30 messaged in a few hours are a small minority, for me anyway.
The rest are different guys. When I got to Number 1 on Hot Photos I had over 1100 messages... I deleted the ones I wasn’t interested in (most) and replied to the ones I was interested in.
Someone I’m not interested in sending a “thoughtfully composed message” doesn’t mean I have to reply. |
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"It's an interesting question. I know I'm not answering the question directly but I would like to make a point if I may to this thread.
For me, I will always reply to each message I receive because I think that's courteous. On the other side, I'm sure women on here receive lots of messages so I do understand if they do not reply to each message so that's reasonable and after all that's their choice, they do not have to reply to anyone.
However, I think that if a guy has taken the time to write a nice reply with some meaningful content that is not a copy and paste or a one liner like do you want to fuck me, or great tits etc, then a reply would not harm. It may also help him understand why you do not want to meet so may help him in the long run when replying to folk. Having said that, if the person in question is receiving many messages from many folk or many messages from the same person, then I understand that they may not reply or they just block them, it's their choice.
If only the ratio on FS regarding men versus women was more equal...
A response isn’t needed if one isn’t interested.
All it does for some men is give them a green light to send more messages with “why not” “you won’t regret it” and the rest.
Besides, what may be meaningful to you, may not be meaningful to me.
Also guys can send a “meaningful” message which has been copied and pasted and all they do isn’t change the name.
I’d much rather spend my time focusing on those I’m actually interested in.
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Yeah. No is a starting point for negotiation, rather than final. |
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" No luck here. I should be so lucky
It's not the right kind of lucky!
I'm not talking about well written individual messages,I'm talking about three or four worded messages
Ahh understood. I’ve been doing that but still no luck
Most don’t like that, so that could explain why "
No as in I’ve been do Individual messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m confused, I thought everyone was blocked from sending a message to anyone twice within a month if no reply was received, the same with winks?"
Not messages. And you can send more winks/friend requests if the person receiving them has deleted your wink/friend request. Which is why I just ignore mine |
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I had a guy send 40 messages after I'd stopped replying to him. He was basically arguing with himself. I made a forum post about him and got a 48 hour forum ban because he'd reported it. Lol I didn't name and shame him.. It was just because the content wasn't light hearted.
And yes.. That's 40 messages after I stopped replying. Desperate much |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmm I've had a good 20 messages within a 3 hour space with escalating aggression and abuse because I had replied- I had the tab open on my laptop in the background whilst still doing work.
Or I've had "Well you haven't said no so I'm going to keep messaging" after 15 messages unanswered |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"About 69 in a few hours. I just let him keep going, waited a few days then blocked. Think it totalled up to over 400 in my inbox, just him. Was amazing
That’s quite weird.
V x "
Thing is, the first 80 odd or so were questions, compliments and then a load of question marks. Then it was loaaaaads of abuse. Then it was the ‘well I’m God’s gift to women so you’re lucky I’d even consider you’. Then it was grovelling apologies 
It was quite an experience, I would read the messages every few minutes because when I clicked on them they would just fall off the screen! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"The one's that crack us up are the one's where a guy ( sorry chaps but it's pretty much guys who do this sure there must be more than a few women who are loon's but in general it's men)
He messages Mrs doesn't reply maybe ten messages later he gives up.
A month or two goes past
Receive a message from same guy.
Hey remember me,how are you?
We spoke a few months ago and was planning a meet are you still interested?
Mrs hasn't got the best memory recall and fall's for this one time and again and replies, suddenly you can't get ride of him.
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Little tip to help with that one - when you receive a message from someone that you're not interested in - make a Private Note on their profile of the date and even copy/paste their message there - acts as a point of reference if they message again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That’s so funny I took it further
Pardon me I’m new to this site but after reading this set up a fake female profile on pov ???????? wow
Some of them are brilliant, and so easy to wind up
Obviously I admit to doing it myself, if your sat alone in a dark room texting people you don’t know you can’t expect to be running the show
Very funny, is best to speak to real people face to face I suppose |
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"Must be either so funny or frustrating for single ladies on here. To send that many messages is just mad. Then to get angry or rude when you don't answer.
I'll generally send a little wink to see if any interest and a message. If I hear nothing back just assume she's not interested and move on. I know guys messages get lost in the hundreds of others sent to ladies so expect less replies. Wish I was as popular lol. The curse of the single guy on fab (the fake profiles and time wasters ruin it for the genuine ones). "
Very well said - couldn’t have put it better myself |
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"Isn't this just another thread shaming predominantly males? Not that gender matters of course."
No.
Speaking as the male half of the couple I am usually one of the first ones on the forum defending guys.
However in this case it's justified criticism.
On my wife's single profile she has had many guys as described by the op.
If you ever have the chance to sit with a female friend and read her profile for a few days you will understand.
Until we started swinging we had absolutely no idea how needy men are. |
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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Isn't this just another thread shaming predominantly males? Not that gender matters of course."
That really wasn't my intention when starting this thread.
It was intended in a much more light-hearted way and not gender specific |
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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Soooooo all those "100's of messages every day" could actually be from just a handful of men. Easy to bulk delete then. So what happens to the small number of thoughtfully composed messages referencing key points in your profile?
If I’m not interested I won’t reply.
I read all my messages. I just mark them as unread before deleting
Which kind of reinforces the point, the content of a first message is pretty much irrelevant. Why mark the messages as unread before deleting them? Why not just delete?
Depends on my mood. Sometimes I’ll open, read, Mark unread and delete. Sometimes I’ll let the messages gather for a week then on a quiet evening, open them all, leave them as read and bulk delete. Just depends.
And the content of a first message isn’t irrelevant. "
If they have been read and marked unread, when they are deleted they still show as having been read and deleted even if they were marked unread when deleted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmm to me it's not a matter of not replying to messages because I'm inundated by them (I quite like getting lots of messages, I will admit the attention is nice) but more because I'm scared of the retaliation message inevitably insulting my size/looks after I reject them. Literally just before typing this I've just been called "a horrible little bitch". Not to tar everyone with the same brush but maybe if the minority of men on here were nicer human beings they wouldn't spoil it for the majority and women would be more inclined to reply. In any case I send out lots of messages too which don't get replies either and I just shrug it off and move on; a little rejection is good for keeping one humble in my opinion.
Saying that, I tend to block anyone who sends me dick pics or has all their pics set to friends only. It says it very clearly on my profile that I don't appreciate this and if someone can't take 30 seconds out of their life to read it they're not the one for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Isn't this just another thread shaming predominantly males? Not that gender matters of course.
No.
Speaking as the male half of the couple I am usually one of the first ones on the forum defending guys.
However in this case it's justified criticism.
On my wife's single profile she has had many guys as described by the op.
If you ever have the chance to sit with a female friend and read her profile for a few days you will understand.
Until we started swinging we had absolutely no idea how needy men are."
Oh I know the issues women have on here with a certain type of men, but whatever you say about them on here isn't going to have any positive effect on them. I just don't understand the need to let the number of messages from one person build up. Surely you just block them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Isn't this just another thread shaming predominantly males? Not that gender matters of course.
That really wasn't my intention when starting this thread.
It was intended in a much more light-hearted way and not gender specific"
Oh I'm sure it wasn't meant that way. I just think that any 'normal' person wouldn't be sending this number of messages to anyone, so there's a possiblity of mental health issues with these types of repay messagers. Let's try being kind.
I now sound like a hippy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Isn't this just another thread shaming predominantly males? Not that gender matters of course.
No.
Speaking as the male half of the couple I am usually one of the first ones on the forum defending guys.
However in this case it's justified criticism.
On my wife's single profile she has had many guys as described by the op.
If you ever have the chance to sit with a female friend and read her profile for a few days you will understand.
Until we started swinging we had absolutely no idea how needy men are.
Oh I know the issues women have on here with a certain type of men, but whatever you say about them on here isn't going to have any positive effect on them. I just don't understand the need to let the number of messages from one person build up. Surely you just block them? "
Blocking them is the best solution of course.
That’s what I did when I finally got onto to Fab and saw all the messages, I did it straight away.
I usually block straight away, however some of these people, I’ll say people as I’ve had a female do it too, will make a brand new profile, just to message you abuse again & again & again.
I’m sure I’m not the only one who has been on the receiving end of that sort of thing. I usually block & report and continue to do so every time they make a new profile.
It got so bad at one point I hid my profile, and made my filters 98-99, and blocked every gender, couples etc from messaging for a good few weeks so they could give up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Must be either so funny or frustrating for single ladies on here. To send that many messages is just mad. Then to get angry or rude when you don't answer.
I'll generally send a little wink to see if any interest and a message. If I hear nothing back just assume she's not interested and move on. I know guys messages get lost in the hundreds of others sent to ladies so expect less replies. Wish I was as popular lol. The curse of the single guy on fab (the fake profiles and time wasters ruin it for the genuine ones). "
Angry rude and fairly often abusive |
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By *heFuzzMan
over a year ago
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Have to say, this is mad!
I’ve been guilty of multiple messages, but I’m talking like 3 max!
Generally to someone who I’ve been chatting to before, then have just gone silent.
What’s with the copy and paste bullshit too!?
Why would that ever work!? |
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We get it all the time, some are a copy and paste and it’s actually quite amusing, I always imagine the sender saying “shit” as they realise it’s the 4th time they’ve sent the same message in the last month, the reality is they probably do know and think eventually they’ll get a response for some reason, they never do. |
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It's quite simple.
If you send a message and they don't reply don't send any more.
Specifically what have I done wrong.
Have I upset you.
What's wrong.
You okay?
Fuck you then you ignorant cxxx .....
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One guy has sent me the same massage every week for about 2 months. A really long one telling me what he wants to do to me.
It is exactly the same word for word every time and obviously copy and paste.
I just wonder how long he will carry on for. |
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