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Not all Asian guys are the same
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Really think people need to not tie asian guys all In the same brush we are not all the same there are not so nice and pushy people in all ethnic backgrounds so you wouldn't rule every one out !!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Really think people need to not tie asian guys all In the same brush we are not all the same there are not so nice and pushy people in all ethnic backgrounds so you wouldn't rule every one out !!!!!!"
All down to ignorance and reading gutter media I fear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t understand why Asian guys get such a bad rep. Especially on here.
Nobody ever goes deeper into explaining their thoughts other than the cliché “it’s a preference”.
Personally, some of the most polite and attractive men and women I’ve ever met have been Asian. Some of the worst people I’ve ever met have been white. Do I think their wthnkcity was linked to those things? Nope. Race doesn’t dictate anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are all single guys, married guys, couples single ladies, black guys, Korean, Welsh, American etc etc the same?  "
No but you don’t see 'Sorry, no Welsh or Americans'' on profiles. |
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People do stereotype based on their experience and observation. Some made their decision based on it and I think it should be fine.
I am also an Asian (south east asian) and I have met and fancy Asian (south asian. Not sure who you meant by Asian). I tell you this in case people want to accuse me of being racist (their rights).
But don't you think moaning about people not wanting to meet you based on your ethnicity is a kind of being 'pushy'? |
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By *halMan
over a year ago
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"I don’t understand why Asian guys get such a bad rep. Especially on here.
Nobody ever goes deeper into explaining their thoughts other than the cliché “it’s a preference”.
Personally, some of the most polite and attractive men and women I’ve ever met have been Asian. Some of the worst people I’ve ever met have been white. Do I think their wthnkcity was linked to those things? Nope. Race doesn’t dictate anything."
 ain’t that the truth.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t understand why Asian guys get such a bad rep. Especially on here.
Nobody ever goes deeper into explaining their thoughts other than the cliché “it’s a preference”.
Personally, some of the most polite and attractive men and women I’ve ever met have been Asian. Some of the worst people I’ve ever met have been white. Do I think their wthnkcity was linked to those things? Nope. Race doesn’t dictate anything."
we live in an asian/indian/muslim/pakistani area and have faced racism towards us on multiple occasions even to the point of mr getting punched for walking up a street.not gonna say everyone is like this as mr has also worked in a asian/indian/muslim/pakistani warehouse where tgey was great to get on with but yeah experiences do decide such things.still is not racist if we choose not to play with certain colours. |
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"Are all single guys, married guys, couples single ladies, black guys, Korean, Welsh, American etc etc the same?
No but you don’t see 'Sorry, no Welsh or Americans'' on profiles. "
But you often see 'white only' or 'black only'. Even 'sorry - no white guys'.I guess it's a personal choice ….whatever gets us going I suppose.... |
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I work in a muslin based company
there are only 2 white males and 4 white females the works are mainly Muslim ladies 1 Asian Male they are so nice to get on with but that's where it stops at work.
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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I live in a largely Muslim area and I have seen people at both ends of the spectrum. A large portion of the Muslim males I've found to be rude, disrespectful and quite sleazy. Having said that, I've met some lovely people, an Iraqi family invited my daughter and I to their New Years celebration and it was very interesting to find out more about how they celebrate.
It's true that there are good in every race/religion/community etc. |
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Bad Apples from all races i agree. However, in my experiences at clubs, there's only once race I've seen walk in a tight bunch of 3-5 guys, not speaking English, not trying to chat to anyone, but then trying to put themselves inside women who are playing with others at the time, without asking or even trying to ask them if it's ok to do so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Preferences."
“Preferences” are meant to be about what you like. It’s a positive term. A preference isn’t stating what and who you dislike.
People misuse that term on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t understand why Asian guys get such a bad rep. Especially on here.
Nobody ever goes deeper into explaining their thoughts other than the cliché “it’s a preference”.
Personally, some of the most polite and attractive men and women I’ve ever met have been Asian. Some of the worst people I’ve ever met have been white. Do I think their wthnkcity was linked to those things? Nope. Race doesn’t dictate anything."
There have been a few posts in the past about Asian guys at clubs being "grabby" and disrespectful. I've never been to a club, so I can't confirm that but I would imagine you get "grabby" types in all races. I'm mixed-race (African/Asian - think Tiger Woods but fatter!) but I don't tend to go for either Asian or African women. My preference is for blue-eyed blondes, and there ain't many of them from my ethnicity! |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Preferences.
“Preferences” are meant to be about what you like. It’s a positive term. A preference isn’t stating what and who you dislike.
People misuse that term on here."
I have a preference for people that aren't dickheads  |
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By *m389Man
over a year ago
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Asian is very very broad. Its a bit like saying no westerners, basically a huge chunk of the world.
If you go to some places in Asia they will discriminate against westerners no bother. Even call girls won’t even service westerners because they’re perceived as rude and crude.
In a sense it works both ways. |
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"I don’t understand why Asian guys get such a bad rep. Especially on here.
Nobody ever goes deeper into explaining their thoughts other than the cliché “it’s a preference”.
Personally, some of the most polite and attractive men and women I’ve ever met have been Asian. Some of the worst people I’ve ever met have been white. Do I think their wthnkcity was linked to those things? Nope. Race doesn’t dictate anything."
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By *halMan
over a year ago
North West |
"I live in a largely Muslim area and I have seen people at both ends of the spectrum. A large portion of the Muslim males I've found to be rude, disrespectful and quite sleazy. Having said that, I've met some lovely people, an Iraqi family invited my daughter and I to their New Years celebration and it was very interesting to find out more about how they celebrate.
It's true that there are good in every race/religion/community etc."
Absolutely
It only takes 1 idiot for everyone to be tarnished with the same brush.....
You can do a million good things but if you do 1 bad thing that’s the only thing people remember unfortunately.... |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
"We have met some nice Asian guys. "
Same as. We treat every individual the same and if you're not for us it will have absolutely nothing to do with your race but your attitude, behaviour or lack of sexual attraction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am out south Asian origin but I find, repeat preference and just be polite.
Each to there own, live and let live.
The same way I know what I like, other people know what they like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Preferences.
“Preferences” are meant to be about what you like. It’s a positive term. A preference isn’t stating what and who you dislike.
People misuse that term on here.
I have a preference for people that aren't dickheads "
Dickheads are everywhere, colour shouldn't come into it..if you are a dick then people will soon suss you out... |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Preferences.
“Preferences” are meant to be about what you like. It’s a positive term. A preference isn’t stating what and who you dislike.
People misuse that term on here.
I have a preference for people that aren't dickheads
Dickheads are everywhere, colour shouldn't come into it..if you are a dick then people will soon suss you out..."
Exactly! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m Asian, granted it puts some people off but on the whole I don’t think it stops me getting meets, I’ve had quite a few meets through fab over the years.
Only once have I suffered racist abuse on here but to be honest I just find people like that narrow minded. |
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By *om girlCouple (FF)
over a year ago
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All Asain are not the same some good some bad like every other race..but my experience with some hasn't been good some rude arragant
But what always has puzzled me why it's 90% Asain men playing and never the Asain wife's girlfriend etc...as I would love to play with some...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All Asain are not the same some good some bad like every other race..but my experience with some hasn't been good some rude arragant
But what always has puzzled me why it's 90% Asain men playing and never the Asain wife's girlfriend etc...as I would love to play with some...
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We are a new Indian origin couple on Fab and our observations are as follows :-
1. Skin colour/ethnicity has no correlation re personality ie lots of nice people from diff races and equally bad people across every race.
2. We don’t ever meet anyone who says a race is not our preference as this goes against our basic values.
3. To date we have had timewasters contact us across every race and every sex to the extent we pretty much know from a mail who is genuine and is likely to meets our requirements and who isn’t.
4. Instead of thinking about why some people may be shallow or misguided, we concentrate on those who are not and have met to date two couples who have become great friends.
Anyway enough said. 2 pence worth in the pot. |
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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago
Bristol East |
"Really think people need to not tie asian guys all In the same brush we are not all the same there are not so nice and pushy people in all ethnic backgrounds so you wouldn't rule every one out !!!!!!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are all different with individual sociology-economic experiences shaping us. Sometimes an Asian person’s parental conditioning conflicts with the societal but we all make our our decisions about our likes and dislikes. Personally, I find sex with Asian men more fulfilling, their behaviour in bed is more giving and somewhat meaningful even if it’s a nsa fuck |
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
Ramsgate |
There are good and bad in every group and I don’t believe everything I see and hear in the media. Speaking from experience, I’ve not met many Asian guys, but the ones I’ve met have been great. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Really think people need to not tie asian guys all In the same brush we are not all the same there are not so nice and pushy people in all ethnic backgrounds so you wouldn't rule every one out !!!!!!"
I like Asian men, intelligent articulate and classy ones  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Really think people need to not tie asian guys all In the same brush we are not all the same there are not so nice and pushy people in all ethnic backgrounds so you wouldn't rule every one out !!!!!!
I like Asian men, intelligent articulate and classy ones "
Well some of us are  |
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"I live in a largely Muslim area and I have seen people at both ends of the spectrum. A large portion of the Muslim males I've found to be rude, disrespectful and quite sleazy. Having said that, I've met some lovely people, an Iraqi family invited my daughter and I to their New Years celebration and it was very interesting to find out more about how they celebrate.
It's true that there are good in every race/religion/community etc."
Being Asian & being Muslim are 2 different things. Educate yourself |
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It's a bullshit thing to say no asians.
It's just a skin colour. You get sexy, articulate, respectful horny humans no matter what the colour of their skin is.
Imagine being asian and reading that over and over again?
Its stereotyping a huge population as them all being the same
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I live in a largely Muslim area and I have seen people at both ends of the spectrum. A large portion of the Muslim males I've found to be rude, disrespectful and quite sleazy. Having said that, I've met some lovely people, an Iraqi family invited my daughter and I to their New Years celebration and it was very interesting to find out more about how they celebrate.
It's true that there are good in every race/religion/community etc.
Being Asian & being Muslim are 2 different things. Educate yourself "
I was solely talking about Muslim people hence why I specified the religion. So get off your high horse. |
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"It's a bullshit thing to say no asians.
It's just a skin colour. You get sexy, articulate, respectful horny humans no matter what the colour of their skin is.
Imagine being asian and reading that over and over again?
Its stereotyping a huge population as them all being the same
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it’s about attraction if Asian black white or whatever it’s wveryones choice it’s not racist its preference or are we all supposed to like the same go PC |
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By *iyuWoman
over a year ago
Cheltenham |
I adore Asian guys! I've just been unlucky to have many mail me and turn out to be utter sleaze balls. But then I get a lot of mail from a huge demographic and have experienced the same thing.
Also preference is a thing however I don't particularly like profiles who write stuff like 'sorry no black/white/Asian men' as it reminds me of 'whites only' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a bullshit thing to say no asians.
It's just a skin colour. You get sexy, articulate, respectful horny humans no matter what the colour of their skin is.
Imagine being asian and reading that over and over again?
Its stereotyping a huge population as them all being the same
it’s about attraction if Asian black white or whatever it’s wveryones choice it’s not racist its preference or are we all supposed to like the same go PC "
I’m sure I’ve said this already but preference is meant to be about what you like and enjoy. If your “preference” is to say that you dislike a whole ethnicity, that’s not preference at all.
I agree everyone can find whoever the want attractive or unattractive. But at least admit it’s not preference if you’re judging a whole race based on nothing other than their race. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a bullshit thing to say no asians.
It's just a skin colour. You get sexy, articulate, respectful horny humans no matter what the colour of their skin is.
Imagine being asian and reading that over and over again?
Its stereotyping a huge population as them all being the same
it’s about attraction if Asian black white or whatever it’s wveryones choice it’s not racist its preference or are we all supposed to like the same go PC "
Agree.
I do think though that people should post what they prefer on their profile as opposed to what they don’t like.
So instead of “Won’t meet Asians” put “Seeking black & white males”.
It’s a bit more positive I think. That’s what I do on my profile, because I think listing a bunch of negatives or “don’ts” can make your profile overall come across negative.  |
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I had a bad experience a few weeks ago at a club, an Asian guy asked if I wanted fun and I said no thank you but he proceeded to touch me. That was just one male. They obviously aren’t all the same and it would be silly to say they’re all like that. |
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It's absolutely the right of any person to have their preference, they have no requirement to justify it either, some do on their profiles and it saves wasting people's time.
As for Asians specifically and not withstanding individuals on individual merit, Asians from Muslim backgrounds are perceived by this nation as having backwards views on women and equality. Oriental Asian men are stereotyped as small in stature/undesirable and it's far more normal in Western society to see a western man with oriental woman rather than the other way around.
The above is my opinion on where i believe the generalist sentiment of western swingers lie, it will obviously not be true for all.
With regard to personal experience, in clubs we avoid Pakistani and Arab origin Asians like the plague, majority are I'll mannered and clueless on how to socially interact in a swinging environment, sadly those that are, will not now have the light of day with us, quite possibly our loss.
Obviously we don't meet gingers either |
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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago
Dorset |
We like what we like, it's different for everyone, don't waste your time and ours if it states it clearly in the profile, there's no confusion, then pass us by, we do it all the time, it's our choice and no amount of whingeing will alter it.  |
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By *ediMan
over a year ago
Leeds |
I think its great those that single out certain races they dont want to meet on their profile, it makes it easier for me to avoid them, as I much prefer to meet like minded people who base preferences on actual attractiveness rather then which part of the world they originate from. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think its great those that single out certain races they dont want to meet on their profile, it makes it easier for me to avoid them, as I much prefer to meet like minded people who base preferences on actual attractiveness rather then which part of the world they originate from."
You do know that can affect facial features and therefore attractiveness, for some, no?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’re not all that bad. But, reality of it all is that it does get quite difficult on here sometimes and I guess you really do have to stand out.
However, it’s not the be all and end all. You’ll find someone who’s attracted to you. One way or another.
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By the way not all Asians are Muslims either. I’m an Asian and catholic. I guess some have ruined it for us all. It’s a shame I have met so many nice people here and still have very good contacts with them even the ones I met years ago. Having said all this, I totally understand the fear some have about Asians as some Asians have clearly ruined it. Also Asians have to respect preference of others. If preference means no Asians it doesn’t necessarily mean racism ( by the way a word I hate and so overly used) it’s their preference. Have a fab day everyone |
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Surely that's fair comment if the reason is assumptions about attitudes, culture and/or beliefs. But surely if its a question of appearance that puts them off then that is just one of them, physical attraction is very subjective. |
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Because of these “persistent pushy guys” it has really affected the rest of our chances to interact with others, a lot of us Asian guys are handsome, can hold a conversation and are very respectful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because of these “persistent pushy guys” it has really affected the rest of our chances to interact with others, a lot of us Asian guys are handsome, can hold a conversation and are very respectful."
There isn’t many of those guys. It’s just an excuse |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t understand why Asian guys get such a bad rep. Especially on here.
Nobody ever goes deeper into explaining their thoughts other than the cliché “it’s a preference”.
Personally, some of the most polite and attractive men and women I’ve ever met have been Asian. Some of the worst people I’ve ever met have been white. Do I think their wthnkcity was linked to those things? Nope. Race doesn’t dictate anything.
There have been a few posts in the past about Asian guys at clubs being "grabby" and disrespectful. I've never been to a club, so I can't confirm that but I would imagine you get "grabby" types in all races. I'm mixed-race (African/Asian - think Tiger Woods but fatter!) but I don't tend to go for either Asian or African women. My preference is for blue-eyed blondes, and there ain't many of them from my ethnicity!"
I'm mixed race (white/black) and have a preference for South Asian guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive got lots of asian friends no tarring here! If your good with me im good with you.
I presume you mean on a profile anyway, its personal preference... im attracted to mixed race- black girls but dont generalise that on my profile as its not be all and end all. |
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"I don’t understand why Asian guys get such a bad rep. Especially on here.
Nobody ever goes deeper into explaining their thoughts other than the cliché “it’s a preference”.
Personally, some of the most polite and attractive men and women I’ve ever met have been Asian. Some of the worst people I’ve ever met have been white. Do I think their wthnkcity was linked to those things? Nope. Race doesn’t dictate anything.
There have been a few posts in the past about Asian guys at clubs being "grabby" and disrespectful. I've never been to a club, so I can't confirm that but I would imagine you get "grabby" types in all races. I'm mixed-race (African/Asian - think Tiger Woods but fatter!) but I don't tend to go for either Asian or African women. My preference is for blue-eyed blondes, and there ain't many of them from my ethnicity!
I'm mixed race (white/black) and have a preference for South Asian guys. "
Hi your preference is 1 year above my age! Do I wait a year before I message or better yet do you inbox me and we can have a chat X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i dont think its bad rep, i hope its just they arent attracted to them.
Ive always had a thing for Asians so am of course biased.
But an ass is an ass, irrespective of race.
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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Problem is there appears to be a memetic war against western society, which is being generalised by many.
In an odd way, can’t understand why.
Oh, is it the same memetic value with the IRA
First or even the Second World War?
Even the 100 year war, which lasted 116 year.
Anthropology creates certain patterns, of memetics, is it an odd thing?
No
Can it be dealt with? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Problem is there appears to be a memetic war against western society, which is being generalised by many.
In an odd way, can’t understand why.
Oh, is it the same memetic value with the IRA
First or even the Second World War?
Even the 100 year war, which lasted 116 year.
Anthropology creates certain patterns, of memetics, is it an odd thing?
No
Can it be dealt with?"
I wish I understood what this means |
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By *.S..Man 19 weeks ago
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"I don’t understand why Asian guys get such a bad rep. Especially on here.
Nobody ever goes deeper into explaining their thoughts other than the cliché “it’s a preference”.
Personally, some of the most polite and attractive men and women I’ve ever met have been Asian. Some of the worst people I’ve ever met have been white. Do I think their wthnkcity was linked to those things? Nope. Race doesn’t dictate anything."
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"They are stereotyped for not being good looking or attractive. "
I'm not sure that is the case at all. I think that there is more of a stereotype of guys being rude or disrespectful... personally we prefer to ignore stereotypes and allow individuals to be individual.
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"They are stereotyped for not being good looking or attractive.
We believe sex has to be with choice and not forced, if someone doesn’t like it then it’s their choice. Period"
Kya bund ha ma'am g fabulous |
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