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"Up ... I think it's more easy to find black man for white women then black women for white guy " You could be right on that point. | |||
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"I wonder if it's normal, whatever normality means. I am a forty-year-old and have never had sexual contact with a black woman, for a few months I have not thought about anything else. Even though I only watch porn movies with black women, I'm beginning to suspect that white women have stopped to excite me. " That's fetish not attraction. It means you've conditioned your brain so it's just responding to the information (porn) that you're watching every night. Most women (black or not) don't really enjoy meeting with someone who sees them as a vehicle to act out the porn they watch. | |||
"I wonder if it's normal, whatever normality means. I am a forty-year-old and have never had sexual contact with a black woman, for a few months I have not thought about anything else. Even though I only watch porn movies with black women, I'm beginning to suspect that white women have stopped to excite me. That's fetish not attraction. It means you've conditioned your brain so it's just responding to the information (porn) that you're watching every night. Most women (black or not) don't really enjoy meeting with someone who sees them as a vehicle to act out the porn they watch. " This ^^^ is brilliantly put my friend! | |||
"Most black women wont meet someone that just wants to meet them to be a tick off a list or just because there black. Guys on the other hand..." Basically. I wont even consider meeting anyone who mentions race when they speak to me, either on here nor in real life. I spent a large part of my younger years being insecure about how my 'area' looks because of nonsense comments made by white guys so if race is a factor is a straight no for me. | |||
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"Hold on, if white guy looking for black women and focused on white women more than other (white etc) just because black body/skin is more attractive to me , is wrong, but when women say "looking just for black guy" this is completely correct??? WTF" I suspect if you were genuinely more attracted to black women than white you wouldn't be posting about being 40 and never slept with a black woman? | |||
"Hold on, if white guy looking for black women and focused on white women more than other (white etc) just because black body/skin is more attractive to me , is wrong, but when women say "looking just for black guy" this is completely correct??? WTF I suspect if you were genuinely more attracted to black women than white you wouldn't be posting about being 40 and never slept with a black woman?" | |||
"Hold on, if white guy looking for black women and focused on white women more than other (white etc) just because black body/skin is more attractive to me , is wrong, but when women say "looking just for black guy" this is completely correct??? WTF I suspect if you were genuinely more attracted to black women than white you wouldn't be posting about being 40 and never slept with a black woman?" Just because I'm not lucky enough | |||
"Hold on, if white guy looking for black women and focused on white women more than other (white etc) just because black body/skin is more attractive to me , is wrong, but when women say "looking just for black guy" this is completely correct??? WTF" Think you will have more luck looking for a black male  | |||
"Hold on, if white guy looking for black women and focused on white women more than other (white etc) just because black body/skin is more attractive to me , is wrong, but when women say "looking just for black guy" this is completely correct??? WTF I suspect if you were genuinely more attracted to black women than white you wouldn't be posting about being 40 and never slept with a black woman? Just because I'm not lucky enough" Something tells me it's not "luck" that is the factor here | |||
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"Up ... I think it's more easy to find black man for white women then black women for white guy " Travel down south especially London or Birmingham for swingers events. | |||
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"Hold on, if white guy looking for black women and focused on white women more than other (white etc) just because black body/skin is more attractive to me , is wrong, but when women say "looking just for black guy" this is completely correct??? WTF" I personally consider that attitude to be fetishism as well as racist. There are black men seemingly happy to be in that role but also plenty of black men find it a disappointing discovery when chatting that they're considered just a BBC and not an actual human with hopes fears dreams etc. | |||
"Hold on, if white guy looking for black women and focused on white women more than other (white etc) just because black body/skin is more attractive to me , is wrong, but when women say "looking just for black guy" this is completely correct??? WTF I personally consider that attitude to be fetishism as well as racist. There are black men seemingly happy to be in that role but also plenty of black men find it a disappointing discovery when chatting that they're considered just a BBC and not an actual human with hopes fears dreams etc." Majority of those I've seen on here love it if it gets them laid. The amount of black guys with bbc/chocolate in their user names fair outweighs those who dont | |||
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"I wonder if it's normal, whatever normality means. I am a forty-year-old and have never had sexual contact with a black woman, for a few months I have not thought about anything else. Even though I only watch porn movies with black women, I'm beginning to suspect that white women have stopped to excite me. That's fetish not attraction. It means you've conditioned your brain so it's just responding to the information (porn) that you're watching every night. Most women (black or not) don't really enjoy meeting with someone who sees them as a vehicle to act out the porn they watch. " I was going to say exactly the same thing. I’m white as they come so I can’t relate to that particular aggravation, but the amount I get fetishised for being older, having red hair, being bi, having big boobs etc is hugely annoying. So I can only imagine that being fetishised for the colour of your skin is way worse. | |||
"Hold on, if white guy looking for black women and focused on white women more than other (white etc) just because black body/skin is more attractive to me , is wrong, but when women say "looking just for black guy" this is completely correct??? WTF" No, it’s not. It’s not ok to fetishise anyone for things outside their control such as skin colour, whatever gender is doing it. However I’ve noticed on here that there are a lot of black men who seem to be happy to play into the “BBC” thing - doesn’t make it right for anyone to say that’s all they want, just means they’re happy to use it to their advantage. I imagine black women probably wouldn’t feel the same. | |||
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"I wonder if it's normal, whatever normality means. I am a forty-year-old and have never had sexual contact with a black woman, for a few months I have not thought about anything else. Even though I only watch porn movies with black women, I'm beginning to suspect that white women have stopped to excite me. That's fetish not attraction. It means you've conditioned your brain so it's just responding to the information (porn) that you're watching every night. Most women (black or not) don't really enjoy meeting with someone who sees them as a vehicle to act out the porn they watch. " Sounds spot on   | |||
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"Hold on, if white guy looking for black women and focused on white women more than other (white etc) just because black body/skin is more attractive to me , is wrong, but when women say "looking just for black guy" this is completely correct??? WTF I personally consider that attitude to be fetishism as well as racist. There are black men seemingly happy to be in that role but also plenty of black men find it a disappointing discovery when chatting that they're considered just a BBC and not an actual human with hopes fears dreams etc. Majority of those I've seen on here love it if it gets them laid. The amount of black guys with bbc/chocolate in their user names fair outweighs those who dont " I've been on here a fair few times and none of my usernames have involved BBC. I'm I doing it wrong | |||
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"Ain’t there any white man fan clubs or bwc scenes at any clubs local to you op "  | |||
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"I've always found black ladies very attractive. More so than white women in general, but whenever I've had the chance to chat with a black woman and told them this.. I get the feeling they don't believe me or they think its a fettish thing. It's not though, I know what I like. " I wouldn't end the conversation as soon as those words were said. Not sure why you feel the need to say it. I've met white guys on here and have never ever felt the need to go on about how much I love white men, it screams fetishisation | |||
"I've always found black ladies very attractive. More so than white women in general, but whenever I've had the chance to chat with a black woman and told them this.. I get the feeling they don't believe me or they think its a fettish thing. It's not though, I know what I like. I wouldn't end the conversation as soon as those words were said. Not sure why you feel the need to say it. I've met white guys on here and have never ever felt the need to go on about how much I love white men, it screams fetishisation" **would end the conversation, sorry | |||
" I would end the conversation as soon as those words were said. Not sure why you feel the need to say it. " I agree. I get fetishised occasionally. When it happens I'm out. | |||
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"I've always found black ladies very attractive. More so than white women in general, but whenever I've had the chance to chat with a black woman and told them this.. I get the feeling they don't believe me or they think its a fettish thing. It's not though, I know what I like. I wouldn't end the conversation as soon as those words were said. Not sure why you feel the need to say it. I've met white guys on here and have never ever felt the need to go on about how much I love white men, it screams fetishisation **would end the conversation, sorry " I'm just wondering here,Even if it is fetishing it, people fetishise a lot of things(and a place like this seems suited to fetishes) Is it wrong for people to fetishise black women,white women or any women? Im asking a genuine question here I'm unsure why it's an issue, or am I missing something here? | |||
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"I dislike being fetishised because I feel like it makes the rest of me unimportant to the person. They only want me because of this one tiny thing that isn't that important to me. Others may feel differently. That's up to them. But that's why I don't like it. " This makes sense. Although I think the flip side is that if your on fab looking to fulfil fantasys then maybe it doesn't matter so much what attracts people to you as long as they are like minded fun wise etc. But we are all different and what suits some doesn't suit others so a understand your point of view | |||
"I've always found black ladies very attractive. More so than white women in general, but whenever I've had the chance to chat with a black woman and told them this.. I get the feeling they don't believe me or they think its a fettish thing. It's not though, I know what I like. I wouldn't end the conversation as soon as those words were said. Not sure why you feel the need to say it. I've met white guys on here and have never ever felt the need to go on about how much I love white men, it screams fetishisation **would end the conversation, sorry I'm just wondering here,Even if it is fetishing it, people fetishise a lot of things(and a place like this seems suited to fetishes) Is it wrong for people to fetishise black women,white women or any women? Im asking a genuine question here I'm unsure why it's an issue, or am I missing something here? " If a group of black women are saying they dont enjoy meeting men who make a big deal about their race it's not really upto anyone else to question whether they should be ok with it or not. I dont entertain men who mention race in real life not just on fab | |||
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"One of my earliest girlfriends was a black girl called Polly. We only went out for about 6 months. Since then I have met black women (and men) in clubs. Apart from a different colour of skin they are no different to white people x " Exactly!!! People act like where from a different planet some times | |||
"I've always found black ladies very attractive. More so than white women in general, but whenever I've had the chance to chat with a black woman and told them this.. I get the feeling they don't believe me or they think its a fettish thing. It's not though, I know what I like. I wouldn't end the conversation as soon as those words were said. Not sure why you feel the need to say it. I've met white guys on here and have never ever felt the need to go on about how much I love white men, it screams fetishisation **would end the conversation, sorry I'm just wondering here,Even if it is fetishing it, people fetishise a lot of things(and a place like this seems suited to fetishes) Is it wrong for people to fetishise black women,white women or any women? Im asking a genuine question here I'm unsure why it's an issue, or am I missing something here? If a group of black women are saying they dont enjoy meeting men who make a big deal about their race it's not really upto anyone else to question whether they should be ok with it or not. I dont entertain men who mention race in real life not just on fab" I'm not questioning whether they/you are ok with it - that is entirely up to them/you, I take no issue with people's preferences I'm just asking what's wrong with someone fetishising someone else for any reason, be it race, whatever. It's a fair question I'm just curious | |||
"And it's never just "oh I find black women more attractive" it's almost ALWAYS escalates to smack talking other races in a weird bid to try and make us feel superior, making gross comments about our body parts, namely the colour of our genitals/areolas, asking does down there taste like chocolate (yes ive had that one), 100s of question about where we're from, as if it's impossible for us to be born in this country, comments about our 'attitude' characteristics which are present in all over races but seem to be an issue in black women, comments about our hair, jokes about making jerk chicken on a meet (yes I've had this one as well) comments assuming that we all only date black men, then comments about black women who do only date black men calling them close minded and ignorant (never the thought that they dont want to deal with the above) Do you understand now? " You mean it doesn't taste like chocolate down there?  | |||
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"Black pussy tastes nice . Black women love their pussy eaten and their ass holes rimmed . A lot of black men won’t do oral on a woman . " Really? | |||
"Black pussy tastes nice . Black women love their pussy eaten and their ass holes rimmed . A lot of black men won’t do oral on a woman . " And comments like this well LOL | |||
"Black pussy tastes nice . Black women love their pussy eaten and their ass holes rimmed . A lot of black men won’t do oral on a woman . And comments like this well LOL " So it's upto us white guys to sort this out | |||
"I've always found black ladies very attractive. More so than white women in general, but whenever I've had the chance to chat with a black woman and told them this.. I get the feeling they don't believe me or they think its a fettish thing. It's not though, I know what I like. I wouldn't end the conversation as soon as those words were said. Not sure why you feel the need to say it. I've met white guys on here and have never ever felt the need to go on about how much I love white men, it screams fetishisation **would end the conversation, sorry I'm just wondering here,Even if it is fetishing it, people fetishise a lot of things(and a place like this seems suited to fetishes) Is it wrong for people to fetishise black women,white women or any women? Im asking a genuine question here I'm unsure why it's an issue, or am I missing something here? If a group of black women are saying they dont enjoy meeting men who make a big deal about their race it's not really upto anyone else to question whether they should be ok with it or not. I dont entertain men who mention race in real life not just on fab I'm not questioning whether they/you are ok with it - that is entirely up to them/you, I take no issue with people's preferences I'm just asking what's wrong with someone fetishising someone else for any reason, be it race, whatever. It's a fair question I'm just curious " There a person/human. Not some freak show at a circus | |||
"And it's never just "oh I find black women more attractive" it's almost ALWAYS escalates to smack talking other races in a weird bid to try and make us feel superior, making gross comments about our body parts, namely the colour of our genitals/areolas, asking does down there taste like chocolate (yes ive had that one), 100s of question about where we're from, as if it's impossible for us to be born in this country, comments about our 'attitude' characteristics which are present in all over races but seem to be an issue in black women, comments about our hair, jokes about making jerk chicken on a meet (yes I've had this one as well) comments assuming that we all only date black men, then comments about black women who do only date black men calling them close minded and ignorant (never the thought that they dont want to deal with the above) Do you understand now? " Sorry I didn't proof read this but you get the point! | |||
"I've always found black ladies very attractive. More so than white women in general, but whenever I've had the chance to chat with a black woman and told them this.. I get the feeling they don't believe me or they think its a fettish thing. It's not though, I know what I like. I wouldn't end the conversation as soon as those words were said. Not sure why you feel the need to say it. I've met white guys on here and have never ever felt the need to go on about how much I love white men, it screams fetishisation **would end the conversation, sorry I'm just wondering here,Even if it is fetishing it, people fetishise a lot of things(and a place like this seems suited to fetishes) Is it wrong for people to fetishise black women,white women or any women? Im asking a genuine question here I'm unsure why it's an issue, or am I missing something here? If a group of black women are saying they dont enjoy meeting men who make a big deal about their race it's not really upto anyone else to question whether they should be ok with it or not. I dont entertain men who mention race in real life not just on fab I'm not questioning whether they/you are ok with it - that is entirely up to them/you, I take no issue with people's preferences I'm just asking what's wrong with someone fetishising someone else for any reason, be it race, whatever. It's a fair question I'm just curious There a person/human. Not some freak show at a circus " I agree completely. But people fetishise other people/humans all the time for other reasons, so why is this reason different - again I'm just asking, as people fetishise all sorts, but some seem to have taken particular offence to this one. Or are you simply against any fetish? Honest question in case you are | |||
"And it's never just "oh I find black women more attractive" it's almost ALWAYS escalates to smack talking other races in a weird bid to try and make us feel superior, making gross comments about our body parts, namely the colour of our genitals/areolas, asking does down there taste like chocolate (yes ive had that one), 100s of question about where we're from, as if it's impossible for us to be born in this country, comments about our 'attitude' characteristics which are present in all over races but seem to be an issue in black women, comments about our hair, jokes about making jerk chicken on a meet (yes I've had this one as well) comments assuming that we all only date black men, then comments about black women who do only date black men calling them close minded and ignorant (never the thought that they dont want to deal with the above) Do you understand now? Sorry I didn't proof read this but you get the point!" This certainly sounds like you have had some really bad experiences with some people fetishised you. Some outright racist remarks to be honest not at all appropriate, especially given the fact they should have been trying to wow you! I honestly sympathise, i do think these weren't necessarily because they fetished black women, whilst they certainly may have, most of what you described is down to racism,poor judgement,being a jerk,stereotyping and other assorted jack-assery! But it's not really simply because those jerks fetishised black women, it's because they were jerks. Whether fetishising is good or bad, it just seems that we should apply the same standards to all(legal) fetishes | |||
"And it's never just "oh I find black women more attractive" it's almost ALWAYS escalates to smack talking other races in a weird bid to try and make us feel superior, making gross comments about our body parts, namely the colour of our genitals/areolas, asking does down there taste like chocolate (yes ive had that one), 100s of question about where we're from, as if it's impossible for us to be born in this country, comments about our 'attitude' characteristics which are present in all over races but seem to be an issue in black women, comments about our hair, jokes about making jerk chicken on a meet (yes I've had this one as well) comments assuming that we all only date black men, then comments about black women who do only date black men calling them close minded and ignorant (never the thought that they dont want to deal with the above) Do you understand now? Sorry I didn't proof read this but you get the point! This certainly sounds like you have had some really bad experiences with some people fetishised you. Some outright racist remarks to be honest not at all appropriate, especially given the fact they should have been trying to wow you! I honestly sympathise, i do think these weren't necessarily because they fetished black women, whilst they certainly may have, most of what you described is down to racism,poor judgement,being a jerk,stereotyping and other assorted jack-assery! But it's not really simply because those jerks fetishised black women, it's because they were jerks. Whether fetishising is good or bad, it just seems that we should apply the same standards to all(legal) fetishes " You've just proved the point. Black people arent a fetish. Lol | |||
"And it's never just "oh I find black women more attractive" it's almost ALWAYS escalates to smack talking other races in a weird bid to try and make us feel superior, making gross comments about our body parts, namely the colour of our genitals/areolas, asking does down there taste like chocolate (yes ive had that one), 100s of question about where we're from, as if it's impossible for us to be born in this country, comments about our 'attitude' characteristics which are present in all over races but seem to be an issue in black women, comments about our hair, jokes about making jerk chicken on a meet (yes I've had this one as well) comments assuming that we all only date black men, then comments about black women who do only date black men calling them close minded and ignorant (never the thought that they dont want to deal with the above) Do you understand now? Sorry I didn't proof read this but you get the point! This certainly sounds like you have had some really bad experiences with some people fetishised you. Some outright racist remarks to be honest not at all appropriate, especially given the fact they should have been trying to wow you! I honestly sympathise, i do think these weren't necessarily because they fetished black women, whilst they certainly may have, most of what you described is down to racism,poor judgement,being a jerk,stereotyping and other assorted jack-assery! But it's not really simply because those jerks fetishised black women, it's because they were jerks. Whether fetishising is good or bad, it just seems that we should apply the same standards to all(legal) fetishes You've just proved the point. Black people arent a fetish. Lol " What point sorry? | |||
"And it's never just "oh I find black women more attractive" it's almost ALWAYS escalates to smack talking other races in a weird bid to try and make us feel superior, making gross comments about our body parts, namely the colour of our genitals/areolas, asking does down there taste like chocolate (yes ive had that one), 100s of question about where we're from, as if it's impossible for us to be born in this country, comments about our 'attitude' characteristics which are present in all over races but seem to be an issue in black women, comments about our hair, jokes about making jerk chicken on a meet (yes I've had this one as well) comments assuming that we all only date black men, then comments about black women who do only date black men calling them close minded and ignorant (never the thought that they dont want to deal with the above) Do you understand now? Sorry I didn't proof read this but you get the point! This certainly sounds like you have had some really bad experiences with some people fetishised you. Some outright racist remarks to be honest not at all appropriate, especially given the fact they should have been trying to wow you! I honestly sympathise, i do think these weren't necessarily because they fetished black women, whilst they certainly may have, most of what you described is down to racism,poor judgement,being a jerk,stereotyping and other assorted jack-assery! But it's not really simply because those jerks fetishised black women, it's because they were jerks. Whether fetishising is good or bad, it just seems that we should apply the same standards to all(legal) fetishes You've just proved the point. Black people arent a fetish. Lol What point sorry?" Why so many people have an issue with being fetishised based on race.... | |||
"And it's never just "oh I find black women more attractive" it's almost ALWAYS escalates to smack talking other races in a weird bid to try and make us feel superior, making gross comments about our body parts, namely the colour of our genitals/areolas, asking does down there taste like chocolate (yes ive had that one), 100s of question about where we're from, as if it's impossible for us to be born in this country, comments about our 'attitude' characteristics which are present in all over races but seem to be an issue in black women, comments about our hair, jokes about making jerk chicken on a meet (yes I've had this one as well) comments assuming that we all only date black men, then comments about black women who do only date black men calling them close minded and ignorant (never the thought that they dont want to deal with the above) Do you understand now? Sorry I didn't proof read this but you get the point! This certainly sounds like you have had some really bad experiences with some people fetishised you. Some outright racist remarks to be honest not at all appropriate, especially given the fact they should have been trying to wow you! I honestly sympathise, i do think these weren't necessarily because they fetished black women, whilst they certainly may have, most of what you described is down to racism,poor judgement,being a jerk,stereotyping and other assorted jack-assery! But it's not really simply because those jerks fetishised black women, it's because they were jerks. Whether fetishising is good or bad, it just seems that we should apply the same standards to all(legal) fetishes You've just proved the point. Black people arent a fetish. Lol What point sorry? Why so many people have an issue with being fetishised based on race...." I don't think you can have possibly understood me correctly | |||
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"And it's never just "oh I find black women more attractive" it's almost ALWAYS escalates to smack talking other races in a weird bid to try and make us feel superior, making gross comments about our body parts, namely the colour of our genitals/areolas, asking does down there taste like chocolate (yes ive had that one), 100s of question about where we're from, as if it's impossible for us to be born in this country, comments about our 'attitude' characteristics which are present in all over races but seem to be an issue in black women, comments about our hair, jokes about making jerk chicken on a meet (yes I've had this one as well) comments assuming that we all only date black men, then comments about black women who do only date black men calling them close minded and ignorant (never the thought that they dont want to deal with the above) Do you understand now? Sorry I didn't proof read this but you get the point! This certainly sounds like you have had some really bad experiences with some people fetishised you. Some outright racist remarks to be honest not at all appropriate, especially given the fact they should have been trying to wow you! I honestly sympathise, i do think these weren't necessarily because they fetished black women, whilst they certainly may have, most of what you described is down to racism,poor judgement,being a jerk,stereotyping and other assorted jack-assery! But it's not really simply because those jerks fetishised black women, it's because they were jerks. Whether fetishising is good or bad, it just seems that we should apply the same standards to all(legal) fetishes You've just proved the point. Black people arent a fetish. Lol What point sorry? Why so many people have an issue with being fetishised based on race.... I don't think you can have possibly understood me correctly " I dont think I did Although "Whether fetishising is good or bad, it just seems that we should apply the same standards to all(legal) fetishes" does imply that you think race is included in these 'legal fetishes' But let's agree to disagree, you seem intent on defending those people who fetishise black women to the point where we feel uncomfortable and some even have stopped dating interacially as a result of it | |||
"And it's never just "oh I find black women more attractive" it's almost ALWAYS escalates to smack talking other races in a weird bid to try and make us feel superior, making gross comments about our body parts, namely the colour of our genitals/areolas, asking does down there taste like chocolate (yes ive had that one), 100s of question about where we're from, as if it's impossible for us to be born in this country, comments about our 'attitude' characteristics which are present in all over races but seem to be an issue in black women, comments about our hair, jokes about making jerk chicken on a meet (yes I've had this one as well) comments assuming that we all only date black men, then comments about black women who do only date black men calling them close minded and ignorant (never the thought that they dont want to deal with the above) Do you understand now? Sorry I didn't proof read this but you get the point! This certainly sounds like you have had some really bad experiences with some people fetishised you. Some outright racist remarks to be honest not at all appropriate, especially given the fact they should have been trying to wow you! I honestly sympathise, i do think these weren't necessarily because they fetished black women, whilst they certainly may have, most of what you described is down to racism,poor judgement,being a jerk,stereotyping and other assorted jack-assery! But it's not really simply because those jerks fetishised black women, it's because they were jerks. Whether fetishising is good or bad, it just seems that we should apply the same standards to all(legal) fetishes You've just proved the point. Black people arent a fetish. Lol What point sorry? Why so many people have an issue with being fetishised based on race.... I don't think you can have possibly understood me correctly I dont think I did Although "Whether fetishising is good or bad, it just seems that we should apply the same standards to all(legal) fetishes" does imply that you think race is included in these 'legal fetishes' But let's agree to disagree, you seem intent on defending those people who fetishise black women to the point where we feel uncomfortable and some even have stopped dating interacially as a result of it "I didn't defend anyone I asked one simple question at the start of my posts, you haven't really answered. And yes race is included in things people have a fetish about, all kinds of people have fetishes about all kinds of things - it's not my doing lol.Whether you,I or anyone else agrees with it or not, race will be something people have a fetish for, as will many many other things. That's just a fact,not a matter of my opinion. | |||
"And it's never just "oh I find black women more attractive" it's almost ALWAYS escalates to smack talking other races in a weird bid to try and make us feel superior, making gross comments about our body parts, namely the colour of our genitals/areolas, asking does down there taste like chocolate (yes ive had that one), 100s of question about where we're from, as if it's impossible for us to be born in this country, comments about our 'attitude' characteristics which are present in all over races but seem to be an issue in black women, comments about our hair, jokes about making jerk chicken on a meet (yes I've had this one as well) comments assuming that we all only date black men, then comments about black women who do only date black men calling them close minded and ignorant (never the thought that they dont want to deal with the above) Do you understand now? Sorry I didn't proof read this but you get the point! This certainly sounds like you have had some really bad experiences with some people fetishised you. Some outright racist remarks to be honest not at all appropriate, especially given the fact they should have been trying to wow you! I honestly sympathise, i do think these weren't necessarily because they fetished black women, whilst they certainly may have, most of what you described is down to racism,poor judgement,being a jerk,stereotyping and other assorted jack-assery! But it's not really simply because those jerks fetishised black women, it's because they were jerks. Whether fetishising is good or bad, it just seems that we should apply the same standards to all(legal) fetishes You've just proved the point. Black people arent a fetish. Lol What point sorry? Why so many people have an issue with being fetishised based on race.... I don't think you can have possibly understood me correctly I dont think I did Although "Whether fetishising is good or bad, it just seems that we should apply the same standards to all(legal) fetishes" does imply that you think race is included in these 'legal fetishes' But let's agree to disagree, you seem intent on defending those people who fetishise black women to the point where we feel uncomfortable and some even have stopped dating interacially as a result of it
I didn't defend anyone
I asked one simple question at the start of my posts, you haven't really answered.
And yes race is included in things people have a fetish about, all kinds of people have fetishes about all kinds of things - it's not my doing lol.Whether you,I or anyone else agrees with it or not, race will be something people have a fetish for, as will many many other things. That's just a fact,not a matter of my opinion.
"You asked why it's an issue and I explained from my point of view and my own experience. I dont see race as a fetish, if other people do that's upto them but those who do are not the sort of people I want near me | |||
"Black pussy tastes nice . Black women love their pussy eaten and their ass holes rimmed . A lot of black men won’t do oral on a woman . " | |||
"Black pussy tastes nice . Black women love their pussy eaten and their ass holes rimmed . A lot of black men won’t do oral on a woman . "They don't? Guess I was doing that wrong too | |||
"Black pussy tastes nice . Black women love their pussy eaten and their ass holes rimmed . A lot of black men won’t do oral on a woman .
They don't? Guess I was doing that wrong too"Exactly I know plenty black men that lick pussy. | |||
"Black pussy tastes nice . Black women love their pussy eaten and their ass holes rimmed . A lot of black men won’t do oral on a woman .
They don't? Guess I was doing that wrong too"Just try to ignore it, darling. And be thankful you have some dignity, maturity and intelligence. | |||
"Black pussy tastes nice . Black women love their pussy eaten and their ass holes rimmed . A lot of black men won’t do oral on a woman . And comments like this well LOL " And these are adult men. Terrifying, isn't it  | |||
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"I wonder if it's normal, whatever normality means. I am a forty-year-old and have never had sexual contact with a black woman, for a few months I have not thought about anything else. Even though I only watch porn movies with black women, I'm beginning to suspect that white women have stopped to excite me. " ive met a few in my time and one was best kisser ever  | |||
"Black pussy tastes nice . Black women love their pussy eaten and their ass holes rimmed . A lot of black men won’t do oral on a woman . And comments like this well LOL And these are adult men. Terrifying, isn't it "Terrifying indeed. | |||
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"I get why black women are sexy and can be lusted after. Credit where credit is due, most men I've met sexually have been very respectful and haven't said anything cringe-worthy about race. Most. I don't mind if a guy who wants to hook up with "a sexy black woman" messages me, as long as he thinks about maybe holding back from going on about skin softness, colour or whatever he thinks will be different because I'm a "black woman". The rub is that I'm all of the positive stereotypes, I have an amazing ass, soft skin, soft hair, full lips, I'm slim thick and I have rhythm. Oh well!! "I gave my bf his first mff threesome with a stunning lady of Nigerian descent. Had fuck all to do with her race, we did it because all of us found each other sexy as fuck and we all wanted it. It was out of this world and neither of us will ever forget it. And yes her lips and her ass and her skin were absolutely staggering and I shiver to think of it. But I treasure her as a friend because she's a beautiful person, incredibly accomplished and a truly hedonistic lover of life. That she's black is obviously part of who she is. I think with the fetishising thing women (and) men feel like that's all they are. And they don't want to play your nubian King or Queen cos they've got their own likes and dislikes. They're people, not actors for your fantasies. | |||
"I get why black women are sexy and can be lusted after. Credit where credit is due, most men I've met sexually have been very respectful and haven't said anything cringe-worthy about race. Most. I don't mind if a guy who wants to hook up with "a sexy black woman" messages me, as long as he thinks about maybe holding back from going on about skin softness, colour or whatever he thinks will be different because I'm a "black woman". The rub is that I'm all of the positive stereotypes, I have an amazing ass, soft skin, soft hair, full lips, I'm slim thick and I have rhythm. Oh well!!
I gave my bf his first mff threesome with a stunning lady of Nigerian descent. Had fuck all to do with her race, we did it because all of us found each other sexy as fuck and we all wanted it. It was out of this world and neither of us will ever forget it. And yes her lips and her ass and her skin were absolutely staggering and I shiver to think of it. But I treasure her as a friend because she's a beautiful person, incredibly accomplished and a truly hedonistic lover of life. That she's black is obviously part of who she is. I think with the fetishising thing women (and) men feel like that's all they are. And they don't want to play your nubian King or Queen cos they've got their own likes and dislikes. They're people, not actors for your fantasies. "Definitely. One of my best friends in the scene happens to be black. Some of the positive stereotypes about black men happen to be true of him. Our friendship (and yes we do fuck) has absolutely nothing to do with the colour of his or my skin. | |||
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"And it's never just "oh I find black women more attractive" it's almost ALWAYS escalates to smack talking other races in a weird bid to try and make us feel superior, making gross comments about our body parts, namely the colour of our genitals/areolas, asking does down there taste like chocolate (yes ive had that one), 100s of question about where we're from, as if it's impossible for us to be born in this country, comments about our 'attitude' characteristics which are present in all over races but seem to be an issue in black women, comments about our hair, jokes about making jerk chicken on a meet (yes I've had this one as well) comments assuming that we all only date black men, then comments about black women who do only date black men calling them close minded and ignorant (never the thought that they dont want to deal with the above) Do you understand now? Sorry I didn't proof read this but you get the point! This certainly sounds like you have had some really bad experiences with some people fetishised you. Some outright racist remarks to be honest not at all appropriate, especially given the fact they should have been trying to wow you! I honestly sympathise, i do think these weren't necessarily because they fetished black women, whilst they certainly may have, most of what you described is down to racism,poor judgement,being a jerk,stereotyping and other assorted jack-assery! But it's not really simply because those jerks fetishised black women, it's because they were jerks. Whether fetishising is good or bad, it just seems that we should apply the same standards to all(legal) fetishes " A fetish for an inanimate object (shoes, latex, whatever) isn’t inherently problematic. Fetishising a human being for something that is outside their control (race, age, disability etc) is a problem because it’s reducing a person to one characteristic, that they can’t change. It makes people feel like the fetishiser doesn’t see them as a human, just an object. I hope that helps you see why it’s often horrible for the people it’s directed at. | |||
"I understand preference and being Fabs its a place where folk attempt to live out fantasies. Fair enough... More men on here means guys will use what they can to get meets: being gym fit, tall, well endowed, etc etc etc so some blokes do play up to the bbc thing. But.... Fetishisation of an ethnicity can lead to disappointment especially when fuelled by porn. I personally am disappointed and annoyed when i receive messages with reference to my ethnicity. Ethnicity had no bearing on sexual ability. OP if you meet a black lady who doesn't live up to the fantasy/standard you’ve created what will be the result? " I'm not sure, I don't find anyone atm | |||
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