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By *enatton2 OP Couple
over a year ago
West Midlands |
We understand how frustrating it can be to take the time to type a message only to see it deleted without a reply and this had us discussing the best way to decline an interested person who you have no interest in.
We were just wondering what the general consensus was on this. In the past we’ve deleted without reply, politely said ‘no thank you’ without a reason and also said ‘no because....’
Do you have a way or does it depend on your mood? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I’m not attracted to them, I say “thank you for the offer but I’m afraid I don’t feel an attraction”. No lies, no rubbish, but I’ve had a couple of people come back and say “why not?”. *sigh* |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone has clearly read our profile and sent a nice message then we would send a nice message back thanking them but nicely explaining that they aren't exactly what we're looking for but wishing good lick in their search. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on their message.
Sometimes don't reply.
Sometimes say no, not interested.
I think one of our favourites is when they have no photos, why would we agree to meet you, when we have no idea what you look like? |
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By *linyMan
over a year ago
Manchester/London |
I try to be polite but sometimes I just delete messages if it’s obvious they haven’t read my profile.
I recently unblocked messages from males so as to respond to a forum post I made, within 24 hours I’d had multiple messages from gay men asking if I’d like a discreet blow job/ anonymous glory hole. Even then I try to be polite and remind them to respect people’s boundaries and to read the (fucking)profile! |
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By *linyMan
over a year ago
Manchester/London |
To me it appears that once they have a reply from you then they’re ‘in’ and think that eventually you’ll meet. Blinkered mindset and selfish outlook does not work in this environment. If they continue to message I just block them. |
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"If someone has clearly read our profile and sent a nice message then we would send a nice message back thanking them but nicely explaining that they aren't exactly what we're looking for but wishing good lick in their search."
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It depends on the message recieved, the sender, and my mood!
A nice polite, thought out well written message, from someone who on paper fits my preferences, but I don't find attractive, will get a very polite reply.
I usually just say, I'm busy, not looking to meet for the foreseeable future & wish them well.
If it's obviously a C&P message, I view it as probably been sent to dozens of women, scattergun style.
It gets ignored, left 'unread' deleted a few days later.
Anything where the sender obviously hasn't viewed my profile, completly ignores my preferences... Well they're the ones that depends on my mood.
They either get treated as above, or get a sarcastic reply. |
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Tricky one I can understand straight up deleting the message if the person hasn't made any extra effort to be unique and articulate however, coming from experience, it can be quite disheartening when you do really make an effort to write an articulate, polite intro and it gets straight up deleted. But Hey, everyone has their preference  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they've read the profile but we're not attracted to them, then a no thanks message.
If they've not read the profile, been rude, etc, then straight up delete. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it's a woman that I'm not particularly interested in.. And she's asked directly. I'll say "Sorry, I don't think we're a match". Usually the last I'll ever hear from them. Unless we have other things in common, sometimes a polite rejection either way has blossomed into a digi-friendship.
If it's a man or a TV/TS.. Half the time they seem to think they're so attractive that I may change my mind, so they'll ignore my first answer and ask again a day later. That's when I get abrupt. Ask a third time and I go for the block button. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As some above if they have read my bio and sent a decent message but not what I'm looking for I tend to say a polite thankyou but no good luck with your search.
If they have obviously not read it or sent a rubbish message then It's a delete.
Sometimes I've had abuse back
And the but why??
But other times I've had a thankyou anyway reply. |
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