I spend time preparing the room, warm enough for HER, soft lights, music SHE likes, warm, melted coconut oil, hot towels on the radiator. I undress her slowly and sensuously, and invite her to lie on the table, face up. I cover her with hot towels, and start massaging her shoulders, neck, scalp first. When she's ready, I ask her to turn over... Then more warm oil, back, sides, arms.bum....this can last 2hours, or 3 hours if I'm massaging her on a futon on the floor. I've had the best massage ever from a Russian friend. What made it great? I felt she was completely present, and loved what she was doing, and was curious about exploring my body. It didn't lead to orgasm, it went beyond sex. |