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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So..I'm someone who likes to be clean both before and after any meet. As like most ppl I work druing the day which means I sometimes meet on the way home (ususally because person is close to work)..is it wrong of me then to request using their shower to freshen up if I'm meeting someone at their place/at their hotel?
I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was thinking the same...its just sometimes I feel like the other party must be thinking (why not just go home and shower) ...but yes I do msg first and ask if its ok to freshen up.
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"So..I'm someone who likes to be clean both before and after any meet. As like most ppl I work druing the day which means I sometimes meet on the way home (ususally because person is close to work)..is it wrong of me then to request using their shower to freshen up if I'm meeting someone at their place/at their hotel?
I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?
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I wouldn’t let anyone visit my home.
I would expect them to have organised themselves better re timing so they would go home and use their own facilities....
It’s not romantic on a meet them heading straight for the shower.....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So..I'm someone who likes to be clean both before and after any meet. As like most ppl I work druing the day which means I sometimes meet on the way home (ususally because person is close to work)..is it wrong of me then to request using their shower to freshen up if I'm meeting someone at their place/at their hotel?
I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?
I wouldn’t let anyone visit my home.
I would expect them to have organised themselves better re timing so they would go home and use their own facilities....
It’s not romantic on a meet them heading straight for the shower..... "
I should have clarified I dont ask to take a wash every time I meet someone. On pre-planned meets I do wash/freshen up...however as explained at the start some times when a sudden meet is on the cards I will ask.
As for meeting at home...thats a personal choice. Some don't but others do.
As for going home first, not always possible depending on where said meet is and espcially not if it's a sudden meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would ask no problem and expect them to ask too. Due to shifts I may be starting to see one of my regular partners after work so he knows I'll be requiring a shower first |
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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago
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When we have a meet or go to a party even, I always ask to use their shower if we've left home (and showered) more than an hour. Yes, we like to be shower fresh when playing and we expect the same from whom we're playing with.
I absolutely hate staleness.
So OP, you are quite right, carry on showering. |
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"So..I'm someone who likes to be clean both before and after any meet. As like most ppl I work druing the day which means I sometimes meet on the way home (ususally because person is close to work)..is it wrong of me then to request using their shower to freshen up if I'm meeting someone at their place/at their hotel?
I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?
I wouldn’t let anyone visit my home.
I would expect them to have organised themselves better re timing so they would go home and use their own facilities....
It’s not romantic on a meet them heading straight for the shower.....
I should have clarified I dont ask to take a wash every time I meet someone. On pre-planned meets I do wash/freshen up...however as explained at the start some times when a sudden meet is on the cards I will ask.
As for meeting at home...thats a personal choice. Some don't but others do.
As for going home first, not always possible depending on where said meet is and espcially not if it's a sudden meet.
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OP so you are mainly talking about meeting someone you already know?
So with the sudden meets, you are happy to get a shower at theirs while leaving your wallet exposed while you are in the shower? Surely a security risk is that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why not take a dump in their bog, cut your toenails and put on a pair of their socks whilst you’re at it!! "
Save that for a second meet surely, have you no decorum?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd much prefer someone to ask to use the shower when time has been against them than to discover half way through a meet that they don't know what hygiene is xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So..I'm someone who likes to be clean both before and after any meet. As like most ppl I work druing the day which means I sometimes meet on the way home (ususally because person is close to work)..is it wrong of me then to request using their shower to freshen up if I'm meeting someone at their place/at their hotel?
I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?
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I am always looking to meet while I am working as a delivery driver , I’m not a smelly unclean guy so would thing it’s ok not to have to have showered immediately before meeting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont meet at my home, but if that were the case, i would just meet them later, so they had time to go home and shower. "
I will add, that if they are someone I've gotten to know. The situation would be different and they could happily use my shower, upon arrival  |
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I'd have that conversation first.
I have done this a couple of times.
It wasn't a problem. I recently had a candle lit bath ran for me accompanied by a glass of wine whist relaxing in the bath. Now that was agood night.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has anyone woke up in the morning and ended up having sex with there partner ?
Did you both get up and have a shower before you have sex or Was it spontaneous ? |
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"Why not take a dump in their bog, cut your toenails and put on a pair of their socks whilst you’re at it!!
Save that for a second meet surely, have you no decorum? "
Then really make yourself comfortable. Perhaps take a short nap, 20 minutes of home pilates and make a sandwich...ahhh home at last! |
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Some of us have long commutes. For me, nipping home for a shower in order to meet someone near my place of work would defeat the purpose of meeting near work by introducing a two and a half hour round trip.
I get the impression OP is in a similar situation. |
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"So..I'm someone who likes to be clean both before and after any meet. As like most ppl I work druing the day which means I sometimes meet on the way home (ususally because person is close to work)..is it wrong of me then to request using their shower to freshen up if I'm meeting someone at their place/at their hotel?
I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?
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Why I don't meet people after work or who travel far to me. I don't want stinky people and I'm not providing washing facilities!
Afterwards, they can freshen up before leaving after I've dirtied them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So..I'm someone who likes to be clean both before and after any meet. As like most ppl I work druing the day which means I sometimes meet on the way home (ususally because person is close to work)..is it wrong of me then to request using their shower to freshen up if I'm meeting someone at their place/at their hotel?
I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?
I wouldn’t let anyone visit my home.
I would expect them to have organised themselves better re timing so they would go home and use their own facilities....
It’s not romantic on a meet them heading straight for the shower.....
I should have clarified I dont ask to take a wash every time I meet someone. On pre-planned meets I do wash/freshen up...however as explained at the start some times when a sudden meet is on the cards I will ask.
As for meeting at home...thats a personal choice. Some don't but others do.
As for going home first, not always possible depending on where said meet is and espcially not if it's a sudden meet.
OP so you are mainly talking about meeting someone you already know?
So with the sudden meets, you are happy to get a shower at theirs while leaving your wallet exposed while you are in the shower? Surely a security risk is that? "
You know you can take your belongings into a bathroom and lock the door.
He might not get a second chance if he smells of sweaty arse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So..I'm someone who likes to be clean both before and after any meet. As like most ppl I work druing the day which means I sometimes meet on the way home (ususally because person is close to work)..is it wrong of me then to request using their shower to freshen up if I'm meeting someone at their place/at their hotel?
I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?
Why I don't meet people after work or who travel far to me. I don't want stinky people and I'm not providing washing facilities!
Afterwards, they can freshen up before leaving after I've dirtied them! "
Is your water on a meter? |
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"So..I'm someone who likes to be clean both before and after any meet. As like most ppl I work druing the day which means I sometimes meet on the way home (ususally because person is close to work)..is it wrong of me then to request using their shower to freshen up if I'm meeting someone at their place/at their hotel?
I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?
I wouldn’t let anyone visit my home.
I would expect them to have organised themselves better re timing so they would go home and use their own facilities....
It’s not romantic on a meet them heading straight for the shower.....
I should have clarified I dont ask to take a wash every time I meet someone. On pre-planned meets I do wash/freshen up...however as explained at the start some times when a sudden meet is on the cards I will ask.
As for meeting at home...thats a personal choice. Some don't but others do.
As for going home first, not always possible depending on where said meet is and espcially not if it's a sudden meet.
OP so you are mainly talking about meeting someone you already know?
So with the sudden meets, you are happy to get a shower at theirs while leaving your wallet exposed while you are in the shower? Surely a security risk is that?
You know you can take your belongings into a bathroom and lock the door.
He might not get a second chance if he smells of sweaty arse."
There may not be a lock on the door and even if the bag was in the bathroom with him he is in the shower. I do know someone this happened to..... |
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We've had many a meet where the chap is on way home. We don't mind at all them asking to take a shower, before we play.
It's not unheard of for them to request another before they leave. So not to smell of my perfume ect.
I would rather they request a shower than not! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Has anyone woke up in the morning and ended up having sex with there partner ?
Did you both get up and have a shower before you have sex or Was it spontaneous ? "
I think in that situation it would be shower after for me, you'd lose some of the snuggliness otherwise |
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"So..I'm someone who likes to be clean both before and after any meet. As like most ppl I work druing the day which means I sometimes meet on the way home (ususally because person is close to work)..is it wrong of me then to request using their shower to freshen up if I'm meeting someone at their place/at their hotel?
I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?
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I'm liking your thinking it's a very subtle way of hinting that they also shower first  |
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I'd expect people to be freshly cleaned for a meet and generally to make their own arrangements. It's feasible to shower at your gym or you could visit a public swimming pool, to shower, if you weren't a gym member. I don't rule out people showering at mine but it's generally better if people arrive and are good to go, for me. |
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