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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi, just wondering what people's thoughts were. I've been talking, text and calls with the lady of a couple and all appears well.
Normally I meet for a social first, but she has asked me whether I'd like to go to theirs straight away. In principle I don't really have any issues with this, but I just wondered what you all have done/would do....would you always meet publicly first? |
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"Hi, just wondering what people's thoughts were. I've been talking, text and calls with the lady of a couple and all appears well.
Normally I meet for a social first, but she has asked me whether I'd like to go to theirs straight away. In principle I don't really have any issues with this, but I just wondered what you all have done/would do....would you always meet publicly first? "
We always meet men at our place because doing so negates the need to whisper and none of them have had any qualms about doing so or got here to find that I am not part of a couple but a lone gay man who pretends that I am part of a couple to get single men to come into my parlour so that I can have my wicked way with them.  |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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Ive met people at theirs for the first meet but I make it clear that if we dont click we wont play, and Im comfortable enough having a brew, saying that I dont want to play and then leaving.
But if you feel that meeting at theirs would put you under pressure to play whether you wanted to or not, or if you feel at all unsure about it, then I think a quick drink in the pub round the corner is probably a good idea. |
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"Hi, just wondering what people's thoughts were. I've been talking, text and calls with the lady of a couple and all appears well.
Normally I meet for a social first, but she has asked me whether I'd like to go to theirs straight away. In principle I don't really have any issues with this, but I just wondered what you all have done/would do....would you always meet publicly first? "
It sounds like you have established some form of rapport with them, if they are comfortable enought with you to invite you to theirs then things seem to be going well.
Just because you are going to theirs, doesnt mean you cant walk away if the situation requires it.
At the end of the day, how do you feel about it?
Go with your gut instinct.
If you are still unsure, explain this to them and ask to meet somewhere close for a look-see. If they are as genuine as they sound, this shouldnt be a pproblem.
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I always meet at home, i dont do social meets. Simply because its much easier for guys to come straight here and i always chat and get to know them in advance until i feel 100% comfortable. But i had a conversation with a guy the other week who i met and he was nervous about coming over, he had only had a couple of meets previously. He told me when we where just chit chatting afterwards and to be honest i didnt realize or hadnt thought about some of the things he said. Its just as daunting for single guys as it is for anyone but im sure you will be okxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I think if I hadn't spoken to the lady of the couple, warning bells would be ringing and I wouldn't be even thinking about it.
Good to hear what your perspective is though |
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"I think if I hadn't spoken to the lady of the couple, warning bells would be ringing and I wouldn't be even thinking about it.
Good to hear what your perspective is though "
I obviously dont know the couple, but youve spoken to the lady, she asked if you wanted to go to theirs didnt kind of force it on you. In a very quick assumption i would say go for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nearly all our private meets have involved meeting at the other people's house straight away! We find we get a gut feeling about them by messaging etc and usually chat on the phone beforehand! Never had a problem and doesnt waste time!! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Only you can decide if you're prepared to forgo your own rules for a meet.
If their profile states they don't do social meets, then you knew the score. If you don't feel comfortable why contemplate it?
I met one playmate three times socially before we played. Considering I have restraints on my bed, a selection of gags, whips, masks, dildos etc he had to feel comfortable and relaxed to come to my home.
That's what its about...fun for all involved.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Only you can decide if you're prepared to forgo your own rules for a meet.
If their profile states they don't do social meets, then you knew the score. If you don't feel comfortable why contemplate it?
I met one playmate three times socially before we played. Considering I have restraints on my bed, a selection of gags, whips, masks, dildos etc he had to feel comfortable and relaxed to come to my home.
That's what its about...fun for all involved. "
It's not that I don't feel comfortable with it at all, I suppose I was just being a tad nosey to what everyone else did |
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