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Age = barrier to meets
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not really. Its people preference. I concentrate on the ones I do match with.
Yes there are some hotties I'd love to be able to message but hey ho. "
Yes I tend to concentrate on similar but still find it hard to find genuine people who want to meet.
Believe me I am no novice, I have been on Fab at different times since 2008 so I do know the pitfalls.
And noticed the meets dwindle as I get older ha ha  |
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"We do find a lot of people lie about their age though...especially at the higher end of our preference, you can usually add 10 years..."
I met someone who flat out told me that he was a decade older than he claimed to be... I'd kind of guessed tbh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else find their age seems be working against them.
Specifically older gents.
I do know young men and women struggle but this is for us oldies "
it's life unfortunately the ravages of time play havoc with your looks |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Doesn't bother me or hinder me in the slightest OP and I'm a similar age to you - it's the same as any other preference or criteria that people have.
As someone else said I focus on those who would potentially be interested in meeting me rather than worry about those who wouldn't - which I'm sure is what you'd say to anyone over 65 who wanted to meet you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well considering the OP has two meet verifications this month it doesn't look like his age is much hindrance 
Yes, that's rather good for a lot of single guys, "older" or not. "
The veri's are from couples I have met in the past not this month.
I have been on Fab on and off since 2008, And I have known both couples for few years.
I am not complaining far from it,I am asking a question thats all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For some reason every girl I text say I'm to young like what the hell any girls here wana chat "
What do you mean ‘what the hell’ ? Maybe you’re too young for them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't want to meet a lady young enough to be my daughter,just wouldn't seem right. It does rather annoy me when couples & ladies I would like to meet have 50 or 55 & that four letter word "only" on their profile. I know it's their choice,but it does limit the number of people us older men can message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't say our age works against us any more than any of the other things we can't change. "
You guys look amazing for your years .. Keep smiling x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else find their age seems be working against them.
Specifically older gents.
I do know young men and women struggle but this is for us oldies
How do you know it’s your age?"
I know it's not just my age. A beard and a fab partner. Are a couple more for me lol |
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"Anyone else find their age seems be working against them.
Specifically older gents.
I do know young men and women struggle but this is for us oldies
How do you know it’s your age?
I know it's not just my age. A beard and a fab partner. Are a couple more for me lol "
Righto but I was actually asking the OP. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyone else find their age seems be working against them.
Specifically older gents.
I do know young men and women struggle but this is for us oldies
How do you know it’s your age?"
Good question, I cant say its age for defenite, but basing it on feedback and also reading peoples profiles.
Could also be I am a minger, or because I am looking predominantly Bi, my feeling is age tho |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
Knowing someone is the same age as my parents, is instantly off-putting.
I have no doubt that in clubs I've played with people outside of my preferred age range but meeting someone and having no idea of their age and knowing it in advance are two totally different things for me. |
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By *neamigoMan
over a year ago
should read 58… mistake with my age , cannot change it |
Its people preference. I concentrate on the ones I do match with.
Yes there are some hotties I'd love to be able to message but hey ho. When you are just that bit “too old” to mail them .
I am ok with myself too x |
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It's bleeding obvious that men over fifty are less attractive to women on here.
A quick survey of the first thirty women near me looking for men shows the the percentage of women willing to meet men in the following age brackets
18-20 33%
21-30 77%
31-40.90%
41-50 87%
51-60 37%
61-70 23%
71+. 17%
Note the big drop when men hit their fifties.
I'm 52. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change...........Next
I think you're proof positive that age is no barrier to meeting people"
Bobbytupper has met a good friend of mine .. She speaks highly of him Robert is an inspiration to all fabbers |
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Now I am 'old', compared with the bulk if not all punters responding to this thread. I didn't join Fab until after the big 70 and despite the age preference frequently showing an open minded "18 - 99"; I have struggled to get responses! I am open/honest about my age and marital status and am realistic in the sense that I approach 'older' couples and 'older' single women. I am not over weight and am fitter than many guys on here (if their profile is anything to go by) 10 or even 20 years my junior! BUT I have made a few friends with whom I enjoy mutually enjoyable sexual encounters...! Please don't write us older men or women off - we are entitled to a sex life as much as anyone else... and our experience has often taught us stuff you might just enjoy. |
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"Now I am 'old', compared with the bulk if not all punters responding to this thread. I didn't join Fab until after the big 70 and despite the age preference frequently showing an open minded "18 - 99"; I have struggled to get responses! I am open/honest about my age and marital status and am realistic in the sense that I approach 'older' couples and 'older' single women. I am not over weight and am fitter than many guys on here (if their profile is anything to go by) 10 or even 20 years my junior! BUT I have made a few friends with whom I enjoy mutually enjoyable sexual encounters...! Please don't write us older men or women off - we are entitled to a sex life as much as anyone else... and our experience has often taught us stuff you might just enjoy. "
I am afraid that the harsh truth is that most people consider older bodies to be less sexually attractive than younger bodies.
Woman over Fifty will get plenty of offers because of the massive sex imbalance on here. Males over fifty will always struggle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you know it’s your age?"
I had no issues aged 55. At 56 it became more difficult. At 57 even more so. The 55 years upper age filter is the killer; I have to wait to be approached since I can’t message anyone now. |
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"Wow people still have sex after 50 ....
My auntie had a Joy of sex book and she was in her 60s.
Don't ask how I know, I drank to try and forget."
You'd be drinking a long time if you saw the bookcase in our bedroom  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Now I am 'old', compared with the bulk if not all punters responding to this thread. I didn't join Fab until after the big 70 and despite the age preference frequently showing an open minded "18 - 99"; I have struggled to get responses! I am open/honest about my age and marital status and am realistic in the sense that I approach 'older' couples and 'older' single women. I am not over weight and am fitter than many guys on here (if their profile is anything to go by) 10 or even 20 years my junior! BUT I have made a few friends with whom I enjoy mutually enjoyable sexual encounters...! Please don't write us older men or women off - we are entitled to a sex life as much as anyone else... and our experience has often taught us stuff you might just enjoy. "
of course you're entitled to a sex life. However, nobody is obliged to provide it for you. |
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"Anyone else find their age seems be working against them.
Specifically older gents.
I do know young men and women struggle but this is for us oldies "
My granny used to say if you eat your spuds n greens you'll stay young.
Wish I listened to her..... |
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"Now I am 'old', compared with the bulk if not all punters responding to this thread. I didn't join Fab until after the big 70 and despite the age preference frequently showing an open minded "18 - 99"; I have struggled to get responses! I am open/honest about my age and marital status and am realistic in the sense that I approach 'older' couples and 'older' single women. I am not over weight and am fitter than many guys on here (if their profile is anything to go by) 10 or even 20 years my junior! BUT I have made a few friends with whom I enjoy mutually enjoyable sexual encounters...! Please don't write us older men or women off - we are entitled to a sex life as much as anyone else... and our experience has often taught us stuff you might just enjoy.
of course you're entitled to a sex life. However, nobody is obliged to provide it for you. "
Hey, 'of course' I agree with you - I hope I didn't imply that I (we old ones) are owed a sex life - the tone of the thread was that over 50 it got more difficult to get responses... it clearly does, so you can imagine over 70 it's very difficult but all I was saying was please don't write us off purely on age - you'll all get there eventually! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Now I am 'old', compared with the bulk if not all punters responding to this thread. I didn't join Fab until after the big 70 and despite the age preference frequently showing an open minded "18 - 99"; I have struggled to get responses! I am open/honest about my age and marital status and am realistic in the sense that I approach 'older' couples and 'older' single women. I am not over weight and am fitter than many guys on here (if their profile is anything to go by) 10 or even 20 years my junior! BUT I have made a few friends with whom I enjoy mutually enjoyable sexual encounters...! Please don't write us older men or women off - we are entitled to a sex life as much as anyone else... and our experience has often taught us stuff you might just enjoy.
of course you're entitled to a sex life. However, nobody is obliged to provide it for you.
Hey, 'of course' I agree with you - I hope I didn't imply that I (we old ones) are owed a sex life - the tone of the thread was that over 50 it got more difficult to get responses... it clearly does, so you can imagine over 70 it's very difficult but all I was saying was please don't write us off purely on age - you'll all get there eventually!"
You're from a different generation to me. From reading your profile, we have nothing in common. Is it your age? Quite probably. I'm not writing you off. I just wouldn't want to fuck you. There's a difference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, I respect people’s preferences and if I don’t meet them, then ah well.
woud u meet 25?"
Give a read of my profile and you can answer that one for yourself  |
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"Now I am 'old', compared with the bulk if not all punters responding to this thread. I didn't join Fab until after the big 70 and despite the age preference frequently showing an open minded "18 - 99"; I have struggled to get responses! I am open/honest about my age and marital status and am realistic in the sense that I approach 'older' couples and 'older' single women. I am not over weight and am fitter than many guys on here (if their profile is anything to go by) 10 or even 20 years my junior! BUT I have made a few friends with whom I enjoy mutually enjoyable sexual encounters...! Please don't write us older men or women off - we are entitled to a sex life as much as anyone else... and our experience has often taught us stuff you might just enjoy.
of course you're entitled to a sex life. However, nobody is obliged to provide it for you.
Hey, 'of course' I agree with you - I hope I didn't imply that I (we old ones) are owed a sex life - the tone of the thread was that over 50 it got more difficult to get responses... it clearly does, so you can imagine over 70 it's very difficult but all I was saying was please don't write us off purely on age - you'll all get there eventually!
You're from a different generation to me. From reading your profile, we have nothing in common. Is it your age? Quite probably. I'm not writing you off. I just wouldn't want to fuck you. There's a difference."
Fair enough, this 'lifestyle' is all about sharing an openness towards sexual preferences and 'mores', consent and pleasure. Of course age (an age preference) is an obvious one, and I am certainly not suggesting it isn't, I am definitely not on here in pursuit of young, inter-generational encounters, in the end there has to 'attraction'...!
I was introduced to swinging by a couple some 10/15 years younger than me when I went to Switzerland on a skiing holiday. They were very warm and friendly and invited me to eat with them as I was on my own in the same hotel and this 'evolved' into sharing a bed (more accurately the wife) ultimately because there was a mutual attraction. Isn't that the key word, 'attraction'... I am not going to spend time with and certainly not seek intimacy with people where there is no 'attraction', that would be perverse!
I do however want 'younger' folk to simply recognise/acknowledge that for some (many) of us old'uns sexual interest and desires do not do evaporate with age! |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
"Anyone else find their age seems be working against them.
Specifically older gents.
I do know young men and women struggle but this is for us oldies "
Lots of things on Fab make people ineligable to others... their: size, colour, height, physical build, interests, gender.... age is just another thing on this long list. |
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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago
Germany / Manchester |
"Lots of things on Fab make people ineligable to others... their: size, colour, height, physical build, interests, gender.... age is just another thing on this long list."
Perfect.
No one should ever feel inadequate because they don’t fit into someone else’s desires. Just be open to rejection when you ask for a meet, it’ll happen time and time again, just move on. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"We do find a lot of people lie about their age though...especially at the higher end of our preference, you can usually add 10 years..."
This is why my age range is very limited on here. I've done socials with guys who state their age is younger than they are, I never met them again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We do find a lot of people lie about their age though...especially at the higher end of our preference, you can usually add 10 years..."
Yes thats what we find older lie about their age ....same just be yourself |
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"We do find a lot of people lie about their age though...especially at the higher end of our preference, you can usually add 10 years...
Yes thats what we find older lie about their age ....same just be yourself"
We don't. That would make us in our 70s. I think it's easy to tell from our pictures we aren't that old. I agree that some people lie about their age, we met a guy who claimed to be 30. He wasn't a day over 23 |
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"The older I get, the more difficult it seems to be to get meets - though my age isn't the only thing working against me...  "
It is more difficult for most of us as we get older everything is except paying for prescriptions |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"The older I get, the more difficult it seems to be to get meets - though my age isn't the only thing working against me... "
I can't see what would be apart from only limited times for meets and you don't accommodate tbh. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"It's bleeding obvious that men over fifty are less attractive to women on here.
A quick survey of the first thirty women near me looking for men shows the the percentage of women willing to meet men in the following age brackets
18-20 33%
21-30 77%
31-40.90%
41-50 87%
51-60 37%
61-70 23%
71+. 17%
Note the big drop when men hit their fifties.
I'm 52."
That is a drop and one that doesn't surprise me, but that still leaves more than 10 who would potentially meet men in their 50s (given the usual caveats around connection and attraction etc) - which when you extrapolate that out over a wider area/sample becomes a bigger number still and surely a big enough number for any decent person to find someone that interests them, and they interest in return.
As I said further up, I prefer to focus on those that will potentially meet me rather than worry about those that won't for whatever reason (age, sexuality, beard etc) they do so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People choose the age groups they want to meet what's wrong with that surely people don't think people should be forced to meet out of there choice of age group. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We find an awful lot of younger single female profiles specifically looking for older men (60+) so I don't think you are any worse served than anyone else really. Everyone has a shit time finding people (except single females of course) you just have to persevere. Or give up of course, that's an option but complaining about it gets noone anywhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We find an awful lot of younger single female profiles specifically looking for older men (60+) so I don't think you are any worse served than anyone else really. Everyone has a shit time finding people (except single females of course) you just have to persevere. Or give up of course, that's an option but complaining about it gets noone anywhere "
Oh single females who aren't prepared to shag anything and everything have a tough time too  |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"We find an awful lot of younger single female profiles specifically looking for older men (60+) so I don't think you are any worse served than anyone else really. Everyone has a shit time finding people (except single females of course) you just have to persevere. Or give up of course, that's an option but complaining about it gets noone anywhere
Oh single females who aren't prepared to shag anything and everything have a tough time too "
Ohhhhh, so that's where I'm going wrong??!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We find an awful lot of younger single female profiles specifically looking for older men (60+) so I don't think you are any worse served than anyone else really. Everyone has a shit time finding people (except single females of course) you just have to persevere. Or give up of course, that's an option but complaining about it gets noone anywhere
Oh single females who aren't prepared to shag anything and everything have a tough time too
Ohhhhh, so that's where I'm going wrong??!! "
Lol! apparently so! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"We find an awful lot of younger single female profiles specifically looking for older men (60+) so I don't think you are any worse served than anyone else really. Everyone has a shit time finding people (except single females of course) you just have to persevere. Or give up of course, that's an option but complaining about it gets noone anywhere
Oh single females who aren't prepared to shag anything and everything have a tough time too
Ohhhhh, so that's where I'm going wrong??!!
Lol! apparently so! "
Bugger, maybe I won't bother putting up a social meet for Saturday night now then lol.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People choose the age groups they want to meet what's wrong with that surely people don't think people should be forced to meet out of there choice of age group. "
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"It’s a lot more about the connection and attraction for me. I do, however, find (in most cases) that younger guys have greater stamina (not always)."
In general younger guys do the older ones pant and puff like a steam train so good if you feel nostalgic. |
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"It’s a lot more about the connection and attraction for me. I do, however, find (in most cases) that younger guys have greater stamina (not always).
In general younger guys do the older ones pant and puff like a steam train so good if you feel nostalgic. "
Of course steam trains made the wheels go round with 'pistons'...! |
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"I can't see what would be apart from only limited times for meets and you don't accommodate tbh. "
Thanks - and those are certainly a couple of factors...
"There are a few reasons! "
....being married and playing bareback probably being the more substantial ones! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I can't see what would be apart from only limited times for meets and you don't accommodate tbh.
Thanks - and those are certainly a couple of factors...
There are a few reasons!
....being married and playing bareback probably being the more substantial ones!"
Yup. That would be a deal breaker for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The older I get, the more difficult it seems to be to get meets - though my age isn't the only thing working against me...
It is more difficult for most of us as we get older everything is except paying for prescriptions "
And car insurance.. Ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This is an age old trope isnt it. Society tells us to desire the young and beautiful but we have little in common with them so if we have any sense we stick with people around our age but unfortunately as we get older we have to compete more to maintain ourselves physically when compared to the body conscious youths of today which is mentally and physically knackering. The solution could be a quick wank and another slice of cake but that’s short term thrills and ultimately quite emotionally draining. Personally I have been lucky enough to meet a few women who have left dead relationships and were looking for adventures and its been a lot of fun for them and me! |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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"This is an age old trope isnt it. Society tells us to desire the young and beautiful but we have little in common with them so if we have any sense we stick with people around our age but unfortunately as we get older we have to compete more to maintain ourselves physically when compared to the body conscious youths of today which is mentally and physically knackering. The solution could be a quick wank and another slice of cake but that’s short term thrills and ultimately quite emotionally draining. Personally I have been lucky enough to meet a few women who have left dead relationships and were looking for adventures and its been a lot of fun for them and me!"
But what if someone desires the slightly older and craggy but still beautiful and is desperately trying to avoid cake due to already being too fat.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well perhaps they could just lick the sweetness off one’s fingertips?
J x
Hmmmmm I think a little lick always leads to more
V x "
Oh I am so blushing now!
J x |
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By *andJDubaiCouple
over a year ago
Dubai, with visits to Glasgow, Edinburgh and London |
"This is an age old trope isnt it. Society tells us to desire the young and beautiful but we have little in common with them so if we have any sense we stick with people around our age but unfortunately as we get older we have to compete more to maintain ourselves physically when compared to the body conscious youths of today which is mentally and physically knackering. The solution could be a quick wank and another slice of cake but that’s short term thrills and ultimately quite emotionally draining. Personally I have been lucky enough to meet a few women who have left dead relationships and were looking for adventures and its been a lot of fun for them and me!
But what if someone desires the slightly older and craggy but still beautiful and is desperately trying to avoid cake due to already being too fat.
V x "
Well when we come back to Swindon or if you are ever in Dubai we would love to connect with you. Xxx |
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